ok but does it really matter lol... Whatever you identify as, you're not limited to certain words/terms. you're allowed to choose what to say when you are talking about your identity just as much as you're allowed to choose what you identify as
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ok but does it really matter lol... Whatever you identify as, you're not limited to certain words/terms. you're allowed to choose what to say when you are talking about your identity just as much as you're allowed to choose what you identify as
cis pride is amazingly shallow
visibleghost
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but youre not talking about just your identity bruh
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lmaooo and it's not even about being proud of being cis (which in itself is a bit ??? because no one has ever made them have to be proud of it?), it's always about being angry about language being inclusive of nb and trans people or being proud of being transphobic ("i dont believe in Changing Ur Gender and im proud of that, if you disagree with me youre a mentally ill idiot who calls people transphobic for simply hating trans people so actually ur the bigot [high fives themself]")
likeif youre angry about trans people existing Perhaps you should do some yoga and be quiet
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like there's a huge difference between "im cis and very happy w being cis but i support everyone and am always open to learn from people with other experiences than mine" and "im cis and it's the only right thing to be. the totally real down with cis bus is a valid justification to hate trans people and not respect them. trans people think theyre better than us Good Normal people because they want to be treated equally."
the first is a cis person being cis and trying to be good, the other is a cis person thinking it's discrimination to stop bullying and oppressing trans people. to Be Against the second person is not to be agaisnt cis people in general pls no ban
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anyway 2 stop talking about cis people: @ trans and nb people does anyone else think the colors in the trans flag are boring? i think thepink and blue are weird shades and it's so sad ))):
given I actually customized my XY trainer's outfit with those colors a lot without even realizing I was basically a walking trans pride flag until much later, I think that says it all for me
primandimproper
Transgender Trainwreck
I think the color in the trans flag were chosen because those colors are so specifically gendered, especially at infants. Pink is considered inherently feminine while blue is considered masculine, and white neutral. So I feel the colors represent the MtF, FtM, and non-binaries well. However, what most people do realize is that aside from the fact that men can and do like the color pink, the color was actually considered very masculine in the early 1900s and maybe even before then.
Also for anyone who identified as non-binary of any flavor, you guys have your own pride flags out there as well. I quite like the agender flag.
thatsokayy
howdy :^)
good luck with your transition! i hope everything works out well 
personally, i used to identify as trans male about 2 or 3 years ago, i just felt more comfortable with male pronouns. but then i transitioned a bit to nonbinary/demiboy?? now, i'm totally comfortable with female pronouns, and i identify as a cis female. but online i don't really mind what pronouns people use for me, they can use whatever works for them.
sexuality wise though.. i'm still trying to figure it out, haha.
personally, i used to identify as trans male about 2 or 3 years ago, i just felt more comfortable with male pronouns. but then i transitioned a bit to nonbinary/demiboy?? now, i'm totally comfortable with female pronouns, and i identify as a cis female. but online i don't really mind what pronouns people use for me, they can use whatever works for them.
sexuality wise though.. i'm still trying to figure it out, haha.
The creator of the trans flag has said that the white stripe is for NB people, she did an interview somewhat recently. Also you are right that the colors were swapped; blue was meant for baby girls as a nurturing and soothing color whereas pink was for baby boys because it's seen as more intense and powerful. There are a lot of theories out there why the colors were swapped, but it's hard to find the cause of it when there's millions of current gender studies showcasing how stupid assigning colors is.
SnakeEater
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I am a man. No assignment or choice in the matter. I am a man.
I always assumed the colours were blue for male, pink for female, and white for the transition period, from male to female or vise-versa.... interesting.
nintendofan85
Good grief.
I'm a cis male and continue to identify that way. I've never really had much desire to identify my gender in a different way.
i'm a trans man, always have been since i was little but i'm forced to be closeted due to safety concerns (i'm in a conservative state and home). but tbh i despise being trans and gender dysphoria, and i wouldn't wish it on anyone.
also on that topic you need dysphoria to be trans, and if you feel a disconnection to your birth gender guess what! that's dysphoria in the first place
honestly if you're cis, good for you. i prefer educated cis people over cis people trying to jump on the "trans bandwagon". but unironic "cis pride" is dumb since you're basically being proud of being the 99%. it's like me saying i'm proud of eating bread once because most people do. but to be fair i do very much wish i were cis lol
also on that topic you need dysphoria to be trans, and if you feel a disconnection to your birth gender guess what! that's dysphoria in the first place
honestly if you're cis, good for you. i prefer educated cis people over cis people trying to jump on the "trans bandwagon". but unironic "cis pride" is dumb since you're basically being proud of being the 99%. it's like me saying i'm proud of eating bread once because most people do. but to be fair i do very much wish i were cis lol
jiroutachi
in bloom
I've gone through quite a lot of identity changes , both sexuality wise and gender wise. When I look back on it, I feel like everything had felt right at the time, but I've changed over time and that is okay! I think gender is something very personal and it's not something I usually talk about aside from with my sister or my best friend. My gender is nonbinary but more specifically I'm a demigirl. I use she/her pronouns but am comfortable with rolling pronouns (which my best friend and I use for one another) I've never felt like others could understand this concept so that is why I am fine with she/her. In the past I identified as genderqueer, genderfluid, and transmasculine.
visibleghost
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i've been having a few annoying situations w gender lately and it sucks a lot because i'm not in the mood to explain my gender identity at all. i'm just done w gender in general and i find that not bringing it up at all makes gender matter less to people. the gender binary truly sux.
yea but the hues are ugly, pink white and blue are all nice colors but the pink in the flag is ugly and the blue is boring. ):
yea but the hues are ugly, pink white and blue are all nice colors but the pink in the flag is ugly and the blue is boring. ):
also on that topic you need dysphoria to be trans, and if you feel a disconnection to your birth gender guess what! that's dysphoria in the first place
Mega agree with this part. I personally think to think otherwise is transphobic, it's so invalidating to trans people to state that you can just choose to be trans, but I see it constantly being spread around that you don't need dysphoria to be trans..
pawpatrolbab
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congrats on finding out your identity!! good luck on your transition!!!!
as for me my relationship with gender is uhhh Really Weird. it makes absolutely no sense. i'm a non-binary/GNC lesbian. my attraction to girls doesn't make me feel like i'm a straight boy. but i feel like i'm only a girl in theory. i can't explain it. like i said, it makes no sense and sucks. i don't like calling myself either cis or trans, because my gender doesn't feel entirely female but i'm definitely not a boy either, i'm at least a little bit of girl, so if i had to choose i would call myself cis.
gender makes No Sense to me. i can't even really explain the difference between the mindsets of "i am a girl" "i am a boy" "i am neither a girl nor a boy" and i kinda feel guilty for that you know? but i think maybe the only reason i'm a girl at all is because i was raised that way, but obviously not all girls are raised like girls and not all people raised like girls end up being girls...idk maybe my mind is just one that sort of accepted being socialized as a girl and now i'm stuck with it, but i also just kinda stopped caring about what the heck people think i am (hence why i don't have a pronoun preference) and a lot of those people just happen to think i'm a girl. and they're not wrong. idk i give up trying to explain this
as for me my relationship with gender is uhhh Really Weird. it makes absolutely no sense. i'm a non-binary/GNC lesbian. my attraction to girls doesn't make me feel like i'm a straight boy. but i feel like i'm only a girl in theory. i can't explain it. like i said, it makes no sense and sucks. i don't like calling myself either cis or trans, because my gender doesn't feel entirely female but i'm definitely not a boy either, i'm at least a little bit of girl, so if i had to choose i would call myself cis.
gender makes No Sense to me. i can't even really explain the difference between the mindsets of "i am a girl" "i am a boy" "i am neither a girl nor a boy" and i kinda feel guilty for that you know? but i think maybe the only reason i'm a girl at all is because i was raised that way, but obviously not all girls are raised like girls and not all people raised like girls end up being girls...idk maybe my mind is just one that sort of accepted being socialized as a girl and now i'm stuck with it, but i also just kinda stopped caring about what the heck people think i am (hence why i don't have a pronoun preference) and a lot of those people just happen to think i'm a girl. and they're not wrong. idk i give up trying to explain this
I know this is an older thread, but I've just recently figured out that I'm genderqueer. By "figured out", I mean I finally found a term I'm comfortable with; I knew I wasn't quite male or female, but the term non-binary didn't really feel right either. Genderqueer feels fitting.
I've also always strongly disliked my name, and I think I'm now going to try Owen for a little and see how I like it. I've been using they/them pronouns online for some time, but I'm finally adjusting to that with my friends as well. My partner has been very supportive of the whole endeavor, and I haven't really come out to my family yet.
I'm pretty stressed out about the whole thing; I've heard a lot of people say things like "genderqueer isn't real", "there are only two genders", "you're just looking for attention" etc. I think I mostly just wish I didn't actually have to transition (changing some features to be more androgynous, changing my name, changing my pronouns, "coming out" in general), and could just... be me? Like I wish I didn't have to go through the process of the people I know adjusting to it and possibly rejecting me for it.
I dunno, just wanted to vent a little and find some support I guess
I've also always strongly disliked my name, and I think I'm now going to try Owen for a little and see how I like it. I've been using they/them pronouns online for some time, but I'm finally adjusting to that with my friends as well. My partner has been very supportive of the whole endeavor, and I haven't really come out to my family yet.
I'm pretty stressed out about the whole thing; I've heard a lot of people say things like "genderqueer isn't real", "there are only two genders", "you're just looking for attention" etc. I think I mostly just wish I didn't actually have to transition (changing some features to be more androgynous, changing my name, changing my pronouns, "coming out" in general), and could just... be me? Like I wish I didn't have to go through the process of the people I know adjusting to it and possibly rejecting me for it.
I dunno, just wanted to vent a little and find some support I guess
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maralacesphye
Bug-lovin' gremlin
I very much relate to this. I can't tell very well what my gender is, because I'm used to being referred to as a girl and am not usually uncomfortable with such associations. On the occasion that it does make me uncomfortable, I really don't know what to do. I'm pretty sure that I don't personally feel like a boy, but then again, is that exclusively on account of being used to being considered a girl? I love to toe the line and present as androgynous.
If I lived in a stricter family and had to fit more rigid gender roles, I think that I would have stronger discomfort with femininity. As it is, I can have short, "boyish" hair and dress in a combination of "mens" clothes and "womens", and I can pursue interests that aren't traditionally feminine, so I'm generally comfortable with remnants like pronouns and my slightly-feminine name. I'm also relatively "out" as far as liking girls and not being interested romantically nor physically in men, so it's hard to say whether I feel butch, or nonbinary-lesbian, or what.
All that to say, same hat!
Well when I made my account I was an edgy teen and when I got banned and made my alt I realised I was just much more comfortable identifying as a guy and I had always made male alternative accounts. But I didn?t want to be classed as trans because I didn?t view that as being a real dude (thanks transphobic dad!!) but after I realised that I just went through a lot of **** and got kicked out by my dad and now I haven?t spoken to him in almost 2 years. And people still hate me but I think it?s a much better hate now. I just really wasn?t comfortable in the past with myself and I didn?t think making impressions mattered because it wouldn?t change anything. Oh and I?ve been self medicating with testosterone for two years now and I haven?t had any blood checks so I might drop dead lol.
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