KiloPatches
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The KiloPatches Advice Column and Q&A Thread!
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KiloPatches
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Bump!
Did you finish your NaNoWriMo?
KiloPatches
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So-so. I slept in because sometime during the night there was a power outage and the clock reset. So I slept in till like 2pm, which lately has been my regular routine. Stay up till 3 or 4am, wake up at 1pm or 2pm the next day. Its NOT good!
I find when you cohabitate with someone (like my boyfriend and I, we have been living together for 3 years) moods tend to be contagious. My boyfriend was in a bad mood today. So I was in a bad mood today. I did my best to cheer him up, but it was like Murphy's law - if something CAN go wrong it WILL. We decided to go to McDonald's after Mass to treat ourselves because we have a lot of assignments and we don't feel like doing the mountain of dishes in our sink and cooking, and there was a HUGE line up of people, and they screwed up our order, and our food took FOREVER to come, it was really annoying and my boyfriend was super frustrated, so something I tried to do to ease his stress ended up being stressful.
And Church - Mass was, how can I put it, boring, I guess. I feel I didn't benefit from it. Both my boyfriend and I are active ministers in the Mass so we HAVE to be there because we run the place. But the priest is senile and his Homilies just sound like lectures and I get enough of that in the week at university. The priest before him, the pervious Campus Minister, was young, and ran all sorts of cool events for us students and related to us really well - this guy not so much. His homilies related to issues we could related to, real-world problems we experience and we always took something away from them. He was really tech savvy. I have him on Facebook still and he posts his Homilies on iTunes so I can still listen to them. But this current priest just.... UGH! Its KILLER! And what's worse is my boyfriend is equally if not more so annoyed by it because he is newer to the Church than I am because he doesn't feel like he fits in (he was only baptized a few years ago - before that he was not religious, his parents raised him "nothing" giving him the choice that wen he was an adult he could choose whatever religion he wanted and he chose to be Roman Catholic). He doesn't regret that choice, but going to church is like a chore for him, and I wish it wasn't. Its kinda feeling that way for me too. Participating in ministry is the only thing that is motivating me at this point to go.
My boyfriend is really stressed about a paper that is due tomorrow. And I am stressed about an assignment that is due on the 2nd. And my boyfriend is stressed about all the stuff he has to do to get into Grad School for late registration to get in for January (we only found out he could do this like a week ago) so he has been scrambling around getting letters of reference, transcripts, writing proposal letters, supplying samples of writing, all that good stuff, and its just a really stressful (but also SUPER exciting) time for both of us. We should find out this week if he got in.
Exams are around the corner. I have my study plan all set out and ready to go, its just a matter of sticking to it. Classes end on Wednesday so I will have more free time to study after that. But I gotta get CRACKIN'!
Thank you for asking how my day was so I can vent. It means a lot to know you care. You've asked before. So.... Thank you.
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YES! At 9:50pm tonight I finished at 50,510 words!!!!! So I went a bit above what a needed. But I got a cool certificate, and banner for my Facebook page, and I can get a T-Shirt too!
YAAAAAAYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!
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I am REALLY into this Canadian artist from Montreal named David Usher. He is from the band, Moist, but his Independent music is SO BEAUTIFULLY POETIC its unreal, and if you REALLY listen to the lyrics it touches on issues I relate to like mental illness and suicide and depression, etc....
Lately I have been listening to his most recent independent album (that I have autographed!!!!) called "Songs From the Last Day on Earth". SO BEAUTIFUL. SO POETIC. I can't even begin to describe.... Google search it.
I have also seen him perform live once. I have his whole discography on my MP3 Player. XD
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KiloPatches
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It depends on who you feel unappreciated from..... an employer, a friend, a coworker, a romantic partner, a teacher, etc. You didn't specify, so I will give examples.
Personally, this is a HUGE issue for me. feeling under appreciated for my hard work drives me NUTS. Being an only child I strive to impress people, generally my superiors, like my boss for instance, and if I don't get the response I want, I work myself to the ground till I do, usually at the expense of my health. And that's not good. So I wouldn't advise that.
An employer (or other Superior, like a teacher who is in control in some way): Be sure to know exactly what they want out of something, like the work you do for them. If you feel unappreciated, perhaps you misinterpreted their instructions or they conveyed their expectations poorly to you. Communication is key.
A friend (or Equal, like a partner): Perhaps explain in a civil discussion your feelings to the person. That you have been doing favours for them, and you feel they haven't been pulling their weight in the friendship in the relationship or friendship. Perhaps you feel taken advantage of. If the person disagrees, perhaps consider setting healthy boundaries with that person and not offering as many favours or "freebies" and see if they notice a change. Its not being mean, it is what is required to avoid you getting hurt and reeling under appreciated. If they approach you and say, "yo, what the hell?" explain that you tried to convey your feelings of being unappreciated by them civilly and they weren't receptive, so to stop feeling unappreciated, you cut off giving "freebies" to the person to avoid getting hurt. Hopefully the person can understand and reason with that and apologize and continue being friends with you.
An Inferior (such as a child): Sometimes you do things for children and they take it for granted. It depends on whose child it is. If its your own, I am not about to give parenting advice, because I don't have kids of my own, so I can't help you there. But if its a niece or nephew, or the neighbour's kid, sometimes you have to accept that its not in your control how these children were raised. If they weren't taught to say "thank you" to their elders, like you, after you do something nice for them, maybe if you are part of their life enough you can try to remind them that that's a good habit to get into. Maybe don't give them something unless they "say the magic word" ("please").
If you could be more specific maybe I could help you out better, but that's all I really got with the information I have. I hope it helped a little!
KiloPatches
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Bump!
KiloPatches
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I am going to have to say Safari, since I use an iPad (regrettably)
But on PCs - and you are going to HATE me for this - I generally use Internet Explorer. D: Sorry.... I just don't like Firefox. At all. I use it when other browsers don't support what I am doing. But that doesn't make it "The Best".
KiloPatches
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Bump for night owls! Question time!
KiloPatches
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A stranger nearly ran me over by his car while I was riding on my bike. I was crossing an intersection as he was getting off the highway. He was rushing to get to the hospital because his wife had a baby who was in critical condition and he wasn't paying attention to the road or me.
He gave me $50 so I could go on a nice date with my boyfriend at the time. I wouldn't call it a bribe. I wasn't injured. He just knocked me off my bike, and I tapped the hood of his car to signal that if he went any further he would squash me. He was very apologetic. I feel sorry for the poor man, he wasn't in the right state of mind. He had the hospital bracelet to prove it.
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Yeah, actually. "A Beautiful Mind" is one that I can think of.
I mostly enjoy comedies though.
KiloPatches
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Try listening to music. Like a whole album, of your favourite artist. Or watching a movie. Something that consumes a lot of time. You SHOULD sleep. At SOME point. (I should take my own advice too). Try meditating. Youtube search "Guided Meditations" or "Positive Affirmations" - they are free and available to you and there are TONS of them. I have a bunch of them.
Try reading a book, even. Go to the Public Library and pick up something interesting. Even a how-to like jewellery-making or duct-tape wallets. Or a self-help book. Or a work of fiction. That consumes time too and gives you a deadline to finish it in.
Try some of those things and see if they work. Let me know if they do
tamagotchi
i'm not mean
Let's say I stayed up all night and maybe sort of have school in 4 hours. Let's also say I might have turned off my dad's alarm clock 10 minutes ago to avoid going to school. Okay, so, what if I did do all these things. If my dad was to wake up school early, how do I stay awake in class? ; - ;
KiloPatches
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Awesome
Glad I could help. I am at wits end too with this assignment..... D: Ugh.... its due tomorrow.... I dunno what I am gonna do!
I found a really good book at the Library once on Self-Harm.... Perhaps look up that book?
Its called "Coping with Self-Mutilation: A Helping Book for Teens Who Hurt Themselves" by Alicia Clark
Its SUPER short. But a good read.
There is also: "Coping with Anxiety and Panic Attacks" by Jordan Lee
Try them out if you can find them!
*hugs*
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Um...... How do you stay awake in class?
Being a university student, I don't face this problem too often. They don't take attendance. And they don't care if you don't show up. Its your money. Its your education. Do what you want. You're an adult.
I personally would take a mental health day and not go to school.... if I had to be in school in 4 hours..... I would accept the consequences....
But turning your Dad's alarm off to avoid going to school? You're avoiding SOMETHING. Confront that something with yourself,. or with your Dad when he wakes up and have a discussion, that's all I can say. School is important. Education should be valued. What is it you are avoiding? You SHOULD attend! And be ATTENTIVE! Staying awake.... you need more than 4 hours sleep to do that..... but it depends on your body....
Sorry I couldn't be of more help!
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