is it normal to feel unsafe around your parent(s)??

[Ghost Soda]

justtt curious lelelelel

 

[nami26]

I mean I guess if you live in a tense environment, like a dangerous area of town or tension between family members. I guess its normal, I mean I feel unsafe alone at home, I just feel like anything is gonna happen at any moment, so I don't think its odd

 

[Ghost Soda]

thattts not what i mean tho

 

[ellsieotter]

no, not normal :/

 

[seliph]

I mean it's not unheard of or uncommon but it's not good.

If they have disrespectful and bigoted opinions or if they're abusive then it's entirely normal. Same with if they're quick to anger people or generally shouty.

 

[abbydoll]

No its not normal :c Your parents shouldn't make you feel that way at all

Sometimes I feel uncomfortable around my father, especially when he's drunk.

 

[pinkcotton]

Not normal... your parents should make you feel safe! Like abbydoll, I do get uncomfortable around my Dad when he's had one too many beers.

 

[Mr. Cat]

I find it funny how the answers so far say it's not normal, but then they go on to say how they feel that way sometimes. So wouldn't it be normal then?

I know, I know... It shouldn't be. It really shouldn't.

I don't feel safe around my parents sometimes either.

 

[pinkcotton]

@Mr. Cat: Good point! Hmm. Well.... I guess it's semi-normal?

 

[Cheren]

Feeling unsafe around your parents isn't about whether it's normal or not. It's not a healthy environment, but I assume you're in a position where you can't simply just get out of the situation. My inbox is open to you.

 

[nintendofan85]

Nope, but sadly I have felt that way around my dad on several occasions since 2005.

 

[Buttonsy]

If by normal you mean statistically average, I don't really know, but if you mean normal as in healthy or okay, not really, no. On the contrary, I think it's important for parents to try to make their children feel safe, so if someone feels unsafe around their parents, that's a sign that something might be wrong.

 

[Mink777]

It depends of the situation. If your parents are divorced and one of them was real abusive, then it would definitely be normal. It would also be normal if your dad is like this man: https://youtu.be/EcG2Naoh18Q .

 

[visibleghost]

not rly the way it should be lelelelelel

 

[hamster]

no it isn't normal. parents are supposed to make you feel the opposite of unsafe

 

[Reyrey]

I mean I guess if you live in a tense environment, like a dangerous area of town or tension between family members. I guess its normal, I mean I feel unsafe alone at home, I just feel like anything is gonna happen at any moment, so I don't think its odd

I think it's normal. For me I just like alone time most of the time. I'm really independent so yeah. Sometimes I like to lock the door in my room and I can hide in one of my dresser drawers since I'm tiny ;0;

 

[Corrie]

Nope! That means they are abusive in one way or another. Deny it if you'd like, that's what I did at first with my mother, but it's usually the case. It sucks.

 

[tumut]

Obviously not

 

[LinkToTheWorld]

It would be better if you could elaborate a bit. Unsafe as in fearing for your safety? Or something else?
There's a few ways that can be interpreted

 

[cornimer]

It's not uncommon but it shouldn't happen. I totally relate though, my mom is quick to get almost violently angry over nothing so I live in constant fear of even the slightest mood change. There have been days when I honestly didn't want to go home...it sucks