What's Bothering You?

Kuroh said:
At 5am I ended up in the ER today 😨
I have an unresolved physical issue that was more extreme than usual. I just want to find out what is wrong and how to fix it.
The issue is not a constant thing- It only happens occasionally and I don't know why.
I will be trying a suggestion from the doctors and hope it works 🙏
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I hope it gets better soon, I’m here for you 💕
 
i just feel like a mess, i have nobody to vent to and i just feel so stupid. i feel like nobody cares what i do or feel.
also i want to be a proud pan person but i don’t know if my parents would still like me, i’m only in middle school so i have nowhere else to go if they don’t accept me. i’m just a mess and i can’t fix it
 
Update on my cat: she has a really bad bladder infection. I am thankful it was nothing life threatening and that we can treat it, but I’m still fearful of how much of a toll these infections are taking on her and for the day when I lose her since she is 20. My cats are my biggest source of comfort, especially now since my dad and I are not on speaking terms since he read a lot of my mom’s text messages on her tablet and some of them were about him and even when we were still talking, he makes me uncomfortable the way he lashes out at my mom or me when we disagree with him or when I’m anxious or show slight possible irritability (even if we aren’t) or when my mom tells him not to do something he likes to blame me or say why don’t you tell her? My mom and I are wit’s end at dealing with him. He had worse anxiety than me but he won’t take anything for it or admit hr has it.
 
Dunquixote said:
Update on my cat: she has a really bad bladder infection. I am thankful it was nothing life threatening and that we can treat it, but I’m still fearful of how much of a toll these infections are taking on her and for the day when I lose her since she is 20. My cats are my biggest source of comfort, especially now since my dad and I are not on speaking terms since he read a lot of my mom’s text messages on her tablet and some of them were about him and even when we were still talking, he makes me uncomfortable the way he lashes out at my mom or me when we disagree with him or when I’m anxious or show slight possible irritability (even if we aren’t) or when my mom tells him not to do something he likes to blame me or say why don’t you tell her? My mom and I are wit’s end at dealing with him. He had worse anxiety than me but he won’t take anything for it or admit hr has it.
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Thank goodness your cat is okay, and I’m sorry you have to deal with this. I hope that it gets better soon ❤️
 
beehumcrossing said:
Thank goodness your cat is okay, and I’m sorry you have to deal with this. I hope that it gets better soon ❤
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Thank you so much; that means a lot to me and my cat :). ❤ It was really scary for the last two nights, though my mom wasn’t worried since the last time she had a checkup the vet said she was in really good health for a 20 year old, even with the urinary infection. I have a new pill to give her, so hopefully it will do the job. So far, all of the medicine that the vet has given us worked, so now, it’s just a matter of time for the medicine to kick in :).
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beehumcrossing said:
i just feel like a mess, i have nobody to vent to and i just feel so stupid. i feel like nobody cares what i do or feel.
also i want to be a proud pan person but i don’t know if my parents would still like me, i’m only in middle school so i have nowhere else to go if they don’t accept me. i’m just a mess and i can’t fix it
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Hey there. This might not mean much, but I’m really sorry you’re having a rough time and I hope you hang in therr. I can relate to a degree, just with different circumstances. I’m in my thirties and am still dependent on my parents because of anxiety, asperger’s, depression and inability to find/get a job to hire me. When I have panic attacks or just worry about something, my dad lashes out at me instead of trying to be supportive. My situation makes me constantly feel like my family is embarrassed of me especially since my sister is married have kids and her own house. I’m too scared of being independent and on my own, driving, and jobs. So i feel completely useless and hopeless; and I couldn’t even finish my bachelor’s degrees. When I’ve told my mom how i felt, she told me not to talk like that and she’d never be embarrassed of me.

With that being said, I believe that your parents will still love you and support you no matter what. They made not seem open to some ideas or decisions you make, but most likely due to the fact that they are just worried about how life and other people will treat you. They may disappeove, but it doesn’t mean they’ll stop loving you and supporting you. This is just my take of things, so take it as you will.

If you need to talk again, feel free to dm me. :)
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Midoriya said:
Deleted. I just needed to cry.
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Hey :). I hope you’re doing okay. It was really nice of you to listen to me about my cats last night even though you have your own things to worry about. I saw this message way after you deleted it, but thought I’d leave a comment for you in case you still need to vent. Don’t let my worries stop you from venting. I’d be happy to listen to you since you were really kind to read my message and send kind thoughts towards me and my cats.
 
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Dunquixote said:
Hey there. This might not mean much, but I’m really sorry you’re having a rough time and I hope you hang in there. I can relate to a degree, just with different circumstances. I’m in my thirties and am still dependent on my parents because of anxiety, asperger’s, depression and inability to find/get a job to hire me. When I have panic attacks or just worry about something, my dad lashes out at me instead of trying to be supportive. My situation makes me constantly feel like my family is embarrassed of me especially since my sister is married have kids and her own house. I’m too scared of being independent and on my own, driving, and jobs. So i feel completely useless and hopeless; and I couldn’t even finish my bachelor’s degrees. When I’ve told my mom how i felt, she told me not to talk like that and she’d never be embarrassed of me.

With that being said, I believe that your parents will still love you and support you no matter what. They made not seem open to some ideas or decisions you make, but most likely due to the fact that they are just worried about how life and other people will treat you. They may disapprove, but it doesn’t mean they’ll stop loving you and supporting you. This is just my take of things, so take it as you will.

If you need to talk again, feel free to dm me. :)
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Thank you so much, that means a lot ❤️ ^^
 
My stingy villagers and notes in a bottles won't give me a Wooden Bookshelf D.I.Y.

I'm soo desperate to get one on Nookazon, but I do not want to spend Nook Mile Tickets on anything.
 
honestly lately i feel like a complete and utter embarrassment to anyone that matters and i highkey just want to disappear but ik i can’t do that so
🙃🙃🙃
 
I’ve been wanting to come out as pan and demigirl to my crush but realized that she would out me to my mom, and I don’t think I want that yet. I still don’t know if my mom would accept me, I think she would, but if she wants me to go to church then I would have to see if they would accept me. Most churches don’t so that’s a huge problem.
 
Pressure from some homeschool projects, I feel like I can't handle it sometimes, even though I'll get it done.
 
xoons said:
honestly lately i feel like a complete and utter embarrassment to anyone that matters and i highkey just want to disappear but ik i can’t do that so
🙃🙃🙃
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I can relate. In high school and even now, I feel like I don’t fit in anywhere and am having trouble getting a job to hire me because of anxiety and other mental issues I have. My mom had to literally drag me out of bed to get me to go to school since it was so bad and kids always treated me different; not sure if it’s because of my different interests or because of my ethnicity or my personality.

This may not be much help, but I want to tell you to hang in there as best as you can. There are people out there that care and that will not think you’re an utter embarrassment. It would help to have more confidence in yourself too, though I have no confidence in myself either and know that’s easier said than done.

I have been having a similar mentality with my job and living with my parents and anxiety lately, as well as posting on twitter or trying to chat on discord like on Eriker Harlacher’s discord channel. I kinda feel like I’m not welcome there when I try talking (Erika herself has been very nice though 🙂), or when I try posting my opinion on twitter, no one seems to care (but i have few followers lol). I realize that this is all in my head though and it shouldn’t matter to me what people think and that I should find things that make me happy and be myself.

Sorry if this is all over the place and if any of that didn’t make sense or sounded dumb ><. just wanted to tell you that you’re not alone feeling that way.
 
Dunquixote said:
I can relate. In high school and even now, I feel like I don’t fit in anywhere and am having trouble getting a job to hire me because of anxiety and other mental issues I have. My mom had to literally drag me out of bed to get me to go to school since it was so bad and kids always treated me different; not sure if it’s because of my different interests or because of my ethnicity or my personality.

This may not be much help, but I want to tell you to hang in there as best as you can. There are people out there that care and that will not think you’re an utter embarrassment. It would help to have more confidence in yourself too, though I have no confidence in myself either and know that’s easier said than done.

I have been having a similar mentality with my job and living with my parents and anxiety lately, as well as posting on twitter or trying to chat on discord like on Eriker Harlacher’s discord channel. I kinda feel like I’m not welcome there when I try talking (Erika herself has been very nice though 🙂), or when I try posting my opinion on twitter, no one seems to care (but i have few followers lol). I realize that this is all in my head though and it shouldn’t matter to me what people think and that I should find things that make me happy and be myself.

Sorry if this is all over the place and if any of that didn’t make sense or sounded dumb ><. just wanted to tell you that you’re not alone feeling that way.
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!! hi and thank you friend 💗 i feel like we’re very similar tbh, when i was in high school i ended up missing soooo much school, and nearly my entire senior year, bc of anxiety and depression that just overtook me and removed all motivation i had to do pretty much anything. i graduated in 2018 but i still feel like i’m that same sad 17 year old i was back then sometimes. i’ve always felt out of place too, and wondered why. sometimes i wonder if it’s bc i’m so stuck inside my head. my confidence has grown in some ways since high school, but it’s still low obviously haha. i’m having job / home anxiety too, i literally just resigned from my (****ty cashier) job bc of poor mental health that i’ve been letting fester for way too long, but in turn that’s gonna make my mom really disappointed bc she wants me to move out. she doesn’t even know yet. i feel like i’m letting everyone down tbh and it’s an awful feeling. i just wanna try n make it as an artist, that’s the only way i’ll be able to enjoy working but my mental health is so bad rn idk what to do. this is long n depressing i literally just started venting but tysm for the kind words it’s nice to hear that someone can relate even though it feels bad man.
 
xoons said:
!! hi and thank you friend 💗 i feel like we’re very similar tbh, when i was in high school i ended up missing soooo much school, and nearly my entire senior year, bc of anxiety and depression that just overtook me and removed all motivation i had to do pretty much anything. i graduated in 2018 but i still feel like i’m that same sad 17 year old i was back then sometimes. i’ve always felt out of place too, and wondered why. sometimes i wonder if it’s bc i’m so stuck inside my head. my confidence has grown in some ways since high school, but it’s still low obviously haha. i’m having job / home anxiety too, i literally just resigned from my (****ty cashier) job bc of poor mental health that i’ve been letting fester for way too long, but in turn that’s gonna make my mom really disappointed bc she wants me to move out. she doesn’t even know yet. i feel like i’m letting everyone down tbh and it’s an awful feeling. i just wanna try n make it as an artist, that’s the only way i’ll be able to enjoy working but my mental health is so bad rn idk what to do. this is long n depressing i literally just started venting but tysm for the kind words it’s nice to hear that someone can relate even though it feels bad man.
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Hi! You’re very welcome. :) you’re right; that’s exactly how I feel even though my mom tells me she is never embarrassed of me and that i can do anything that i put my mind to. the problem is that i am lacking a lot of will/courage even though I want to change. My mom doesn’t seem to understand some of my anxiety sometimes, like my OCD and that I get sick and literally can’t bring myself to do any cleaning tasks that jobs may require me to do or the smells at restaurants or fast food places. She has been trying hard to understand me better, though she still pushes me to try to apply for anything and doesn’t seem to get that i get nauseous with smells or seeing filth like food spills, gum, drink spills or just dirt and bugs. :/ The only job that sounds like I could do aside from needing to come up with ideas on the spot is voice acting and the classes cost thousands of dollars :/.

I’ve been less focused on these feelings lately myself since I have ACNH to distract me, but I know they are still there. They might come back up sooner than later since now that my mom is home more, she is going to get on my case eventually to do stuff around the house that i don’t want to do (but at the same time I feel bad for not wanting to do).

Have you ever thought to talk to your mom about how you feel? I am very close to my mom, but I don’t like really talk about myself to her a lot. I have a few times though and I think it has helped. If you’re not ready to talk about quitting your job, don’t tell her right away. Just take small steps and maybe just open up a little with some casual comments and say “i’m not feeling really good but I’m not ready to fully tell you everything.”
It’s okay to vent :). Feel free to dm me if you ever want to talk in private instead of here. ^.^
 
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