What's Bothering You?

[Violet Witch]

Why do some people have to make out that their problems are far worse than everyone else's? My so called best friend just text me to thank me for the gift I sent her (I've not had anything from her though) and then I told her that my Christmas Day didn't happen as my mum wasn't well and that I hoped hers was better than mine. Yet all she said was I hope my mum gets better soon and that her Christmas had been stressful just like the last few months of her life had been. It's always about her and to be honest I'm over it. For once I'd like to have some of the attention I used to give her, but nope it's clear it'll never be that way and I will always be the agony aunt when her life turns to crap or when she has no one else's shoulder to lean on. I'm starting to think 2023 for me will be a year where she is no longer included in my life as she makes me feel inferior to her life all the damn time.

 

[Alienfish]

Being at the end of the delivery route in my area for mail :/

Also I really wanna go into town for this Pokestop and ride the train back and forth for it but weather is ****.

 

[spawnpoint]

Why do some people have to make out that their problems are far worse than everyone else's? My so called best friend just text me to thank me for the gift I sent her (I've not had anything from her though) and then I told her that my Christmas Day didn't happen as my mum wasn't well and that I hoped hers was better than mine. Yet all she said was I hope my mum gets better soon and that her Christmas had been stressful just like the last few months of her life had been. It's always about her and to be honest I'm over it. For once I'd like to have some of the attention I used to give her, but nope it's clear it'll never be that way and I will always be the agony aunt when her life turns to crap or when she has no one else's shoulder to lean on. I'm starting to think 2023 for me will be a year where she is no longer included in my life as she makes me feel inferior to her life all the damn time.

umm.. i hope you don't mind me sharing my thoughts about this this just got me thinking

Spoiler: blah blah stupid ramble

honestly, maybe she just doesn't know that type of thing bothers you? if you haven't already cut her off, maybe you should try talking to her about it? i kind of do the same thing (when people tell me about a problem of theirs, i usually apologize for what's happening to them and tell them i hope it gets better soon, and i try to empathize with them by telling them a similar problem i have, because I'm really, really bad at comforting people.) I'm not great at empathy either a lot of the time. i personally don't think she meant it with bad intentions, unless there's more to the story you haven't told? idk this is just what i think from what you've said and my personal experiences

 

[VanitasFan26]

feel like whenever I discuss my problems with others I just get told "Stop making stuff to be a big deal" I just cannot be expressive anymore. It hurts me mentally.

 

[xSuperMario64x]

I ended up missing work today bc I don't feel well. I woke up around 8:30 which is when I would normally get up and get ready, but I just couldn't get myself out of bed at all. I ended up dozing off again and I woke up about 10 min after I was supposed to be at work. so I let my supervisor know and I apologized for such short notice, bc I really did plan on going in today but ig my body had other plans. I've never had PMS symptoms hit me this hard, and I feel like I have a burning sensation in my pelvis. I feel like I can't do much of anything besides lie in bed in pain and it sucks. maybe I'll go get something to eat and get some tea then I'll go lie down for a while.

 

[Violet Witch]

umm.. i hope you don't mind me sharing my thoughts about this this just got me thinking

Spoiler: blah blah stupid ramble

honestly, maybe she just doesn't know that type of thing bothers you? if you haven't already cut her off, maybe you should try talking to her about it? i kind of do the same thing (when people tell me about a problem of theirs, i usually apologize for what's happening to them and tell them i hope it gets better soon, and i try to empathize with them by telling them a similar problem i have, because I'm really, really bad at comforting people.) I'm not great at empathy either a lot of the time. i personally don't think she meant it with bad intentions, unless there's more to the story you haven't told? idk this is just what i think from what you've said and my personal experiences

Thanks, I get where you’re coming from but there’s a whole lot more I didn’t divulge. For the better part of the year anytime we’ve had a conversation she just stops replying. This includes anytime I ask about anything that’s going on in her life. It’s like she wants the support but without putting in the effort and realising that friendship is a two way street. You have to give in order to take through both the good and bad times. Not only that she has a habit of forgetting about her old friends the moment someone new comes into her life that gives her attention. This has also included her own family that she’ll happily make out to be the bad guys when things don’t go her way. Then when it all goes wrong she comes running back and attempts to make promises, yet she never follows through with them.

Anyway I could go on and on about it but I’m honestly ready to move on. I don’t want to be callous or cruel but knowing how she reacts when anyone calls her out (it’s always everyone else’s fault) I simply don’t want to deal with that kind of behaviour anymore.

 

[Alienfish]

The idiots here banging off rockets/fireworks and whatnot despite it not being new year's. I do not like it and I bet most dogs and other pets does not either!

 

[Ravenkitty22]

Spoiler

It's getting bad again. Why can't I go a day without making my parents mad? I don't understand what I'm even doing wrong. If I say too much, it's bad. If I don't say enough, it's bad. If I show too much emotion, I get yelled at, but if I don't show enough, there's something wrong. I feel like I'm trapped where I'm at and I just want out. My friend's words keep repeating in my head: "Your self esteem is garbage, your personality's in shambles, and you're clinging on to a fandom hoping it will save you." I know something's wrong, I know it's not normal, I know it's not entirely my fault, but what am I supposed to do about it? I can't win!

 

[Seastar]

Just simply the fact I don't know what being healthy feels like.

 

[Midoriya]

- snip -

Hey, I know I'm late to this, and I've already said it before, but I just wanted to say that your friendship means the world to me. You are one of the MOST notable members on this site. You are way better at events than I could ever hope to be. You're cool, you're funny, you're awesome! I'll be sad if you leave, but I understand if you do. Just know that there are a good amount of people here that care about you and will miss you, myself included.

 

[Croconaw]

I tried playing Mario Kart 8 Deluxe online at a local gas station. The WiFi here works, but it’s pretty bad. I got disconnected three times. I don’t want to lose any more VR, so I’ll just wait until I get back to the house.

 

[nightglow]

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[Croconaw]

Spoiler: transphobic

I had to make up a lie to go to Staples so I could return my binder at the returns desk. My dad drove me there. Every time my dad gets a long check at work to make (cooking food), he says it’s longer than Michelle Obama’s wiener. He’s okay with gay people and sexual/romantic orientations and such, but not too sure about the trans community with those comments.

 

[Xara]

Spoiler: mom rant

i can’t stand the way my mom acts and treats me sometimes. she wants the world to burn and for everyone to be miserable just because she is. she always says the most insane, out-of-pocket things about literal strangers, wishing death on people she doesn’t even know just because she thinks they’re annoying or they inconvenienced her in some way.

she spent over an hour screaming tonight because her computer was trying to back something up, and she just got mad at me and blamed me for her losing a virtual bingo game on facebook. ??? i can’t keep living like this!!! every day is hell with her, and i’m literally stuck in my room because of her. i’m so angry, i deserve better than this. and the fact she takes pleasure in hurting me, her child. she literally laughs and finds it funny when she hurts my feelings, and yet she throws full-on tantrums over the smallest of things like accidentally dropping something on the floor?? i’m so tired! i just want peace in my own home.

 

[VanitasFan26]

Spoiler: I hate being gaslighted!

This is the thing that bothers me when talking to other people you don't know about your issues. The people who think how to solve your problems by giving you advice that you didn't ask for clearly doesn't know when to ask what the problem is before giving advice. Unsolicited Advice is really bad. You may mean well but you have to understand the problem in order to make sure you're not trying to sound dismissive, which is one of the reasons why asking for help is so difficult these days.

I realized that my own family and some of my ex friends gaslighted me to make me feel like I am going to crazy. They say sentences like "Stop making a big deal out of it" and "you're too sensitive". I cannot even express what I am going through because I know whats going to happen and it gets dismissed right away. I suffer in silence because of this.

 

[Croconaw]

I don’t know if I’m the problem this time or not. Or if it’s bad management. I have BPD and because of that, I’ve had lots of jobs. I’d leave the minute something upsets me. I feel the only thing that keeps me here are the people — and not just my favorite person, although she keeps me sane here. I kept her up last night until 2 AM with my rambling. I don’t think she minds one bit. She said I can talk to her. I like most of the people I work with. I don’t want to leave based on petty **** with a manager.

Besides, I’m a great worker, but because I’ve left jobs on bad terms I don’t include my job history in resumes/job applications. They won’t know I’m a good worker until after they hire me… I think I’m more cut out for retail anyway. My longest job was a retail. I was cashier at Walmart for 3+ years. I liked that job, but I like this one too. Just talking to (the nice) customers more is fulfilling. I can’t do that washing dishes. But Target said I wasn’t what they were looking for, yet they hire someone with no experience on a register. Absolute bull****. I sabotaged myself.

 

[tessa grace]

Why do some people have to make out that their problems are far worse than everyone else's? My so called best friend just text me to thank me for the gift I sent her (I've not had anything from her though) and then I told her that my Christmas Day didn't happen as my mum wasn't well and that I hoped hers was better than mine. Yet all she said was I hope my mum gets better soon and that her Christmas had been stressful just like the last few months of her life had been. It's always about her and to be honest I'm over it. For once I'd like to have some of the attention I used to give her, but nope it's clear it'll never be that way and I will always be the agony aunt when her life turns to crap or when she has no one else's shoulder to lean on. I'm starting to think 2023 for me will be a year where she is no longer included in my life as she makes me feel inferior to her life all the damn time.

I'm sorry your Christmas was crummy and pray your mom will get well soon Hopefully your New Years is better, cheers to 2023 and making changes in your life

Didn't get much sleep at all. (Flight landed at 11, next one was 7) I feel exhausted.

 

[xSuperMario64x]

trying not to drown in negativity today but I do feel pretty meh. not feeling well enough to go anywhere but I can't even leave my room bc I know my dad is out there and I know he'll find some stupid **** to complain about. i guess it's another day of being stuck in my room drawing or whatever. I'll make the best of it.

 

[spawnpoint]

havent started my period in like 2 or 3 months (idk how long i am horrible at keeping track of time) but ummm idk if i should be concerned or

this happened last year in literally the same timeframe wtf is going on

 

[Clock]

Just not in a good mood today