xSuperMario64x
🇨🇦🩷 3 days 💜🇨🇦
ugjdbshsbs I hate pms lol
What's Bothering You?
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@Mick and I had a ridiculously long conversation about exactly this a couple of weeks ago. It resulted in us both trawling through Amazon comparing bedsheet finds at stupid o'clock in the morning. I don't think either of us succeeded in finding a set we liked. Finding nice sheets is hard!
Stomach still hurts. I want to go downstairs and make peppermint tea / watch TV / sleep on couch, but my partner gets upset when I do that. Also this isn't our house and while allowed it might be awkward to explain... so instead I'm lying awake in bed feeling uncomfortable and lamenting over this:
Don't even get me started (again) on finding nice bedsheets
I mean who even designs those things? Nearly all of them are absolutely hideous or some very uninspired pattern of blocks and stripes.I would happily complain more about this but my alarm goes off in roughly 5 hours so that's fun.
I had managed to wipe that abomination from my memory. Thanks for putting it back in there.Don't even get me started (again) on finding nice bedsheets
I would happily complain more about this but my alarm goes off in roughly 5 hours so that's fun.
I think everyone feels this way to some degree. I certainly do and I've been staff here since 2014. I honestly feel I'm hated by the majority of the community here and that my mindset and way of doing things is greatly different from the community as a whole. I debate stepping down every few weeks because of it, honestly. At the end of the day I just remind myself it is an internet forum and being well-known or liked online doesn't really matter or have any impact on the real world at all.
Uh, I just hopped in here to complain my stomach hurts and I've a long car ride back to civilisation in a few hours.
While I’m sure it doesn’t mean much, I just want you both to know that I value and appreciate you.
Kilza, I always love being on group teams with you, and I always notice when you’re gone. You have been nothing but kind and helpful to everybody, and I have always considered you to be very well-liked on TBT! I’m sorry 2022 has not been your year, but I truly hope 2023 brings better things for you.
Chris, you have dedicated so much time to moderating and organising TBT events, and I think we all (I certainly do) appreciate how much work you put into TBT. I have always considered you well-loved here also! You’re very active on TBT, and you’ve often brought laughs during events. Not to mention, when I was relatively new here, it was seeing you frequently respond to the introduction threads with kindness and questions that encouraged me to welcome new people to TBT as well!
Here’s hoping for happiness and success for everyone in 2023.
About being Apothisexual, I hate the obsession with sex. I just don’t find the appeal.
Also, I’ve been told in the past (by my mother no less) that I have too nice of a body to not be interested in sex. She also said a relationship without sex is just a friendship. She knows I’m not into sex and I’m a virgin, but she keeps finding ways to bring it up. This would explain why I only speak to her once or twice a year… Her commenting about how nice my body looks makes me angry. She knows because she’s seen me shower once a few years ago, and it hasn’t quite changed since. She tried to get me into webcamming because “I have the body for it.”
I hate my mom’s mindset. The sentence I italicized really bothers me. Also, she definitely doesn’t know I’m not cis. I can only imagine.
“Why throw away a body like that?”
“With a body like that, why would you want to be male?”
Also, I’ve been told in the past (by my mother no less) that I have too nice of a body to not be interested in sex. She also said a relationship without sex is just a friendship. She knows I’m not into sex and I’m a virgin, but she keeps finding ways to bring it up. This would explain why I only speak to her once or twice a year… Her commenting about how nice my body looks makes me angry. She knows because she’s seen me shower once a few years ago, and it hasn’t quite changed since. She tried to get me into webcamming because “I have the body for it.”
I hate my mom’s mindset. The sentence I italicized really bothers me. Also, she definitely doesn’t know I’m not cis. I can only imagine.
“Why throw away a body like that?”
“With a body like that, why would you want to be male?”
xSuperMario64x
🇨🇦🩷 3 days 💜🇨🇦
@Croconaw ugh that's awful, you shouldn't have to hear that from anyone much less your own mom. I remember being a kid who was just starting to go through puberty, and when I told my mom I hated my chest/butt she would just say "oh you'll like it someday cause men like that". well here I am 11-12 years later and I still hate it, and honestly the thought of men looking at me and finding me physically attractive in that way makes me sick.
also if a relationship without sex is just a friendship then maybe friendships are what's for me lol. I would be perfectly content to be in a QPR. but im also here to say that that mindset is entirely untrue and people who say stuff like that neglect to remember that couples do a lot more than just bedroom bs. they have dinner together, watch movies, go on walks, buy each other gifts. there's so much more to a relationship and people need to remember that.
also if a relationship without sex is just a friendship then maybe friendships are what's for me lol. I would be perfectly content to be in a QPR. but im also here to say that that mindset is entirely untrue and people who say stuff like that neglect to remember that couples do a lot more than just bedroom bs. they have dinner together, watch movies, go on walks, buy each other gifts. there's so much more to a relationship and people need to remember that.
I came here to say I've been stuck on the toilet for like 30 min now bc I don't feel well, pretty positive this is still bc of PMS but I haven't even started yet and I'm soooo over it already lol
xSuperMario64x
🇨🇦🩷 3 days 💜🇨🇦
ugh I never wake up with a headache but this morning I have a bad sinus headache, I usually get rid of them by going to bed so idk what to do besides maybe taking ibuprofen 
update: headache still isn't gone despite taking something for it, and I also just walked out of my room to get a bottle of water and there was a dead mole outside my bedroom door gotta love cats sometimes
update: headache still isn't gone despite taking something for it, and I also just walked out of my room to get a bottle of water and there was a dead mole outside my bedroom door
gotta love cats sometimes
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ZeldaCrossing64
Supa Cop
I wish my online friend would stop sending me invites to their Discord servers. It always consists of their friends who I've never interacted with, so I always feel left out. And it's always about roleplays, a pretty sore subject for me because of that online friend. I can't just be like "hey stop sending me invites, I don't care to join your servers" because that would be rude, but I also don't want this to keep happening.
Also great when I get told "you're always in a bad mood" and "you're never happy" from my parents, along with getting yelled at by them pretty much as soon as I wake up. :/
Also great when I get told "you're always in a bad mood" and "you're never happy" from my parents, along with getting yelled at by them pretty much as soon as I wake up. :/
Monday, I decided to take the dark color out of my hair using a method I'd seen online. Plenty of people have said it worked, so I assumed it would be ok to try out. I bought the stuff for it and when I put it on my hair, it began to burn. I took the burning as "it's working," which is pretty dumb. Anyways, an hour later, I washed the stuff out. While it did take the color out of my hair pretty well, it left blisters on my scalp from the burning. They hurt really bad. I wish I just bought the box stuff instead. It worked, though.
I wish I just bought the box stuff instead. It worked, though.
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LuchaSloth
Sloth
I just feel kinda stuck in my life. - I quit my job back in October, and I have been doing a bunch of nothing since then. Yesterday I decided to message my boss about maybe coming back in the future, and he basically said "let me know when you want to come back, and we'll fit you in"...which, is great...you know, I appreciate that. But, yeah...I was hoping I would figure something else out. I feel like I'm just spinning my wheels anymore. I don't have traditional "goals" or "dreams". It has never felt like I'm wasting my life or anything like that. But...I had kinda hoped that I would find a way to make money for myself instead of working a job I hate doing. When I do go back, I'm definitely going to start thinking more about things I can use my money on to better set myself up for doing something I enjoy. Like...maybe buying a quality photo printer to sell some of my photos, or...I don't know, just stuff like that.
xSuperMario64x
🇨🇦🩷 3 days 💜🇨🇦
at a party for my friend's baby and I really do want to be here, but I've had this sinus headache literally all day and it won't budge, and this is also the second day in a row I've eaten very little bc I have no appetite so I'm feeling a bit loopy. I just really want to be here for her but I also wish I was lying in bed instead. idk what's wrong w me lately.
Ravenkitty22
No, one mourns the wicked
I’m just really ****ing tired. I spent the past four hours taking down Christmas decorations pretty much nonstop, and there’s still more to do soon because my parents expect all of Christmas to be down today and tomorrow, including the outside lights. I can’t handle this, everything is happening too fast
Rainbowhorn
*Bakes cookies for all villagers*
I keep trying to get better and improving in myself to follow my dreams, but every time I try to make those steps I swear something happens that's out of my control and that anchors me even more to my current situation, I feel like I've already wasted so many years in this and the progress is nonexistent to me. I will not get younger and I'm honestly so angry, scared and sad, I'm wondering if there's even any worth in keeping my hopes up...
xSuperMario64x
🇨🇦🩷 3 days 💜🇨🇦
I'm so ****ing tired of getting torn up by cats. I don't get angry easily but I am absolutely fuming. I am beyond irritated.
I wish I knew if my emotional burnout is from my toxic hyper-empathy or from past trauma that I don't really know how to feel anymore
I want to make it a New Year's revolution I will try and manage my hyper-empathy and I need to work on understanding what are my own emotions and what are others emotions that are affecting me, hyper-empathy is suppose to eventually lead to emotional burnout
I don't know if it's that or it's from my trauma that I don't really know how to feel anymore waking up everyday trying to be positive and have a good day and I don't know when any day is going to be another horrible day with memories I can't erase
I feel so apathic like it's so hard to express emotions when I want to express myself, everyday just feels like nothing it's not negative nor positive it's just I don't know how to feel anymore
last night was the first time I actually experienced true intense happiness even if only briefly, the last time I remember expressing happiness was in October
I really want to be able to experience the happiness I want to feel how happy I am for my Christmas presents, I truly am really happy and grateful for what I got but my body is unable to physically and emotionally express happiness from burnout
anger is probably the only emotion I can experience properly because I ever rarely become angry but I experience happiness and grief too easily now I can't experience them when I want to express myself
I'm not trying to be negative, I can still try and be grateful for the things that make me happy but I can't really express happiness anymore
I don't know how to feel anymore
I want to make it a New Year's revolution I will try and manage my hyper-empathy and I need to work on understanding what are my own emotions and what are others emotions that are affecting me, hyper-empathy is suppose to eventually lead to emotional burnout
I don't know if it's that or it's from my trauma that I don't really know how to feel anymore waking up everyday trying to be positive and have a good day and I don't know when any day is going to be another horrible day with memories I can't erase
I feel so apathic like it's so hard to express emotions when I want to express myself, everyday just feels like nothing it's not negative nor positive it's just I don't know how to feel anymore
last night was the first time I actually experienced true intense happiness even if only briefly, the last time I remember expressing happiness was in October
I really want to be able to experience the happiness I want to feel how happy I am for my Christmas presents, I truly am really happy and grateful for what I got but my body is unable to physically and emotionally express happiness from burnout
anger is probably the only emotion I can experience properly because I ever rarely become angry but I experience happiness and grief too easily now I can't experience them when I want to express myself
I'm not trying to be negative, I can still try and be grateful for the things that make me happy but I can't really express happiness anymore
I don't know how to feel anymore
themysterybidder
Devoted to Buck! (UK)
I’ve pondered whether I should post this, but I thought maybe it would be good to vent a little as I try to be happy and not let people or things get to me. I can always delete it, if I feel even worse after it. I’m going to try and keep this as short as possible, but it probably won’t be once I get started…
OK, I’ve never had a rant here before, so I apologise for the length. If you read it, thank you I really appreciate it, but if not, I don’t blame you!
First of all, I’m going to say that my Dad and I aren’t angels, we had an odd argument with my Mum, but it was over petty stuff, for example she didn’t want me to get me Covid booster because the first one made me really ill. I said ‘I would rather be ill for a few days than catch Covid’. When we did argue we always said that we loved each other and would never ever hate each other.
Well, some of you may know my Mum passed away in October, I’m not going to lie, it’s been really hard. At the beginning some days were easier, but now they are difficult. I don’t know if it’s because it’s this time of year as she absolutely loved Christmas. I always knew it would happen, but to pass away so young (68) and so suddenly was a real blow. I lived with my Mum, Dad and brother who is 42. My Mum was housebound and had severe mobility issues, I helped her everyday with everything, washing, dressing, etc. She always told me how grateful she was and would never ever forget how I helped her even though I have my own physical health issues which I struggle with. My Dad is basically the same, he has limited mobility after decades of a manual job and he helped as much as he could too with her. I help him as much as I can.
However, my brother who is 42, treated her like dirt. He treats me like dirt too, I’ve been called every name under the sun. He never used to talkback to out Dad, but now he does. I mean, seriously, the only time he ever shows any manners or decency was when money was involved or if he wanted something. He acts like a big kid constantly having temper tantrums. So much to the point that in June, after years of empty threats my Mum and Dad finally agreed it was time for him to move out. Of course, he kicked off after that, played the ‘No-one cares about me’ card, shouting up in his room and banging stuff about. They explained they were doing it for his own good as they wanted him to be settled in a place before they passed on, so they knew he could do everything for himself. He’s never cooked, cleaned, he doesn’t even take a bin out, he doesn’t even do his own washing, leaves the bathroom so filthy you would not believe it, the list goes on and on. He always said to us ‘If you ever need anything, just ask and I’ll do it, no problem’. Several times we asked for his help, and he would throw one of his temper tantrums. It’s not the first time I’ve been putting washing back into his room and seen broken objects lying around. Needless to say, he never did anything we asked.
Even when my Mum died, whenever my Dad and I should have been focusing on arranging the funeral and grieving, my brother made it all about him, as he is extremely obese. He eats an unhealthy amount of junk food and tells us he’s cutting down. His GP has been telling him too, he NEEDS to lose weight. He didn’t have a suit or a shirt, and it was up to my Dad and I to find one for him. My brother found one to begin with but then it came back, and it was a dreadful quality and the trousers were far too baggy. So, he gave up and it was up to us. He always tells us, ‘Don’t worry, I’ve got everything under control’, but when it comes to it, he doesn’t. It’s always us left running about after him.
My brother has worked full-time for nearly 3 years, before that he was only working a few days a week. He always used to say how much he wanted to work full time, but we knew he just said that so he didn’t get pestered as my Mum and Dad always said he could look for a second job. He always complained he didn’t have any money. He hardly ever goes out, even before Covid, which if that makes him happy, then fair enough. He blamed our Mum for keeping him in when he was younger? I don’t remember that, and my Mum and Dad certainly don’t. I mean, how is that possible? He’s 42 now and he’s been allowed to go out wherever he wants! The only time they’ve put the bar up was when Covid was severe, he wanted to go to a concert, but because my Mum and I have low immune systems, they couldn’t take the risk of us catching it.
He stated that he shouldn’t be asked to do anything because he works full time. My parents tried to explain to him that there are lots of people in the same boat as him although they have responsibilities such as: they must run a whole household, with a family, but he seems to not care. He does seem to have a narcissist nature. I studied psychology and all the things he says and does points to that. He seems to have a very negative view on women. I don’t know if that’s because he’s never had a proper romantic relationship with anyone, and feels insecure. He had said between the lines on previous occasions he would like a girlfriend.
On top of all that, he’s lied on many occasions. My Mum always did say that when she passed, he would act the doting son as if he was sweetness and light. I really could go on, maybe I will in another post.
Secondly, my Uncle. He was another one that treated my Mum like utter dirt. He used to shout so loud to her on the phone that I could her him from the other side of the room, and the speaker wasn’t even on. He often fell out with her, but he always apologised within a few days and let’s face it, that’s normal for every brother and sister or in any relationship. It was always him that put the phone down on her.
However, my Uncle sent my brother an email he didn’t like. So, instead of my brother telling my Uncle, he got our Mum to phone him to tell him. My Uncle took it the wrong way, and took it out on my Mum by telling her that it would be best to cut all ties with us. That was on her birthday in 2020, and he never phoned her again. He had already shouted at her down the phone on Christmas Day because she phoned so we could wish him and his partner Merry Christmas at an inconvenient moment. So, he came to the hospital to see my Mum when I called him to tell him that she was seriously ill. Every time I speak to him it seems as if he thinks my Dad and I should be over my Mum’s passing. He sent an email to me and because I didn’t reply that day, next a text message (I replied to that) he sent another one email, then phoned me. I ignored the call, I never usually do that but the last time he was more interested in telling me about his neighbours that I don’t even know. I wanted to talk about my Mum and his memories of his sister. He knows how difficult it is for me to type so if I’m typing something that is longer, I must take breaks and go back to it. Plus, to top it all, he sent a Christmas card, nothing wrong with that, but inside it the message was ‘Hope this is your best Christmas ever’. That really upset my Dad and I. I thought that was really insensitive coming from a relative. I don’t expect the world to stop because of my situation and my Dad and I did celebrate Christmas but on a smaller scale, as it was her favourite time of the year. Also, when I’ve been talking to my Uncle on the phone, he keeps saying ‘Make sure you keep in touch and phone me whenever’ and how much he misses her. I really don’t feel like talking to him, because if he missed her so much why did he not speak to her for nearly 3 years? She tried to phone him a few times, and I think he must just have ignored her as the phone rang out then it was voicemail. If it hadn’t of been for her passing, he probably would still not be in touch.
Our next door neighbour has been absolutely brilliant, she and her daughter have been so kind and they are always lovely to talk to. Sometimes I get from some people I know ‘Oh, you seem quite happy’. I tell them, just because I have problems and my world has been shattered, I don’t see why I should be rude to someone else, when they’ve done nothing wrong. It wasn’t their fault she passed. People on here, on the other side of the world have offered me more support than my own brother or Uncle. For that, I am forever grateful, and will never ever forget your kindness. My Dad has been like a rock to me, and has said lovely things to me with I shall treasure. Maybe this seems selfish but along with thinking about my Mum every day, I keep thinking about having to go through the heartache again when he passes. I’ve always been a Daddy’s girl, but always make sure my Mum knew that I loved her just as much.
Being part of the TBT community has helped a lot and playing ACNH, as it does tend to keep my mind occupied and make me smile as she loved ACNH and even loved to walk around the museum. Whenever I was trading she would always want me to try and drop the items off as she enjoyed looking at the island as Wilbur flew over.
Well, some of you may know my Mum passed away in October, I’m not going to lie, it’s been really hard. At the beginning some days were easier, but now they are difficult. I don’t know if it’s because it’s this time of year as she absolutely loved Christmas. I always knew it would happen, but to pass away so young (68) and so suddenly was a real blow. I lived with my Mum, Dad and brother who is 42. My Mum was housebound and had severe mobility issues, I helped her everyday with everything, washing, dressing, etc. She always told me how grateful she was and would never ever forget how I helped her even though I have my own physical health issues which I struggle with. My Dad is basically the same, he has limited mobility after decades of a manual job and he helped as much as he could too with her. I help him as much as I can.
However, my brother who is 42, treated her like dirt. He treats me like dirt too, I’ve been called every name under the sun. He never used to talkback to out Dad, but now he does. I mean, seriously, the only time he ever shows any manners or decency was when money was involved or if he wanted something. He acts like a big kid constantly having temper tantrums. So much to the point that in June, after years of empty threats my Mum and Dad finally agreed it was time for him to move out. Of course, he kicked off after that, played the ‘No-one cares about me’ card, shouting up in his room and banging stuff about. They explained they were doing it for his own good as they wanted him to be settled in a place before they passed on, so they knew he could do everything for himself. He’s never cooked, cleaned, he doesn’t even take a bin out, he doesn’t even do his own washing, leaves the bathroom so filthy you would not believe it, the list goes on and on. He always said to us ‘If you ever need anything, just ask and I’ll do it, no problem’. Several times we asked for his help, and he would throw one of his temper tantrums. It’s not the first time I’ve been putting washing back into his room and seen broken objects lying around. Needless to say, he never did anything we asked.
Even when my Mum died, whenever my Dad and I should have been focusing on arranging the funeral and grieving, my brother made it all about him, as he is extremely obese. He eats an unhealthy amount of junk food and tells us he’s cutting down. His GP has been telling him too, he NEEDS to lose weight. He didn’t have a suit or a shirt, and it was up to my Dad and I to find one for him. My brother found one to begin with but then it came back, and it was a dreadful quality and the trousers were far too baggy. So, he gave up and it was up to us. He always tells us, ‘Don’t worry, I’ve got everything under control’, but when it comes to it, he doesn’t. It’s always us left running about after him.
My brother has worked full-time for nearly 3 years, before that he was only working a few days a week. He always used to say how much he wanted to work full time, but we knew he just said that so he didn’t get pestered as my Mum and Dad always said he could look for a second job. He always complained he didn’t have any money. He hardly ever goes out, even before Covid, which if that makes him happy, then fair enough. He blamed our Mum for keeping him in when he was younger? I don’t remember that, and my Mum and Dad certainly don’t. I mean, how is that possible? He’s 42 now and he’s been allowed to go out wherever he wants! The only time they’ve put the bar up was when Covid was severe, he wanted to go to a concert, but because my Mum and I have low immune systems, they couldn’t take the risk of us catching it.
He stated that he shouldn’t be asked to do anything because he works full time. My parents tried to explain to him that there are lots of people in the same boat as him although they have responsibilities such as: they must run a whole household, with a family, but he seems to not care. He does seem to have a narcissist nature. I studied psychology and all the things he says and does points to that. He seems to have a very negative view on women. I don’t know if that’s because he’s never had a proper romantic relationship with anyone, and feels insecure. He had said between the lines on previous occasions he would like a girlfriend.
On top of all that, he’s lied on many occasions. My Mum always did say that when she passed, he would act the doting son as if he was sweetness and light. I really could go on, maybe I will in another post.
Secondly, my Uncle. He was another one that treated my Mum like utter dirt. He used to shout so loud to her on the phone that I could her him from the other side of the room, and the speaker wasn’t even on. He often fell out with her, but he always apologised within a few days and let’s face it, that’s normal for every brother and sister or in any relationship. It was always him that put the phone down on her.
However, my Uncle sent my brother an email he didn’t like. So, instead of my brother telling my Uncle, he got our Mum to phone him to tell him. My Uncle took it the wrong way, and took it out on my Mum by telling her that it would be best to cut all ties with us. That was on her birthday in 2020, and he never phoned her again. He had already shouted at her down the phone on Christmas Day because she phoned so we could wish him and his partner Merry Christmas at an inconvenient moment. So, he came to the hospital to see my Mum when I called him to tell him that she was seriously ill. Every time I speak to him it seems as if he thinks my Dad and I should be over my Mum’s passing. He sent an email to me and because I didn’t reply that day, next a text message (I replied to that) he sent another one email, then phoned me. I ignored the call, I never usually do that but the last time he was more interested in telling me about his neighbours that I don’t even know. I wanted to talk about my Mum and his memories of his sister. He knows how difficult it is for me to type so if I’m typing something that is longer, I must take breaks and go back to it. Plus, to top it all, he sent a Christmas card, nothing wrong with that, but inside it the message was ‘Hope this is your best Christmas ever’. That really upset my Dad and I. I thought that was really insensitive coming from a relative. I don’t expect the world to stop because of my situation and my Dad and I did celebrate Christmas but on a smaller scale, as it was her favourite time of the year. Also, when I’ve been talking to my Uncle on the phone, he keeps saying ‘Make sure you keep in touch and phone me whenever’ and how much he misses her. I really don’t feel like talking to him, because if he missed her so much why did he not speak to her for nearly 3 years? She tried to phone him a few times, and I think he must just have ignored her as the phone rang out then it was voicemail. If it hadn’t of been for her passing, he probably would still not be in touch.
Our next door neighbour has been absolutely brilliant, she and her daughter have been so kind and they are always lovely to talk to. Sometimes I get from some people I know ‘Oh, you seem quite happy’. I tell them, just because I have problems and my world has been shattered, I don’t see why I should be rude to someone else, when they’ve done nothing wrong. It wasn’t their fault she passed. People on here, on the other side of the world have offered me more support than my own brother or Uncle. For that, I am forever grateful, and will never ever forget your kindness. My Dad has been like a rock to me, and has said lovely things to me with I shall treasure. Maybe this seems selfish but along with thinking about my Mum every day, I keep thinking about having to go through the heartache again when he passes. I’ve always been a Daddy’s girl, but always make sure my Mum knew that I loved her just as much.
Being part of the TBT community has helped a lot and playing ACNH, as it does tend to keep my mind occupied and make me smile as she loved ACNH and even loved to walk around the museum. Whenever I was trading she would always want me to try and drop the items off as she enjoyed looking at the island as Wilbur flew over.
OK, I’ve never had a rant here before, so I apologise for the length. If you read it, thank you I really appreciate it, but if not, I don’t blame you!
Firesquids
⛧Roxie of Avalar⛧
Wanted to put my 2 cents in on this too, if you don't mind. I'm constantly telling my family about the people I've met here, including you. You matter to me, and I'm sure a lot more people than you realize. I think you're very clever, you're amazing at figuring things out and I'm always happy to be on your team! Taking a break is definitely healthy though so go for it if that's what you need. Wish you all the best!
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