What's your biggest regret?

[FRANS_PLAYER]

When I say biggest regret, I mean something you did or didn't do - or something you didn't say. Personally, mine would be the fact that I let people walk all over me in elementary school :/ I didn't have very thick skin back then

 

[Xara]

hoo boy i have many regrets but a big one is allowing my mother to attempt homeschooling me back in 3rd grade. i had a lot of issues back then and so did my mother (my issues were physical, hers centred around depression) and my school wasn’t handling me properly in her opinion, so she pulled me out and attempted to homeschool me. this went poorly for several reasons but the main ones being

1) she was severely depressed with anger issues and had no patience
2) i was a literal 3rd grader with no attention span so i’d never be focusing and i was hard to teach
3) my mother never finished high school and she wasn’t very skilled in certain school subjects such as math so overall, i wouldn’t be getting a well-rounded education.

my mother quit trying to homeschool me within the first week of starting but instead of enrolling me back into school, she simply let me stay home for a year and a half and didn’t send me back to school until 5th grade. this is probably one of my biggest regrets despite being a child and jumping at the opportunity to get out of school because when i went back, my learning had been stunted and my social skills went out the window. as i got older, i’ve realized that my mother didn’t pull me out for my sake - she did it for her and that’s a big reason why i regret it so much lmao

i literally went on a tangent here lmaoo, i’m sorry

 

[TheodoreCottontail]

5ish years ago I was walking to my car at work during lunch and a group of my coworkers yelled over to me that I was a f*g and a pretty boy. I said nothing and just ran & cried in my car like a weakling. I should have walked over to them or yelled back but I was more nervous as a person back then. There was also like 6 guys versus me so it's probably a battle I would have lost.

I don't let it bother me anymore though. The pretty boy part was practically a compliment and they didn't even realize lmao.

 

[Disneyfangirl23]

Making my room Harry Potter themed. I wish I just kept it cute

 

[Corrie]

hoo boy i have many regrets but a big one is allowing my mother to attempt homeschooling me back in 3rd grade. i had a lot of issues back then and so did my mother (my issues were physical, hers centred around depression) and my school wasn’t handling me properly in her opinion, so she pulled me out and attempted to homeschool me. this went poorly for several reasons but the main ones being

1) she was severely depressed with anger issues and had no patience
2) i was a literal 3rd header with no attention span so i’d never be focusing and i was hard to teach
3) my mother never finished high school and she wasn’t very skilled in certain school subjects such as math so overall, i wouldn’t be getting a well-rounded education.

my mother quit trying to homeschool me within the first week of starting but instead of enrolling me back into school, she simply let me stay home for a year and a half and didn’t send me back to school until 5th grade. this is probably one of my biggest regrets despite being a child and jumping at the opportunity to get out of school because when i went back, my learning had been stunted and my social skills went out the window. as i got older, i’ve realized that my mother didn’t pull me out for my sake - she did it for her and that’s a big reason why i regret it so much lmao

i literally went on a tangent here lmaoo, i’m sorry

Not that this is what your mother did, but it reminded me of a pet peeve of mine that's relevant to this.

I don't like it when people homeschool their children. I feel like it's good to have your kid in a social setting so they can grow those skills. Homeschooled kids can have friends and stuff but I don't feel like it's the same as going to school. Not all homeschooled kids turn out weird or whatever but a lot of the ones I knew were really socially awkward. I feel like it screws your kid up a bit by sheltering them that much.

My neighbour is homeschooling her kid until grade 4. Her other kids are currently in school and you can already tell the difference. The homeschooled one definitely behaves younger than she is. Not that she's doomed or anything but it just makes me sad to watch that happen. There's probably a reason why she's being homeschooled so hopefully that's why.

 

[fluttershy300]

Not telling my parents that I was getting bullied.

 

[Bcat]

Probably the way I isolated myself in purpose in high school to the point where I literally had zero friends. I still feel the negative ramifications of that to this day, and I wish that I had an irl support system to depend on.

 

[Lady Timpani]

Probably the way I isolated myself in purpose in high school to the point where I literally had zero friends. I still feel the negative ramifications of that to this day, and I wish that I had an irl support system to depend on.

Mine is similar to this. I didn't really make many friends in college, and I lost touch with all of my high school friends, so I've been feeling very alone. A big part of it is that I placed more of an emphasis on my studies than I did the social aspect of school, which is something I had been hoping to rectify this year after graduating, but with COVID, I haven't been able to go out and make connections the way I had hoped I would. Mostly it's just given me time to reflect on what an idiot I've been lol.

 

[seularin]

not coming out to my parents sooner - i had been stressing for 8 years over it and only recently did i come out. it’s still not something i’m v open about but at least i got some weight lifted off my dying shoulders ):

 

[Dwayne Johnson]

stop bumping old threads

 

[Lightspring]

My biggest regret is having others taking advantage of me.

 

[Corrie]

Being an edgy teenager with low self esteem.

 

[Stella-Io]

Not quitting my job sooner. I went back to my depressive mood that I didn't have since 7th grade. My emotions were always down and somewhat out of my control, I was either down or angry. My patience was worn extremly thin. My mental state SUCKED, my diet was wack. I started loosing weight cause I wasn't eating like normal, and when I did it was junk food cause I lost appetite for anythin else. I was always tired, mad, down or stressed. Any happiness was always fleeting and very short-lived. It just got worse and worse as time went on. My assistant manager said my manager would RUIN my career if I quit, but I dug myself too deep of a hole to get out of. If one more customer had reported me I would have gotten fired.

 

[Xeleron]

My biggest regret is not being able to do enough to help and not being experienced enough in ways/ideas to provide help. A couple of years ago, I was traveling in a different country during the winter holidays (December) and I happened to run into a poor dog that was just skin and bones, my heart broke, I wanted to do something about it, but I was only be there for a few more days, not enough time to provide care to this fur baby, I didn’t know where the vet was and this happened at night, so no vets would be open anyways and I didn’t have the funds to cover care. I was also with other people and did want to impose this on them, so I just let the fur baby continue on its path with whatever life it had left…. This still weighs so heavily on me (I remember this dog’s face and shape like it was yesterday).

 

[MyLifeIsCake]

Loosing contact with a close friend. It was in the mid 2000's so before we had phones or anything. She went to my school for such a short period I'm not even sure she appeared in the yearbook and I don't remember her last name. I wish I could somehow contact her again just to see what shes up to.

 

[Crash]

i regret lots & lots of things, but the most prominent one i think is never standing up for myself. even as recent as last year i've let people take advantage of me so many times, and i'm just finally learning to say no and cut it off right then and there. i wish i could go back - to every time it happened, honestly - and knock some sense into myself.

 

[Chris]

Nothing. I believe everything happens for a reason.

 

[Midoriya]

Well I was going to comment, but Vrisnem stole what I was going to say , so I’ll just say I live my life without regrets so as not to hold me down from doing what I want to do next. I learn from my mistakes and move on.

 

[Kaiaa]

I really don’t regret anything, every bad thing that’s happened to me has made me stronger. Sure it sucked while I was dealing with it, but it taught me hard lessons. That’s not to say I think anyone deserves bad things to happen to them of course. In a perfect world I wouldn’t have had to learn those lessons.

 

[xSuperMario64x]

I had a friend who had really bad depression and there were actually times where I would find a razor blade lying on the kitchen table. But that was back when I was 12-15 years old and I dealt with depression myself but it was never so bad that I resorted to self-harm so I had no clue how to deal with it.

Looking back on it now, I should've told her mom and my mom about it. I think she needed help really badly and she was likely too afraid to ask her mom about it cause her mom had a lot of health issues that she dealt with (she had liver cancer for years). I feel terrible that I didn't have the social skills to help her out and because of it we've just drifted apart over the years. I really hope I wasn't a bad friend to her.