SinnerTheCat
she's just watering her animal crossing garden
stop @me who wants to fall in love so desperately
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What's Bothering You?
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Mimi Cheems
gonna watch it burn! ♡
I really don’t like how I open up to people so easily because then it becomes a problem they tell others but not me, lol. It’d be a lie if I said it was barely bothering me. It’s really frustrating, annoying, and it’s incredibly upsetting because they can’t tell me these things to my face. I have always been one to value honesty at a very high level. I think it’s the thing I value the most in life, actually. I really could care less how much it hurts my feelings, because I’d rather have my feelings hurt than have them spared with blatant lies or not the complete truth. So when people hide these things from me for so long, it always makes me scratch my head? You can’t hide forever, y’know? Bleh.
tell me about chopper moms (and dads), they never taught me stuff and yeah bad social skills from start + asperger's ****ing perfect lol
idk how my grandparents even raised my parents bc they are definitely not like that...
Yep. I think many of us Millennial folks had those kinds of parents. The thing with Boomers, and the latter part of the Silent Gen, is they wanted to give their kids everything. My dad even said this was a major driving force of his, he wanted us to have everything he didn't have growing up (even though he had an easy WASP American upbringing, lol). So while Millennials got lots of attention and doting, we ended up largely spoiled. There are so many things that have taken me longer to learn as an adult than prior generations. My family didn't teach a lot of basic life skills; much of what I learned in cooking and cleaning, for example, came from working in homes with individuals who have developmental disabilities. Those skills weren't emphasized at home, believe me. Especially as I got older, and went from my childhood to teen years, my family kind of just gave up giving me any sorts of responsibility. They had the naive view that, because I did well academically, everything would be fine. But life is much, much, much more than doing well academically in school. Social and practical skills need to be explicitly taught. These are things that, if my husband and I happen to conceive in the future (we plan on one child in a year or two), we will make a priority.
Yeah, while I can understand why at parts, it's not a good thing not teaching things and just spoiling; my dad did exactly that and basically pretended not to see my Asperger(he still doesn't and I got it official late in life). I sure have some academic experience but it was topics I found fun and I never got a degree (yet) from it. And yes you need much more experience than just fine academics to do well in life and if you don't get proper teaching in life(tm) you're not gonna succeed much in other areas. And I could definitely have been without spoiling.
And yeah basically all stuff I got taught was school or grandparents/friends/relatives/coaches etc. you name it. My own parents basically spoiled me or just forced other **** that had nothing to do with learning life on me so yay :^)
Sounds good though, though I wouldn't wanna grow up in this toxic generation where internet is everything and everything you do is dug up and forced to apologize for, and you learn to hate on other with no perspective on what and where they come from
(FTR I'm 28 so yeah while I'm younger than you iirc I definitely had my share of **** gen parents)
Seems we relate a lot! I'm also an Aspie (diagnosed 2014), and my dad is always like, "But you're not like *that* kind of autism" (he means the lower functioning kind, which is the only kind the Boomers were taught to recognize). Yes, I may not have classic Kanner severe autism with IQ handicap, but Aspergers is nonetheless enough of a problem that it's prevented me from succeeding occupationally and relationally (with friendships). People may not see it as readily, initially, but I've had so many work and social related challenges that have prevented me from having the same kind of social and work success that he and my mom had. My parents both succeeded in business and knew how to maintain friendships despite far less college success than me; I've never had a job for more than a year, and have no current friendships right now. And I'm not alone; I see these kinds of things with many people my age and younger.
Spoiling youngsters clearly doesn't work. We don't know how to cope with failure and show resilience. This is what happens when you give children everything and rescue them from every trouble or hardship, even as adults. Nothing is a challenge, and problem-solving remains stunted, because we know we'll get bailed out.
Yes! And yeah I got my diagnosis when i was .. 24 I think and yeah my parents basically ignores my Asperger because of that reason.. yeah sorry I have major troubles because of that and you(parents) lol... While my dad had some academic experience (also probably have Asperger or autism but he refuse to acknowledge it) my mom is social as heck and had so much luck with jobs until now due to corona and service jobs are hard af to apply to now they have friends, social networks, get along with everyone etc. and yeah what did they do to us... I suck at keeping IRL friends and while I usually get along with coworkers on the few short-time year jobs I have/had most don't bother to keep it up anyway :/ And the friend/s I had like poofed on me too for no reason so it's like.. k.
And I love when my parents complain when I only get work practice/short term jobs.. like those are the ones I can get because they specialize in people with mental issues sooo yeah they are never satisfied also.
Dawnpiplup
Kick ass.
Broke my laptop whoops
Reginald Fairfield
Senior Member
What was it? My old boss physically cringed at the word moist.
what’s a 9yro doing in a gc
that’s what I’m saying in the rules it says 13+
wyd report them
the owner of it knows they are 9 and I don’t wanna cause then I’d feel bad
An old hollow feeling keeps trying to creep back in but I refuse to go back to that place. It's constantly in the back of my mind.
I've also been waiting until dinner before I have my first meal for weeks now, if you don't count a bunch of cups of coffee. I told myself today would be the first day of a better eating schedule and it's almost dinner & I'm drinking this ice coffee.
I've also been waiting until dinner before I have my first meal for weeks now, if you don't count a bunch of cups of coffee. I told myself today would be the first day of a better eating schedule and it's almost dinner & I'm drinking this ice coffee.
bruh
if it’s against the TOS you have the right to report them, why the guilt
