Sexual Orientation & Gender Identity Support Thread
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xSuperMario64x
call me Bug 🇨🇦💜🐛
scratch what I said before. I may have made a new self discovery today! I believe I am omni! 
I always wondered if the term pan would fit, but despite me being willing to date all genders I do tend to have preferences. I thought I was mainly into men/nb trans-masc ppl but honestly I'm willing to date women and trans-fem nbs as well as agender/genderfluid/etc people. so in a way I am interested in anyone with a slight preference for men/trans-masc ppl, and I think the definition of omni fits that pretty well
so yeah, I'm basically aro-ace-omni
I always wondered if the term pan would fit, but despite me being willing to date all genders I do tend to have preferences. I thought I was mainly into men/nb trans-masc ppl but honestly I'm willing to date women and trans-fem nbs as well as agender/genderfluid/etc people. so in a way I am interested in anyone with a slight preference for men/trans-masc ppl, and I think the definition of omni fits that pretty well
so yeah, I'm basically aro-ace-omni
I have a smaller pride flag that I hung over an ugly photo-copy painting and a pride flag keychain
(Both are rainbow flag).Used to have a tote bag as well but it now rests in peace cause I had to use it not to start a fire and cover a frying pan since it was the only cloth/cover thing we available at that point.
And I also have a 8 colours/og rainbow flag pattern iphone 6,7,8,SE case I bought a couple years ago that I can now use again
I think I've finally found a label that feels right for me! I am polysexual!
I kept debating about whether I was bi or pan, but neither felt like a perfect fit. So after doing some research I came across polysexual and it just clicked.
I'm attracted to multiple genders but not necessarily all of them. I have a definite preference for males or masc-presenting people when it comes to romantic attraction, but I wouldn't rule out females, agender, or genderfluid people. I actually have a slight preference for females when it comes to sexual attraction, but can really go multiple ways.
After a little over a year of seriously questioning where I fit in, it feels good to finally have a term for it!
I kept debating about whether I was bi or pan, but neither felt like a perfect fit. So after doing some research I came across polysexual and it just clicked.
I'm attracted to multiple genders but not necessarily all of them. I have a definite preference for males or masc-presenting people when it comes to romantic attraction, but I wouldn't rule out females, agender, or genderfluid people. I actually have a slight preference for females when it comes to sexual attraction, but can really go multiple ways.
After a little over a year of seriously questioning where I fit in, it feels good to finally have a term for it!
ZeldaCrossing64
Sugary Cynic
I'm not sure if I should label myself as bi anymore. I feel like I have to live up to that name, y'know? If I'm crushing on a guy, people will think I'm straight. If I'm crushing on a girl, people will think I'm lesbian. (Neither of those terms actually fit me 'cause I'm non-binary, haha.) I feel romantic + sexual attraction for both genders, but I wouldn't mind dating someone who's non-binary. I dunno, I just say I'm bi for simplicity's sake, even if it's technically untrue.
Still confused about my whole non-binary situation as well. I tried telling people about it at school and all I got in return were strange looks. I also have a new name, which I'm having trouble telling others about it. I haven't even told my family about it yet, so I'm still being called by my dead-name. I don't even wanna change the name of my Mii, 'cause they'll see it and question me about it. (I did do it in Tomodachi Life, but by then I try my best to avoid my look-alike when my brother is watching me play.)
I just wish I was 100% certain about who I am in terms of sexual orientation and gender identity, so I won't be up all night thinking about it. It'd be a pretty heavy weight off my shoulders.
I also wish my brother wasn't homophobic in general about LGBTQ+. It's hard being myself when I'm around him. He always says "you're my favorite sister" and it makes me... I can't even find the right word here. I have told him numerous times to refer to me as his sibling, and he did once, but not in the way I was expecting. "You're my favorite... Sibling..." And he has the nerve to audibly shudder and look at me weirdly. It just made me feel worse.
Sorry for the super long text, haha. I didn't expect it to turn into a rant, I guess I just needed to talk about it. XP
Still confused about my whole non-binary situation as well. I tried telling people about it at school and all I got in return were strange looks. I also have a new name, which I'm having trouble telling others about it. I haven't even told my family about it yet, so I'm still being called by my dead-name. I don't even wanna change the name of my Mii, 'cause they'll see it and question me about it. (I did do it in Tomodachi Life, but by then I try my best to avoid my look-alike when my brother is watching me play.)
I just wish I was 100% certain about who I am in terms of sexual orientation and gender identity, so I won't be up all night thinking about it. It'd be a pretty heavy weight off my shoulders.
I also wish my brother wasn't homophobic in general about LGBTQ+. It's hard being myself when I'm around him. He always says "you're my favorite sister" and it makes me... I can't even find the right word here. I have told him numerous times to refer to me as his sibling, and he did once, but not in the way I was expecting. "You're my favorite... Sibling..." And he has the nerve to audibly shudder and look at me weirdly. It just made me feel worse.
Sorry for the super long text, haha. I didn't expect it to turn into a rant, I guess I just needed to talk about it. XP
if you feel the label fits you then you can absolutely be non binary and bi. im a non binary lesbian. i think labels are generally supposed to be helpful for you rather than cause you stress. its okay to not label yourself. its also okay for your sexuality and identity to be something thats fluid and/or something you realize over time and for your labels to change as you try to discover whats most comfortable/feels right for you. there is a lot of invalidation out there around bisexuality specifically, but it is absolutely a valid identity and also an identity that can belong to nonbinary people and people attracted to non binary people. it sounds like youre surrounded by people who invalidate you, and im so sorry youre going through that. its horrible that people try to make us ashamed of ourselves for just trying to exist authentically
My issue with labels is that people try so hard to fit different labels. Yeah, labels are adjectives to describe you as a person but the problem comes when people say they can’t do certain things or be a certain way because they are supposed to be “this label.” I think labels are good, though. They help people understand themselves and others better. I don’t use labels personally because they change and you don’t necessarily have to stick to one label. I used to struggle with whether I was lesbian, pan, or something else entirely. I came to the point where I stopped trying to find a label and just be myself. If I like someone, I like them. So when people ask, I just say I’m me.
It’s better than thinking “oh I can’t be lesbian because I think this guy is attractive” or something.Besides, labels do change overtime. Remember that sexuality is a spectrum. You aren’t stuck with one label for the rest of your life, and don’t feel ashamed for changing it.
My apologies for the double posting, but:
My mom is just so weird? Now it’s not that I get along with her anyway and we don’t talk at all except for the “happy birthday” text I receive from her once a year. She’s actually supportive of same sex relationships and doesn’t care at all about gender identity, but she’s anti-ace? She tells me all the time it’s not a relationship unless you’re having sex because that’s just a friendship. She even went as far to say that you aren’t really an adult unless you’re sexually actively. There’s so many things wrong with this… I’m actually a virgin and I don’t plan on changing that anytime soon at least. I just don’t understand why she’s putting so much importance on sex when there are literally friendships with sex and relationships without sex. It doesn’t define what two people are. I feel like she’ll accept anyone for who they are so long as they’re having sex eventually.
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ZeldaCrossing64
Sugary Cynic
My parents want to name one of the puppies Charlie, which is my current name. How am I supposed to tell my family that they shouldn't because it's my new name and I feel weird about giving the same name to a puppy, and also telling them that the name they've been calling me for the past 15-and-a-half years is now obsolete? I don't think they'd take it too well, honestly. I think I'll just keep quiet for now.
I've been really sick of the racism in the LGBT community recently -_-
A lot of people don't realize how important intersectionality is or take it for granted but me hearing "oh you're not like them" because I'm a somewhat white-passing Hispanic who is pretty well assimilated into U.S. culture is quite frankly really off putting and disgusting
It's made me want to avoid very white spaces at least where I live unfortunately
It's generally very accepted where I live but I also I definitely understand why a lot of LGBT leave for bigger cities. I've been considering leaving my city now for a while just to be in a place where there's a broader range of communities and subcultures
A lot of people don't realize how important intersectionality is or take it for granted but me hearing "oh you're not like them" because I'm a somewhat white-passing Hispanic who is pretty well assimilated into U.S. culture is quite frankly really off putting and disgusting
It's made me want to avoid very white spaces at least where I live unfortunately
It's generally very accepted where I live but I also I definitely understand why a lot of LGBT leave for bigger cities. I've been considering leaving my city now for a while just to be in a place where there's a broader range of communities and subcultures
Do they know about your current name? It seems that they don’t, based on the part of your post that I put in bold. It might just be a strange coincidence, but I can understand how weird this would be.
ZeldaCrossing64
Sugary Cynic
They do not, I've been sort of procrastinating telling them . . . I think I had my new name since April or May actually, so that sort of gives you an idea of how long I've been waiting to do so.
I kind of . . . Don't want to, if that makes sense. But yeah, it's definitely a weird experience sharing the same name as a puppy without my family even knowing it.
Is it because you don’t feel like they would be accepting of it, or because you think changing your current name would upset them in a way?
I’m not really a fan of my birth name either. Like, I wish it was more androgynous. My reluctance comes from my parents (well, dad) feeling bad because I was actually named after one of the female leads in one of his favorite movies. Still, I’m more indifferent about it than “I must change my name NOW.”
ZeldaCrossing64
Sugary Cynic
A bit of both, really. I remember telling my mom once that I wanted to change my name to Zelda, in which she responded with: "I'm still gonna call you [dead-name] no matter what!" So . . .
My family likes my dead-name (even if I do not), so me changing it would at least result in a comment like: "Oh, but your old name was so beautiful! I don't see why you changed it."
If I'm being honest, I'd rather keep quiet about it to my family and only let friends and new people I meet know about my new name. Whether I want to legally change it when I'm older is yet to be decided, but I have quite a bit of time to think about it from now until later.
xSuperMario64x
call me Bug 🇨🇦💜🐛
better than my case, my dad named me after my great great grandmother and it's a strictly feminine name. I did choose to start going by my middle name instead bc it's androgynous, but he's so ticked off abt it. it's not even like I legally changed my name (I wouldn't dare do that until I'm no longer living under his roof), I'm just going by a different name now. he thinks I'm disrespecting her by not going by that name anymore. like I get it, it means a lot to him, but parents should be more concerned about their child's wellbeing than some name.
i found out theres a more descriptive term for my identity: demigirl and demifemme. im not sure exactly how to describe my gender but i strongly identify as non binary while also feeling not entirely separate from womanhood and i didnt realize there was a more descriptive term for it. it feels really validating to know that many other people have similar feelings. obviously i dont need to prove my identity/sexuality to anyone but i kind of feel insecure about people who invalidate nb identities and also nbs validity as lesbians. its just nice to have a term that helps to explain how i feel a little better and also makes me feel more empowered to call myself a lesbian. ofc theres always people who will try to gatekeep, but it made me feel more empowered to find out the demigirl/femme label and i wanted to share
