LGBTQA - Discussion and support.

[TheCreeperHugz]

that kid sounds like the worst ):<

there are ppl at my school who use tons of slurs too and i honestly want to throw some chairs on them whenever they do it :I

My school was actually quite good, there were very few homphobic people there. There were a couple kids who teased me about being gay (I'm actually pan but I've only came out to a couple very select people so idk if they actually knew or were just messing around) but other than that I don't think I've heard any homophobic comments or slurs or anything.

I'm about to start college soon though and I don't know anyone there. Hopefully they're as open minded as the people from the last school.

 

[crystalchild]

i want this thread back up on page one cuz being gay is SWAG.

personally i haven't talked much about my orientation with my family... i've mentioned being asexual to my mother, not gay though. it's not that i don't think they'd accept me, i just don't feel like it's any of their business? i'll deal with it if i ever get a partner to introduce them to, haha. :'')

 

[Juurii]

I tried to come out as being bi when I was young and my mom did that whole "uuuuhhh it's just a phase" thing and told me that I was doing it for attention. my dad was p supportive.
but now i'm pan and pretty genderfluid/androgynous gender wise and I don't think i'll ever tell my mom.
her whole side of the family is pretty judgmental so they'll just have to get over it if I ever bring a girl home to introduce lol

 

[KantoKraze]

i'm rlly gay and i put up with a lot of discrimination at my home. i've been kicked out and abused and told that i was hated, told that i was worthless. that i'm disguisting. that all people like me should die. but i'm okay i guess though. i know that people out there do care, and that's really what i focus on.
but anyway, if any of you lgbt+ users are having troubles and need to vent, my ears are always open. just keep your head high and be who you really are. and always know that people do love you.

 

[Shimmer]

I hate when bisexual people in opposite sex relationships get spat on by the community.

 

[Llust]

advice would be much appreciated, im really confused about everything rn ><

ive had two boyfriends in the past, but that was like three to four years ago -- those relationships are irrelevant to me now. its difficult to explain it clearly, but basically, ive dealt with things, expectations were always let down, insecurity got the best of me, etc etc..so i cant imagine myself in any type of relationship at all which includes being romantic and seductive. in other words, i have no intentions of having a boyfriend at all

its not that i dont think 'damn he's cute' every now and then, but thats it. i never have fantasies let alone trying make moves on people. there's a lot of info concerning this that im unsure about and left out of this post, i really dont have anyone to talk to about this..so if you're serious about supporting me, sending a pm offering advice would be helpful

im honestly not even sure what to label myself as anymore. i do get attracted to people, but that has its limits..im really not sure how to explain it, but i guess being attracted to someone for me has specific requirements

 

[visibleghost]

soushi what about grayromantic/demiromantic (or sexual) it's kinda like asexual but not really, like you could be attracted very little or just sometimes?? ;; (im not an dxpert so if i'm a bit wrong sorry )x )

 

[crystalchild]

sexual/romantic orientation can be a pretty complex and confusing issue! but i agree with lencurryboy that somewhere in the gray-aroace area seems like it might be accurate. if you want to talk more in detail about it, you are free to message me. :')

 

[Bjork]

i dont know why but i cant bring myself to say something to my really really close friends like

ive known them for 9 years and they wont care + be super supportive but like i just cant for some reason

 

[Cherry Kisses]

Bump!

 

[Gregriii]

I find funny how the boys of my class think I'm gay just because I don't give signals of being straight

Tbh I've been bullied for years (it started when I was 7) just because I liked pinkish colors and "girly" series. I also liked the twilight saga and I tend to gesticulate a lot, I don't like sports and I prefer hanging out with girls than with boys. What is funny about this is that my parents also think I'm gay. I remember that my mom told me a year ago "I know you're gay but you don't want to come out, it's fine, I'll accept you no matter what" I was like "Are you being serious" and my dad (homophobic racist machist) sometimes, when I do silly things like talking in a "super typical gay" way, he looks and me and I'm pretty sure he thinks something like "Oh god why I have a ****** as son???"

People is constantly asking me if I'm gay too.

Am I gay?? Tbh honest I don't want to label myself because of stereotypes "If you're straight you're an ******* that only wants to catch a big good booty" "If you're gay you love every man of the earth and you want to eat his ****" "If you're bisexual you are obsessed with sex" "if you're asexual it is because you haven't licked a good *****" and etc. Like mmm I'll do what I want with my life because IT'S my life and If I want to date a boy/girl I'll simply do it and I won't spend any second of my life saying "Oh yeah and I'm bisexual/pansexual/straight/gay"

But I have to admit that If I had to be labelled I would consider myself asexual (maybe bisexual in a few years) because relations are gross. Although I like a girl but whatever

 

[Sporge27]

Here's the thing, you don't have to follow stereotypes.

Gay just means you are only attracted to the same sex as yourself, bi means you have been attracted to both, and straight means you've only been attracted to the opposite sex. You honestly won't know for sure until you are nearing adulthood, there is a often period you start noticing changes but have yet to figure out what you are attracted to.

That is all those labels means to me, I try my best to ignore other stigma. Avoiding labels yourself won't stop others from labeling you and judging you based on stereotypes. Other people have it ten times worse since some things people stereotype can't be hidden. It isn't fair, it can't be fair, and it is unfortunate. You judge others to unfairly, often unconsciously. Try to catch yourself when you do and make up for it and it is the best you can do.

 

[Knopekin]

There's a load of pressure to label yourself, especially on the internet (where you can be more without judgement than real life mostly), but it's difficult if you firmly 'come out' as something, but then realise that maybe you're more bi than gay, or not as asexual as you thought, and people sometimes then feel bad for betraying the community. Don't feel pressure to label yourself, you don't have to figure everything out right away!

 

[pastellrain]

I have no idea if I'm bi, gay or asexual to be honest
I just know one thing: I LOVE GIRLS

 

[visibleghost]

lol my mom has asked me like three times if i would rather be a boy and i know that i should probably tell her but she just asks at so awkward times and idk..... i just try to ignore my gender atm it's just too much. i've had to deal with a lot of misgendering (obviously since i'm not out lol) and transphobia and i'm just really tired of everything.
i wish gender would stop being super important. like ofc gender should exist but it would be soooo much better if people didn't gender everyone and everything.... i just hate it so much my gender shouldn't matter to other people that much.

i'm feeling really invalid atm becuase i'm not super masculine. i know gender stereotypes don't matter and stuff but i just feel so disconnected to everything gender related and all i know is that i'm a boy.... but that i'm not?? a man??? idk. i just hate this a lot and i wish i could just be a boy and that would be fine with everyone, but that's not really how it works.. idk i'm just really disconnected to gender and society in general and it sucks a lot

 

[milkday]

i mentioned maybe being genderfluid and my friend said really aggressively "YOU'RE 100% GIRL"

 

[visibleghost]

i mentioned maybe being genderfluid and my friend said really aggressively "YOU'RE 100% GIRL"

wtf what's up with your friend

 

[Saylor]

I haven't actually told my mom (or any of my family) that I'm gay yet but she suspects that I am and she's been really pressuring me to come out. I would just tell her since she pretty much already knows anyway, and I want to tell her, but ever since she's known she's been acting hostile towards me and I feel like our relationship has worsened. I'm not totally sure if that's because of my sexuality and she's told me that she's fine with it, but it doesn't really seem like she is and I'm kind of afraid of what'll happen to our relationship when I do come out.

 

[Bowie]

I haven't actually told my mom (or any of my family) that I'm gay yet but she suspects that I am and she's been really pressuring me to come out. I would just tell her since she pretty much already knows anyway, and I want to tell her, but ever since she's known she's been acting hostile towards me and I feel like our relationship has worsened. I'm not totally sure if that's because of my sexuality and she's told me that she's fine with it, but it doesn't really seem like she is and I'm kind of afraid of what'll happen to our relationship when I do come out.

I'd ask her about it and shoot down her worries. There's gotta be something bothering her about it, and it may not be your sexuality, but perhaps an aspect of it, such as sexual diseases. Unless she's super religious or something, there must be something else to it.

 

[Soda Fox]

I haven't actually told my mom (or any of my family) that I'm gay yet but she suspects that I am and she's been really pressuring me to come out. I would just tell her since she pretty much already knows anyway, and I want to tell her, but ever since she's known she's been acting hostile towards me and I feel like our relationship has worsened. I'm not totally sure if that's because of my sexuality and she's told me that she's fine with it, but it doesn't really seem like she is and I'm kind of afraid of what'll happen to our relationship when I do come out.

I agree with what Bowie said. There might be something more to it. And, you know, I always figure it's better to be open and honest right away. The sooner she knows the truth about you, the sooner she can get over whatever it is she is dealing with internally. Sure, things might go south, but they might end up really well, too. But I don't see any reason to keep it secret to your family unless you're dependant on them and fear getting kicked out.