I'd ask her about it and shoot down her worries. There's gotta be something bothering her about it, and it may not be your sexuality, but perhaps an aspect of it, such as sexual diseases. Unless she's super religious or something, there must be something else to it.
Yeah, that's true. She just seems to be kinda disappointed in me whenever it comes up, but I'm not sure why she would be or if there's something else to it, or maybe I'm just totally misinterpreting her attitude about it.
I agree with what Bowie said. There might be something more to it. And, you know, I always figure it's better to be open and honest right away. The sooner she knows the truth about you, the sooner she can get over whatever it is she is dealing with internally. Sure, things might go south, but they might end up really well, too. But I don't see any reason to keep it secret to your family unless you're dependant on them and fear getting kicked out.
I agree it's probably best to be honest about it as soon as I can and that's part of what's been bothering me, because I hate feeling like I'm keeping something from her. I've been worried because my mom can be a little unpredictable so it's hard to tell how she may react. She has kicked me out before (not for very long, though), so that worries me a little too, but I think if she was going to do that she probably would've already done it by now. I'll be moving out soon anyway and she'll figure it out sooner or later, so I guess I don't have much to lose. I'll try to be more upfront to her next time we talk!
Maybe she's hurt and thinks that you don't trust her enough to tell her? If I had a kid who was probably not-straight, I'd want them to be able to tell me and would probably try and encourage them to do so, and might be hurt if they didn't. If you're not out she can't really support you (emotionally or otherwise), and that puts a parent in a pretty difficult position. Obviously you know your relationship with your mum better than I do, but honesty is usually the best policy with relationships of any kind.
Sorry it's awkward though
That would make sense. I've never had a super close relationship with my mom and have always kept things to myself in the past, but I guess in this case she can tell that I'm keeping something from her so I can understand how she'd be hurt. I hadn't really thought of that.
I don't think it could get any worse if that's how it is so i'd just get over it. I'd love to come out completely but I have no idea how my guy friends would react and if I'd lose them, they're also some of my only friends. Though no one has suspected me of being gay ever, and my Mom and Sister are the only people who know. If I move back with my mom this winter and change schools I'll definitely be ready then.
That's true too. I mean, whether or not it gets any worse, I'm mostly concerned about how my mom might think of me after I come out. I know I maybe shouldn't care so much, but she's the only person in my family who I sort of get along with, so I'd hate to lose that. Good luck with coming out this winter, if you do! I hope everything goes well for you.
My mother actually did the same thing. But when I came out she was just ashamed of who I was. So it doesn't always mean she'll understand. But hopefully the connect with you and your mother is stronger than what mine was with my mother when I basically was forced to come out.
Good luck!
I'm really sorry your mom reacted that way.
Like I said before I'm moving out soon, so I'm kinda lucky in that sense, but either way I'd hate to be on bad terms with my mom, so I'm so sorry that yours wasn't as understanding. I'm sorry you were forced to come out, too. I think that should only happen when you're completely ready, if you even want to at all.
Thank you so much everyone!
I'm gonna try to more honest with her and hopefully everything will be okay.
