Best friend or best friends?

[Jessi]

I don't have a best friend, but I wouldn't mind having more than one if given the chance

 

[*The Oakboro Mayor*]

I have 2 best friends and some side friends that I am close to as well (in real life that is).

 

[Dinosaurz]

You guys have friends?

 

[Anj2k6]

Right now I have about 1 or mayyyybe 2 best friends. The 2nd is partially an assumption on my end maybe. They told me they really enjoy my company and would love to go to Disney together once this whole pandemic thing is finally under control, so maybe it's not as much of a stretch as I thought.

 

[visibleghost]

i don't know if i have a best friend tbh. i have a group of close friends but idk like i guess you could consider all of us best friends??? but i don't talk to anyone that much. maybe my twin sister is my best friend hah

 

[Imbri]

I've always kept a small circle of close friends and most people are casual friends. Right now, I'd say there are 2 people I'd consider best friends, although one is a bit closer. Those are the people you'd call at 3AM if you needed something (or take a call at 3AM).

The casual friends are still sweet and wonderful, and come from all different areas of my life, reflecting different interests. I really think you need both in your life.

 

[lemoncrossing]

I don’t really have friends in real life. My best friend would probably be my girlfriend, but we’re long-distance and currently can’t meet due to the pandemic. I haven’t had a best friend since... maybe 7th or 8th grade? I’d love to make more friends, but it’s just hard for me.

 

[ting1984]

I've never been an especially social person, but did have a few friends when younger. Now that I'm older, have moved, and am well more than a decade removed from college friends, I really don't have close friends anymore. I'm especially close with my husband, keep in contact with my dad (mom passed away in 2018), and my older half sister (whom I plan to visit in Minnesota for Christmas this year), and keep in contact with my church--but that's about it nowadays. No more Facebook, etc. Husband and I live a very quiet life. I'm 36, he's 43. It's pretty much just him and our respective families now.

 

[Cosmic_Crossfade]

I usually have had just a group of best friends but due to the pandemic, that's really changed a lot of things and I really only talk to a few people.

What about you guys? Do you have a single best friend or do you have best friends like as a group?

In my opinion, I have learned throughout life that it is quality over quantity. As you get older, you will realize that sometimes, relying on just maybe a handful of friends (5 or below) is the best thing to do especially considering that most people in life can be very sneaky, jealous, nosey, and/or backstabbing. A close bond of trust between both parties you have with said friend(s) is the most important thing. Sometimes in life, you need to cut out what longer suits you in order to make room for those who are even better or better things in general. You can know many people and have affiliations with them, but for me, very, very few are considered to be my "closest friends"

A lot of the times, people are only after certain things in life. Some are your "friends" only when they see benefit and gain. Some can be nothing more than drama waiting to happen. Now mind you, not everybody is like this, but be aware that they can very much indeed exist. Use your heart when trying to tell who are genuin beings and who are not. I use my intuition on this in most cases as your gut will usually tell you "hey, this feels right" or "no, I don't like this, this feels wrong". My closest friends are just 4. Family can also count as well. You will see as life goes on what contributions people bring to your table and what others do not and how you also shape them. It is a give and take relationship between both sides in order to be healthy. Just giving is never good and just taking isn't as well.

In the end though, you decide who you want in your life ultimately. Making choices that benefit your mental, physical, and emotional health are always first priority I feel but others may not. Just choose those whom you feel fit your life and make you feel positive, not constantly negative. Nobody is perfect but again, do what makes you happy as life is far to short.

 

[Midoriya]

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All of this is especially true.

Just wanted to make a note myself in this thread to be careful if you only have a handful of close friends... I’ve had a handful of close friends several times in the past and each time drama happened or they backstabbed me. Because of that, most people I know nowadays are just acquaintances. I know this won’t happen to everyone, but it has happened to me far more than I’d like to admit. I’m a lot slower to become close with someone now and don’t trust people as easily as I did before.

 

[milktae]

I have 2 best friends :’D and a small group of friends I also close with

 

[Neb]

I had a close knit group of friends growing up, but I haven’t seen them often since moving in 2014. Aside from two friends I (somehow) made in High School, everyone in my circle is online. That doesn’t mean they aren’t as close as my irl friends though!

 

[GothiqueBat]

As a kid I had a very close best friend, hardly was friends with anyone else, it was more I followed her around and hung with *her* friends.
Then I moved away from her and basically started following around someone else the samw way who was my best friend. But I made other friends too that time.
Then I cut myself off from all of them and my only 'friendships' since have really been people I've flirted with for fun, and my exes. I consider my boyfriend now as my bestfriend too... Not sure he feels the same way tho baha

I'd really like to have a close female "best friend" again but I've almost forgotten how to not hit on people? Even when I'm not into them?? A few weeks ago I really started to bond with a girl and I thought it was going well -we had a lot in common and both really hate this one guy. -Then she did stuff. Romantically
towards me? And dead serious. And yEaH she knew I was with someone. Haven't spoken since. and I'm honestly scared to get close to people like that again