How do your parents treat you?

[forestyne]

eh...

I was neglected most of my life & abandoned by my mum, social services, the education system and the NHS. My dad is an aggressively smoking alcoholic who genuinely scares me and I'm alone in the country with my unstable dad who could die any second.

So no, but I have hella attachment issues.

 

[UglyMonsterFace]

They were overprotective, strict, emotionally and physically abusive, but I had moments with them that I will always cherish. But overall, they pushed me away with the way they treated me, and they are the main reasons I developed social anxiety. My dad also betrayed me when I needed him to defend me from someone..i will never forgive him for that.

 

[arle]

mom and i had our tough period. she was overbearing and still reeling hard from her divorce, dealing with my bratty younger sister and my unstable older brother, made worse by the fact that i was a HORRID teen....once i went away to college and began to prove my independence and maturity, we slowly and steadily got better. our relationship has vastly improved since then, i live in a different state and don't see her in person very often, but i do try to call her MINIMUM once a week. the best part of course is that I don't need to really call her to ask for money or anything that would inconvenience her, which i think helps. just the occasional adulthood advice (mom, what do i need to do my taxes? how do i schedule a ____ appointment? how do i get this stain out of my work uniform?) etc

 

[Nuclear Bingo]

My parents are good people. They aren't perfect. My mom had major attitude problems when I was a kid. She would guilt me and my siblings a lot as children. She tried her best in failing marriage. Now she's pretty cool that I don't live with her. My dad has always been one of those stereotypical white baby boomer dads. He's nice and forgiving. He gets cranky a lot, but it's not a big deal. Growing up he was always one of those dads who never knew how to talk to children so he would just take me to see movies or play sports with me

 

[wynn]

My mom is overprotective but we have a good relationship. I've never really been around my dad. He's somewhere out there lol

 

[deerprongs]

My dad is pretty laid back, and treats me fairly nice. My mom on the other hand... well, I'll just say she has very different views on herself, than what she actually is. She's guilt tripped me a few times, pushed her Christian beliefs on me, to which I retaliated and went my own way (unbeknownst to her), becoming an atheist welcoming of anyone regardless of their beliefs. She's pretty strict, gets mad easily, and likes to boast about god, while claiming I don't do anything around the house, when I'm literally cleaning up for 6 people (including myself) every day. That about sums my parents up. *heavy breathing*

 

[baileyanne94]

They were mostly laid back, and my parents were younger than most of my peers' were.

Some times with them would be cool but I've learned now that I was a scapegoat to them and I've realized that they both have some issues that they will probably never get help on. They're not bad people but they shouldn't have been parents. They can't even be consistent with 'rules' and they played favorites with my siblings while I was Cinderella and was the only one who had to do any chores and give them money; I guess it seems like I'm griping but it was a lot of BS and they had me pretty subdued to where I was so crazy as to 'ask' to go out on my 18th birthday and listened when I was told 'no'. Living with them got worse and I would hide from my parents when they got home and avoided them.

They rarely took my problems seriously, either, and never bothered to take me to a doctor or dentist or anything after I was 12 so dealing with that on my own now is kinda fun *'thanks' mom and dad...* and I have some other serious problems that have effected others and that I also have to deal with on my own because my parents are arrogant buttholes who can never even say sorry. I would have to hear about how my mom heard my crying in my room...why did you not check on me...? And when I brought this up before I finally moved out, my dad saw it as me expecting them to be at my 'beck and call', like, no, I just want basic support from my parents. (And no one who plays favorites should have kids...)

From my experiences growing up, I was molded to be too afraid to oppose them. You shouldn't talk back to your parents but I feel like now I shouldn't have let them treat me as much like a kid when I was an adult and had been mostly supporting myself for some time. It's a little frustrating to be dealing with the early stages of my adult life weighed down by all kinds of BS from growing up, but I do not see them anymore and I have to move on and be stronger if I want to live a life not influenced by those negative things and actually regain something of a sense of self again.

That was a bit much and sorry if it was weird or anything; thankfully I'm not upset or anything revisiting these thoughts haha;
it's really hard sometimes but I think people have the right to live without persons who hurt them in their lives or don't do anything to make their life better. I can get jealous of, say, mothers and daughters with good relationships, but it's really just out of a kind of sadness and loneliness knowing I didn't and never will have anything like that with my own mom, but it's a jealousy I can manage pretty well.

 

[Romaki]

I have been very neglected because they prefer my older sister, they usually leave me at home to go out for dinner with her.
They never cared about anything I've done, whether I got an A or a F and when I was always crying as a kid they just yelled at me and told me to stop being childish.

 

[Soigne]

They were fine parents, I guess. Nothing outstanding. They kept to themselves and I kept to myself. I've never really had major problems with them, but it's really not a typical parent/child relationship. I've never had to ask permission to do anything, go anywhere, etc. I've always just told them where I was going. The only thing they cared about when I was younger was my grades in school, and after a certain point they stopped asking about that too because they just assumed I'd keep up with everything.

I don't really talk to them much anymore. They're busy with their lives & I'm busy with college.

 

[Dwayne Johnson]

My Dad's great, i was always close to him, and even more so now due to how he's been having financial problems in recent years. I don't even want to talk about my mom though, besides the fact that i live with her and that she's an alcoholic

 

[piichinu]

hmmm its complicated...my dad was nice up until 4th grade nad he started getting angrier gradually but after my parents divorced hes a lot better now
my mom didnt do anything i just remember she always used to "sleep" in her room to avoid my dads family and not really do anything but cook and sketch sometimes lol. after the divorce THIS ***** IS ****ING CRAZY !!! i want out

up until the divorce my dad was in charge and it was very strict
we could basically buy anything we wanted but we couldnt use it if that makes sense
like my dad would lock our DS' in his safe until we traveled or sth
and our computer had a 30 min time limit parental controls when we were allowed to use it
and when we got a pc we werent allowed to have our own accounts and the guest acc was heavily guarded by parental controls
diet was rly strict my dad dumped milk on my head cos i didnt wanna drink it in first grade no fast food or junk food, fruit only and ****ing mediterranean food got damn i HATE that **** now
as for school u got hit if u diddnt do well but got lots of money $ $ $ for grades
there was also a min 1 hour of reading/day requirement but i met that easily. they tried to get creative sometimes like 4 hours of reading = 4 hours of computer time but then i read for 10 hrs straight and that got banned fast.
we were required to exercise and use our bikes once a week (+ tennis once a week as well)

even with all that tho .. i was spoiled AF! had all the toys even if i wasnt allowed to use them or if my dad threw them out soon after buying them!!!

edit: just realized this meant currently how do they treat u...
my mom doesnt do anything she said she gave up on me. sometimes (most of the time) she doesnt feed me or buy food and makes an omelette for herself, just leaves frozen food sometimes for me in the freezer which im really not interested in. i just use her to buy me stuff and occasionally shell say some crazy **** like about how the real putin died and everythings a conspiracy or how my aunt is plotting to kill her for her money (?? old but it used to be a fear of hers once...)

my dad doesnt live here, but wen i visit $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$ and lots of fruit im happy

 

[Lululand]

My parents are pretty great. My mom often isn't sure about how strict or lenient she's supposed to be so she kinda goes back and forth a bit on her rules, and my dad is a little oblivious when it comes to other ppl's feelings (like I could be visibly upset at dinner after there's been an argument going on or some **** and he'll think I'm 100% fine and dandy and over it unless I outright start crying... that kind of thing) but hey, nobody's perfect.

That aside, I really can't complain. They're usually pretty chill and kind-hearted and very supportive of me and my siblings. I love 'em sooo much. I'm honestly blessed to be their child.

 

[PizzaTotinoBoy]

My Mom used to be laid back but now she's really intrusive. She's also really critical of my face for whatever reason. Makes me unable to have a friend/girlfriend very easily, because I'm just really scared of her reactions. She's still nice sometimes though, but i feel like she never listens to what I have to say sometimes because she's the adult.

My dad's super chill though.

 

[pinkcotton]

My Mom is so sweet, she understands literally everything.
My Dad is a bit more strict and has somewhat of a short temper like me, but we do have the adorable father-daughter relationship.

 

[wassop]

ehhh they're pretty strict and judgemental so i don't open up much to them

 

[GrayScreen]

My mom is literally my best friend. Growing up, we really had a hard time relating to each other, so we fought like you wouldn't believe. Then, my grandmother got cancer, and we both struggled to take care of her, which helped us bond. Now we're the best of friends!

My 'dad' was (and probably still is) an incredibly abusive alcoholic, and he can go jump off a cliff. He spends his days being a friendless loser, because he's so repugnant, no one wants to talk to him. Which is good, as far as I'm concerned.

 

[mayoranika]

my parents don't punish a lot until it comes to grades. i feel like they really spoil me though, i had a phone, laptop and 3ds when i was 10.

 

[boujee]

like a princess

 

[lizziety]

My parents tend to act very very laid back then decide to rain a fiery heck on me whenever they are in a random bad mood.
It's obnoxious.

 

[Celestefey]

My parents split up when I was 15, nearly 16 (so about 3 years ago now). Honestly though, I think it's for the best they did. My parents used to argue a lot at times and it made the house sometimes unbearable to be in. My dad was always more strict with me but my mum was more lenient, so I think that could cause clashes at times. However, they weren't really that bad. Generally speaking, I get along much better with my family now and appreciate them so much more. Maybe it's because since I've moved out I realise how much I love them and how much they actually did for me - which I know sounds clich?, but it's kind of something everyone realises really. I will admit, the way my parents treated me when I had serious mental health problems was wrong and they constantly invalidated me. But then again, they weren't very well educated on mental health issues. I know they were trying to help in whatever way they could but if anything it hurt me more.

But generally, now they treat me with a lot more respect. They treat me as an adult and allow me to do what I want (within reason) as long as I'm respectful of them and my brother / other people in the house too. We get along much better. I feel like I can tell my parents most things that are on my mind nowadays and I don't fear their responses. I think I generally am able to judge situations well and make good decisions so my parents trust in me to know I won't do anything stupid. But yeah overall get along so much better with my parents now. <3