What's Bothering You?
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Seems we relate a lot! I'm also an Aspie (diagnosed 2014), and my dad is always like, "But you're not like *that* kind of autism" (he means the lower functioning kind, which is the only kind the Boomers were taught to recognize). Yes, I may not have classic Kanner severe autism with IQ handicap, but Aspergers is nonetheless enough of a problem that it's prevented me from succeeding occupationally and relationally (with friendships). People may not see it as readily, initially, but I've had so many work and social related challenges that have prevented me from having the same kind of social and work success that he and my mom had. My parents both succeeded in business and knew how to maintain friendships despite far less college success than me; I've never had a job for more than a year, and have no current friendships right now. And I'm not alone; I see these kinds of things with many people my age and younger.
Spoiling youngsters clearly doesn't work. We don't know how to cope with failure and show resilience. This is what happens when you give children everything and rescue them from every trouble or hardship, even as adults. Nothing is a challenge, and problem-solving remains stunted, because we know we'll get bailed out.
Yes! And yeah I got my diagnosis when i was .. 24 I think and yeah my parents basically ignores my Asperger because of that reason.. yeah sorry I have major troubles because of that and you(parents) lol... While my dad had some academic experience (also probably have Asperger or autism but he refuse to acknowledge it) my mom is social as heck and had so much luck with jobs until now due to corona and service jobs are hard af to apply to now they have friends, social networks, get along with everyone etc. and yeah what did they do to us... I suck at keeping IRL friends and while I usually get along with coworkers on the few short-time year jobs I have/had most don't bother to keep it up anyway :/ And the friend/s I had like poofed on me too for no reason so it's like.. k.
And I love when my parents complain when I only get work practice/short term jobs.. like those are the ones I can get because they specialize in people with mental issues sooo yeah they are never satisfied also.
Dawnpiplup
Kick ass.
Broke my laptop whoops
Reginald Fairfield
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What was it? My old boss physically cringed at the word moist.
what’s a 9yro doing in a gc
that’s what I’m saying in the rules it says 13+
wyd report them
the owner of it knows they are 9 and I don’t wanna cause then I’d feel bad
An old hollow feeling keeps trying to creep back in but I refuse to go back to that place. It's constantly in the back of my mind.
I've also been waiting until dinner before I have my first meal for weeks now, if you don't count a bunch of cups of coffee. I told myself today would be the first day of a better eating schedule and it's almost dinner & I'm drinking this ice coffee.
I've also been waiting until dinner before I have my first meal for weeks now, if you don't count a bunch of cups of coffee. I told myself today would be the first day of a better eating schedule and it's almost dinner & I'm drinking this ice coffee.
bruh
if it’s against the TOS you have the right to report them, why the guilt
i havent really done anything useful with my life this quarantine just kinda been chillin
i'm a second year uni student so it's just hitting me that this will probably be my last big break in life ever unless it derails awfully or i become filthy rich. next summer i'll need to have an internship or do research, and each consecutive summer i'll probably be doing some type of work to slap onto my resume. then i'll go to grad school and then work a full time 9-5 for the rest of my life until i retire and by that time the fruits and beauty of youth have escaped me as i piss myself in my rocking chair with my dentures falling out every 2 minutes
i'm a second year uni student so it's just hitting me that this will probably be my last big break in life ever unless it derails awfully or i become filthy rich. next summer i'll need to have an internship or do research, and each consecutive summer i'll probably be doing some type of work to slap onto my resume. then i'll go to grad school and then work a full time 9-5 for the rest of my life until i retire and by that time the fruits and beauty of youth have escaped me as i piss myself in my rocking chair with my dentures falling out every 2 minutes
Lightspring
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I won’t try to go too much in detail, but it’s been bothering me for a couple of months. I was in a toxic relationship for a year and a half where I was lied to, manipulated, and fetishized for my exotic appearance by an ex. I was also taken advantage of a couple of times and had enough, so I broke it off. I didn‘t feel too bad, but it’s one of those things where you feel fine at first, but as more time goes on, it just gets worse. I don’t have it bad like most people, nothing bad was really done to me compared to others so I kind of just brush it off. I don’t usually remember my dreams, but when I do, it’s mostly me being pulled down, chased, or even hurt by my ex and even when people are watching me they don’t help. I think it’s all in my head and I’m over complicating things, but I haven’t gone back to school for a while so I don’t know how that will play out once I’m with people again.
My ex’s 2 friends (one close and one best friend) have also tried going after me at different times (even one of them already going after me when I was still in the relationship and continuing again once they found out I was single), messaging me explicit things within minutes and all that. I don’t go to an amazing school, in fact, it’s kind of average. I try my best do have good grades and I’m fairly good at that so I can go to college and pursue my degree. Why I bring this up you might ask? Well, I met someone at a place where we do the same extracurricular activities, and we happen to go to different school. They seemed sweet & nice, honest, and who aren’t like the three I mentioned above. They didn’t reciprocate back, but I can understand that and we’re still friends. I’m starting to think that the grass is greener on the other side because lately I’ve been treated poorly by the others from the same school and it’s affecting my self esteem. I started to think that I deserved to be treated in that way because of they way I let people do whatever they wanted with me and the other person who doesn’t go to my school seems to be a far reach. What if no one approaches me?
Anyway, my mom has been helping me a lot with all these things and I am just waiting for a better time. I met someone who treated me like a person and not an anime body pillow and hopefully I will meet better people. I will be taking college classes this year and hoped to be in a college campus with different kinds of people, but with covid happening, that‘s not happening for a while.
The whole reason why I even bothered posting here because I was just talking to my dad about random things and the conversation gets philosophical about how I need to critically think more and me building my low self esteem. I only told my mom, sister, and best friend about what happened with those 3 people, so my dad doesn’t even know. It’s hard to be told that “I’ll be approached” and “I’m pretty” when all I’ve got were lustful people and rejected by one good person. It makes me think that it’s tied with the way I look and that it isn’t good enough for someone great. I am not ready for another relationship while I focus on school and my self esteem. After all, can’t love someone else when you don’t love yourself right?
My ex’s 2 friends (one close and one best friend) have also tried going after me at different times (even one of them already going after me when I was still in the relationship and continuing again once they found out I was single), messaging me explicit things within minutes and all that. I don’t go to an amazing school, in fact, it’s kind of average. I try my best do have good grades and I’m fairly good at that so I can go to college and pursue my degree. Why I bring this up you might ask? Well, I met someone at a place where we do the same extracurricular activities, and we happen to go to different school. They seemed sweet & nice, honest, and who aren’t like the three I mentioned above. They didn’t reciprocate back, but I can understand that and we’re still friends. I’m starting to think that the grass is greener on the other side because lately I’ve been treated poorly by the others from the same school and it’s affecting my self esteem. I started to think that I deserved to be treated in that way because of they way I let people do whatever they wanted with me and the other person who doesn’t go to my school seems to be a far reach. What if no one approaches me?
Anyway, my mom has been helping me a lot with all these things and I am just waiting for a better time. I met someone who treated me like a person and not an anime body pillow and hopefully I will meet better people. I will be taking college classes this year and hoped to be in a college campus with different kinds of people, but with covid happening, that‘s not happening for a while.
The whole reason why I even bothered posting here because I was just talking to my dad about random things and the conversation gets philosophical about how I need to critically think more and me building my low self esteem. I only told my mom, sister, and best friend about what happened with those 3 people, so my dad doesn’t even know. It’s hard to be told that “I’ll be approached” and “I’m pretty” when all I’ve got were lustful people and rejected by one good person. It makes me think that it’s tied with the way I look and that it isn’t good enough for someone great. I am not ready for another relationship while I focus on school and my self esteem. After all, can’t love someone else when you don’t love yourself right?
