What's Bothering You?

[Chicha]

Yeah. :/ But, I guess it's the culture. They just have a big emphasis on family, and the way they see it, me wanting to pay for my own phone means that I don't need them anymore. I can understand why she acted the way she did, but yeah she did sort of overreact... and also she's a little insecure as well, I mean she was really upset when I wanted to have my own bedroom and things - and this was only a few years back. Started saying things like I was leaving her, then being like 'fine, don't call me mom'. All because I wanted to sleep separately. So yeah :/

.... Woah. None of this sounds normal at all especially with wanting your own bedroom. That's just... not right. Families like that literally set up their children to be entirely dependent on them and does so much damage. Is all of your family like this or is it just your mom?

Maya (guinea pig) didn't make it.. RIP little Maya :'(

I'm sorry for your loss, it's always hard to lose a beloved pet. ;o; It sounds like you loved her very much. I hope the rest of your pets are okay.

 

[Alienfish]

Some people beejebus can you ****ing chill

 

[Chicha]

someone got mad at my friend for disagreeing with a headcanon and guilt-tripped her to take down her posts...... how sensitive are you djbkz i'm literally shaking my head at their ridiculousness

 

[Lady Timpani]

someone got mad at my friend for disagreeing with a headcanon and guilt-tripped her to take down her posts...... how sensitive are you djbkz i'm literally shaking my head at their ridiculousness

:/ I like barely participate in fandom anymore because of stuff like this. It makes me really sad.

@Princess Mipha, I'm really sorry about the passing of your piggie.

 

[Chicha]

:/ I like barely participate in fandom anymore because of stuff like this. It makes me really sad.

right? it's the internet. there's always going to be someone who disagrees with you on something. that's life.

some fandoms really do attract the most childish and entitled people.

 

[Bcat]

^Fandom culture SO toxic these days. The hypersensitivity, tantrums over miniscule issues, and harassment of those you disagree with is what drove me off of tumblr. I hold fandom culture at arms length lately because of it all.

 

[Alienfish]

^Fandom culture SO toxic these days. The hypersensitivity, tantrums over miniscule issues, and harassment of those you disagree with is what drove me off of tumblr. I hold fandom culture at arms length lately because of it all.

yeah and all the tumblrina people messing with fandom even worse

 

[maple22]

I need to talk to this one person, but she hasn't been responding to anyone's texts

 

[Chicha]

^Fandom culture SO toxic these days. The hypersensitivity, tantrums over miniscule issues, and harassment of those you disagree with is what drove me off of tumblr. I hold fandom culture at arms length lately because of it all.

yeppp. i hesitate to tell people i like x because it tends to almost always open up a can of worms. like i understand if someone gets upset at others being racist or hateful, but it's literally an option on fictional characters in a respectful way. it's literally harmless. if you're getting victimized over other people's opinions on fictional characters, then you got issues.

like who has the time and the energy for this stuff??? i'll never understand people like that.

yeah and all the tumblrina people messing with fandom even worse

it happened on twitter of all places which can be just as bad. v.v

 

[Dawnpiplup]

.... Woah. None of this sounds normal at all especially with wanting your own bedroom. That's just... not right. Families like that literally set up their children to be entirely dependent on them and does so much damage. Is all of your family like this or is it just your mom?

I mean, although they do share similar values and all due to the culture, I think my mom is a bit insecure as well... I think she doesn't really want me to leave her. I remember this one time when my family physician asked me if I wanted to stay in the state or go out of state for college, and I replied that I wanted to go out of state. I guess I may have said it in a cold manner (I don't really remember), but when my mom and I got in the car, my mom started berating me - she was crying, asking why I didn't love her, why I would leave her, etc. Then she would say that she didn't need me, and that she wouldn't care about me. This has happened more than once, where she would say all of these things. She's just so insecure, and I guess that ties along with her cultural views on family. Yeah, she doesn't want for me to be independent it seems... think my mom's more on the clingy side, now that you say it. So yeah, guess it has to do with just my mom's insecurities as well. :/

 

[Chicha]

I mean, although they do share similar values and all due to the culture, I think my mom is a bit insecure as well... I think she doesn't really want me to leave her. I remember this one time when my family physician asked me if I wanted to stay in the state or go out of state for college, and I replied that I wanted to go out of state. I guess I may have said it in a cold manner (I don't really remember), but when my mom and I got in the car, my mom started berating me - she was crying, asking why I didn't love her, why I would leave her, etc. Then she would say that she didn't need me, and that she wouldn't care about me. This has happened more than once, where she would say all of these things. She's just so insecure, and I guess that ties along with her cultural views on family. Yeah, she doesn't want for me to be independent it seems... think my mom's more on the clingy side, now that you say it. So yeah, guess it has to do with just my mom's insecurities as well. :/

damnnnn... that's just nuts. talk about an overreaction.

I can def see it! It sounds like she's projecting onto you. is your dad in the picture? if not, I can understand why she's so attached to you. my parents divorced early on and it took years before she started to let go habkdjs most of my family was afraid to get involved so I had to take matters into my own hands. I feel for ya, it's an awful situation to be in. D:

don't let her tears make you sacrifice your own happiness and well-being. there is no satisfying parents like this; they will always find something to make a big deal over. it infuriates me to see parents be like this to their children. you want to give them the best possible chance to be independent, not become a Rapunzel/Mother Gothel situation. the best thing you can do is to move out whether it's for school dorms, roommates. it makes such a difference when you get out. I only talk to my family once a month or every other month and give them an information diet.

There's a good community on reddit who has people share their experiences with helicopter parents and the like here. idk if you'll find it helpful but I'll put it out there in case you or anyone else here wants to check it out

 

[honeyaura]

I want to eat healthy food again, I don't feel like myself anymore. However thanks to these birth control pills/hormones, I can barely even tolerate the thought of eating it. My body is so picky with what it can handle. It's slowly getting better, but it's practically taken over my daily life </3

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Maya (guinea pig) didn't make it.. RIP little Maya :'(

Oh no, I'm so so sorry for your loss </3

 

[xSuperMario64x]

I think I might have an intolerance to something in cheese. Lately every time I eat something with cheese on it, I get really sick to my stomach for an hour or two afterward. I know it's not lactose intolerance since I can drink milk just fine, but it's definitely something.

 

[Bcat]

yeppp. i hesitate to tell people i like x because it tends to almost always open up a can of worms. like i understand if someone gets upset at others being racist or hateful, but it's literally an option on fictional characters in a respectful way. it's literally harmless. if you're getting victimized over other people's opinions on fictional characters, then you got issues.

like who has the time and the energy for this stuff??? i'll never understand people like that.



it happened on twitter of all places which can be just as bad. v.v

That's the biggest thing. like: It's not REAL. What is the point in getting offended over characters that do not exist? They're literally just lines and words on paper. Who exactly do you think you're helping by attacking somebody over someone who doesn't even exist?

and yeah, I quit twitter too because of the constant drama and witch burnings. I'm sick of being told I'm racist/sexist/homophopic/whatever just because my opinions on media don't align with whatever you consider to be the 'right' opinoin.

 

[Zane]

oh my GOD why did i do that i embarrassed myself so much for no reason. i wanted to just sit down on the sidewalk and cry for awhile

 

[Stella-Io]

oh my GOD why did i do that i embarrassed myself so much for no reason. i wanted to just sit down on the sidewalk and cry for awhile

Noo Zane *offers cooshy stuffed animal to hold while sitting with you*

Customers think they are so ****ing special omfricking, there are times when I can't deal with them anymore, and it's not even the end of my shift. Get that entitled stuck outta your butt and have some common sense for once. You are not entitled to every little detail you want. If you want it done so bad, do it yourself. There's a thing called YouTube ya know.

I'm still wondering for the day where I just snap on a customer :/

 

[Soigne]

Got my braces tightened today.

 

[-Apples-]

^Fandom culture SO toxic these days. The hypersensitivity, tantrums over miniscule issues, and harassment of those you disagree with is what drove me off of tumblr. I hold fandom culture at arms length lately because of it all.

It’s been toxic for quite awhile. Back when Total Drama Island was airing their second season, fans acted exactly like that (especially if it’s over Courtney, one of the characters). It may be worse today than it was before, but Total Drama fans used to be exactly like this.

 

[Lady Timpani]

It’s been toxic for quite awhile. Back when Total Drama Island was airing their second season, fans acted exactly like that (especially if it’s over Courtney, one of the characters). It may be worse today than it was before, but Total Drama fans used to be exactly like this.

There’s always been pretty annoying and immature fans and shipping wars, though. I definitely think there’s been a very noticeable shift in the last five or so years where it’s present in a ton of fan-fan interactions, and as Chicha showed, it’s not even confined to one site.

Also I find your TDI example amusing, but what I remember most from season 2 was people treating Gwen like a jezebel, not so much anything about Courtney. But I also quit watching partway through, so that may have something to do with it.

 

[Alienfish]

People using the public library computer for porn surfing like.??? no

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also dear "friend" i hope someone tips a book shelf over you