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Yukari Yakumo
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Being annoyed at other people being mad at you is not a reason for therapy.
Most don't get mad just because someone doesn't want to go to the store.
It's likely that in her mind it went something like "OH! You'd rather sit around at home than spend time with me?!"
My advice is next time ask a question or two to feel it out. "What are we going to get?" "Is there anywhere else we're going?" or even request to go somewhere else in addition.
I use to go to the store with my mom all the time, but the older I got the less I wanted to go too. My mom would always show her disappointment more so than get angry though when I didn’t want to go. But now that I’m older and looking back at those times I feel like she just wanted to spend as much time with me as she could before I eventually become an adult and move out. Those trips to the store might have been a nuisance to teenager me but I’m pretty sure they meant the world to her. I wish I could get those times back honestly. Now that I’m an adult and have my own family I can clearly see how something so little as me not wanting to go to the store made her feel the way she felt. I look at my 3 year old now and think “damn one day she is not gonna wanna hang out with me”. It’s a sad feeling, but it also makes me all the more appreciative of the time I do get to have. And then before you know the cycle of life starts all over again. (or maybe it’s the circle of life?)
This 100%. Despite how you may feel, I remember feeling the same way so I relate. But now that I've moved out and gotten older, I realized the exact same thing and regret acting that way towards her.
Yes, I’ve experienced similar behaviour from a parent. It is passive aggression. They give you an option on the surface, ie “do you want to go to the store with me?” but they expect you to say yes, and will react negatively if you don’t.
I’m sorry someone told you you needed therapy. How dismissive and reductionist wtf lol
I’m sorry someone told you you needed therapy. How dismissive and reductionist wtf lol
Uffe
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I've been asked that question numerous times. Most of the time I'll say no, because I'd prefer to spend time with my parents at their house. It's why I came over in the first place. I was offered to go out and buy new trousers. I preferred not to and my mom got upset, telling me, "You never want to buy new clothes." It's not new that I've never once in my life enjoyed ever going out to the store for clothes. I've been this way since I was a child. I'll buy new clothes if I actually need any. I've got a lot of clothes at home already and I don't have room for more. Especially with the pandemic, I don't want to be around people. Most of them are irresponsible and don't follow procedure.
saucySheep
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oof, i deal with the same sort of thing ;( doesn't help that my mom is the easily offended sort...
idk why parents think this way, but they just do. perhaps your mom got mad at you because she wanted to spend time with you but refused to understand that you simply didn't want to that time?
like wth
i swear that if i ever become a mother (which.... idk... might not happen ;-; ) i will be a good homie to any of my kids >:|
idk why parents think this way, but they just do. perhaps your mom got mad at you because she wanted to spend time with you but refused to understand that you simply didn't want to that time?
like wth
i swear that if i ever become a mother (which.... idk... might not happen ;-; ) i will be a good homie to any of my kids >:|
Ghost Of Mascevanje
Can't Be Seen By Most Humans
I've been in similar situations. It definitely can get on one's nerves.
Sounds like you need empathy.
Sounds like you need empathy.
I felt like they needed therapy due to the strained relationship with their mother.
Maybe your mother just wants to spend some time with you and is upset about it? Are you not spending much time with her these days? If not, I'd consider just taking some extra time to be with her. If you don't want to go to the store, ask her if she'd like to do something with you later instead.
Oh, it’s okay. There are some hateful, toxic people on this site, and I’m used to it. Some people grow balls of steel behind a screen. Besides that, anyone can go to therapy. It doesn’t hurt.
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I do spend time with her. Whenever I’m not at school or doing homework, I am. Sometimes I just need some alone time to recharge because I get socially overloaded easily.
I can empathize with this greatly. I need alone time to self regulate and recharge too. Being social irl is exhausting, regardless of whether it’s with family or friends or whoever. Alone time is important and nobody should make you feel guilty or uneasy about needing it.
Right?? I’m glad someone gets it! My 5 AP class workload just takes it out of me, too.
Mr_Persona
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I always like going to the store with my parents. Sometimes l make them do it 
Just fun imo and great to get out! But if l say no then they wouldn't care, they accepted it and move on. I don't know how you can fix your problem, but yeah l don't have the same problem as you. My parents would always ask if l want to go or not, so l do get options.
One question, have you bother to try talking more into this with your mom?
Just fun imo and great to get out! But if l say no then they wouldn't care, they accepted it and move on. I don't know how you can fix your problem, but yeah l don't have the same problem as you. My parents would always ask if l want to go or not, so l do get options.
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One question, have you bother to try talking more into this with your mom?
In that case, if you haven't already, sit down with her and let her know how you feel. If she doesn't believe your need of alone time, take the NERIS personality test and show her the results. Let her know that even though you want to be alone at that moment that you enjoy spending time with her otherwise and look forward to doing so again later. Hopefully that helps.
highly doubt that mariah meant to attack you. i dont know what you expect posting stuff like this on a forum as anyone can have their own thoughts on your post and while i do think getting therapy is bit of a stretch, calling them toxic and hateful is overkill
anyways i personally dont deal with things like this and i dont know enough info so im not going to try and say anything on the matter
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