Gender roles? Do you defy them or go along?
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nintendofan85
Good grief.
Is it weird for me to say that I've done both?
I'm mostly masculine, so I guess you could say that I follow gender roles for the most part, but there are definitely aspects of my personality that are more feminine. I was more feminine when I was a young boy, I gotta admit.
I'm mostly masculine, so I guess you could say that I follow gender roles for the most part, but there are definitely aspects of my personality that are more feminine. I was more feminine when I was a young boy, I gotta admit.
I think I come off as more masculine but it's not a conscious thing. Honestly, I don't really care how people perceive me.
Though I have to say that it confuses me how certain things are deemed either masculine or feminine. Like Animal Crossing being considered a "girly" game. I fail to see what makes it "girly".
Though I have to say that it confuses me how certain things are deemed either masculine or feminine. Like Animal Crossing being considered a "girly" game. I fail to see what makes it "girly".
I definitely do not follow gender roles. We are all our own person and shouldn't be dictated by laws that people made up in the past. We should allow ourselves to dictate who we are, not other people.
I consider myself genderfluid but I was socialized as a girl and ALWAYS defied the gender roles. I was always bought princesses and barbies even though I always wanted like, swords and nerf guns. Eventually, most of my family gave up over years of me not wanting the toys they deemed "right" fro a female and bought me the things I actually wanted. The only person to this day, even though I'm an adult now, who still tries is my Grandma but she strictly believes in gender roles.
I have no maternal instincts what so ever. Any time I was made to watch young children/babies, I wanted to leave because it was a nightmare. I also don't want any kids.
I consider myself genderfluid but I was socialized as a girl and ALWAYS defied the gender roles. I was always bought princesses and barbies even though I always wanted like, swords and nerf guns. Eventually, most of my family gave up over years of me not wanting the toys they deemed "right" fro a female and bought me the things I actually wanted. The only person to this day, even though I'm an adult now, who still tries is my Grandma but she strictly believes in gender roles.
I have no maternal instincts what so ever. Any time I was made to watch young children/babies, I wanted to leave because it was a nightmare. I also don't want any kids.
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nintendofan85
Good grief.
This exactly. When I started playing it back in 2009, my dad wrote it off as a "girl's game", even though there's an option for a male character, there's activities such as fishing and bug catching, and so forth. He only had written it off like that because the first things he saw were Shampoodle with the "Mii makeover" and GracieGrace with the princess set (this is City Folk I'm referring to).
I'm a standard guy but I'm not the most burly person. I'm very kind, extremely patient, calm and forgiving. When I was younger I got my mum to buy me sylvanian families "dolls" because I thought they were "cute", albeit I used to play with them in an extremely masculine boyish way. For example i had this caravan with lots of ornaments, decorations and furnishings inside. I used to tip it off the edge of my desk and pretend they had to be rescued by my LEGO toys and their crazy machines while fending off my toy dinosaurs.
I also really like things like baby animals and hedgehogs etc.
As nintendofan85 and Stalfos pointed out, my parents and friends too frown at me for playing animal crossing because they see it as feminine.
I'm don't care for people of the same sex as me and I think we're at a point in history where you can do any activity you want regardless of gender, which in my opinion is a fantastic barrier to cross. We just need others to be more open about people's interests and feelings ^-^
I also really like things like baby animals and hedgehogs etc.
As nintendofan85 and Stalfos pointed out, my parents and friends too frown at me for playing animal crossing because they see it as feminine.
I'm don't care for people of the same sex as me and I think we're at a point in history where you can do any activity you want regardless of gender, which in my opinion is a fantastic barrier to cross. We just need others to be more open about people's interests and feelings ^-^
calamitybot
Future Ghost
Since I'm a transgender guy, I try to be masculine, though it doesn't really work out for me most of the time. First of all, I'm 5"2, so that makes a lot of strangers misgender me, though that's not really something I can control lol.
I'm really whiny and flirty, which I guess is a female behavior. However, I'm also pretty rude and DUMB, like a guy.
I wear women's jeans, because no men's jeans fit me right. Besides that, I bind and wear masculine/andro clothes. I only like to wear skirts and dresses when I'm alone or with my close friends/boyfriend, because I don't like appearing feminine around others
I'm really whiny and flirty, which I guess is a female behavior. However, I'm also pretty rude and DUMB, like a guy.
I wear women's jeans, because no men's jeans fit me right. Besides that, I bind and wear masculine/andro clothes. I only like to wear skirts and dresses when I'm alone or with my close friends/boyfriend, because I don't like appearing feminine around others
I do as I please, but because of my upbringing, I wouldn't be surprised if what I think I want to do actually aligned with the roles I was raised to follow. I'm probably being influenced and don't even realize it.
If we’re being completely honest, every single person defies gender roles at some point in their life. Maybe not to an extreme extent though.
But when it comes to me, I just do what I want. I honestly don’t give a **** about gender roles lol and I would never judge someone for doing something they enjoy doing regardless of their gender.
But when it comes to me, I just do what I want. I honestly don’t give a **** about gender roles lol and I would never judge someone for doing something they enjoy doing regardless of their gender.
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Totally agree with this. I?ve been reading through what people have been commenting, and the consensus is that most tend to do both to certain degrees.
Fashion sticks out to me the most when it comes to gender roles. I have a bunch of blouses, skirts, dresses, and platform ankle booties, but I also have ripped boyfriend jeans, baggy t-shirts, buckled boots, combats boots, and spiked ankle boots. It?s a pretty blurred line and overall I only tend to view a few things as ?gender-specific? (but I won?t get into those, lol).
theravenboys
[crowd boos]
This is kind of sad but I'd say I defied gender roles more when I was younger (like elementary school) but as I've grown older pressure from people has made me back off that a little bit, at least in how I dress. :/ I'm a girl, and when I was a kid most of my friends were boys. I liked sports, as well as anime and video games that were typically "for boys." I liked playing with Hot Wheels and wrestling figures. But when I was in like 5th grade, a guy pointed out to some other kids in class that I was wearing "boy clothes" and it made me really self-conscious and after that I started dressing more feminine :| I know it's dumb but I'm sensitive and took it to heart smh.
But my interests are still the same, even as an adult. Sometimes I downplay it though because I've found that some guys are weirdly intimidated by girls who know more about "guy things" than they do. One time I got a message from a guy that said "wow, you know a lot about Dragon Ball Z for a girl." .....I know a lot about DBZ for any gender lol. My mind is full of useless shonen anime facts.
But my interests are still the same, even as an adult. Sometimes I downplay it though because I've found that some guys are weirdly intimidated by girls who know more about "guy things" than they do. One time I got a message from a guy that said "wow, you know a lot about Dragon Ball Z for a girl." .....I know a lot about DBZ for any gender lol. My mind is full of useless shonen anime facts.
Pretty Dead Boy
Noot Noot
It always depends on the situation. I think I unintentionally defy and follow gender roles based on the person's perception of my gender
kiwi-strawberry
Senior Member
hi softbuck, ily and you are valid!! aaa
I'm a girl and while I like short shorts, makeup, doing my hair, and wearing other cute clothes, I honestly prefer my old hoodie and random t-shirts. I have the stereotypical "tomboy/lesbian" hairstyle too. I guess I follow gender roles sometimes but I think they're stupid for the most part? Like a girl doesn't have to be pretty, clueless, and submissive, and guys don't have to be big and buff. I don't find ripped guys attractive at all tbh. Let boys be soft and wear pink and show emotions!! Let girls be smart and be leaders!! I see soft "feminine" boys wearing pink sometimes n I'm just like,,, oh my g o s h,,,,,,,, angels,, but I could never date one because my dad thinks boys who aren't ""masculine"" "gay" and "weak" and he would most definitely make fun of the poor guy 24/7.. y a y
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hi softbuck, ily and you are valid!! aaa
I'm a girl and while I like short shorts, makeup, doing my hair, and wearing other cute clothes, I honestly prefer my old hoodie and random t-shirts. I have the stereotypical "tomboy/lesbian" hairstyle too. I guess I follow gender roles sometimes but I think they're stupid for the most part? Like a girl doesn't have to be pretty, clueless, and submissive, and guys don't have to be big and buff. I don't find ripped guys attractive at all tbh. Let boys be soft and wear pink and show emotions!! Let girls be smart and be leaders!! I see soft "feminine" boys wearing pink sometimes n I'm just like,,, oh my g o s h,,,,,,,, angels,, but I could never date one because my dad thinks boys who aren't ""masculine"" "gay" and "weak" and he would most definitely make fun of the poor guy 24/7.. y a y
I'm a girl and while I like short shorts, makeup, doing my hair, and wearing other cute clothes, I honestly prefer my old hoodie and random t-shirts. I have the stereotypical "tomboy/lesbian" hairstyle too. I guess I follow gender roles sometimes but I think they're stupid for the most part? Like a girl doesn't have to be pretty, clueless, and submissive, and guys don't have to be big and buff. I don't find ripped guys attractive at all tbh. Let boys be soft and wear pink and show emotions!! Let girls be smart and be leaders!! I see soft "feminine" boys wearing pink sometimes n I'm just like,,, oh my g o s h,,,,,,,, angels,, but I could never date one because my dad thinks boys who aren't ""masculine"" "gay" and "weak" and he would most definitely make fun of the poor guy 24/7.. y a y
- - - Post Merge - - -
hi softbuck, ily and you are valid!! aaa
I'm a girl and while I like short shorts, makeup, doing my hair, and wearing other cute clothes, I honestly prefer my old hoodie and random t-shirts. I have the stereotypical "tomboy/lesbian" hairstyle too. I guess I follow gender roles sometimes but I think they're stupid for the most part? Like a girl doesn't have to be pretty, clueless, and submissive, and guys don't have to be big and buff. I don't find ripped guys attractive at all tbh. Let boys be soft and wear pink and show emotions!! Let girls be smart and be leaders!! I see soft "feminine" boys wearing pink sometimes n I'm just like,,, oh my g o s h,,,,,,,, angels,, but I could never date one because my dad thinks boys who aren't ""masculine"" "gay" and "weak" and he would most definitely make fun of the poor guy 24/7.. y a y
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