How do you deal with being unmotivated?

[Corrie]

I just try to break down the process into as small of steps as possible, rather than thinking of this huge task as a huge task, just think of it as several smaller tasks. It can help a lot.

This is what I was just going to suggest.

I get highly unmotivated if I see a huge list of to dos or a big project. I just start early, little by little until it's done by the due date. For whatever reason, I have a mindset where I think that I need to finish something in one sitting but that's usually not a good idea, especially if the assignment is huge. I've learned patience through this through my work because if I try to finish everything in one sitting, my body is sore for the next few days.

 

[Hellfish]

I don't necessarily lake motivation but I procrastinate lots (I'm really good at it(probably should be working now but on tbt ^-^)). What I find that helps is Buttonsy and Corrie said, try take it down to bite sized bits and the task will feel way smaller and each time you finish a small task you feel like you've achieved something. To help focus (as I said my mind wanders) I also listen to music, it's hard to work in both silence and distracting noise, so if you've got something you can get pumped or relaxed listening to then it really helps push you along the task.

I'm also 23 and dropped out of University, but I managed to find a job working in the geospatial industry. It's super boring, but I get paid... my point is if your future looks grim don't worry, just keep humming along and you'll learn to enjoy life even in your darkest moments.

I'd also be kinda depressed without music or video games to get rid of stress etc.

 

[Midoriya]

I don't necessarily lake motivation but I procrastinate lots (I'm really good at it(probably should be working now but on tbt ^-^)). What I find that helps is Buttonsy and Corrie said, try take it down to bite sized bits and the task will feel way smaller and each time you finish a small task you feel like you've achieved something. To help focus (as I said my mind wanders) I also listen to music, it's hard to work in both silence and distracting noise, so if you've got something you can get pumped or relaxed listening to then it really helps push you along the task.

I'm also 23 and dropped out of University, but I managed to find a job working in the geospatial industry. It's super boring, but I get paid... my point is if your future looks grim don't worry, just keep humming along and you'll learn to enjoy life even in your darkest moments.

I'd also be kinda depressed without music or video games to get rid of stress etc.

I agree completely. Music, video games, and art can all influence people in different ways... sports included. The Russians once said the world could be controlled by music, and they are not wrong. I think that is why it is important to not let it rule our lives...

 

[Hellfish]

I agree completely. Music, video games, and art can all influence people in different ways... sports included. The Russians once said the world could be controlled by music, and they are not wrong. I think that is why it is important to not let it rule our lives...

By all means. Listen to music all you want but maybe don't play video games so much... I certainly regret wasting time playing games when I should have been studying. I think I would have different friends and a better social life if I didn't fame so much (It does help if you're feeling stressed and need a break tho)

 

[Midoriya]

Well it looks like I’ll be staying at the university I’m going to in the fall as a senior History major doing a Journalism concentration. My GPA took a couple small hits, but still looks fine, and I don’t want to leave my friends, acquaintances, and old life there behind. It wasn’t as bad as I thought, which is usually the case with grades and me.

I also start a job later today, and I already have plenty of money to my name now thanks to several good errands this past week.

It just goes to show that I never give up. I’m going to use the time this summer to train my body, mind, soul, and heart harder than they have ever been trained in my miserable life. I already returned to Aikido Monday, and went to the gym Tuesday, so my legs are sore, but I can feel my endurance and speed have increased a little bit. I’ll continue to be doing both of those things, as well as researching both History and Sports History this summer.

No matter if we are unmotivated or not, anyone is capable of great good or great evil, because human potential is limitless.

 

[mayordan]

i'm really bad with dealing with feeling unmotivated.
i p much just succumb to it and laze around doing nothing unable to move lol

 

[Miii]

We all feel unmotivated at times, but there are no free passes to anything in life. You aren't entitled to anything you don't work your ass off for. If there's something you want (good grades, a job you like, a girlfriend, good friends) you have to work for it.

It takes effort on your part and others' for friendship to work. No one will just come to you to be your best friend; you have to find people with similar interests and put effort into being nice, taking an interest in them, and getting along even if they're annoying you. No one trusts people right from the start, that takes time and effort too.

As for school, maybe you don't realize the magnitude of the situation you're in. If your parents paid for you to go to school, you owe it to them to do well. The money they put into you going to school was hours and hours of their limited life span spent working to help you. If you took out a student loan, you have to pay it back unless you want a destroyed credit score that will prevent you from getting decent loans in the future, and can even affect your ability to rent a house/ apartment.

Whether or not you feel motivated to do things isn't the issue. You need to take action and do what's best for yourself, regardless of what you'd like to be doing at the moment. Lastly, self esteem/ self confidence is earned through accomplishments. Set goals for yourself and achieve them, and your self esteem will rise.

 

[Midoriya]

We all feel unmotivated at times, but there are no free passes to anything in life. You aren't entitled to anything you don't work your ass off for. If there's something you want (good grades, a job you like, a girlfriend, good friends) you have to work for it.

It takes effort on your part and others' for friendship to work. No one will just come to you to be your best friend; you have to find people with similar interests and put effort into being nice, taking an interest in them, and getting along even if they're annoying you. No one trusts people right from the start, that takes time and effort too.

As for school, maybe you don't realize the magnitude of the situation you're in. If your parents paid for you to go to school, you owe it to them to do well. The money they put into you going to school was hours and hours of their limited life span spent working to help you. If you took out a student loan, you have to pay it back unless you want a destroyed credit score that will prevent you from getting decent loans in the future, and can even affect your ability to rent a house/ apartment.

Whether or not you feel motivated to do things isn't the issue. You need to take action and do what's best for yourself, regardless of what you'd like to be doing at the moment. Lastly, self esteem/ self confidence is earned through accomplishments. Set goals for yourself and achieve them, and your self esteem will rise.

While I understand what you’re saying, it’s the same kind of speech my mom or dad would give me, that they have done their best for me, and I have to do my best, and honestly,

I hate that kind of speech.

I already asked them before since neither my mom, dad, or sister went straight through university and graduated like I will, if they are counting on me, or EXPECTING me to graduate, and they said no, they weren’t. They told me I should want this for myself. The problem?

I don’t want this for myself. I’m going to do my best to graduate and make my dreams come true, but it isn’t for me. The money I make from me dreams/goals in life and the land I’ll own once my mom passes, part of it will be donated to Mexico, Puerto Rico, and Ecuador, then before my parents pass, if I can, some of it will go to them, and the rest will go to myself.

I honestly hate the notion that as students, we try to graduate in order to get careers and live our own lives. If that’s the way you’re living your life, then who are you really serving? In the end, people who don’t give back to society or other societies are really only serving themselves. So I don’t pick myself up by the bootstraps in order to graduate and make my dreams come true for myself. No, I don’t care about my life. I would be better off dead if I didn’t have these dreams/goals. I do it for other people, to put smiles on their faces and food before them, food they wouldn’t have to eat had I not volunteered/donated. It’s not for me that my parents help me out and I do my best, it’s for them.

 

[Marte]

I'm pretty unmotivated myself now, got a exam in four days. One of the only things for me that works is to just push myself through it, while telling myself that "It's only four days, then I'm done with it".

Not the best advice, but it's what works for me :b

 

[Acruoxil]

I give myself reasons to be motivated, especially when I'm aware when I need it but don't have it.

 

[Apriiil]

I don't do well with feeling unmotivated. It sucks. I feel like I lag for a couple weeks at a time, it's hard to shower too which sounds disgusting.

I think my un-motivation has a lot to do with my depression though, almost always the same symptoms... maybe they interlock with one another.

 

[tiffanistarr]

When I'm lacking motivation I just think of stuff that I really want to do like places I want to travel or I look at houses I want to some day buy or I look at art that makes me want to keep going a be better at my own art. I also seek out guidance and try and get motivation from others.

 

[calamitybot]

When I'm feelin unmotivated I think about how I only have one life and how I want to make the best of it. It's pretty cliche, but it gets me by. I want to have fun, and not just feel like I merely coasted along in life. It is hard to do things, given my depression, but I'm medicated for that now, and I'm in a much better place than I was in the past.

TLDR: You have one life, make the most of it

 

[lars708]

Basically I couldn't fix my problems by myself and I don't have friends (or family) irl who could help me either so I went to the doctor and they sent me to a psychologist. And so far the therapy has been helping me I think? I'm not sure because everytime I make progress my toxic relationship pulls me back.