How long was/is your longest lasting friendship?

[DinosaurDumpster]

Some people have had best friends since preschool, or kindergarten.
So, how long is your longest lasting friendship?

My longest lasting friendship has lasted almost five years (5 years in August). I don't really remember exactly how we met, other than it was the beginning of the school year during class. It's not as impressive as other people's friendships, but i'm still grateful I managed to get a friend somehow since I was pretty lonely before. We don't talk much anymore though.

Also, if it counts, I have another best friend that I've known for almost 10 years. We were never really friends at first, we just saw each other at school and our parents knew each other. We didn't become friends until 7 years later. Thanks to her I have a few more friends instead of just having 2.

 

[xTech]

My longest lasting friendship (at least irl wise) was probably about 3 years and that was in school! My best friends always seemed to move away after around a couple years, and literally all of my friends from primary school went to a different secondary school as me, and the same goes for college aswell. These days pretty much all of my friends are online, and if you count that then it would actually be about 5 years with regular contact, which I think is pretty cool!

 

[ForgottenT]

14 years.
From when I were 10, to now.
We became friends after I moved towns, and we used to hang out all the time, then I went to boarding school, and then depression, we didn't hang out much, then he went to prison, and I moved out, he's out of prison, and moved out too, we're still friends, and visit from time to time.
Have another friend of about 11 years too.

 

[Mairmalade]

12 years. I became friends with someone online back in 2008 during my competitive TF2 days. We don’t talk as regularly, but we’re still good friends.

I had an amazing childhood friend before my family moved too. We were friends for ten years and visited occasionally but it phased out. He ended up making other friends and moved on. Sometimes I consider reaching out again as their family lives in the same place, but I have no idea where he ended up. I think he’s studying at a university somewhere in the US now.

I never had many friends growing up so losing a treasured one still hurts.

 

[Chris]

I've been friends with @Meg-Mog since 1995. We met at a regular coffee morning meet-up aimed at mothers with toddlers.

 

[Alienfish]

10+ years. Sadly I had to cut the ropes because they were getting on my nerves and lecturing me every single time we chatted plus they had a weird habit of cutting it off for a year and the resuming it.

Also had a childhood friend that I do not know where I stand with (he as my ex, then we were fwb and then he didn't wanna see me anymore) but that dude I knew since I was a toddler too.

 

[Pop-tart]

I had a friendship that started online and lasted for like 10 years but we drifted apart I guess

 

[Xara]

my longest lasting friendship is almost 3 years (3 years next month!) - i have a hard time maintaining friendships as i always seem to befriend people who have personalities/issues that clash with mine but i started talking to my pal in july 2017 and we’ve been friends ever since and have talked almost everyday for the past 3 years ;u;

 

[fluttershy300]

My friendship is going on five years I think. I met her in middle school. She recently graduated high school and I’m still in high school but I will graduate soon one day. We live apart but still text each other when we can.

 

[EpicGamer12]

I’ve actually had a friend that I still talk to today that I met when I was a toddler of 1 or 2 years old. I’m 22 now, so we have been friends for about 20 years. Funny thing is that we both have moved cities multiple times but now live in the same city again.

 

[UglyMonsterFace]

I just lost my longest friend (from high school). But my second longest would be around 7 years.

 

[Clock]

This is a bit long but, sadly like five years, I had this friend who I've met in kindergarten and we were both close to each other throughout the school year. We would always hangout in school and at our after school program, even though I've never visited her house or anything. I would always say hi to her as well if I see her in some public areas. Unfortunately, our friendship stopped at 5th grade for private reasons and yeah that's it. I don't want to say the rest since its private.

 

[Mikaiah]

mmh probably since mid-high school? an online friend actually, I'm surprised we've known each other this long lol.

I have a couple people I talk to that I've known since middle school, but we don't necessarily talk a *lot*, so...

 

[rubyrubert]

It's hard for me to become close to people, but I have a lot of acquaintances and "friends" that aren't necessarily close. I have some friends that I made almost 2 years ago. And I also had a childhood friend that was friends with me all throughout elementary.

 

[Lattecakes]

I have a few irl friends that I consider my really good friends whom I have known for over 10 years now. Even though we have known each other for years, and I consider us good friends, we barely talk lol. We speak to each other maybe twice a month? Is that how all friendships are? I am no expert in friendships. I spent majority of my childhood being friendless (from pre-k till 6th grade) since I was bullied by everyone in the class for being the new kid and was stuck with the same classmates for years... Anyways, my lack of knowledge on friendship always made me wondered if other people and their friends speak on a more regular basis because that is how television shows portray friendships as. So if anyone wants to enlighten me on that, I'd appreciate it!

 

[Chris]

I have a few irl friends that I consider my really good friends whom I have known for over 10 years now. Even though we have known each other for years, and I consider us good friends, we barely talk lol. We speak to each other maybe twice a month? Is that how all friendships are? I am no expert in friendships. I spent majority of my childhood being friendless (from pre-k till 6th grade) since I was bullied by everyone in the class for being the new kid and was stuck with the same classmates for years... Anyways, my lack of knowledge on friendship always made me wondered if other people and their friends speak on a more regular basis because that is how television shows portray friendships as. So if anyone wants to enlighten me on that, I'd appreciate it!

It is completely normal in adult friendships for weeks to sometimes pass without contact.

 

[Lattecakes]

It is completely normal in adult friendships for weeks to sometimes pass without contact.

Ok, glad to hear it's not just happening in my friendships and I am quite relieved to know that it is a normal occurance haha :c thank you!

 

[Mary]

I recently cut ties with one of my oldest friends, I’d known her since before I can remember, essentially almost 20 years. We grew up together, and it was super fun when we were younger. Unfortunately, her mom is very superficial and flaky, and those traits rubbed off on her. She got hard to get in touch with and then would cancel plans last minute because something better came along. We’ve argued about it a few times, and each time I hoped she’d be a little more considerate, but she’s really only gotten worse. The straw that broke the camel’s back was when I texted her wishing her a happy birthday at 12:00 exactly and she didn’t even respond, but spent the whole day reposting birthday wishes from her sorority friends on her story. I decided I don’t want to be someone’s last resort/ backup friend, so I deleted her from my social media stuff, and I actually feel a lot better now. Sorry if that’s a little sad, I promise I’m doing alright otherwise!

 

[aericell]

My friendships don’t usually last that long, I’ve moved a couple times and also ended up going to a different high school than all my middle school friends and gradually stopped talking to them. I’ve also been very careful about actually referring to someone as a friend vs just an acquaintance or “someone I know.” I also don’t put much effort into making new friends so I don’t have to worry about it not working out or them not liking me which is something I tend to do

My longest constant one (no “breaks”) was about 4 years from 8th grade up until sometime during my senior year of high school. I was upset over how it ended for so long, but now I'm glad I walked away back then because we recently caught up and I learned that we both just viewed/prioritized friendships differently, and I can't really blame him for that.

I've known my best friend for 7 years but we weren’t friends the entire time, we met sophomore year of high school and were just friends for some of that time until senior year when we stopped talking. He reached out during sophomore year of college we gradually started growing closer (and so much these past 2 years especially). I’m also pretty sure this is the healthiest friendship I’ve ever had, how well we connect and understand each other mentally and emotionally just baffles me. I honestly see it going to the end, very grateful for him :’)

 

[deleted]

About 8 years.

From first grade to the beginning of my freshman year, this girl and I were inseparable. Besides one other girl she was my only friend. The friendship started going downhill in 8th grade because she was very jealous of my boyfriend at the time and I could no longer give her all of my attention. She became very clingy. Freshman year, that boyfriend and I broke up and I made new friends while still talking to her. She started to leech off me socially and follow me everywhere. My new friends saw how it was draining me and pulled me aside to talk about it. I didn’t even realize how much it was affecting me until they pointed it out.

The last straw, though, was when I got a new boyfriend (who is my current boyfriend of 2.5 years) and she said something along the lines of “Oh, another [old boyfriend’s name]. Honeymoon phase again?” A few days later I pulled her aside in the library before school and ended the friendship. Before I could explain myself, she ran out crying and screaming. Later that day she sent me a very long text of run on sentences about how I replaced her with my boyfriend. Then she went on to say that my old boyfriend made the right decision by breaking up with me and that my current boyfriend would dump me because he is two years older than I am.

Whatever. I don’t regret it at all. I’m still with that guy. Again, 2.5 years later and he's my best friend.