If you could go back and change one event in your life what would it be?

[Captain Jigglypuff]

I’d go back to when I turned 18 and just drop out of school and refuse to go back and move out to escape from everything that was happening to me and move into the group home sooner so that I could get the help I desperately needed a year sooner.

 

[SkyKnight03]

I wouldn't want to do anything major that would offset everything.

I do wish that I had stood up for myself better in my early school years. The teachers were negligent about some of the abuse, and I didn't find the confidence to stand my ground until high school.

School became a much more pleasant experience after realizing my own self worth. That I didn't have to sit and let myself get attacked. Sadly, even after I had stood up for myself, I would still end up getting in trouble. But I wasn't bothered anymore.

 

[Violet Witch]

I wouldn’t because without the journey I’ve been on (so far) I wouldn’t be the person I am today.

 

[Giddy]

I regret this job.
In some ways i dont mind it but taking nearly three years to leave is insane.

I regret not helping my aunt as much when she was alive; though she was fussy and she always did everything her self so even though as she got older and couldnt do it, she still didnt like help.

 

[Goldi Locks]

I regret not telling a younger cousin that the path she was heading down was harmful. I hope she gets justice and is successful in suing the people responsible into oblivion now though. And I'll stand by her all the way.

 

[Suguri]

Kinda silly but I wish I hadn't deleted my first account on my childhood website Scratch. I made a lot of memories there and it would have been nice to look back at them. But nope, I got way too angry when my parents didn't want me to use my devices too much.

 

[ShadowLelouch97]

Not to detract from the conversation of this thread, but I think it's hilarious the OP has Oswald in their name, which made me think of Lee Harvey Oswald, the JFK assassination, and subsequently Stephen King's novel 11/22/63 which highlights this exact topic.

I would probably go back to my freshman year of high school and make some changes about the people I involved myself with and the things I've felt then. I would make things right and have a better experience.

 

[Giddy]

So, at first I would've said definitely not working at the shop that I spent nearly three years at.
But then at the time, I was having trouble finding a job. And I would've hated not helping out with money in some way. And I have met some really nice people from working there. The kids were super cute

I guess once I would change though was the Christmas time 2022. I took a week off cause my mum said I needed it (my boss tried making me feel bad for taking the week off, that it would just be her and her husband working, cry me a bloody river)
And really that week, I should have gone to enjoy the Christmas with my aunt.

I guess we never thought about it, but my aunt usually spent her Christmas by herself. (We lived elsewhere where a train would be needed to visit) She has children, who are adults, one never bothered to see her, the other would sometimes come with her boyfriend but only to eat dinner and leave not even five minutes after. So yeah, I should have gone seen her more often. Should've taken Saturdays off to visit her with my mum who usually did visit her.

I know my aunt would understand but sometimes I wanna slap myself for not seeing her more.
I did use to have nice chats on the phone with her - something my mum desperately misses talking to her sister - and doing nice birthday cards and presents. But it never feels enough to me.

 

[axaniao]

i would stop myself from being a stupid 13 year old and dating someone i barely knew because that someone ruined my life and how i handle relationships

 

[Envy]

Likely I would like to go back to when I was entering college and prioritize a path that would get me a stable, well-paying career. Of course, it should still be in something that I'm passionate about. So not Engineering or anything like that!

I would also force myself to face all of the things that I wouldn't back then and now whisk away all of those years away like I did this time.

Altogether I would be getting my life together early on instead of now at age 35. Not that I can't achieve that at my age. I will. But things are difficult, so much more difficult than they would have been back then. For instance, now to return to college, I will have to do so while also working. And the shifting, scary political and climate situation we're in has made me move to a much more expensive state for safety (sadly, I don't think any of the country is safe should elections go one way, but hopefully that won't happen). Having things together would have made this move so much smoother for me.

 

[Cirice]

I usually do not think too hard about that kind of questions because they make me feel regret but like most people I think I'd have chosen a different career path. The one I took is one I do not love but didn't really know it at the time. Though if I did, it would've prevented me from meeting a few people that means a lot in my life still up to this day, so in the end, is it really worth it?

To meditate on...

 

[Neb]

I’ve talked extensively about how I wish I never went to the schools I went to so I’ll go with a different one. What I’m about to share will make me look bad, but I should be open about it.

I wish I was better friend with people online. Until a year or so ago I messaged people too frequently and was awful with boundaries. People would set boundaries with me and I’d ignore them because I was overly reliant on their company. I consistently got ghosted or blocked for years. I’m surprised a handful of online friends from back then actually stuck with me. My intentions back then weren’t bad, but I messed up a lot.

I think I’m better now. I try to give people the space they need, I don’t ask overly personal questions, and if someone isn’t interested in being friends with me I respect that and leave them alone.

 

[Snap Crackle Pop]

I think I would go back and try to convince my mom that I was really struggling in school and needed to get evaluated for learning disabilities since I was diagnosed a lot later than I should have been. I don't know if I would have done any better in school if that had happened but I feel like I would have gotten accommodations to help make my schooling a smoother experience.

 

[Soigne]

i would've gone to a different university for undergrad, but it's not like it really matters in the end i suppose.

 

[Chris]

Nothing. Even the worst things that have happened to me have had an impact somewhere down the line that in a way has made my current situation better.

 

[-Blue-]

Nothing. Even the worst things that have happened to me have had an impact somewhere down the line that in a way has made my current situation better.

Very true. I feel like if I changed anything big, it could potentially change a lot about me or my life where it could be drastically different. Whether that is for better or worst, I will never know.


Now on the other hand, I wouldn't mind changing little things. Like the one time I bought a hamburger for a quick dinner break during a really long shift I had during the height of the pandemic. I only had a few more hours to go, but needed a little extra fuel. It's just a burger right? No one can screw that up. Wrong! The top of the bun was hard, the bottom was moist and soggy, and the patty felt like they cooked dunked it in lukewarm water. My stomach had never been so messed up lol.

 

[Drawdler]

I feel like I wouldn’t have met my partner if I changed anything drastic or many things from years ago.

There was somebody I trusted too much months ago, and if I could go back I’d just tell myself how they were going to repeat their actions.

There was a kid who manipulated me, and if I could go back I wouldn’t have invited them to my private server.

Even those things affected the bond between me and my partner. I’d say the most unequivocally good thing I could stop myself from doing if I were to go back would have been to stop spending time on another forum I used to be part of years ago. It was a genuinely terrible place.

 

[TN4U]

I've already posted about my social life in high school; now I'd like to go back and forget that I ever wanted to go to this university I attended. A single failed semester is still being paid off by me over five years later.

I should have stayed at the community college and tried for an associate's, but I never really took any higher education seriously. I nearly got kicked out of the sole class I took my very first semester, and that was mostly because of me openly complaining about the "boring" classmates that were in it (not even joking). I'd much rather just work a bunch for a paycheck than waste my life away on classes that I'm not guaranteed to learn anything useful in.

 

[Foreverfox]

I don’t really believe that it is healthy to think about what you wish you could change about the past, using “you” in the general sense. The past can’t change, and only goes to cause negative feelings about those situations. I also believe that every experience, person, and situation you meet in life goes to develop your life as you know it today. Without those experiences, you’d be a completely different person. There isn’t a single thing I’d change because of that.