Do You Ever Type a Message or Comment and Just Not Send?

[shendere]

Lately, or rather, for a while, I've found myself constantly typing out messages or mostly comments to others on Twitter or Instagram, etc and then I never end up sending it LOL. I guess for me, I feel like.. it's not like they'd care or something, etc and end up feeling insecure about it or discouraging myself lmao

How about you?

 

[daringred_]

sometimes, but not often because i only talk to one person consistently (my girlfriend) and only two other people occasionally. it's usually on here that i type something out and then don't post it, mostly with the WBY thread because as much as i love complaining, doing so about myself and my problems always makes me feel attention-seeking. to be quite honest, i don't even get to the 'writing out a message' part 90% of the time because i automatically assume nobody would care about anything i would have to say lmao. (self-esteem? i don't know her.) it's meh. i suck at conversing anyway, have a bad habit of rambling/oversharing, and have no common interests with anyone asdfghjk.

 

[shendere]

i can understand how you feel @daringred_ because personally, lmao same i just talk to my bf. my irl social life is very non existent and not necessarily by choice but never found friends that i had anything in common with or had a genuine interest in being friends as well. i can understand the oversharing things as well, it can happen especially when you don't get to talk much to others. regardless, I'd be happy to hear you out and I would care to hear/read what you say c:

 

[Raz]

Yes. But I did a lot more often in the past. It's like window shopping: you can put out whatever you're wanting to say, but without actually doing it, avoiding unnecessary discussions with people you don't even know.

 

[Croconaw]

I’ve definitely done this. It’s obviously harder to convey tone over a wall of text, so if I feel like things I say can be taken out of context I just don’t say it. I think it’s more finding a different way to say it rather than not saying it at all, if that makes sense. I’m actually more talkative in real life. I’ll talk to people at work but it’s only situational. I don’t talk to anyone at work outside of work with the exception of my girl, who I’ve met at work. I find that if I care about a person (ie: my significant other) I’ll be more open with them and not actually delete things because I feel more comfortable around them. I’ll be more open with you the closer we get, basically.

 

[moo_nieu]

i sometimes type out responses and dont post them too. socializing can be really intimidating!

 

[your local goomy]

Literally every day, lol. I'm a very "heat of thd moment" type of person, and whenever my thoughts are erratic or irrational, I tend to type things that I don't mean. I've learned to not actually send them because when I actually did, I had a lot of problems with my bf and it nearly shattered our relationship.

But on a more lighthearted note, sometimes I do type out nice, thoughtful messages, and just...forget to send them, lol. I wonder why I haven't gotten a reply, and when I check, I realize I never actually hit send.

 

[nyx~]

I do that all the time. I just feel sometimes when I'm sending messages the tone or what I'm trying to say might not be conveyed in the way I mean it so I decide against sending it lol.

 

[Midoriya]

No, I almost never do this. I usually say what’s on my mind and speak from the heart, both online and irl.

 

[Violet Witch]

I sadly do this all the time and it's why I've actually given up writing anything personal on social media (apart from Tumblr), I don't write tweets related to me, I don't post photos on Instagram unless it's a story and I don't use Facebook aside from private groups. Some days I even find myself second guessing messages I'm replying to and worry I'm wording things wrong that'll lead to upsetting people. However some days I'm the complete opposite and I put it down to me overthinking things far too much.

 

[LadyDestani]

Sometimes, but not very often. I'm not on most social media so it usually happens on this forum or, very rarely, with a text. I'll type a response to a thread or a person, think better of it and delete it without sending. I always re-read my messages before sending them, so sometimes I'll realize that my tone doesn't sound right. And sometimes I'll just decide that it's a conversation I don't need to be a part of or that I'm over-sharing.

 

[shendere]

No, I almost never do this. I usually say what’s on my mind and speak from the heart, both online and irl.

I’m glad you’re able to freely do that! I have no problems doing it on here or irl, but for places like TWITTER i usually don’t because I get awkward or nervous and I’m pretty sure they won’t respond since it’s always very sociable people with high following so I’m like, what’s my little comment gonna go, and often they have specifics they reply to even though they come off very nice. Like one time, I sent this big acnh account a thoughtful mssg when she felt suicidal and she replied very normally and short and I took such time and sent more thoughtful messages and she never replied and went about her cheery life again lol so I felt like why bother LOOOL.

 

[Alienfish]

Not really unless I actually notice myself typing in the wrong conversation... usually before I send I notice it.

 

[Midoriya]

I’m glad you’re able to freely do that! I have no problems doing it on here or irl, but for places like TWITTER i usually don’t because I get awkward or nervous and I’m pretty sure they won’t respond since it’s always very sociable people with high following so I’m like, what’s my little comment gonna go, and often they have specifics they reply to even though they come off very nice. Like one time, I sent this big acnh account a thoughtful mssg when she felt suicidal and she replied very normally and short and I took such time and sent more thoughtful messages and she never replied and went about her cheery life again lol so I felt like why bother LOOOL.

Oh yeah, I wasn’t talking about social media. I don’t use social media like Twitter and others at all because they’re garbage imo. Couldn’t even use Twitter to upload my ACNH screenshots anymore because they locked my account… for seemingly no reason at all. Lmao.

 

[shendere]

Oh yeah, I wasn’t talking about social media. I don’t use social media like Twitter and others at all because they’re garbage imo. Couldn’t even use Twitter to upload my ACNH screenshots anymore because they locked my account… for seemingly no reason at all. Lmao.

That's so weird! I don't personally like them myself but I do have Twitter to see pretty artwork and to keep up to date with certain things / games etc! But yeah! I don't really interact with anyone online anymore like I used to. I used to be so social online and have so many friends but now, I find I have absolutely none. LOL. It's not by choice either but I guess it's harder to make connections and find people who have an interest in getting to know you deeply like that, or something idk. LOL anyway :') don't mind me

 

[.: Meri :.]

I do this fairly often. Sometimes I just can't muster up the courage to send what I've written for one reason or another, or I decide against it if I think sending it would be bad for my anxiety. Other times I don't send it because I feel like I'm not putting my thoughts and feelings into words very well, or if I feel like others have already expressed what I wanted to say in better ways, and my comment would be repetitive.
Generally, I feel much more comfortable in a smaller, positive forum space like TBT, though—I don't really use most social media hardly at all because of how wild/open they are. It makes me too nervous.

 

[Livia]

i do this all the time including on here. Probably about 90% of what I type doesn’t get posted because of anxiety and I get really upset when my comments are ignored (which happens a lot) so I’d rather just not post anything.

 

[TheWildShadow55]

I only catch myself doing this on instagram and that's likely because I feel like I'll get banned for commenting ANYTHING, it's quite annoying. For example I can't even say "crap" without my comment instantly getting deleted and getting a "Your account may be deleted" notification

 

[dragonfire42]

I don’t really use social media besides forums like this (no Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc.), but I hit “cancel” almost as often as “post.” Sometimes I even type the same thing multiple times thinking I’ll post it that time but chicken out by the time I finish. Every post gets re-read at least five times, probably with significant changes each time (including this one). And sometimes I end up posting and then deleting it no more than half an hour later. I have major social anxiety and fear of judgment. Probably I’ll be reconsidering posting this for the next ten minutes

 

[Neb]

I do this almost every day. Despite how candid I am on this site, there are a lot of times where I question whether something is worth submitting. Usually it isn’t, so I either put it off for later or never answer the thread.