Is This Just Me?

[orchidflesh]

So, I have a strange issue that ties in with trauma, and makes it difficult to play animal crossing.

I love astrology. I love love love it. Even those silly little texposts that tell you what kind of candy your sign is based off of no astrology knowledge, simply because they?re mindless entertainment (not mindless as in dumb, or ableist in any way, but mindless as in it?s just so easy to get sucked into that vortex of the internet, because it?s fun).

Anywho, one weird, uncomfortable, upsetting issue I have with animal crossing has to do with trauma from my past. It may be silly, but I have a personality disorder so it?s very hard for me to think in any way but black and white. With this, comes an issue that also ties into astrology.

Specifically, blindy generalizing entire zodiac signs due to them being the signs of my abusers, and people who have inflicted trauma against me. In turn, I deny myself villagers that I want, because they?re that zodiac sign. And wanting them makes me feel.... guilty? Dirty? Wrong?

I know it may sound silly, but does anybody else experience this issue?
Does anybody else know what this feels like?
I know this is a forum about animal crossing, not mental health, or a community of mental health help, so mods, feel free to delete, remove, or move this thread elsewhere.

Maybe I?m looking for reassurance that it?s not wrong to want the villagers I want? Maybe I?m looking for people who can relate so I don?t feel as alone? I?m not sure. All I know is that i?m bothered and it?s making me feel silly, because in all actuality, it really is silly to be so bothered about this. It?s making it hard for me to pick dream villagers because I feel wrong anytime I find out one of my dreamies has the same sign/a birthdate close to the date of an abuser of mine.

Anybody feel this way?
Anybody have any tips on how to deal with this?

 

[Midoriya]

It?s not wrong to the want the villagers you want. Personally, I prefer Astronomy over Astrology, but that?s just me. I don?t believe in things like zodiac signs, the concept of luck, or even personality tests, because something like that cannot simply contain all the different personalities there are in the world. It?s impossible. I also believe karma is a bunch of hogwash, and that things just happen the way they do for different reasons. This is all just my opinion on the matter though.


EDIT: Personality tests and things like ?alpha males? were proven to be false by Adam Ruins Everything, a show on TruTV, which is why I always do research before making my opinion on each of these things.

 

[orchidflesh]

It’s not wrong to the want the villagers you want. Personally, I prefer Astronomy over Astrology, but that’s just me. I don’t believe in things like zodiac signs, the concept of luck, or even personality tests, because something like that cannot simply contain all the different personalities there are in the world. It’s impossible. I also believe karma is a bunch of hogwash, and that things just happen the way they do for different reasons. This is all just my opinion on the matter though.



EDIT: Personality tests and things like “alpha males” were proven to be false by Adam Ruins Everything, a show on TruTV, which is why I always do research before making my opinion on each of these things.

No, most definitely, research is key with anything. Anytime I look i to something that interests me, I always do my own research beforehand, so that I can form my own opinions.
I have a fondness for both astrology and astronomy, and i know that people’s actions and personalities aren’t based solely off of their zodiac signs. I just can’t help but feel like something is wrong for liking a villager who shares the same sign as people who have wronged me. It probably links back into perpetual fear that I’ll somehow bring these situations upon myself again, or simply bitterness and hurt that I haven’t fully healed on my own time, yet.
It’s definitely a downside with my trauma/borderline personality disorder brain, it makes situations out of things that shouldn’t even be situations, or rather, wouldn’t be situations for people who are mentally healthy.
Thank you for your insight, and for taking the time to respond. I appreciate it, and I appreciate hearing your thoughts. It really does mean a lot to me.

 

[Watchingthetreetops]

Everyone has different perspectives. I have the beliefs I have because of the things I've experienced, and you have the same. I, too, prefer astronomy although astrology can be fun. Astrology always just seemed a bit far fetched to me, though I mean no offense by that. It's sort of why the whole four houses of harry potter irks me. A friend would insistently tell me I'm a hufflepuff, or when we'd watch steven universe he'd try to tell me who he thought I was like, (even though I relate to rose quartz the most tbh). I hate that people use these type of things to label one another. This friend was basically telling me he thought I was weak by attributing me to what he perceived as weak things. It's not wrong to believe in something, but labeling someone's entire persona based off of something like this can lead to dangerous thinking, like: this person is bad, (even if the person in question is not bad).

That being said, you are allowed to like or dislike acnl characters. You are allowed to make these judgments and not have villagers in your town because of that. There isn't anything wrong with what you're doing, it's just something I'd be wary of. If this sort of thinking is what guides in irl, it may lead you to avoiding and judging and treating people badly for no real reason.

I mean no offense in any of this, it's just my two cents I suppose.

 

[IslandGuy]

Astrology huh? Do you have your natal chart? You have your rising sign? There was a Mars conj moon eclipse last week. How did that affect u?

 

[visibleghost]

it’s not uncommon at all for abuse survivors to avoid people who are similar to abusers but if it becomes a big problem (like if you avoid people in real life with those signs too) it’s something you should deal with lol. if it’s only about animal crossing villagers is it probably fine because villager preferences are not a big deal but Yeah it doesnt matter if you avoid people because of zodiac signs, the tv shows they like or their looks, if it’s because of trauma it’s probably something you can deal with in some way so you don’t have il think as much about it.

i don’t think about zodiac signs at all but i have problems with avoiding people because of looks, gender and names because it reminds me of people i’d rather not remember. it’s something i’m kind of working on but i still get really bad when i meet someone who is too similar to them but at least it’s not as bad as before. what has helped me has been time and working through trauma, not in therapy because my therapy situation is terrible and back when i still saw a good therapist i couldn’t talk about it so rip but i’ve tried to work through some things on my own and it has helped me a little. idk lol