What's Bothering You?

[DinosaurDumpster]

my best friend who i've known since pre-k is suicidal and can't get therapy and i really want to help them but they dont trust me that i can help and i don't know what to do ;v;

 

[SmoochsPLH]

i wish we could sort our catalog by most recently obtained. i forget easy and can't remember what i get while i'm outside of my house.

 

[_Rainy_]

It is normal; every year the excitement is less for me. This year more so because my dad and I are still not talking. Though the last bit does sound like you may be a bit depressed too. If you want to talk, you know I’m here for you .

Minor bother: I am a bit anxious for the VAs to announce if they’re going to be signing more prints since I got the okay to get one. I really one of Erika Harlacher’s but am waiting to see if David Hayter and Cam Clarke does another Metal Gear Solid poster signing. I was so sad they did it right after I decided to get animal crossing and a switch lite for my birthday. I love mgs so much and their voices. >< I hope they announce it soon before Saturday since that is when the persona poster signings will take place.

And I finally have 30 gems to spend again in OPTC and this banner is a trap but this is the one unit I have been needing since its debut and can’t do some content without it. I swore not to pull on every single banner a unit i want is boosted in since I finally got this other unit that I wanted for over a year, yet here I go again.

Thank you. I have seasonal affective disorder so I think that this might be what it is. I have a light box I’m supposed to use this time of year, but I forgot about it not that I think it works anyway.

 

[Dawnpiplup]

Owwie ow... got a terrible stomachache.

 

[DinosaurDumpster]

my dad is making me do an extracurricular activity for school. the only problem is... i'm not athletic, i can't play an instrument, none of the clubs interest me and i certainly can't sing and i have horrible stage fright and can't memorize lines in plays for the life of me.

 

[xSuperMario64x]

I wish someone would buy my stuff so I can heckin buy this balloon hxhwbx dhwhxbxhj

also have two canker sores in my mouth at the same time wthhhhh

 

[Xara]

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[Zane]

I've felt off and wrong all day :S

 

[Chris]

my best friend who i've known since pre-k is suicidal and can't get therapy and i really want to help them but they dont trust me that i can help and i don't know what to do ;v;

You cannot help someone who is not ready to accept help. Other than offering to listen and letting them know that they come to you it's better to give them space to work through whatever is wrong.

 

[toxapex]

my best friend who i've known since pre-k is suicidal and can't get therapy and i really want to help them but they dont trust me that i can help and i don't know what to do ;v;

I know this sounds like cheesy non-advice, but I honestly think one of the best things you can do is make sure they know you are there for them and available if they need someone to talk to or just chill with.
I hope your friend will be okay. And you as well, I've been in a similar situation before and I know how scary that uncertainty can be.

 

[moo_nieu]

removed <3 thanks for everyone's support

 

[xSuperMario64x]

You cannot help someone who is not ready to accept help. Other than offering to listen and letting them know that they come to you it's better to give them space to work through whatever is wrong.

this is so true. I think this is the reason why I feel like being in counseling at school didn't help me much. I was still trying to process my emotions and figure out how I could get by in the world with all these mental health issues, and I was (and to an extent, still am) unable to really whole-heartedly accept any help. it's best to just know that someone cares and will be there to pick me up when I've fallen, or at least sit by my side.


on another note, tomorrow is my last day of classes before thanksgiving break and I really wish the break could just start now. break usually does start the monday before thanksgiving but because of covid and the fact that they've had to shift the schedule around, they made it so break starts on wednesday. but I'm so tired of being in classes and I really just want to start packing and get my stuff home now T__T

 

[visibleghost]

i understand nothing from class :') kill me now before i do it myself, im so tired of not understanding anything, then understanding it, then having to move on to the next thing i have no idea how to go about learning or understanding and spend hours crying or stressing about it before finally figuring out and realizing it was easy. :') if i fail this class then that's just how it's meant to be.

 

[Mr_Persona]

l wish l never sold my love ball that year when l earned it....traded it for a purple candy which wasn't worth it at all because l don't want my candy anymore.

this will never leave my mind

 

[toxapex]

Spoiler: long

I can’t sleep. I’m terrified of having to go to a dinner party for thanksgiving at my s/o’s grandmas house in south florida. We will be there 2-3 nights and I’m just losing it. I don’t want to go travel and I don’t want to go have a food sharing close sitting holiday just to pretend like Covid doesn’t exist. My s/o is pretty upset that I feel this way, and basically feels that my fear is ruining our relationship. I told him I would still go, but just woke up crying and scared. I didn’t want to tell him why I was sad, but I did. He says he thinks it’s extremely unattractive and a hinderance and makes him not want to be with me. I don’t understand. I’m not being irrational. He told me that he heard if you completely wrap your head in cellophane then you can’t get the virus. Honestly this caused a big fight in our house a day ago when I said that I was scared and did not want to go. It’s just a dinner party, and I don’t want to risk the disease. I don’t want to go ;-; we’ve been together for 4.5 years, but he’s said he always thought some big thing would come along that I wouldn’t be able to handle and it would ruin us. He says that his coworkers have kids and they all go to school and have dinner parties so if I’m being irrational. One of our friends has Covid right now and is suffering. He isn’t going to die, but I don’t want to spend my last final weeks of college feeling miserable. It’s not worth the risk I’m so upset that my rightful worry is being treated like I’m some irrational crybaby. I think I’m worthy of these feelings and it doesn’t make me a burden.

edit: I’ve decided that my feelings are rational and I am not a coward or a slave to my emotions for feeling this way. I’m not going to put myself at extra risk for a dinner. I won’t stop my s/o from going obviously, but if this is what ends our relationship then I guess that’s just how it is. Going to call his grandma today and let her know how I feel. I’m sure she will be understanding and not shame me

Your feelings are completely justified, and frankly I'm angry just reading the stuff that your s/o has said to you in that regard. It seems that he's not taking it seriously ENOUGH.

It's a shame it takes until situations like this for ppl to reveal their ugly side... I can't speak to his character as a whole but his actions here are not okay. Stuff like "you're going to ruin our relationship" or "I feel like something's gonna come along that's too much for you to handle" sounds like he's shifting accountability from himself, and sounds boneheaded at best and manipulative at worst.

 

[moo_nieu]

Your feelings are completely justified, and frankly I'm angry just reading the stuff that your s/o has said to you in that regard. It seems that he's not taking it seriously ENOUGH.

It's a shame it takes until situations like this for ppl to reveal their ugly side... I can't speak to his character as a whole but his actions here are not okay. Stuff like "you're going to ruin our relationship" or "I feel like something's gonna come along that's too much for you to handle" sounds like he's shifting accountability from himself, and sounds boneheaded at best and manipulative at worst.

thanks for your response. It’s nice to have some support another friend also messaged me, so I am feeling a bit better. Yeah, I agree that those are pretty messed up things to say. Here’s hoping he’s just afraid on his own and not sure how to process it or something like that. I have struggled with anxiety and depression in my life, so those words aren’t from nowhere (me having been overwhelmed by life in the past and him supporting me through it). I don’t blame him for that worry (although I feel I have displayed persistence and support in the face of adversity and been there for him when he needs, I can never know how much more support he has felt he needed.. sorry if that was confusing. I mean to say that he’s felt let down by my anxiety in the past). Anyways I’m hoping to talk more with him and reach more of a conclusion today. Thanks for reaching out though, I feel sane now

 

[Katzenjammer]

So, long story short, over the weekend there was an event held across the street from me. There were quite a lot of people that showed up. No one was wearing masks or social distancing in any way. There were other issues, but just seriously? It was a family thing too so kids may have been there too. I see why my town is a hot spot for covid and I am praying my parents, who are up there in age, continue to stay safe. One of my mom's friends just died from covid for crying out loud! It sucks when people don't care.

 

[deana]

Spoiler: long

I can’t sleep. I’m terrified of having to go to a dinner party for thanksgiving at my s/o’s grandmas house in south florida. We will be there 2-3 nights and I’m just losing it. I don’t want to go travel and I don’t want to go have a food sharing close sitting holiday just to pretend like Covid doesn’t exist. My s/o is pretty upset that I feel this way, and basically feels that my fear is ruining our relationship. I told him I would still go, but just woke up crying and scared. I didn’t want to tell him why I was sad, but I did. He says he thinks it’s extremely unattractive and a hinderance and makes him not want to be with me. I don’t understand. I’m not being irrational. He told me that he heard if you completely wrap your head in cellophane then you can’t get the virus. Honestly this caused a big fight in our house a day ago when I said that I was scared and did not want to go. It’s just a dinner party, and I don’t want to risk the disease. I don’t want to go ;-; we’ve been together for 4.5 years, but he’s said he always thought some big thing would come along that I wouldn’t be able to handle and it would ruin us. He says that his coworkers have kids and they all go to school and have dinner parties so if I’m being irrational. One of our friends has Covid right now and is suffering. He isn’t going to die, but I don’t want to spend my last final weeks of college feeling miserable. It’s not worth the risk I’m so upset that my rightful worry is being treated like I’m some irrational crybaby. I think I’m worthy of these feelings and it doesn’t make me a burden.

edit: I’ve decided that my feelings are rational and I am not a coward or a slave to my emotions for feeling this way. I’m not going to put myself at extra risk for a dinner. I won’t stop my s/o from going obviously, but if this is what ends our relationship then I guess that’s just how it is. Going to call his grandma today and let her know how I feel. I’m sure she will be understanding and not shame me

Wow, are you me?? Similar conversations have been going on in my house regarding restaurants and family gatherings. My partner thinks it's no biggy but I refuse to go. I told him that he can do what he wants and to respect my choices of what I am personally comfortable with but he definitely thinks I'm over reacting. :/

I'm very very sad that your s/o thinks of it as ruining your relationship though. That seems like a bit of a childish overreaction and I hope that is just a frustration and that he will come around to be more understanding in time. I think everyone is just really exhausted over all this virus stuff and some people seem to be responding to that by just really trying to force things "back to normal" when really I think we all need to be vigilant and make sure we are keeping up good practices. I think in a few months when you look back it's going to be quite obvious that you were right in this situation and hopefully he can see that too.

 

[Dunquixote]

if my feelings insist on getting hurt so often, the least they could do is get hurt over stuff that actually matters

/hugs Aw I’m sorry. If you need to vent, my dms are always open. I know you know but just wanted to tell you I’m here for you .

Spoiler: long

I can’t sleep. I’m terrified of having to go to a dinner party for thanksgiving at my s/o’s grandmas house in south florida. We will be there 2-3 nights and I’m just losing it. I don’t want to go travel and I don’t want to go have a food sharing close sitting holiday just to pretend like Covid doesn’t exist. My s/o is pretty upset that I feel this way, and basically feels that my fear is ruining our relationship. I told him I would still go, but just woke up crying and scared. I didn’t want to tell him why I was sad, but I did. He says he thinks it’s extremely unattractive and a hinderance and makes him not want to be with me. I don’t understand. I’m not being irrational. He told me that he heard if you completely wrap your head in cellophane then you can’t get the virus. Honestly this caused a big fight in our house a day ago when I said that I was scared and did not want to go. It’s just a dinner party, and I don’t want to risk the disease. I don’t want to go ;-; we’ve been together for 4.5 years, but he’s said he always thought some big thing would come along that I wouldn’t be able to handle and it would ruin us. He says that his coworkers have kids and they all go to school and have dinner parties so if I’m being irrational. One of our friends has Covid right now and is suffering. He isn’t going to die, but I don’t want to spend my last final weeks of college feeling miserable. It’s not worth the risk I’m so upset that my rightful worry is being treated like I’m some irrational crybaby. I think I’m worthy of these feelings and it doesn’t make me a burden.

edit: I’ve decided that my feelings are rational and I am not a coward or a slave to my emotions for feeling this way. I’m not going to put myself at extra risk for a dinner. I won’t stop my s/o from going obviously, but if this is what ends our relationship then I guess that’s just how it is. Going to call his grandma today and let her know how I feel. I’m sure she will be understanding and not shame me

I’m sorry Moo. I hope things work out for you. I think your feelings are rational and I’d be upset as much as you are. And that is terrible about what he said about you being emotional being unattractive . Nothing wrong with being emotional or for being worried about the everyone’s well being because of covid and wanting to continue to take precautions. It shows you are a human being and that you treasure the people in your life. If you ever want to chat and vent or chat about non related stuff, my dm and wall is always open . No pressure though. My heart goes out to you and hope things get better for you. Sending some positive wishes and vibes your way

 

[moo_nieu]

Wow, are you me?? Similar conversations have been going on in my house regarding restaurants and family gatherings. My partner thinks it's no biggy but I refuse to go. I told him that he can do what he wants and to respect my choices of what I am personally comfortable with but he definitely thinks I'm over reacting. :/

I'm very very sad that your s/o thinks of it as ruining your relationship though. That seems like a bit of a childish overreaction and I hope that is just a frustration and that he will come around to be more understanding in time. I think everyone is just really exhausted over all this virus stuff and some people seem to be responding to that by just really trying to force things "back to normal" when really I think we all need to be vigilant and make sure we are keeping up good practices. I think in a few months when you look back it's going to be quite obvious that you were right in this situation and hopefully he can see that too.

Thanks for responding, I didn’t realize how common this was for couples/families/roommates! It feels good to not be alone in it, and I agree with you, I think everyone is struggling and is coping differently.

I’m sorry you’re also having to deal with this though. It’s definitely stressful. I hope your partner becomes more validating of your concerns. I also hope everyone can come to agree on the situation in the next few months. This is not something that can be overcome unless the world works together, ya know. Im pretty nervous about what’s going to happen over the holiday season... we can only control our own behavior though.

update: I must have shifted dimensions or something b/c me not wanting to attend the dinner is now no longer an issue whatsoever. I don’t know if my s/o had a dream or something but everything is well again. Yes, I do realize that is actually a red flag, but I’m just happy to be understood. Thanks for everyone’s support, and I hope you’re all able to come understandings with your loved ones as well. Who knew safety precautions were such a controversial subject.

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/hugs Aw I’m sorry. If you need to vent, my dms are always open. I know you know but just wanted to tell you I’m here for you ❤.



I’m sorry Moo. I hope things work out for you. I think your feelings are rational and I’d be upset as much as you are. And that is terrible about what he said about you being emotional being unattractive . Nothing wrong with being emotional or for being worried about the everyone’s well being because of covid and wanting to continue to take precautions. It shows you are a human being and that you treasure the people in your life. If you ever want to chat and vent or chat about non related stuff, my dm and wall is always open . No pressure though. My heart goes out to you and hope things get better for you. Sending some positive wishes and vibes your way

thank you <3 this was very kind c: emotions are beautiful, but I definitely struggle with keeping a level-head haha i have to actively practice it
Still, I agree, they’re definitely warranted in a situation like this.

for sure, I’d love to chat sometime (I’ll dm you my discord ID later if that’s cool with you). You can also message me if you ever need to talk/vent
Sending some positive vibes back your way