I think it can be both. I know someone who really loved his girlfriend for a while until they broke up and then he decided to try being with another guy and he liked it, so he chose to be gay. He had nothing wrong with being straight; he loved it, he just chose to be something different.
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No, I don't think that's a choice at all. I wish people would stop spreading stories like this because it really discredits sexuality, as if it's something people do to be noticed or to stand out.
As I've explained before in this thread sexuality is far more diverse than "Straight, Gay, Bisexual". He may have loved his girlfriend, and that's fine. That doesn't mean he wasn't always gay (or somewhat bisexual) and that woman was just an exception.
I feel like so many exclusively straight or gay people feel like they have to stick to these labels, as if they aren't themselves if they stray from this at all. I'm sure there are plenty of people who identify as straight or gay and would date somebody of the same or opposite sex if society wasn't so judgemental and wished to put everybody into neat little boxes.
Well most humans are somewhat Bisexual, even if it's just a tiny margin. I've met people who've made exceptions to their sexuality many times, including my first girlfriend who only dated me, and the rest were all boys.
You also have to keep in mind that some people go through a "gay phase" during puberty because they themselves don't quite understand the difference between platonic attraction and sexual attraction. There were many girls at my school who claimed to be bi, only to give up the label later in life as it became clear that they were sexually attracted to males, and were confusing the fact that they enjoyed the company of girls as homosexual thoughts.
Sexuality is more fluid than everyone thinks. As you grow older, your types and interests change, and while it's good to explore these sexual curiosities, if the attraction isn't there, it just isn't there.
You also have to keep in mind that some people go through a "gay phase" during puberty because they themselves don't quite understand the difference between platonic attraction and sexual attraction. There were many girls at my school who claimed to be bi, only to give up the label later in life as it became clear that they were sexually attracted to males, and were confusing the fact that they enjoyed the company of girls as homosexual thoughts.
Sexuality is more fluid than everyone thinks. As you grow older, your types and interests change, and while it's good to explore these sexual curiosities, if the attraction isn't there, it just isn't there.
I'm sure you are born gay. Why? Because it's something you can't change, so it's something you are born with.
Anyways, am I the only one that finds it hard to imagine being bisexual? To me.. it seems more like a phase, before admitting that you're gay. I know a lot of people that considered themselves bisexual, before considering themselves gay. Boys and girls are just so different.. so how can you feel attracted for both?
Anyways, am I the only one that finds it hard to imagine being bisexual? To me.. it seems more like a phase, before admitting that you're gay. I know a lot of people that considered themselves bisexual, before considering themselves gay. Boys and girls are just so different.. so how can you feel attracted for both?
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I've been ripped apart and called ignorant for making the statement, but I agree.
I believe bisexuality is the in between. It's testing the waters.
Personally, I came out as "bisexual" as a teen. I fully knew I had no interest in women. I had no intention of ever being with one. I still don't know why I did it, but I guess it made it easier before coming out as "gay", which was a scary word as a teen! At least in the area I grew up in.
The label isn't important to me anymore, but it was back then.
To quote Sex and the City, "I'm not even sure bisexuality exists; I think it's just a layover on the way to Gay-Town".
Though, my opinion is formed based on personal experiences, as well as those of friends in my life.
Oh joys, biphobia and bi-invisibility is making its way to into this thread! I am not an imaginary creature, nor am I in a transitional phase. Honestly, I swear biphobia is worse from gay people than it is from straight. You would think you guys would learn after all the homophobia.
Plus, saying boys and girls are so different is like saying brunettes and blondes are so different. You can have different tastes.
Personally, I can't imagine anyone not being attracted to both. You mono-sexuals are strange people.Roel said:
Plus, saying boys and girls are so different is like saying brunettes and blondes are so different. You can have different tastes.
Thank you Jason! As someone who enjoys women AND men equally I have to say I am very offended when people say "Bisexuality isn't real."
People can think its a "transitional" phase all they want but I have been enjoying both sexes for 24 years. Even though I could never imagine liking only one gender, I still don't say that it doesn't exist or its a "transitional" phase before you choose to be straight.
Just like gay people don't have a choice and never did, neither do I! Yes men and women are different. It's the differences that I enjoy so much.
The same goes for us mono-sexuals. Bisexualism to us is strange. Just different viewpoints and sexual preferences. Nothing wrong with that.
This is exactly my point. Homosexuality is becoming accepted and people think they're being so "open-minded" but in reality, all most people are doing is sticking to the same social norms that have always been in place. Even in gay marriage a lot of people have a "female" and "male" equivalent. I'm sorry, but being gay and applying the same bigoted, close-minded principles as straight homophobes have for centuries does not make you "open-minded".
I'm bisexual, as are many other people. You didn't like it when people said you were in a "phase" or what you were was "wrong" or "non-existent" so don't say that about our sexuality either. To do so is nothing but hypocritical.
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I suppose I can't say it's impossible to be attracted to both sexes. That's a pretty bold statement.
As someone who is only sexually attracted to one sex, it just didn't make sense that someone could be into both. As you said, it just seems strange.
I guess it really is all about preferences.
As someone who is only sexually attracted to one sex, it just didn't make sense that someone could be into both. As you said, it just seems strange.
I guess it really is all about preferences.
Excuse me? I was only wondering, if I was the only person with my thought. I don't hate bisexual people and I'm not against them. I just think, there are many bisexual people that turn out to be gay in the end.
To be honest, hair colour and sex is a whole different story. Anyways, I'm sure you have a sex you prefer, right? And you end up dating that sex more than the other one. Sorry if I'm wrong. I don't mean to hurt you in any way.
I think the term "Bisexual" is thrown around too much these days and confuses people. Especially by drunk straight girls at parties who think because they kissed a girl one time they might be "bisexual".
There are actual people who go their whole lives liking both men and women equally. I will have sex with a man or a woman, be in a relationship with a man or a woman and marry a man or a woman. I have been in love with both men and women.
Bisexuality is not a choice anymore than homosexuality is. The choice is what sex to be in a relationship with. (threes a crowd) lol.
There are actual people who go their whole lives liking both men and women equally. I will have sex with a man or a woman, be in a relationship with a man or a woman and marry a man or a woman. I have been in love with both men and women.
Bisexuality is not a choice anymore than homosexuality is. The choice is what sex to be in a relationship with. (threes a crowd) lol.
i can't tell if you're addressing me or not here. Nothing you're saying applies to me. I'm not saying bisexuality is wrong or abnormal. It's just weird for monosexuals because we can't understand the attraction to both sexes; only one. No need to harp on me. I'm not saying bisexualism doesn't exist. I'm just saying that it's as foreign a concept to me as mono-sexualism is to you. I don't know where you got your information from there...
Yes, it is. Please remember that.
It's far too common in the LGBT community for bisexuals to be cast-off, ignored and even hated because we are "strange" and do not fit into your view of the world. It's stupid because it is no different to homophobia.
This is the reason I think it's ridiculous people use bisexuality as a "transitional phase". Not only does it completely discredit bisexuality but why on earth do they think it's easier? It's far harder than the widely accepted homosexuality.
Hair colour and sex isn't a whole different story, really. I'm sure you have a certain hair colour you prefer, right? There's this whole stigma with bisexuals that we are promiscuous and that a partner of one gender would never satisfy us, which is complete bull****. Gender is just another factor of a person's being, the same as hair colour, eye colour, height, fashion sense, etc. Bisexuals simply realise gender as a more fluid factor in their tastes.
And no, I don't have a gender I "prefer". I like both for varying reasons which cannot be defined with a simple "Which do you prefer" question.
Sorry, I'm getting kind of carried away. I wasn't arguing against you, I was simply emphasising my point which was addressed in your previous post. I realise that bisexuality is a foreign concept and hard for monosexuals to understand, but that doesn't mean it shouldn't be accepted. The same way that homosexuality shouldn't be accepted because heterosexuals don't understand it.
I understand that. There's no reason it shouldn't be accepted. People are people and that's all there is to it. It's only a foreign concept to me because I'm not gay. It's not weird or "icky".
To be honest, I don't prefer any hair colour. I don't even care about looks to be honest, as impossible that may sound. Anyways, I think I can better stop sharing my thought on this, because I'm pissing you off.
Personality, then. You have something which attracts you to a person and you probably have multiple different sets of things that attract you to people. Gender is factored into my attractions.
EDIT: Also, just a consideration. If you didn't care about looks and only personality, surely you would be pansexual?
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