Are you a black sheep?

[ShawnFuzz]

I understand this can be an ambiguous post. The older I get, the more I realize I am a black sheep in my family.

Do any of you think you are "black sheep"?

I spoke with my dad tonight, and he proudly talked about how the entire family is going on vacation together. I asked if I was invited, and he said I should have said I interested. Even though I had no idea of the plans.

I feel loved by my family, but they definitely forget about me.

It stinks to be left out of the family stuff...

I am not sure how to handle it. Do any of you feel like black sheep?

 

[Shawna]

definitely.

I love my family, and they love me, but I certainly disagree with a lot of the opinions and views they have, as they do with mine.

Speaking of vacations, my family loves to go on vacations, whereas - I really do not. I feel like my dad’s stance on vacations is rather mixed, but I prefer to just flat out avoid them, but unfortunately, this isn’t possible for “family vacations”. Luckily I don’t have to go to sporting events where it’s just my dad and our brother.

The only places I do look forward to going to is my maternal grandparents houses: they have their main city house in Houston, Texas, and their ranch house in Columbus, Texas. The last time we went to the former was in 2022 and the last time we went to the latter was back in 2013. I have so many amazing memories of going to both of them and I even dream about them quite often.

 

[Suguri]

Yeah, I kinda feel like the black sheep sometimes. I'm the only autistic person in my family and my parents want me to be "normal" and "mature" like my siblings.

Even in my school, I just feel alienated because because I don't act the same way as all the other students I've come across. For example, I can't go a day without hearing someone drop an F-bomb, and I very rarely swear.

I could go about this but I don't want this post to get too long, so I'll leave it at that.

 

[ShawnFuzz]

I love my family, and they love me, but I certainly disagree with a lot of the opinions and views they have, as they do with mine.

This is how I feel as well! I think that, maybe, it is why they tend to forget about me/you.

It is much easier to agree with, and love like-minded family members!

That leaves us....

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I could go about this but I don't want this post to get too long, so I'll leave it at that.

I understand.. believe me. If you dont want to be public about it, you can PM me.. I understand more than you might think.

For example, I keep getting myself in trouble for speaking my mind on this forum. But believe me when I say, I try not to be awkward, but I really can't help it.

 

[Aerith]

I am definitely the black sheep, which has been a source of disappointment and depression. Either we don't have interests or hobbies in common, or they don't have the understanding and empathy to be patient with my quirks and trauma. I haven't felt connected to a family member since I was a child.

Our personalities and way of going about the world are vastly different. I'm slow in everything that I do, I reflect on myself and my actions, and am constantly in my head, while most of my family is impulsive and unable to or unwilling to self introspect or self improve. So they have many unhealthy patterns they may never break out of because someone pointing them out isn't enough for them to change.

That being said, there are a few family members I love (only one of my direct family, unfortunately). I wish things were more balanced, but I am grateful to not be "stuck in my ways" like them.

I am sorry they left you out of their vacation plans, though. That feels insensitive on their part to not have asked.

 

[seliph]

I'm a middle child so of course.

But yeah, while they're accepting and supportive I don't think a lot of my family know how to engage with LGBT people or understand certain mental illnesses that aren't "easy" like mild anxiety, so I tend to get left out of things and/or egregiously misinterpreted. I have different views than a lot of them too.

 

[vawnilla]

My family is very complicated, both in how the actual family tree looks, and in the dynamics between us. I think most of my family members have kind of been a "black sheep" in our own way.

I definitely feel like I'm the most "black sheep" of us all, though. It's kind of always been like that for me. Autism, depression, being antisocial.. I haven't always been met with patience. I do feel "different" because of those things, even though we've all faced our own struggles. But honestly, at this point, I'm proud to be different.

 

[Croconaw]

I wouldn't say that, although it sort of feels that way living with my mom. We are literally opposites, but I'm only staying here until my dad can find something.

I try not to think about it too much. I just want to be myself and hope the right people come into my life.

 

[Midoriya]

Despite being the only one with a confirmed disability in my family, I'm actually quite the opposite of a black sheep. My family loves me and supports me as much as they can. I guess it doesn't help that everyone else in my family is either dead or gone though.

 

[axaniao]

i definitely do. my entire family is Christian and they're like really extreme with it and my feelings towards it are very complicated. im also lgbt and my family is super against it and i have lots of different views on stuff then they do

 

[bestiepango]

I think everyone in my family is a bit of a black sheep so it's hard to say if I think I am too but I suppose with some things yes, I don't agree with everything my family has said or done, I don't feel comfortable ever telling them abt my sexuality, even tho my mum has come out to me at one point, tho she is still very closeted, my grandparents are atheists and are very judicial, but they are quite progressive and politically minded which I see as good for the most part. Most of my family are creatives (writers, artists, musicians etc) so I guess I just see myself as being another black sheep amongst other black sheep lol.

 

[Snek]

Yes, but not quite like some are on here. Snakes tend to be the "black sheep" of animals

 

[Neb]

I am. I'm the youngest person in my immediate family by almost ten years and the vast majority of my relatives are over 65. I'm the only one that's into video games and anime and I'm the only one that's autistic. Other than being an introvert that likes books I don't have much in common with my family.

 

[SkyKnight03]

In a sense.

My older siblings were high honors students. They kept a near perfect GPA all the way through college.

Then I got to college...and I'm very average. I've gone through negative feelings and doubts about my own intelligence. I know it's not healthy to compare, but I felt more was expected of me.

 

[BTCircley]

Yeah... I feel like I'm the black sheep of the family because of my difficulty with stuff...

 

[QueenCobra]

No. I am fortunate in that way. I feel comfortable around most of my family, especially immediate family.

Now, school was an absolute nightmare and I was definitely…something there. I was always relieved to go home, and my heart goes out to people who aren’t supported at school or home, who feel truly alone.

(I’m making some friends irl, which is good.)

 

[mogyay]

not really - i used to think i was because i can be a lot different to my family but i think to be a black sheep you need to be an outcast / not quite fit in . and while i'm different i don't get a sense of 'otherness' ??

maybe i'm overthinking it tho lol