The Official Feedback Thread

[LadyDestani]

Hi all,

I would like to follow Mar by addressing some criticism I saw regarding my own post in this thread. Specifically, it came to my attention that my suggestion to reach out via CTS was taken as an attempt to silence your concerns. For that, I sincerely apologize as it was not my intention at all.

Looking back over my phrasing, I realize why it was perceived that way. It was late, I was tired, and I simply wanted to say something to address the situation so people didn't feel like we were ignoring them.

My recommendation for using CTS was something I added on the fly. I thought it would bring more visibility for our staff team to respond quicker to those who were particularly upset, because this thread is growing so fast that it's very difficult to keep up. I also misspoke because none of us minded you all continuing to discuss the matter in this thread as long as the rules were followed.

I know words matter, even more so as a moderator, so I do try very hard to express myself clearly. Because of that, I know I'm often too wordy, I probably come across as too formal, and I still make mistakes.

I love this community! I hope you can accept that I'm giving my best and continuously trying to be better because I want TBT to stay around for many years to come. I will always accept your feedback with an open mind and do everything I can to improve myself and this site.

 

[-Apples-]

Hi all,

I would like to follow Mar by addressing some criticism I saw regarding my own post in this thread. Specifically, it came to my attention that my suggestion to reach out via CTS was taken as an attempt to silence your concerns. For that, I sincerely apologize as it was not my intention at all.

Looking back over my phrasing, I realize why it was perceived that way. It was late, I was tired, and I simply wanted to say something to address the situation so people didn't feel like we were ignoring them.

My recommendation for using CTS was something I added on the fly. I thought it would bring more visibility for our staff team to respond quicker to those who were particularly upset, because this thread is growing so fast that it's very difficult to keep up. I also misspoke because none of us minded you all continuing to discuss the matter in this thread as long as the rules were followed.

I know words matter, even more so as a moderator, so I do try very hard to express myself clearly. Because of that, I know I'm often too wordy, I probably come across as too formal, and I still make mistakes.

I love this community! I hope you can accept that I'm giving my best and continuously trying to be better because I want TBT to stay around for many years to come. I will always accept your feedback with an open mind and do everything I can to improve myself and this site.

I actually liked both of your responses to this thread. I mean yeah, it’s natural to face the negativity in a thread like this, but the whole fight over the Valentine’s event drama was a whole different level.

Anyways, I’ll be awaiting more feedback on the issues. My top three responses to await are on the collectibles market, the repeat winners, and controversial content.

 

[MrBox]

ah nevermind, sorry
it was nothing important

 

[EpicGamer12]

Wow, lots to digest here. If this was happening in real life, I would just have everyone over for a corn boil, and we could settle our differences that way. This is the internet, so that cannot happen.

sorry mods - just wanted to lighten the mood ;-;

 

[-Raven-]

I don’t know if this means anything coming from me or just comes across as flimsy but honestly the atmosphere from this and the last thread make me like, well-

I said I wanted to stay on this site as long as possible before for how much it helped me and I genuinely didn’t think I would be thinking this sincerely about leaving. I thought if I ever wanted to leave it would squarely be in the “me issues” category and I’d realise that and swallow it, but I’m rapidly getting more uncomfortable here.

I’m not sure if airing my issues out is just getting off-topic but I don’t really care. If there was some response to what I said about reacts I’ll just say this: reacts were one of the main ways I interact with this site and now I question every time I’m doing them, because I feel like I’m going to be silently bothered people. It actually bothered me enough to turn off notifs for my own reacts, to distance myself a bit and make the site more quiet. I felt so guilty about the whole thing I didn’t want to log in. I’m someone who overthinks every interaction I had. Hug react, on the other side of the coin, helped me with my touch starvation trauma and yada yada reminds me of friends. Otherwise: forget it.

I don’t see seliph around a lot but I’m going to second what Crash said and staff should be able to take this on the chin. It’s your site and you’re going to get criticism. Respond poorly and push members away. Literally been vindicated in posts here. I don’t remember when he said it but seliph was also right community = amazing, with this reaction to criticism from staff that can only go so far, and this isn’t just drama.

I didn’t read everything because it’s honestly hard to and instead of wanting to contribute something positive or meaningful in this thread, I genuinely don’t want to check it. More and more often in my life I’m wondering why I bother to express anything. seliph has consistently been one of the most on-point users I see on this site and before this year I genuinely expected better from staff here, if the points from many other users are getting this reaction then why should I bother either.

I mentioned this in another thread but I used to try and keep ignorant to issues on this site, because I’ve done this song and dance and it just isn’t working anymore. I don’t want to post my art here anymore, I don’t care about events anymore, I don’t play the games this site is based around anymore, I’m putting less efforts in my posts, the react thing, and sure a bunch of it is just circumstantial but to see the staff reactions on top of everything just gives no hope for that improving. In so many areas of my life I keep feeling like I have to stomach things while seeing others be immature and I’m not trying to suggest the staff are immature about their whole lives, but these sure are some reactions and I don’t want to feel that same frustration here!

If I silently leave y’all have an idea of why, you can find me on Discord, I’m always sorry I didn’t spend more time with some of you. I had one of my worst years last year and I just started to try and be more active on this site again, but there’s only so much I want to be here with the current issues and lack of faith in improvement.

 

[sleepey]

I truly hope we can find a way to move forward, and I’m grateful for staff who have been real with us. I haven’t been active here as many of you, but I still have hope and the willingness to be an engaged member of this community. Thank you, everyone