What's Bothering You?
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spawnpoint
IT'S TV TIME!
umm.. i hope you don't mind me sharing my thoughts about this this just got me thinking
honestly, maybe she just doesn't know that type of thing bothers you? if you haven't already cut her off, maybe you should try talking to her about it? i kind of do the same thing (when people tell me about a problem of theirs, i usually apologize for what's happening to them and tell them i hope it gets better soon, and i try to empathize with them by telling them a similar problem i have, because I'm really, really bad at comforting people.) I'm not great at empathy either a lot of the time. i personally don't think she meant it with bad intentions, unless there's more to the story you haven't told? idk this is just what i think from what you've said and my personal experiences
VanitasFan26
I'm just a ghost.
feel like whenever I discuss my problems with others I just get told "Stop making stuff to be a big deal" I just cannot be expressive anymore. It hurts me mentally.
xSuperMario64x
love of my life 💙💜
I ended up missing work today bc I don't feel well. I woke up around 8:30 which is when I would normally get up and get ready, but I just couldn't get myself out of bed at all. I ended up dozing off again and I woke up about 10 min after I was supposed to be at work. so I let my supervisor know and I apologized for such short notice, bc I really did plan on going in today but ig my body had other plans. I've never had PMS symptoms hit me this hard, and I feel like I have a burning sensation in my pelvis. I feel like I can't do much of anything besides lie in bed in pain and it sucks. maybe I'll go get something to eat and get some tea then I'll go lie down for a while.
Violet Witch
☽Stay Wild Moon Child☾
Thanks, I get where you’re coming from but there’s a whole lot more I didn’t divulge. For the better part of the year anytime we’ve had a conversation she just stops replying. This includes anytime I ask about anything that’s going on in her life. It’s like she wants the support but without putting in the effort and realising that friendship is a two way street. You have to give in order to take through both the good and bad times. Not only that she has a habit of forgetting about her old friends the moment someone new comes into her life that gives her attention. This has also included her own family that she’ll happily make out to be the bad guys when things don’t go her way. Then when it all goes wrong she comes running back and attempts to make promises, yet she never follows through with them.
Anyway I could go on and on about it but I’m honestly ready to move on. I don’t want to be callous or cruel but knowing how she reacts when anyone calls her out (it’s always everyone else’s fault) I simply don’t want to deal with that kind of behaviour anymore.
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Ravenkitty22
would’ve, could’ve, should’ve
It's getting bad again. Why can't I go a day without making my parents mad? I don't understand what I'm even doing wrong. If I say too much, it's bad. If I don't say enough, it's bad. If I show too much emotion, I get yelled at, but if I don't show enough, there's something wrong. I feel like I'm trapped where I'm at and I just want out. My friend's words keep repeating in my head: "Your self esteem is garbage, your personality's in shambles, and you're clinging on to a fandom hoping it will save you." I know something's wrong, I know it's not normal, I know it's not entirely my fault, but what am I supposed to do about it? I can't win!
Hey, I know I'm late to this, and I've already said it before, but I just wanted to say that your friendship means the world to me. You are one of the MOST notable members on this site. You are way better at events than I could ever hope to be. You're cool, you're funny, you're awesome! I'll be sad if you leave, but I understand if you do. Just know that there are a good amount of people here that care about you and will miss you, myself included.
I tried playing Mario Kart 8 Deluxe online at a local gas station. The WiFi here works, but it’s pretty bad. I got disconnected three times. I don’t want to lose any more VR, so I’ll just wait until I get back to the house.
I had to make up a lie to go to Staples so I could return my binder at the returns desk. My dad drove me there. Every time my dad gets a long check at work to make (cooking food), he says it’s longer than Michelle Obama’s wiener. He’s okay with gay people and sexual/romantic orientations and such, but not too sure about the trans community with those comments.
VanitasFan26
I'm just a ghost.
This is the thing that bothers me when talking to other people you don't know about your issues. The people who think how to solve your problems by giving you advice that you didn't ask for clearly doesn't know when to ask what the problem is before giving advice. Unsolicited Advice is really bad. You may mean well but you have to understand the problem in order to make sure you're not trying to sound dismissive, which is one of the reasons why asking for help is so difficult these days.
I realized that my own family and some of my ex friends gaslighted me to make me feel like I am going to crazy. They say sentences like "Stop making a big deal out of it" and "you're too sensitive". I cannot even express what I am going through because I know whats going to happen and it gets dismissed right away. I suffer in silence because of this.
I realized that my own family and some of my ex friends gaslighted me to make me feel like I am going to crazy. They say sentences like "Stop making a big deal out of it" and "you're too sensitive". I cannot even express what I am going through because I know whats going to happen and it gets dismissed right away. I suffer in silence because of this.
I don’t know if I’m the problem this time or not. Or if it’s bad management. I have BPD and because of that, I’ve had lots of jobs. I’d leave the minute something upsets me. I feel the only thing that keeps me here are the people — and not just my favorite person, although she keeps me sane here. I kept her up last night until 2 AM with my rambling. I don’t think she minds one bit. She said I can talk to her. I like most of the people I work with. I don’t want to leave based on petty **** with a manager.
Besides, I’m a great worker, but because I’ve left jobs on bad terms I don’t include my job history in resumes/job applications. They won’t know I’m a good worker until after they hire me… I think I’m more cut out for retail anyway. My longest job was a retail. I was cashier at Walmart for 3+ years. I liked that job, but I like this one too. Just talking to (the nice) customers more is fulfilling. I can’t do that washing dishes. But Target said I wasn’t what they were looking for, yet they hire someone with no experience on a register. Absolute bull****. I sabotaged myself.
Besides, I’m a great worker, but because I’ve left jobs on bad terms I don’t include my job history in resumes/job applications. They won’t know I’m a good worker until after they hire me… I think I’m more cut out for retail anyway. My longest job was a retail. I was cashier at Walmart for 3+ years. I liked that job, but I like this one too. Just talking to (the nice) customers more is fulfilling. I can’t do that washing dishes. But Target said I wasn’t what they were looking for, yet they hire someone with no experience on a register. Absolute bull****. I sabotaged myself.
tessa grace
yeehaw
I'm sorry your Christmas was crummy and pray your mom will get well soon
Hopefully your New Years is better, cheers to 2023 and making changes in your life 
Didn't get much sleep at all. (Flight landed at 11, next one was 7) I feel exhausted.
xSuperMario64x
love of my life 💙💜
trying not to drown in negativity today but I do feel pretty meh. not feeling well enough to go anywhere but I can't even leave my room bc I know my dad is out there and I know he'll find some stupid **** to complain about. i guess it's another day of being stuck in my room drawing or whatever. I'll make the best of it.
spawnpoint
IT'S TV TIME!
havent started my period in like 2 or 3 months (idk how long i am horrible at keeping track of time) but ummm idk if i should be concerned or 
this happened last year in literally the same timeframe wtf is going on
this happened last year in literally the same timeframe wtf is going on
Mimi Cheems
you make me wanna make you fall in love ♡
Well.. before my brother left for the Navy 2 months ago, I weighed a steady 200 lbs. That's about 90 kg for the metric folk. Within those 2 months, without even trying. I lost 25 lbs. I'm 79 kg now. The only reason I cared is that people kept pointing it out at work, that it looked like I kept losing more and more weight every time they saw me. So I weighed myself once I got home. I hear it at least three times a week when I'm working. I wasn't even trying, so it's mildly concerning that I lost that much in such a short amount of time. My mom has an overactive thyroid, so I told her about it and now it's starting to scare me a bit..
