Gender Identity

[visibleghost]

yesssss I'm ftm :') I've been on hormone blockers for almost a year and I'm so close to starting t. Mental illness really does matter, I also need to make sure I'm in a healthy place. I found out two years ago, before that I identified as genderfluid since I was 12 while I was still figuring stuff out. Good luck to you!

yayy n yea i agree about the mental health part, i was starting the process of getting hrt but i felt it was too much for me at the time so i stopped and worked w my brain first.
besides my biggest problem is w my height and thats not changing no matter how soon or late i start so there's no rush for me

sry if this is personal but what do you want the most from hrt, like, what do u look forward to the most?

 

[Imbri]

primandimproper - I love your chosen name! Good luck working with your doctor.

 

[dimicrow]

yayy n yea i agree about the mental health part, i was starting the process of getting hrt but i felt it was too much for me at the time so i stopped and worked w my brain first.
besides my biggest problem is w my height and thats not changing no matter how soon or late i start so there's no rush for me

sry if this is personal but what do you want the most from hrt, like, what do u look forward to the most?

My confidence. I wanna be able to go outside and not feel like crying every time, skskdjs. Also OH MY GOD I RELATE TO THE HEIGHT BIT. Sigh. Oh well, we gotta make it work . I'm 5"3 and done growing sksskksnkx

 

[Dormire]

I used to identify as a boy but I quit doing that. I'm bisexual though but don't yell it.

 

[Raayzx]

There they all do the dumb lol thing, but they are actually trying to threat me but its no working.

You just want attention. Please don't be rude <3

 

[Hat']

Um...I'm a guy and I identify as such but I don't really care about gender rules, like my friends can call me every pronouns they want I don't mind (if it's stranger I'll probably take it in a bad, mocking way). I've always wore girl clothes as a secret and I just loved it, it makes me feel cute even though I stopped doing it nowadays, but might do it again when I live alone, I love cute dresses, skirts and accessories. Such a shame guys can't wear dresses or skirts. But as a whole I'm kinda comfortable with "being" a guy (sorry if I'm being a bit dumb on my word usage...) and I just don't even think "gender" should be a thing...I mean it's a complex idea but yeah, my opinion.

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Ew no way I will never change my gender I'm born as a female, and I will stay as a girl.
this is gross to talk about

Maybe if you were not rude to people, they wouldn't be rude to you, think about you it's a great concept.

 

[smexsmov]

i consider myself to be agender, but i feel a bit guilty because i'm mostly feminine-presenting and i feel like i might end up being invasive to the trans community or something.​

 

[hamster]

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[Hotaru_of_Saturn]

Gender fluid here. I would prefer to be a guy, but I have days I am okay being female.

 

[Laureline]

I identify with the gender I was born with, which is female. Though I'm not as supportive of some aspects of gender confusion.

 

[visibleghost]

loving the cis people talking about the gender they were born as lol just say youre cis it’s not that difficult

 

[LambdaDelta]

nonbinary/female trans over here, though I (currently) don't really present it as much

small personal plus for me though, my first name is already gender neutral. so I've luckily never had to deal with the issue of it feeling completely wrong (full name is another matter, though I can mostly happily ignore it. since it almost never comes up)

 

[primandimproper]

primandimproper - I love your chosen name! Good luck working with your doctor.

Thank you. My name is very important to me for a number of reasons, and to those of you who may be wondering, yes. I did in fact name myself after a Ninja Turtle.

Also I just wanna take this opportunity to say, there's nothing wrong with being cis. But there's also nothing wrong with being confused or questioning. The quest to figure out who we are can't be solved over night.

 

[-Blue-]

loving the cis people talking about the gender they were born as lol just say youre cis it?s not that difficult

Probably because the word hasn't been around (as long) or made its circulation like other more well known terms. I honestly never even knew the word existed until I came across a bunch of tumblr posts and did some research on my own. Sorta like I never heard of the word deadname until this post. I kind of assumed what it meant by the context of the thread.

If someone wants to say that they were born/identify as the same sex, that's their choice. They don't have to say that they are cisgender because someone coined the term and expects them to use it.


Anyway OP, whether you change your name to the one you mentioned in your first post or change your mind for a different name, always think of how it will look professionally. As in for your future career. I only say this because my grandfather's name was Billy and while that is a fine name, it doesn't look as well on a resume/for a professional career. If his true name was William that would be a different story, but no it was just Billy lol.

Best of the luck!

 

[Alienfish]

Probably because the word hasn't been around (as long) or made its circulation like other more well known terms. I honestly never even knew the word existed until I came across a bunch of tumblr posts and did some research on my own. Sorta like I never heard of the word deadname until this post. I kind of assumed what it meant by the context of the thread.

yeah I never knew what cis what until my film studies teacher mentioned it a few years ago... Same with deadname never heard til recently as well. and yeah don't except people to know all the terms and lingo within the community, and don't hate (back) because of that.

 

[Justaharpy]

I'm pansexual and I support you %100, I always wanted to appear male and dress in male clothing though I cant since my mom is very conservative when it come to that. I hope your transition goes well

 

[Alienfish]

I wish you well in life though with everything, and I think the name you've picked sounds really nice.

Also, yeah I treat people with respect as long as they don't play the high pedestal/demean people/easily offended cards or act rude when people actually ask or shows interest(yeah I've had too many of these so sorry if I sound bitter, but yeah always the bad eggs getting their voice heard the most).

To answer your question... I don't really care what people takes me as, if there's a term for that I dunno.

 

[visibleghost]

yeah I never knew what cis what until my film studies teacher mentioned it a few years ago... Same with deadname never heard til recently as well. and yeah don't except people to know all the terms and lingo within the community, and don't hate (back) because of that.

since when is telling people to use the right words "hating back"....
it's better if they know that what theyre saying is weird so they can change it. if they dont know then cool fine alright but it's always a good idea to know a thing or two about a topic before commenting on it.

 

[-Blue-]

The way you posted your first message (and even your second post) does come off as condescending. It is counterproductive to the cause, as even if you don't want to admit it there is hate in those messages. That's like saying people who want to transition are weird and should change that.

We should accept people for who they are, if their life isn't really negatively affecting us.

Yeah Sheila I've gotten a lot of flak from the bad eggs of the lot to. Which is bad because they're probably not even as huge of a community as they seem, but the loudest voice always gets heard. I don't see these 'bad eggs' as often in public, but they're really prominent online and especially on tumblr. My god that place is such a cyst hole and I always thought they were about love for everyone lol.

So I commented on your post, because even if it wasn't your intention, your post came off as pretty bitter.

 

[Alienfish]

since when is telling people to use the right words "hating back"....
it's better if they know that what theyre saying is weird so they can change it. if they dont know then cool fine alright but it's always a good idea to know a thing or two about a topic before commenting on it.

I never said people were using wrong words what? I just said I never heard of some terms until recently if you were talking to me. And I meant in general people who put themselves on high horses and act offended when they just can tell people things(ye some do i can tell). It's better to do it often so it'll get into people even if it's annoying to do. And of course you can say "Sorry I forgot to ask, I'll make sure to use (preferred pronoun) next time" or something if they are genuine.
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@Duke. Yeah I know one of those bad eggs irl sadly and even though I haven't talked to her in some times it was really annoying to listen to because all she did was going on about issues, transitions, acting rude when I asked because I was interested and tried to understand etc. I mean people think I've mouth diarrhea but yeahh boi. But yeah tumblr and some places pls no.

Also all those "i'm a demi-girl attack helicopter panromantic meatball religion" people that makes fun of others go die.

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Also honestly, assuming people know everything about everything is wrong no matter the topic. Especially when people asusme I know everything about movies or books just because I like those things. Yes not the same thing, but we are here to learn from our mistakes and not act like butts.