What's Bothering You?

[MelloDimensions]

I can't sleep, and I have to work in the morning. It's like my brain knows, and it hates me.

 

[Mimi Cheems]

My French Onion dip for my ripple chips are downstairs (((((((((((

I wanna go get it, but I know I'll fall asleep before I can put it back in the fridge =w=​

 

[Reginald Fairfield]

Shower clog.

 

[Princess Mipha]

My youngest cat cut my finger on the inside quite deep and it burns like hell..
I kinda hope it becomes a scar tho, because that would look funny with my other scar
on the finger next to it.. xD

 

[dumplen]

a lot of my neighbors evacuated and one left with their dog outside

 

[Dawnpiplup]

****ing hell. My family's pissed that I want to live somewhere else. Even when they're neglectful and abusive as ****.

- - - Post Merge - - -

They don't understand at all

 

[MelloDimensions]

I'm feeling bloated again. Curse it all.

 

[glasspandabear]

Life has been really tough lately in many more ways than just one. It's especially a constant struggle with loneliness for me every day. I really want to make new friends but I don't know how. It seems like some people are just social magnets and find it so easy to make friends, but I'm nothing like that. It really feels like nobody likes me.

As much as I want to make new friends, if someone does by chance message me and I respond, it always seems like tiring small talk. I hate small talk. It really annoys me. What's the point of asking "how are you?" or "what's up"? Those questions literally just seem like traps to me. How am I supposed to answer? How do you answer that question when you barely know someone? I feel legally obligated to just respond with "bored", "alright", "good", "nothing much", or anything else that's super boring.

Ugh. I wish making friends was easier but not only am I super shy, but nobody ever approaches me. I really wish someone would!! I'm kinda just hoping for a miracle right now. Maybe someday I'll make a new friend. But right now, it just doesn't even seem plausible.

 

[Midoriya]

Life has been really tough lately in many more ways than just one. It's especially a constant struggle with loneliness for me every day. I really want to make new friends but I don't know how. It seems like some people are just social magnets and find it so easy to make friends, but I'm nothing like that. It really feels like nobody likes me.

As much as I want to make new friends, if someone does by chance message me and I respond, it always seems like tiring small talk. I hate small talk. It really annoys me. What's the point of asking "how are you?" or "what's up"? Those questions literally just seem like traps to me. How am I supposed to answer? How do you answer that question when you barely know someone? I feel legally obligated to just respond with "bored", "alright", "good", "nothing much", or anything else that's super boring.

Ugh. I wish making friends was easier but not only am I super shy, but nobody ever approaches me. I really wish someone would!! I'm kinda just hoping for a miracle right now. Maybe someday I'll make a new friend. But right now, it just doesn't even seem plausible.

Heyo, just wanted to say I relate a lot to this. I don’t find making friends that easy. I only have a couple friends IRL, but the friends I do have I’m very close with (one of which I’ve been friends with for almost 10 years). It also feels like no one wants to approach me all the time and stuff. I especially understand not wanting to answer basic questions asking how you are, as a good portion of the time that just leads to small talk.

Best thing I can come up with and is what I did, is to focus on surrounding yourself with positive people and trying to get to know them better. Some questions like “how are you” are okay every once in awhile, but I make it a point to try and get to know more about other people by asking deeper questions.

That’s all I have to say on this. Just responding because I can relate to this one. I’m sure someone has some better answers to this or can help more, but I just thought I would put in my 2 cents. I hope you feel better soon.

 

[MelloDimensions]

Life has been really tough lately in many more ways than just one. It's especially a constant struggle with loneliness for me every day. I really want to make new friends but I don't know how. It seems like some people are just social magnets and find it so easy to make friends, but I'm nothing like that. It really feels like nobody likes me.

As much as I want to make new friends, if someone does by chance message me and I respond, it always seems like tiring small talk. I hate small talk. It really annoys me. What's the point of asking "how are you?" or "what's up"? Those questions literally just seem like traps to me. How am I supposed to answer? How do you answer that question when you barely know someone? I feel legally obligated to just respond with "bored", "alright", "good", "nothing much", or anything else that's super boring.

Ugh. I wish making friends was easier but not only am I super shy, but nobody ever approaches me. I really wish someone would!! I'm kinda just hoping for a miracle right now. Maybe someday I'll make a new friend. But right now, it just doesn't even seem plausible.

Try not to see such as traps, and as them approaching as you desire. I know it seems mundane after awhile. Which I find is why communication is something strived for. The same feelings which you described could even resonate, and small talk is just simply them being shy making for only their preference, but a possible lee-way into some common ground regardless. It takes patience, and honestly if its something you really want, you should allow for that.

 

[Darby]

Look glasspandabear, I?d be your friend but me, myself and I take up all of our time already and I don?t think you?d want us influencing you with all the flakiness that?s been flying around lately... Just kidding but in all seriousness, we all feel like that basically so get out of your head and don?t stress, just be a friend to yourself first and foremost and that way when you do meet people that you find interesting you can relax and be friendly... smile, say hi and be calm as a fair number of cucumbers, if THEY are worth being friends with it doesn?t take much effort but fair warning, there are a whole lot of lousy individuals out there so don?t settle, hold out for the good ones and it?ll be worth it in the long run. My two cents for what that?s worth anyway and she said that is good advice even if I do say so myself. Heh heh...

 

[glasspandabear]

Heyo, just wanted to say I relate a lot to this. I don’t find making friends that easy. I only have a couple friends IRL, but the friends I do have I’m very close with (one of which I’ve been friends with for almost 10 years). It also feels like no one wants to approach me all the time and stuff. I especially understand not wanting to answer basic questions asking how you are, as a good portion of the time that just leads to small talk.

Best thing I can come up with and is what I did, is to focus on surrounding yourself with positive people and trying to get to know them better. Some questions like “how are you” are okay every once in awhile, but I make it a point to try and get to know more about other people by asking deeper questions.

That’s all I have to say on this. Just responding because I can relate to this one. I’m sure someone has some better answers to this or can help more, but I just thought I would put in my 2 cents. I hope you feel better soon.

Thank you for taking the time to read my post and responding, it means a lot to me. I'm hoping that things get better in the future too. While I don't really have very many positive influences in my life, I'm still trying to keep myself going even if I can't rely on other people very much.

One of the hardest things about making friends for me definitely seems to be the small talk phase, and it more often than not seems to result in leading nowhere. I always find it easier to find common ground with people and just talk about things that we enjoy and/or have in common. I guess I'm more of a person who's straight to the point and would rather get to know someone than fumble around with awkward questions. It's a lot easier for me to answer a question like "how are you?" when I know that person on more than just a surface level so that I can answer honestly.

All of that aside, thank you for the advice <3

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Try not to see such as traps, and as them approaching as you desire. I know it seems mundane after awhile. Which I find is why communication is something strived for. The same feelings which you described could even resonate, and small talk is just simply them being shy making for only their preference, but a possible lee-way into some common ground regardless. It takes patience, and honestly if its something you really want, you should allow for that.

That's a really good point that you make. I guess I can be a bit too impatient sometimes. I don't always mind small talk, I just find it hard to start a conversation based off of a small talk question such as how I'm doing. It's just a question that I personally find hard to respond to a lot of the time. Despite how I feel about it, I would definitely be able to put that feeling aside and try my best to talk to anyone if they reached out to me.

I'd reach out to people more but it takes me a while to gather the courage to do so.

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Look glasspandabear, I’d be your friend but me, myself and I take up all of our time already and I don’t think you’d want us influencing you with all the flakiness that’s been flying around lately... Just kidding but in all seriousness, we all feel like that basically so get out of your head and don’t stress, just be a friend to yourself first and foremost and that way when you do meet people that you find interesting you can relax and be friendly... smile, say hi and be calm as a fair number of cucumbers, if THEY are worth being friends with it doesn’t take much effort but fair warning, there are a whole lot of lousy individuals out there so don’t settle, hold out for the good ones and it’ll be worth it in the long run. My two cents for what that’s worth anyway and she said that is good advice even if I do say so myself. Heh heh...

Of course, it's always a good thing to take care of yourself before worrying about other people sometimes. It has been pretty hard for me this year, but I'm trying my best.

I've had one friend who has been as good as gold for me for the past 10 years. She has shown me what it means to be a true friend to someone. I've shaken off some people who weren't very good to me recently, causing me to lose quite a bit of friends. I'm just trying to look on the bright side. I truly hope that there are more people out there for me to meet.

 

[MelloDimensions]

That's a really good point that you make. I guess I can be a bit too impatient sometimes. I don't always mind small talk, I just find it hard to start a conversation based off of a small talk question such as how I'm doing. It's just a question that I personally find hard to respond to a lot of the time. Despite how I feel about it, I would definitely be able to put that feeling aside and try my best to talk to anyone if they reached out to me.

I'd reach out to people more but it takes me a while to gather the courage to do so.

It's helpful to relay that type of small talk as a daily thing, and consider it just as something appreciative. Consider it as them caring as opposed to anything else. It's not healthy to settle as disinterest, or fair for that matter. Unless there's an actual subject allowing continuation, think of it as a starting point. Even this trouble from finding the courage can grow from that.

 

[glasspandabear]

It's helpful to relay that type of small talk as a daily thing, and consider it just as something appreciative. Consider it as them caring as opposed to anything else. It's not healthy to settle as disinterest, or fair for that matter. Unless there's an actual subject allowing continuation, think of it as a starting point. Even this trouble from finding the courage can grow from that.

It's all just from personal experience for me. I'm trying to shake the stigma I have towards it from dead end conversations in the past. I'm always willing to talk to new people, and I would never consider small talk as a dealbreaker whether I want to talk to someone or not. Sometimes small talk can be beneficial or necessary in a conversation to lead as a segway into getting to know someone better.

I feel like I'm at the point where I'm ready to break out of my comfort zone a little bit and try to be more open to people and allowing myself to reach out to new people. I'd be more than happy to try and put myself out there more than I have in the past.

 

[MelloDimensions]

It's all just from personal experience for me. I'm trying to shake the stigma I have towards it from dead end conversations in the past. I'm always willing to talk to new people, and I would never consider small talk as a dealbreaker whether I want to talk to someone or not. Sometimes small talk can be beneficial or necessary in a conversation to lead as a segway into getting to know someone better.

I feel like I'm at the point where I'm ready to break out of my comfort zone a little bit and try to be more open to people and allowing myself to reach out to new people. I'd be more than happy to try and put myself out there more than I have in the past.

Well I wish you all the luck, and if needed I'm here.

 

[Reginald Fairfield]

 

[Princess Mipha]

It's been over one week now that every single night I have the most awful, disgusting and scary nightmares..
I feel sick from then when I wake up, don't even want to eat because they are so disgusting..
and tonight I dreamt that my boyfriend had a deadly car accident and he didn't answer yet,
so I am scared af.. u-u
He's probably just busy working, but it's so scary...

 

[Dim]

Why do I feel like everything I do is awkward and stupid?

 

[Stella-Io]

Why do I feel like everything I do is awkward and stupid?

My life right here^ I'm just a stupid and awkward person.

Still not quite over this 'sickness'. Sore throat is gone -yay that literally work me up randomly from my sleep and made me almost throw up a few times- but I'm congested and still coughing. I have to work like 5 days straight and I don't want to cough at work, I'm sure customers would just LOVE that. I don't think I'm supposed to have any cough drops on me while I work so yeah.

 

[Darby]

I’m just smart enough to know how stupid I really am for the most part. I can’t figure out how to do attachments and I really wanted to post some pictures.

And I’d say it sounds like you need some cough suppressant Stella-Io but I’d feel awkward...