Do You Cope More Negatively or Positively?
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I try to keep it positive but can be so hard so many times! i try not to exteriorize (is that even a word? i dont know) the negativity and i dont think thats completely ok but in front of people and friends you wont see me sad or depressed or anything. However i do sometimes feel like this and try to cope with it on my own. Maybe if you asked anyone who knew me would tell you im a positive person but i am not so certain about that
idiotdoomspiral
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i would say negatively because i have routines which lock the negative thoughts away for the time being but it encourages my isolation
i have a tendency to cope negatively - it’s kind of the only way i’m familiar with. i no longer physically harm myself but i do criticize myself and bottle things up as i have no outlet for any of it. i have been practicing coping more positively, though, so that’s something lol
Positive.
I tackle all situations head on and I can sleep off anything. Even when I was told I'm losing my job recently I took a day to be upset about it, then woke-up the next morning feeling optimistic.
I tackle all situations head on and I can sleep off anything. Even when I was told I'm losing my job recently I took a day to be upset about it, then woke-up the next morning feeling optimistic.
Blood Eclipse
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Negatively, though never enough to self harm (cut) despite how bad I may feel. Sometimes a bit of that negativity comes out in my writing or speaking, but I do try my hardest to find the good side to most situations (though the search may be incredibly difficult). I tend to hide my emotions through comedy or whatnot. I try to solve and cope with problems myself. I feel as if I tell anyone else, I'll drag them down with me and they'll eventually tire of hearing it. Sometimes it's hard for me to distinguish the line between thinking realistically and thinking negatively. 
Hopeless Opus
diluc is my king
100% negatively lol
quinnetmoi
Senior Member
I've always coped negatively, to pretty much everything.
And unfortunately only those close to me tend to really see it.
And unfortunately only those close to me tend to really see it.
Mayor Monday
Senior Member
In the general sense of being upset, I can honestly say that I cope with them on a more positive level than negatively. After the occurrence of whatever upset me, I will normally go off by myself and think/listen to music/or talk to someone to get it out. I didn't always do this, but I had to learn.
It takes a lot to get me angry. If I'm enraged by something insane, it's a different story. Then I'd say negatively. I'm working on it!
It takes a lot to get me angry. If I'm enraged by something insane, it's a different story. Then I'd say negatively. I'm working on it!
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RedTropicalPeachyFish
GMT+9
Usually I don't cope with it.
Usually I just let my anger get the best of me, it’s been an issue my entire life. Other than that I’ve been a lot better these last few years, likely due to just getting older. Typically my go to reaction for when I’m upset is to listen to music or try to go workout.
MarzipanDragyn
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Unfortunately, I cope very negatively.
Whenever I get set off, I either blow up or break down, sometimes both in succession, but usually I break down. BADLY.
I bottle things up, to the point of Vesuvius-level explosions. I pretend I'm okay (but I'm not good at it) . I try to play peacekeeper, even at my own detriment, especially when I'm uncomfortable. I try to act like everything's fine like the rest of my family seems to do. But once I start sobbing, that's it: Game Over.
I try to hide, no matter where I am, I try to run from whatever's causing the problem (physically, that is; I'll escape into another room if possible). I curl into a ball and try to make myself smaller and smaller, like I'm trying to disappear. I cry to the point I can't breathe, my eyes burn, and my head hurts. I can't stop shaking until I've exhausted myself. All the while, I'm beating myself up, berating myself for "being stupid" and asking "Why am I like this? What's wrong with me?".
Yes, every time I break down, I almost always feel like it's my own fault, for "being stupid" and for letting myself get so bent out of shape over something, no matter whether it's small or serious. It only makes everything worse.
And not only that: I can't let things go. It's basically like I don't know how. I hold grudges for a LONG time, and I have trouble letting things go if they've affected me. The girl who told me over and over that I was going to h*ll in elementary school? Haven't forgotten that OR her name. The hazing I went through in middle school? Oh no, I remember it in vivid detail. Every single last little thing my horrendous ex boyfriend put me through, and how blind I was to it? Still crippled by it two years later. Now mind you, these things were all blow-ups and not break-downs, save the last one (because I'm still beating myself up for not figuring out I was being gaslit sooner).
My breakdowns can be over something small, like a family member raising their voice at me one time. The fights I've had with my brother in the past. Whenever I irritate my mother to the point where she gets set off in turn (I have crippling anxiety, and she's bipolar: it is NOT a good mix when we're both having problems). Someone being snide or making a joke I end up taking too personally.
Tonight, I had a meltdown, because I accidentally ran overtop of my mother while she was trying to speak, and I irritated her to the point where she refused to continue, despite me genuinely wanting to know what she had to say and apologizing. I've noticed I do this; it's like my brain thinks that if I don't blurt out what I need to say in that exact moment, I'll forget it. It's not a good habit, and I don't mean to repeat it. But I broke down, because I felt like a jerk. And it sucked, as she's the one I turn to for help, but I irritated her, so no help there.
...I feel like I've been rambling, and I apologize. I guess I kinda just needed to vent, and I'm sorry I put y'all through that.
Long story short: my mental health causes me to handle certain things in very negative ways. It's gotten to the point whe small things will do it, and i know it's not healthy. I just still don't know how to fix it.
I may have handled this time better, since I just wrote it all down (again, sorry). I've stopped being a blubbering mess Now I think I can get some sleep, cuz I'm too tired to do anything else...
Whenever I get set off, I either blow up or break down, sometimes both in succession, but usually I break down. BADLY.
I bottle things up, to the point of Vesuvius-level explosions. I pretend I'm okay (but I'm not good at it) . I try to play peacekeeper, even at my own detriment, especially when I'm uncomfortable. I try to act like everything's fine like the rest of my family seems to do. But once I start sobbing, that's it: Game Over.
I try to hide, no matter where I am, I try to run from whatever's causing the problem (physically, that is; I'll escape into another room if possible). I curl into a ball and try to make myself smaller and smaller, like I'm trying to disappear. I cry to the point I can't breathe, my eyes burn, and my head hurts. I can't stop shaking until I've exhausted myself. All the while, I'm beating myself up, berating myself for "being stupid" and asking "Why am I like this? What's wrong with me?".
Yes, every time I break down, I almost always feel like it's my own fault, for "being stupid" and for letting myself get so bent out of shape over something, no matter whether it's small or serious. It only makes everything worse.
And not only that: I can't let things go. It's basically like I don't know how. I hold grudges for a LONG time, and I have trouble letting things go if they've affected me. The girl who told me over and over that I was going to h*ll in elementary school? Haven't forgotten that OR her name. The hazing I went through in middle school? Oh no, I remember it in vivid detail. Every single last little thing my horrendous ex boyfriend put me through, and how blind I was to it? Still crippled by it two years later. Now mind you, these things were all blow-ups and not break-downs, save the last one (because I'm still beating myself up for not figuring out I was being gaslit sooner).
My breakdowns can be over something small, like a family member raising their voice at me one time. The fights I've had with my brother in the past. Whenever I irritate my mother to the point where she gets set off in turn (I have crippling anxiety, and she's bipolar: it is NOT a good mix when we're both having problems). Someone being snide or making a joke I end up taking too personally.
Tonight, I had a meltdown, because I accidentally ran overtop of my mother while she was trying to speak, and I irritated her to the point where she refused to continue, despite me genuinely wanting to know what she had to say and apologizing. I've noticed I do this; it's like my brain thinks that if I don't blurt out what I need to say in that exact moment, I'll forget it. It's not a good habit, and I don't mean to repeat it. But I broke down, because I felt like a jerk. And it sucked, as she's the one I turn to for help, but I irritated her, so no help there.
...I feel like I've been rambling, and I apologize. I guess I kinda just needed to vent, and I'm sorry I put y'all through that.
Long story short: my mental health causes me to handle certain things in very negative ways. It's gotten to the point whe small things will do it, and i know it's not healthy. I just still don't know how to fix it.
I may have handled this time better, since I just wrote it all down (again, sorry). I've stopped being a blubbering mess Now I think I can get some sleep, cuz I'm too tired to do anything else...
Princess Mipha
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I'm the type that copes negatively, as I have some sort of aggression problem, sadly.. :/
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