What's Bothering You?

[daringred_]

Spoiler: FIV and eventual cat death

both my kittens were set to be spayed today. we arranged for them to have bloodwork done beforehand, which informed us that they both have FIV, a virus that has no cure and is going to kill them. mazikeen’s (my tabby) is more progressed and she does not have much time left. alize (black and white) is not showing symptoms yet, but she will.

but they’re both dying. they aren’t even 6 months old yet and they’re going to die. we’ve only had them 2 months. i can’t ****ing believe this. i give up. **** everything.

Spoiler

hey, xara, i don't know if you want people to reply to this, and i don't know what tests your vet(s) did exactly, but since you've said they're not even 6 months yet, is there any chance that even one of them produced a false positive due to inheriting fiv antibodies from their mother? these don't usually go away until 6 months and over, and tests can't usually distinguish between the two. since you said one of them is more progressed, maybe you and/or your vet has already considered this, but i figured i'd maybe mention it anyway. of course if your vet is sure it isn't a false positive and they do genuinely have the virus, i'm really sorry -- i can't imagine what you must be going through. my DMs are always open even if you just want to vent without a reply. there's no judgement here. i know how difficult it is to lose cats.

 

[oak]

Spoiler: FIV and eventual cat death

both my kittens were set to be spayed today. we arranged for them to have bloodwork done beforehand, which informed us that they both have FIV, a virus that has no cure and is going to kill them. mazikeen’s (my tabby) is more progressed and she does not have much time left. alize (black and white) is not showing symptoms yet, but she will.

but they’re both dying. they aren’t even 6 months old yet and they’re going to die. we’ve only had them 2 months. i can’t ****ing believe this. i give up. **** everything.

Spoiler

Hey Xara, I'm sorry you got this shocking news. I hope your vet told you that some cats live full long lifes with FIV, just like any human with HIV. My friend adopted a kitten with FIV and she hasn't gotten sick once in years. I'm sure your vet told you the worst possible outcome but just remember there is hope. I know how deeply you love your cats though so I'm sorry about their diagnosis.

 

[Alienfish]

Had to have dairy milk (lactose-free so didn't get too bad)but I'm glad I switched to non-dairy cause it taste disgusting.

 

[_Rainy_]

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Hey Xara, I'm sorry you got this shocking news. I hope your vet told you that some cats live full long lifes with FIV, just like any human with HIV. My friend adopted a kitten with FIV and she hasn't gotten sick once in years. I'm sure your vet told you the worst possible outcome but just remember there is hope. I know how deeply you love your cats though so I'm sorry about their diagnosis.

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my grandmas cat lived for 21 years with it

 

[Mr_Persona]

I only have one collectible that goes with my Aurora. Wish I had more star collectibles but i can't get any atm because i'm saving up.

 

[Chris]

Off into a 13hr void armed with Red Bull and classical music. Hoping to emerge with a completed report that coherently explains my findings on how this particular SARS-CoV-2 variant arose. And if not I'll go insane trying.

 

[daringred_]

family being [a word i can't say]. some idiot let my kitten get outside even after i warned them that having the sofa by the door would allow her to sneak out. don't know how long she was out there, but she was waiting at the door soaking wet. obviously i get mad about it because she's supposed to be an indoor cat, and if they keep letting her out -- accidentally or otherwise -- she's going to get used to it and keep crying to do so and be more inclined to escape etc. my brother sticks his a-hole nose in and is like, "all cats are outdoor cats" because he doesn't have a single braincell in his right-leaning, can't-flush-a-toilet head. i tell him to mind his own business because they're not his cats, and his retort is, "oh, i'll let them starve in the summer then," and frankly i don't know how his girlfriend can stand him for more than five seconds, so i tell him, "go ahead, we'll get you done for animal cruelty," and my dad's like, "keeping them inside is cruel" as if he's ever googled whether or not it is let alone consulted a vet, and all in all i'm just sick of literally everyone in this household being completely brain-dead and "it's my way or no way" because heaven forbid you try to accommodate or listen to anyone other than yourself.

 

[Foreverfox]

Off into a 13hr void armed with Red Bull and classical music. Hoping to emerge with a completed report that coherently explains my findings on how this particular SARS-CoV-2 variant arose. And if not I'll go insane trying.

Well, classical music is coherence in its most beautiful form, so I think you'll be good! And, armed with Red Bull, you'll crank that report out in no time.

 

[amemome]

Two rants about my L I F E

Spoiler: job and future rant

I'm so inadequate and average in everything I do professionally, and feel like my current job isn't helping me with future prospects. I also suck at learning in an unstructured environment (aka on my own) and more school/ bootcamp/ targeted help is big money that is going to hurt to cough up. I hate feeling like none of my work means anything or is redundant. My boss wants me to reinvent a wheel he doesn't even need to use and nobody would find a need for, and it's stressing me out because I don't even know enough to make the wheel in the first place.

Spoiler: feeling sick despite rarely leaving my house

I also have a huge headache and indigestion and am starting to get hot in the face. I'm wondering if this might be signs of COVID or a flu (both are super active where I'm currently located), and if so it's so upsetting because I stayed indoors almost all the time the entire 2 years and counting of COVID just to possibly get COVID the one time my fully vaccinated and boosted self goes outside to meet my also fully vaccinated and boosted friends. Sad....

Also with at-home tests super hard to come by here, I would have to risk potentially exposing other people to the illness by going to an appointment.

I'm hoping I'm just super fatigued and burnt out which is why I'm starting to get sick, but there's a real chance...

 

[Loriii]

My girlfriend of whom I lived in/with for 16 years passed away a few days ago...

 

[Foreverfox]

My girlfriend of whom I lived in/with for 16 years passed away a few days ago...

Ohh my gosh, I am soo sorry you will be in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[Loriii]

Ohh my gosh, I am soo sorry you will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Oh yeah, I feel really horrible. She's been my life for all these years and also thought, she was gone too soon (at age 39). I can't imagine my life without her. Now, I don't know where to start.

Thank you, though, I appreciate that a lot.

 

[Foreverfox]

Oh yeah, I feel really horrible. She's been my life for all these years and also thought, she was gone too soon (at age 39). I can't imagine my life without her. Now, I don't know where to start.

Thank you, though, I appreciate that a lot.

I can't even imagine, you know my inbox is always open if you ever need someone to talk to, even if its just to get random thoughts out.

 

[pawpatrolbab]

Every time I try to play Animal Crossing I have to turn it off because it's so overwhelming. I wish I could just go back to the beggining when my island was just like at the start. I would literally pay someone to take my Switch and just make my island look like how it did when the game first started. AUGHGHGHGHHGHGHH. They succeeded at making a very stressful game lol. I just wanna have fun with it again

 

[xSuperMario64x]

Spoiler: FIV and eventual cat death

both my kittens were set to be spayed today. we arranged for them to have bloodwork done beforehand, which informed us that they both have FIV, a virus that has no cure and is going to kill them. mazikeen’s (my tabby) is more progressed and she does not have much time left. alize (black and white) is not showing symptoms yet, but she will.

but they’re both dying. they aren’t even 6 months old yet and they’re going to die. we’ve only had them 2 months. i can’t ****ing believe this. i give up. **** everything.

oh no xara, I'm so sorry to hear about this. that's absolutely devastating. I'll definitely be keeping you in my thoughts, I wish there was some way I could just take away all your pain


edit: just read others' messages above. I'll be hoping that at least one of them can make it. I don't know much about it myself because I've never had a cat with that problem. best we can do is hope that they live good lives no matter how long they're here.

 

[xSuperMario64x]

I attempted to buy something using Paypal's 4-payment plan, and even though it was denied they still put a hold onto my bank account for the amount they were gonna take out. like why in the world would they do that unless I was approved lol, what a joke

 

[moonbyu]

two things! awesome!!

Spoiler: ptsd?!?!

i think i might have ptsd but i really don't want to self-diagnose. on sunday, i was at the supermarket with my friends and we entered the baby aisle. in feb, i lost my younger brother to a sickness. seeing all the diapers, baby fomula, etc.. really made me sad? i was kinda sick in there. weird.

Spoiler: I HATE COVID!

aside from that, i'm just so afraid of this new covid strain. i heard that it's super transmittable. im scared. we've (my family and i) already gotten both doses, but i'm scared that if any of my family members get it, they'll give it to me, and i just don't feel healthy anymore. ughhh, tired of this.

 

[spawnpoint]

One of my best friends on twitter has been gone all day and i am so ****ing worried I'll lose him he didn't even do a goodnight post last night and that's very unusual and worrying i am so scared and panicking i desperately want him to come back

 

[Neb]

Whelp I left my first negative Google review. I was browsing a Japanese bookstore today and the employees kept gossiping that I was going to steal something. They watched me like a hawk for nearly a half hour. While I know I was carrying a backpack they could’ve just asked me to take it off. This isn’t even the first bad experience there! The first time was when an employee accused me of staring and later smirked from the checkout. That’s the last time I go to that location.

 

[daringred_]

edit: just read others' messages above. I'll be hoping that at least one of them can make it. I don't know much about it myself because I've never had a cat with that problem. best we can do is hope that they live good lives no matter how long they're here.

it's a bit of a complicated/confusing disease. i've been researching it a fair bit this evening, and some people say different things. i've seen some sources say the life expectancy is only 5-6 years (after diagnosis, not from birth) while others say FIV-positive cats commonly live normal lifespans so long as they don't also have feline leukemia virus. i don't know exactly what tests etc. xara's vet did, or what they told her, but since she said her kittens aren't 6 months old yet, there's a chance that at least one of them isn't truly positive and has only produced a false positive due to inheriting the antibodies from an FIV-positive mother. these don't go away until after 6-8 months, so cats get tested in intervals after that to see if it was a true positive or not. obviously i understand this news is a shock, especially after what she's been through recently, but hopefully xara knows/learns that while FIV does suck and present hurdles, it's not necessarily a death sentence, and a lot of monitoring/vigilance is simply required on the part of the owner(s) as well as vet visits every 6 months (and bloodwork/urine tests/etc. annually) to check for illness/disease.