Gender roles? Do you defy them or go along?

[softbuck]

Sooo gender roles are a thing. Men have to be masculine, and girls have to be feminie. What do yall think?

Personally, I never fall them. I am a boy but I love girly things! I bake, sew, and wear makeup and dresses. I love pink and pastel and adore anything cute! I hate sports tbh (the only one i do is swim) and dislike getting dirty and wearing mens clothes. I get bullied a bit and told im not a real boy and get invalidated a lot.(cause im also trans)

Anyone else have experiences?

 

[primandimproper]

According to my aunt, only boys are allowed to like comic books and super heroes, so yeah I guess you could call me a rebel. I am 27 and have been into super heroes since I was about 4. The obsession started with the 1990 original live-action TMNT film (I know every line by heart) and the Batman: TaS. Then I got into anime and manga and became something of a weeaboo in high school. I grew out of that, even though I still love a lot of things about Japan.

I now vastly prefer Western comics to manga. So far I've only met one guy who knows more about comic books than I do. I also love all things horror related. So, no, I do not follow typical gender stereotypes. That being said, my favorite color is still pink and I do like kawaii fashion (pastel goth), but yeah...*shrugs*

 

[hamster]

there was a big part in my life where i wanted to be a boy so i guess lol.. people speculated i was a trap because of my personality or something when i started dating a guy (i never showed them what i looked like)
i have a lot more banter with boys too
other than that im really girly, i love cute and pastel things, makeup, dresses, dolls etc

 

[idiotdoomspiral]

im a girl and if i joke about things ill say **** like "I AM A GOD" or "I AM YOUR KING"
i used to get all of the boy stuff that boys liked in primary school like pok?mon and hot wheels
i can say "suck my d***" but the other way around id feel pretty Gwoss saying it
basically i like to be masculine to everyone but my boyfriend
people joked that i was a trap which i didnt really care about, everyone believed i was a girl i just didnt have Bobs
i used to hate being "girly" so much that i swore to myself i would never wear makeup or heels or handbags or dresses again
now i wear dresses sometimes and handbags sometimes but i still hate heels and makeup (on me) i wouldnt exactly say makeup is girly to me anymore and heels are just a pain in the ass
i like cute things but i prefer things that look cool instead of pinky and pastel

 

[cornimer]

I'm a girl and I identify as a girl but I don't do any "girly" things and I don't care
For the record I don't believe any particular thing is "girly" or "more masculine" I think everyone should just be able to do whatever the heck they want but I'm mean "girly" by society's standards

 

[Mr. Cat]

I think you and I are alike. I never really noticed gender roles. I dressed and acted like a "boy" when I was younger. When I get called a girl it confuses me, even though I am one. I never came out as trans, though if I knew about it back then I definitely would have. Now I like more "girly" things than I used to, but I still feel the same at heart. I crochet, sew, wear a lil' bit of makeup, bake, do yoga, I babysit/am a mom, play some "girly" video games... I love all that stuff with a passion. I still feel like a boy. I still look in the mirror and see a boy. But none of that even matters to me. Call me whatever you will, I'm just me. But me is not defined by gender.

 

[hamster]

i can say "suck my d***" but the other way around id feel pretty Gwoss saying it

same lol. and i say stuff like that a lot

 

[AndroGhostX]

I agree that females and males can do whatever regardless if it fits their "gender type". And we can go beyond that and talk about mannerism! Females don't have to be elegent and males can't be the only ones to be messy. Let's go further into "gender roles". Just because someone is a female doesn't mean that they can't be respectful, like how males are expected to be, or can't hold the door for anyone, or can't help someone cross the street, or be protective of them, or can't be the romantic one and give them roses! Females can do all that.

I just wanted to talk about the expectations of respect that males are associated with and females aren't. Because that is me. I am myself. I don't follow any "gender roles" because that's just not me.

 

[visibleghost]

gender sux and idc abt gender roles or w/e. i dislike when people go to invalidate my gender identity because i dont follow The Rules Of Gender well enough but ://

 

[Mink777]

Prepare for this thread fo blow up.

Gender is a cool word I guess.

 

[Fleshy]

I think gender roles are what they are for a reason (they aren't just b/s in my opinion) that being said, I don't nessisary "follow" them. My ideal job is pretty much gender neutral, as is the degree I'm taking. None of my interests are really masculine or feminine, I don't like makeup or sports. I'm a guy, I like video games, watching TV, nature, some of my interests are more feminine, but I'm pretty neutral with "gender roles".

 

[Miii]

I don't mind traditional gender roles for the most part, and as long as they're optional, I don't see the harm in them. I follow mine in some ways, but certainly not to a tee. I do most of the cooking and cleaning in my house, I want kids in the future and I'd love to stay at home with them while they're growing up. However, I do work, I don't cook every night, and my boyfriend doesn't expect to come home to a spotless house and a ready to eat dinner lol

I think choice is what matters most when it comes to this topic. If you want to be a stay at home mom, that's fine. If you want to be a working mom, that's fine too. If you want to be a stay at home dad, that's fine. If you're a guy with pink hair that wears makeup, yeah that's a little odd and you might get a weird look here and there, but it's still okay. It's best, in my opinion, not to freak about it. Just do what makes you happy.

 

[Zane]

no I don't bother with any of that baloney being alive is hard enough to enjoy as it is

 

[John Wick]

Just be who you are.

 

[mitfy]

eh, idk. i'm a girl but i feel like i come off as pretty androgynous. i don't consciously think abt gender roles when doing things so shrug

 

[mogyay]

gender roles are bs. by societies standards i conform to a lot of 'female' stereotypes

 

[tybalt_cake]

i dont even care about that , i just like what i want to like , just as someone said above i never think about gender roles when im doing something.

 

[RedTropicalPeachyFish]

I look absolutely feminine.
My voice is rather high-pitched clear feminine voice.
And my body is soft as all hell that's female's no doubt.
And I have no interest in girly stuff.
Also I can make adult males scared and cry who's way taller and bigger than me.

Gender role is certainly there only when I have a baby.
There's something only mothers can do.

 

[~Unicorn~]

I am barely girly at all. i'd say the only girly things about me is liking cute stuff and my drawing style, but other than that, i'm boyish.

i never wear makeup, dresses, "trendy" clothes, or trying to show any body off. i never imagine myself talking girly, gossiping, talking about boys, saying "like" 24/7, that stuff. i play video games, i wear a hoodie and jeans, and i do like the jokes that the boys in my class make while the other girls are like "shut up ur annoying".

i am definitely a girl, though. maybe just a tomboy.

 

[softbuck]

I look absolutely feminine.
My voice is rather high-pitched clear feminine voice.
And my body is soft as all hell that's female's no doubt.
And I have no interest in girly stuff.
Also I can make adult males scared and cry who's way taller and bigger than me.

Gender role is certainly there only when I have a baby.
There's something only mothers can do.

Are you sure? I could have a baby right now, but Iḿ not a girl There are actually men (trans men) who do have babies! Not to mention there are plenty of gay dads who raise babies.

I may be a boy but I certainly would love to be a stay-at-home dad and raise my children while my partner works.