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Do you have or want to have kids?
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Kitsuragi
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nope, nope nope nope nope nope. never. ever at all. i like kids, dont get me wrong, they are hilarious and super fun. i, personally, do not have the personality needed for taking care of kids. and i value my money way, way, WAY too much. i'm very greedy and i'm insanely irresponsible so i'd be a really terrible parent.
i would though have no problems with being an aunt. together with my partner we'd be the DINKs who unleash the gift apocalypse at christmas.
i would though have no problems with being an aunt. together with my partner we'd be the DINKs who unleash the gift apocalypse at christmas.
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Nope. I don't have any interest in parenthood, and I definitely don't want to go through pregnancy or childbirth ever. I don't dislike kids or anything, but I feel kind of awkward around them, and I'm never exactly sure how I'm supposed to deal with them. I'm also rather squeamish with a weak stomach, so I really don't think I'd do well around young children. ;; I can barely handle it when a pet leaves a "surprise" somewhere.
i don’t have kids, nor do i want them. my mom’s still holding out hope that i’ll change my mind one day, but i don’t really see that happening, at least not for several years. i don’t know, i’ve had several dreams about me being pregnant and giving birth (but i always wake up right before labour ends. i never get to meet my daughter or son. and my stomach always hurts when i wake up), but that’s it. idk, i always feel this sort of... longing whenever i see mothers with their babies or still pregnant, but i can never imagine that being me. i can never see myself ever being selfless or responsible or stable enough to ever become a mother. i can’t imagine being responsible for someone in a way that a mother has to be for her kids; i can barely take care of myself.
who knows, maybe one day things’ll be different and my mother’ll be right; i’ll have met someone who i wanted to start a family with, and i’d be in a place in life where i actually think i could. present me can’t imagine that at all, but maybe future me will have better luck.
who knows, maybe one day things’ll be different and my mother’ll be right; i’ll have met someone who i wanted to start a family with, and i’d be in a place in life where i actually think i could. present me can’t imagine that at all, but maybe future me will have better luck.
Neb
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I changed my answer. I don't want kids anymore. My brain is a mess. I was diagnosed with a developmental disability that has kept some parts of my maturity at a teen's level, a schizophrenia spectrum disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, ADHD, autism spectrum disorder, OCD, and complex PTSD. I'm gradually getting better at coping, but just going by day by day is difficult and my mood dips all the time. I still can't even fully take care of myself yet. I often doubt I'll ever get married because I have so many issues.
I'm generally not very good at talking with kids and they usually don't like me since I don't emote much. To someone who doesn't know me well it seems like I have zero personality. Many of my conditions are also passed down genetically and I don't want to make a child or future descendent stuck with some of what I have.
I'm generally not very good at talking with kids and they usually don't like me since I don't emote much. To someone who doesn't know me well it seems like I have zero personality. Many of my conditions are also passed down genetically and I don't want to make a child or future descendent stuck with some of what I have.
Suguri
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I don't trust myself to start a family. XD My parents want me to have kids, but I can be so irresponsible sometimes, so I'd rather not have any... I just want time to myself once I become an adult. Besides, being a teenager is already overwhelming enough. T_T
Roxxy
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Personally speaking, yes I have a child (grown up now). He is the best thing that ever happened to me. It wasn’t planned but I guess most of life isn’t. I didn’t think I would ever have a baby. Was I ready? Yes and no. All I know is that I am so blessed and grateful for my beautiful son 
I don't think I'm responsible enough to take care of a child. I'm barely holding myself together. I'm not in any place in life to even be considering such things.
I (probably) have the personality for it though. In the sense that I can be nurturing or like an older brother.
I (probably) have the personality for it though. In the sense that I can be nurturing or like an older brother.
ZeldaCrossing64
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Probably not very wise to make a post here when I'm so young, but... Well, I've thought about this. A lot.
I don't want kids. My parents often put that kind of pressure on me ("We wanna have grandkids!"), which just further discourages me. I don't want to be pressured by society/my family to have kids just because I have an attribute that's beyond my control (biological sex).
It's also a lot of responsibility and I don't know if I'd be able to handle it, no matter how young or old I am. That might change further down the line if I become more confident and trusting of myself, but that's not the only reason. I can hardly take care of myself and I get annoyed by my pets, so I can only imagine children.
Probably the biggest factor: The very thought of pregnancy/childbirth terrifies me, beyond belief. I'm also dysphoric about my body, so having those kinds of physical changes would just worsen it. It's not an experience I ever wanna go through.
It's not that I don't like kids (even if they annoy me), it's just... In my opinion, there are too many fears and pressures that make me wary about being a parent.
I don't want kids. My parents often put that kind of pressure on me ("We wanna have grandkids!"), which just further discourages me. I don't want to be pressured by society/my family to have kids just because I have an attribute that's beyond my control (biological sex).
It's also a lot of responsibility and I don't know if I'd be able to handle it, no matter how young or old I am. That might change further down the line if I become more confident and trusting of myself, but that's not the only reason. I can hardly take care of myself and I get annoyed by my pets, so I can only imagine children.
Probably the biggest factor: The very thought of pregnancy/childbirth terrifies me, beyond belief. I'm also dysphoric about my body, so having those kinds of physical changes would just worsen it. It's not an experience I ever wanna go through.
It's not that I don't like kids (even if they annoy me), it's just... In my opinion, there are too many fears and pressures that make me wary about being a parent.
No, not at all. Thankfully nobody in my family nor my partner give me any pressure about it.
Honestly, as it is I have enough trouble keeping healthy adult relationships so…
It’s really weird when strangers have given me more pressure like that “you’ll understand some day” attitude. Period already so bad I can’t walk on that without medicine. Never having kids. I would only ever adopt but I want to save me money and time and me and partner want a lifestyle that is not kid-friendly. Not sorry.
I don’t actively hate kids or anything, and I could visit sometimes as an uncle but nothing more. Honestly I’m not even able to feign interest in others having kids beyond generic congrats on milestones (this isn’t to say I don’t care about them, how their life is going etc. I mean I’m not enamored as I think many would expect), I could NOT keep up enthusiasm for everything a kid was into longterm. Funny thing is I think I would be a good dad if I actually WANTED to put my time aside for a kid and found mentoring that inherently fulfilling but I just don’t.
Plus all my problems a kid would see and it would hurt me and I know I’d get depressed about a lot of things. Bad for them as well.
Honestly, as it is I have enough trouble keeping healthy adult relationships so…
It’s really weird when strangers have given me more pressure like that “you’ll understand some day” attitude. Period already so bad I can’t walk on that without medicine. Never having kids. I would only ever adopt but I want to save me money and time and me and partner want a lifestyle that is not kid-friendly. Not sorry.
I don’t actively hate kids or anything, and I could visit sometimes as an uncle but nothing more. Honestly I’m not even able to feign interest in others having kids beyond generic congrats on milestones (this isn’t to say I don’t care about them, how their life is going etc. I mean I’m not enamored as I think many would expect), I could NOT keep up enthusiasm for everything a kid was into longterm. Funny thing is I think I would be a good dad if I actually WANTED to put my time aside for a kid and found mentoring that inherently fulfilling but I just don’t.
Plus all my problems a kid would see and it would hurt me and I know I’d get depressed about a lot of things. Bad for them as well.
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While I feel like I'd be a pretty good dad, I don't think kids are for me. I might go into foster care though, because the current foster care situation is my area is terrible. There's really only one good foster home in the city.
My boyfriend, my best friend, and I had a long discussion about the whole thing, and we are all in agreement that we're going to try to operate a foster home/some sort of safe house in the future. We have a friend who has been in some terrible living situations, and we want to make sure no one else ever has to go through what he did.
My boyfriend, my best friend, and I had a long discussion about the whole thing, and we are all in agreement that we're going to try to operate a foster home/some sort of safe house in the future. We have a friend who has been in some terrible living situations, and we want to make sure no one else ever has to go through what he did.
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I’m not interested in having kids of my own but I am open to dating someone with kids depending on their age. I just don’t want to deal with diapers or potty training. And sometimes the sound of small children voices irritates me.
Sheando
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I've always been a little sad about this because I love children and I think I'd really enjoy being a parent, but I am 110% unwilling to ever experience pregnancy. I vividly remember my mom giving me the most sanitized, happy, cute explanation of pregnancy imaginable when I was probably 5 or so, and I responded with absolute horror. You had to WHAT? I should not exist! Nobody should be doing this! Humanity should end! Hahaha. Adults used to tell me I would change my mind, but alas.
I've worked with kids for years doing teaching, tutoring, library programs, etc. and I really enjoy that. I do not agree with the way that most people treat children, or most of our social norms around domination and control. I always dreamed of having a family and getting to raise kids in a way that I believed to be healthy and respectful. But I've had to make peace with the fact that it will almost certainly not happen, unless something extremely specific happens, like kinship care for a relative in need or some other kind of emergency situation. I'm not willing to go through avenues that typically create trauma for children just so I can avoid trauma for myself--it would have to be a scenario where it was truly in the best interest of the child to be raised by me.
I've worked with kids for years doing teaching, tutoring, library programs, etc. and I really enjoy that. I do not agree with the way that most people treat children, or most of our social norms around domination and control. I always dreamed of having a family and getting to raise kids in a way that I believed to be healthy and respectful. But I've had to make peace with the fact that it will almost certainly not happen, unless something extremely specific happens, like kinship care for a relative in need or some other kind of emergency situation. I'm not willing to go through avenues that typically create trauma for children just so I can avoid trauma for myself--it would have to be a scenario where it was truly in the best interest of the child to be raised by me.
ShadowLelouch97
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I've thought about it a lot, and I do want kids, but at the same time I don't. I think I will someday. I am currently not involved with anyone romantically, so maybe that's influencing my decisions.
