How do you feel about making friends with people with different political opinions?

[Buttonsy]

Do you like to be friends with anyone regardless of their political opinions? Or do you prefer to surround yourself with people who think very similarly to you?

For me, I don't need to have friends with the exact same opinions on things as me, but I don't think I could be friends with anyone whose opinions come from a place of hatred of innocent people, like people whose opinions come from hating LGBT people, people of colour, disabled people, or poor people, for example.

 

[Midoriya]

Yeah, I’ll be friends with people regardless of their opinions. As long as they’re good people and their opinions don’t come from a place of hatred like you said.

 

[Snowesque]

I typically won't care unless they're forcing their opinions on someone else.

 

[Bcat]

I'll be friends with someone with differing beliefs so long as they're not too pushy/preachy about it. (within reason though, like no kkk members or anything lol)

People these days are way too intense about alienating anyone who disagrees with them. Having a variety of different opinions in your life is good.

 

[Reginald Fairfield]

I'm here to get away from that.

 

[Mary]

It’s absolutely possible. I have a few friends who are essentially the opposite of me in their political views, but we are able to be friends because we can agree that respecting each other is more important than being right.

 

[Soigne]

I typically do not associate with people that have different political views, mostly because if they have different views that means they don’t agree with my sexuality and I don’t have the time to degrade myself just to be friends with someone...

 

[nintendofan85]

I have a lot of friends with different opinions, but yeah, my sexuality makes that hard to do. Most of my friends share my views, I'd say.

 

[LadyDestani]

To be honest, I never really talk about politics with my friends so I don't know most of their views. Occasionally, something will come up and I've found out a friend is more conservative than I originally would have guessed, but that doesn't change the fact that we've been friends for years. We have a lot in common otherwise and those are the things our friendship is based on. We don't talk about politics, so it's not an issue but if something does come out in the open, we respect each other's opinions.

Honestly, considering the area I live in, I'm far more amazed when I find someone who shares my views. I wouldn't have any friends if I wasn't able to get along with people who don't agree with me. I just tend to stay away from the people who constantly want to bring up their views and expect everyone else to agree with them.

 

[RedTropicalPeachyFish]

It doesn't make me less liking them when I happen to know their thought which is different from mine, if their opinion has reasonable base, and/or they're open/have function to hear different opinion and think about it rationally. But I can't seem to deal with idiocy - when those different opinions of theirs are actually just out of their demands (even when they're unaware of it) or lacking view to see things from other sides and no function to think about different opinions. -_-;

That being said, for an instance, LGBTQ(it's just an instance btw). Though it seems like people in this forum tend to judge those who aren't so friendly to LGBTQ concept, and would accuse those unfriendly ones one-sidedly, LGBTQ people also need to try to get to know what is making those people feel unfriendly to LGBTQ people. Without those efforts, just insisting your right, as though you're supposed to be treated respectfully because you're LGBTQ, is kinda lacking wide view.

So. Like that instance, I wouldn't feel them preferable, not because they have different opinion from mine but because them lacking respect to different opinions? And vice versa as well. If they're respectful, having different opinion doesn't matter much, for me to keep being liking them.

 

[Reginald Fairfield]

It doesn't make me less liking them when I happen to know their thought which is different from mine, if their opinion has reasonable base, and/or they're open/have function to hear different opinion and think about it rationally. But I can't seem to deal with idiocy - when those different opinions of theirs are actually just out of their demands (even when they're unaware of it) or lacking view to see things from other sides and no function to think about different opinions. -_-;

That being said, for an instance, LGBTQ(it's just an instance btw). Though it seems like people in this forum tend to judge those who aren't so friendly to LGBTQ concept, and would accuse those unfriendly ones one-sidedly, LGBTQ people also need to try to get to know what is making those people feel unfriendly to LGBTQ people. Without those efforts, just insisting your right, as though you're supposed to be treated respectfully because you're LGBTQ, is kinda lacking wide view.

So. Like that instance, I wouldn't feel them preferable, not because they have different opinion from mine but because them lacking respect to different opinions? And vice versa as well. If they're respectful, having different opinion doesn't matter much, for me to keep being liking them.

My issue with debates here is people need to play by the same rulebook. I also don't see the point giving someone a reason to hate you, that is completely unrelated to why you came here to begin with.

 

[demoness]

oh i know exactly why some people are "unfriendly" to me. i just refuse to let them feel good about it, and spineless people annoy me. if you can't get over your discomfort of something so insignificant as my personal life, then i'm happy to embarrass you in public!

to answer the topic, i'm willing to be friends with anyone, but i'm still gonna ridicule the dumb stuff they say and push buttons to get them flustered. a golden rule is demoness is always probably right, it'll save lots of time

 

[RedTropicalPeachyFish]

My issue with debates here is people need to play by the same rulebook.

Yeah I know.

 

[Alienfish]

...That would go downhill lol.. As long as they don't have extremist views or anti-LGBTQ+ views and don't **** on me or others, it could be fine I guess. Like if someone is a random homophobe extreme right-wing person with pro-life opinions yeah goodbye lol.

I mean debating can be fun but if someone's as stubborn it wouldn't really work.

 

[Reginald Fairfield]

Yeah I know.

You actually did eloquently describe a couple logical fallacies I learned back in High School. One is called ad hominem, and that is the one where the person's character is attacked rather than their ideas. Another one people seem to willfully ignore these days in the bandwagon fallacy.

 

[RedTropicalPeachyFish]

You actually did eloquently describe a couple logical fallacies I learned back in High School. One is called ad hominem, and that is the one where the person's character is attacked rather than their ideas. Another one people seem to willfully ignore these days in the bandwagon fallacy.

Honestly not quite getting where your point is. What's being another one?

I'm kind of reluctant to reply here - it does look floating away from the original topic - but my posts tend to get replying post somehow, that leaves questions on my mind. VM would be preferred?

However. When someone gets a certain idea, it can't separate from personality. For example, two persons in the same situation, one gets resentment and the other doesn't. Those differences come from difference in personality. And the personality ( as in in general ) has the base concept that likely to cover all across their view, regardless of the subject on the table.
I'm not as skilled enough as I could explain where their logic has flaw without touching those base parts. If you could help me with how to, I'd be willing to learn, I mean it.

And, ad populum is major stream in this forum unfortunately, so far as I've seen.

 

[EpicGamer12]

I try make friends with people that have different opinions than me because it helps me understand their point of view on issues. The more I can understand and issue, the easier it is to intermediate opposite views. Being understanding is one of the most underrated things you can do in a friendship.

 

[Stalfos]

That's a tough one. At some point opinions aren't just "opinions" anymore. When people actively try to limit or take away other peoples rights, freedom or whatever, that would be quite a hurdle to overcome.

"I like you but I don't believe you should be able to marry or adopt (example). But we can still be friends, right?" No, I don't think so. lol

 

[Haskell]

I don't mind. Friends are friends. Politics is so tribal now. UGH!

 

[Alolan_Apples]

I can get along as long as they don’t support Antifa, or are hateful towards people. Whether they’re on my side or against my side, I cannot get along with the extremists from either end or bigots.

But when it comes to getting married, I would only marry people I agree with politically. Not that I’m intolerant, but I just want to marry someone that’s like me.