If someone had a crush on you...

[IonicKarma]

It would be nice to know for sure! Cause I aint finding out any other way other them flat out telling me. And even then I might still not know cause it could be a joke you never know...

This actually happened in High School where I didn't realize until a few days later that someone was asking me to prom through their friend and I just didn't say anything cause i didn't realize they were...

 

[Chris]

I prefer people to be direct. I hate the thought of someone overthinking my behaviours to figure out if their feelings are reciprocated or not.

 

[aericell]

i would rather not know unless they were certain my feelings were reciprocated (and i tend to make it obvious). in my experience most times that someone told me they had a crush on me it turned awkward because i almost always had feelings for someone else or just wasn’t interested/only saw them as a friend

 

[Zinnia.]

Just because you aren't aware of the situation doesn't mean it goes away, so it's better to know than to not know. Even though it'd be awkward to talk about at first, I think that it'd be best for everyone involved. I'm not really too comfortable in romantic relationships, but we could still get to know each other better and maybe grow closer as friends! And if not, at least it'd ease the tension for the other party if they have closure and can move on.

 

[Suguri]

Not too long ago someone on the forums (hint: they posted in this thread once) told me they had a crush on me. Actually, I confessed to them first before they said that since I had feelings for them too. And no wonder... They've been so sweet to me, and I haven't found anyone online who cares about me this much before.

If I recall correctly the last time someone crushed on me was back in elementary school. I honestly don't remember how I reacted to that but I'm pretty sure I thought it was nice. I also crushed on other people then but I bet that was unrequited.

So I think it would be nice to know, but it depends on the person.

 

[QueenCobra]

It depends on the person and how I know them. I’ll admit I’d be surprised— I like to dress comfortably and not wear much makeup. I’d only be curious to know if it was someone I saw and/or spoke with on a regular basis.

 

[-Raven-]

Yeah things changed since my last post. Being the one confessing doesn’t really matter for me anymore but actually feeling a connection does

And that would be extremely hard because I’m super demiromantic and stuffed with trauma, but I have someone now and we just hope this lasts and treat it that way. If this doesn’t work out I really can’t imagine anyone else, after my experience with a casual relationship last year… I never want to do the dating game. No thank you. So many people don’t treat it as a responsibility. Give your whole heart to someone and they can’t even tell you they’re getting tired of you in a mature way.. jesus…

If someone did fall for me I’d rather know simply so I can politely decline and discuss with my partner if there was any drama around it. But they should know about my relationship first and it sure isn’t open so if they don’t respect it then scoot off. My boyfriend and I are each other’s king

 

[-Blue-]

I don't think anyone's ever had a crush on me, but playing mind games to me is stupid. So if you like someone be direct if you want them to know. Communication is key. I hate hate hate mind games. Everyone is too old for that.

 

[Yoshi155]

I would want to know, because I’m genuinely curious as to if and why anyone would have one in the first place…

 

[ShadowLelouch97]

I would want to know. I'm pretty dense about someone's feelings towards me if they have it, so this would help me take things into consideration with a relationship with me, or to help solidify if I don't want a relationship with them.

 

[ribbitribbon]

yes because that’s how my girlfriend and i ended up together hehe
i am pretty good at reading social clues and i can tell when someone likes me, so i guess if someone wants to actually end up with me i would say yes, they should tell me.

 

[Neb]

I would want to know for sure. Usually when people have crushes on me they either ask someone else for info and they get bad false gossip that makes them lose interest, or I make a social mistake and that makes them lose interest instead. The rest of the time I’m too oblivious about their feelings or don’t know what to say until it’s too late and they end up moving on. I’ve only been directly confessed to twice and both times I rejected them since I didn’t reciprocate.

I think most people would lose interest in me if they found out about my extremely nerdy interests, psychiatric issues, my developmental disability that puts me at a teen level in some areas, the fact I’ve done drag, and my autism. It’s a lot and I think most people couldn’t handle all of it even if I am decently high functioning and my intelligence isn’t affected outside of social stuff. I’m lucky I have as many friends that stick around as I do.

If all of those details about myself didn’t turn the person with a crush on me off and I was interested in them I would say yes. Otherwise I would reject them gently.