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JellyDitto
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I was still gay the last time I checked. 
Over the past months I've been coming to terms with the realization that I'm grey-a/ace. I was somewhat anxious when I first started looking into it, but now I really feel like it explains a lot about me and it's almost like a weight lifted off of me.
I'm 21, never been in a relationship, have never especially wanted a relationship. I've had all of maybe two legitimate "crushes" that I can remember, neither of which became strong enough to pursue, and neither of which involved any kind of desire for physical intimacy.
I never had crushes throughout elementary or high school. One of my friends' favourite thing to do whenever a conversation ended was turn to me and go "so, who do you like?" because she thought I was always lying when I constantly told her no one. A couple of times I would randomly choose someone to "have a crush on" so people would stop asking and making me feel like an anomaly, which one time resulted in that person /somehow/ finding out I said so and then they started avoiding me. Friendship ending over literally nothing, that was fun.
One of the main things that got me to really start considering the possibility of being ace was an article about the difference between finding someone's looks aesthetically pleasing versus sexually attractive and how the former is often confused with the latter. It talked about how people who are asexual often find people aesthetically pleasing and mistake that for attraction because they are taught by society that good-looking = sexy/sexuality, and so they can mistake themselves for not being asexual. I think this is part of what took me so long to realize that I'm ace. I still found people "hot", though never to the point of "I want to have sex with that person". Like I know Zayn Malik is in the top 5 prettiest humans in the history of our species but I still don't want to do the do with him.
I'm 21, never been in a relationship, have never especially wanted a relationship. I've had all of maybe two legitimate "crushes" that I can remember, neither of which became strong enough to pursue, and neither of which involved any kind of desire for physical intimacy.
I never had crushes throughout elementary or high school. One of my friends' favourite thing to do whenever a conversation ended was turn to me and go "so, who do you like?" because she thought I was always lying when I constantly told her no one. A couple of times I would randomly choose someone to "have a crush on" so people would stop asking and making me feel like an anomaly, which one time resulted in that person /somehow/ finding out I said so and then they started avoiding me. Friendship ending over literally nothing, that was fun.
One of the main things that got me to really start considering the possibility of being ace was an article about the difference between finding someone's looks aesthetically pleasing versus sexually attractive and how the former is often confused with the latter. It talked about how people who are asexual often find people aesthetically pleasing and mistake that for attraction because they are taught by society that good-looking = sexy/sexuality, and so they can mistake themselves for not being asexual. I think this is part of what took me so long to realize that I'm ace. I still found people "hot", though never to the point of "I want to have sex with that person". Like I know Zayn Malik is in the top 5 prettiest humans in the history of our species but I still don't want to do the do with him.
P.S. I came out to my dad and my work HR today. My dad seemed to accept it and I cried a lot anyway. My work told me to get a COF filled out by my doctor saying what physical activities I can't do. I was like, "Okay... Can't you just treat me like a girl since I am and have been on hormones?"
"Not without that form completed by your doctor or a doctor's note, we can't make exceptions without the paperwork. You can either work and get the paperwork done or take a week off."
So I will be kept doing physical labor until the 27th when I see my endocrinologist.
"Not without that form completed by your doctor or a doctor's note, we can't make exceptions without the paperwork. You can either work and get the paperwork done or take a week off."
So I will be kept doing physical labor until the 27th when I see my endocrinologist.
aw lame
diogocrossing
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grey-a here. unless we're talking 40+ men/women in positions of power. i'm all about that base.
diogocrossing
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Oh TBT. Sometimes, you just...
hush now little lamb i was playin'
Ninja_Fridge
Mayor Chris
I thought this might be the right thread to say what i am about to say.
Now at one point i was bi and went back to straight but lately i have been feeling weird and i think i might be bi again. so i am think have i always been bi even when i said i was straight.
Now at one point i was bi and went back to straight but lately i have been feeling weird and i think i might be bi again. so i am think have i always been bi even when i said i was straight.
EpicGamer12
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Good for you! Maybe you should find out what arouses you and what doesn't and that could help you out! It did for me! ( ͡ᵔ ͜ʖ ͡ᵔ )
Ninja_Fridge
Mayor Chris
what exactly do you mean by that?
Use the word it
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From my experience people have found that even more offensive
Oh, well its either he she or it are people making up pronouns now?
Ninja_Fridge
Mayor Chris
i just hope people don't think differently of me
brutalitea
tae bae
That is incredibly offensive.
Ninja_Fridge
Mayor Chris
using the word it is like saying they are genderless
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