This is kinda of why I stay away from these kind of communities online, especially if it's close-knit stuff like Discord. Most often they have their own set agenda on what's right or not and if you speak against, they do exactly like that.I accidentally phrased things the wrong way on that LGBTQ+ Discord server again and two more people were nasty to me. I even tried to explain myself, but they wouldn’t have it. Every time I post on there now they cut me off.
Honestly, I'd try to find a better, safer space for that where people are more open, if possibly. That place sounds very toxic and I hope you can find another place and sort it out.