Shawna
AroAce, ASD, and Proud ^^
I am going to be honest with you guys: I have mixed feelings about these types of events.
While they can be enjoyable and fun, and while it can be heartwarming if it's family you haven't seen in a while, they can be extremely nerve-wracking and/or stressful for me. Mostly before, but even during at times.
(warning: kind of a vent ahead)
Other than the fact that I am just the time of person who is a loner and doesn't want to worry about family matters all the time, I have had negative experiences in the past that left me feeling apprehensive every time another get-together or reunion is approaching. :/
As for family get-togethers with my close extended family, they can stress me out because my grandma can be extremely uptight. Not only that, but they are extremely devout and force everyone to pray (they do not pray at every gathering, and I am not always forced to pray, but it is a situation I find myself in occasionally). I did not have to deal with these very often when I was in my old town, because we live pretty far away from my family, but we did have reunions occasionally, which I will get into next.
And for going through a pandemic, we do these quite often. I do not mind doing these for birthdays, holidays, and other events, but just doing them for no reason, it's just like...why?
. . .
As for reunions, while these are not as much of a thing now, now that I live a lot closer to my extended family (on my dad's side), I do have one nuclear family member who lives far away (in my old town): My mom.
I have not seen her since November 2019, because of the pandemic and my dad was busy with work and getting things situated for me and my brother, but in the two times I did see her since moving out of that town, they were not the most pleasant. She got angry at me for wanting to wear a certain dress, she told me I am becoming like my dad (as an insult), and she will not stop bugging me to live with her, when she knows damn-well, she is not in the right situation for her daughter (referring to myself) to live with her. She should want what's best for me, and what's best for me is living here with my dad.
I could list all of the reasons why I have resentment towards my mom, but I do not want to get too off-topic and personal. ;-;
Not only can seeing family you haven't seen in a while can be stressful, but I get homesick during overnight trips and I do not like sleeping away from home. :/
My dad said we are going to try to get together with my mom sometime later this year... Of course, I am looking forward to it, and NOT looking forward to it at the same time. .-.
Anyway yeah, I felt like this place deserved a thread for this type of topic. Feel free to tell us how you feel about family get-togethers and family reunions, and if you want, you can tell some stories.
While they can be enjoyable and fun, and while it can be heartwarming if it's family you haven't seen in a while, they can be extremely nerve-wracking and/or stressful for me. Mostly before, but even during at times.
(warning: kind of a vent ahead)
Other than the fact that I am just the time of person who is a loner and doesn't want to worry about family matters all the time, I have had negative experiences in the past that left me feeling apprehensive every time another get-together or reunion is approaching. :/
As for family get-togethers with my close extended family, they can stress me out because my grandma can be extremely uptight. Not only that, but they are extremely devout and force everyone to pray (they do not pray at every gathering, and I am not always forced to pray, but it is a situation I find myself in occasionally). I did not have to deal with these very often when I was in my old town, because we live pretty far away from my family, but we did have reunions occasionally, which I will get into next.
And for going through a pandemic, we do these quite often. I do not mind doing these for birthdays, holidays, and other events, but just doing them for no reason, it's just like...why?
. . .
As for reunions, while these are not as much of a thing now, now that I live a lot closer to my extended family (on my dad's side), I do have one nuclear family member who lives far away (in my old town): My mom.
I have not seen her since November 2019, because of the pandemic and my dad was busy with work and getting things situated for me and my brother, but in the two times I did see her since moving out of that town, they were not the most pleasant. She got angry at me for wanting to wear a certain dress, she told me I am becoming like my dad (as an insult), and she will not stop bugging me to live with her, when she knows damn-well, she is not in the right situation for her daughter (referring to myself) to live with her. She should want what's best for me, and what's best for me is living here with my dad.
I could list all of the reasons why I have resentment towards my mom, but I do not want to get too off-topic and personal. ;-;
Not only can seeing family you haven't seen in a while can be stressful, but I get homesick during overnight trips and I do not like sleeping away from home. :/
My dad said we are going to try to get together with my mom sometime later this year... Of course, I am looking forward to it, and NOT looking forward to it at the same time. .-.
Anyway yeah, I felt like this place deserved a thread for this type of topic. Feel free to tell us how you feel about family get-togethers and family reunions, and if you want, you can tell some stories.