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Long Distance Relationships
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Y'all are seriously too cute!
My boyfriend and I have a semi-long distance relationship.
He lives in Flower Mound, TX and I live in Gainesville, TX (about 50 minutes-an hour apart), but we make it work. We see each other every week and he stays at my house thursday-sunday.
My boyfriend and I have a semi-long distance relationship.
He lives in Flower Mound, TX and I live in Gainesville, TX (about 50 minutes-an hour apart), but we make it work. We see each other every week and he stays at my house thursday-sunday.
Hell even when you're older its not something you just jump into! Its a scary thing.
Yeah. I'm scared of the money issues (I'd get a job obviously) and he's in college and he actually gets quite a bit of support from his college but I'm still scared of that. What if we're in trouble? We'd basically be on our own and I wouldn't want to have to lean on his parents for help.. that'd feel awful!
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I can see why you'd say that. xD
Yeah no kidding…. i'm 21 and my bf is the first actual bf I've ever had (not including the little high school "relationships" i had) and it's very scary… I'm almost scared to fall in love..
This thread is so lovely, I really enjoy reading your stories!
My boyfriend and I, we also used to have a long distance relationship. We met via a MMORPG like some of you here... he was the first one to talk to me, teaching me about the system of the elements and fairies in the game which I clearly didn't pay enough attention to in the tutorial sections... If I did, I wouldn't have worn a water fairy with a fire mage (don't judge me I was like 13 and I liked the water fairy much more). Of course I did not admit that to him.
Months, even years later, he told me his feelings and I had to admit that I felt the same way he did about me. So, without ever having seen each other (except on pictures) we still decided to try a relationship. Rationally it was wrong, a relationship without feeling the other person, seeing the other person... that doesn't sound like a good thing! But still, feelings are feelings.
I remember the first time he visited me; he was the last person to leave the train. I saw him, ran right into his arms and we cuddled for about 5 minutes straight. And it felt SO RIGHT. All the months of suffering... totally worth it! It's been a little bit awkward after this moment... but we still managed to break the ice then and spent a weekend together in my house. I'm still thankful to my parents because they allowed a stranger to meet their daughter and to sleep in their house (of course they tried to watch us wherever they could to make sure he won't harm me lol)
And after this weekend, he visited again. And again. And again...
Now we've been together for more than five years, he moved from Berlin to my way smaller city in bavaria (we're both germans, the distance was about ~500kms) a few years ago and everyday I have to ask myself how I even deserve this awesome man. Who would have thought that a lesson about fairies would end in the love of my life? I wouldn't, lol. Now I'm glad that I ignored the "Learn about the element and fairystuff" - tutorial-thing!
It amazes me how we perfectly fit to each other. I even dare to say that he is the only guy who would stick with my weird flaws in particular and accept or maybe even love them at the same time and vice versa. Of course, there's many people you could potentially love somehow, but it feels like we just fit perfectly, even after years!
So, guys, give it a chance if you can! It can have a happy end, but of course, never be too naive. A friend of mine has been chatting with a guy from quite far away for a year now and she still doesn't know anything about him. His voice, his face, his location, his telephone number, his biography.. most of it is still a mystery to her. I don't even know what they talk about all the time... ugh, better not imagine, lol! I couldn't trust someone who is not ready to give me ANY information or who at least tries to get to know me more if he claims that he has feelings for me (which this guy certainly did!)
Whenever I want to talk to her about my worries the just blocks and says that "I met my boyfriend the same way." She just won't understand what I mean... sigh
With that being said, I wouldn't be more afraid of people I met online than I'd be of people I met in the "real life". Just to add this to some of the concerns here in this thread. Both can be the clich? axe murderer guy in the end. There's always a risk.
So.. as long as you meet your online boy/girlfriend in a safe place (crowded train station at the day time, city at the day time, caf?...) and get to know her/him better then, and as long as you always keep in mind to be careful, there's no more dangers than in a "regular" relationship.
I also think that because of the way I got to know my boyfriend it is very easy for us to talk about really everything that we can imagine! There's no subject that's a problem to talk about. Some of my friends ask me things about their relationship and I always think "Why do you ask me what HE is seeking in your relationship and your attitude!? HE has to know, not me!"
TL;DR: LDR, we met, 5 years happy now.
Be careful, friends!
Edit: Oh, if someone might question this: He is 21 now and I am 20. So we've known each other for about 7 years.
My boyfriend and I, we also used to have a long distance relationship. We met via a MMORPG like some of you here... he was the first one to talk to me, teaching me about the system of the elements and fairies in the game which I clearly didn't pay enough attention to in the tutorial sections... If I did, I wouldn't have worn a water fairy with a fire mage (don't judge me I was like 13 and I liked the water fairy much more). Of course I did not admit that to him.
Months, even years later, he told me his feelings and I had to admit that I felt the same way he did about me. So, without ever having seen each other (except on pictures) we still decided to try a relationship. Rationally it was wrong, a relationship without feeling the other person, seeing the other person... that doesn't sound like a good thing! But still, feelings are feelings.
I remember the first time he visited me; he was the last person to leave the train. I saw him, ran right into his arms and we cuddled for about 5 minutes straight. And it felt SO RIGHT. All the months of suffering... totally worth it! It's been a little bit awkward after this moment... but we still managed to break the ice then and spent a weekend together in my house. I'm still thankful to my parents because they allowed a stranger to meet their daughter and to sleep in their house (of course they tried to watch us wherever they could to make sure he won't harm me lol)
And after this weekend, he visited again. And again. And again...
Now we've been together for more than five years, he moved from Berlin to my way smaller city in bavaria (we're both germans, the distance was about ~500kms) a few years ago and everyday I have to ask myself how I even deserve this awesome man. Who would have thought that a lesson about fairies would end in the love of my life? I wouldn't, lol. Now I'm glad that I ignored the "Learn about the element and fairystuff" - tutorial-thing!
It amazes me how we perfectly fit to each other. I even dare to say that he is the only guy who would stick with my weird flaws in particular and accept or maybe even love them at the same time and vice versa. Of course, there's many people you could potentially love somehow, but it feels like we just fit perfectly, even after years!
So, guys, give it a chance if you can! It can have a happy end, but of course, never be too naive. A friend of mine has been chatting with a guy from quite far away for a year now and she still doesn't know anything about him. His voice, his face, his location, his telephone number, his biography.. most of it is still a mystery to her. I don't even know what they talk about all the time... ugh, better not imagine, lol! I couldn't trust someone who is not ready to give me ANY information or who at least tries to get to know me more if he claims that he has feelings for me (which this guy certainly did!)
Whenever I want to talk to her about my worries the just blocks and says that "I met my boyfriend the same way." She just won't understand what I mean... sigh
With that being said, I wouldn't be more afraid of people I met online than I'd be of people I met in the "real life". Just to add this to some of the concerns here in this thread. Both can be the clich? axe murderer guy in the end. There's always a risk.
So.. as long as you meet your online boy/girlfriend in a safe place (crowded train station at the day time, city at the day time, caf?...) and get to know her/him better then, and as long as you always keep in mind to be careful, there's no more dangers than in a "regular" relationship.
I also think that because of the way I got to know my boyfriend it is very easy for us to talk about really everything that we can imagine! There's no subject that's a problem to talk about. Some of my friends ask me things about their relationship and I always think "Why do you ask me what HE is seeking in your relationship and your attitude!? HE has to know, not me!"
TL;DR: LDR, we met, 5 years happy now.
Be careful, friends!
Edit: Oh, if someone might question this: He is 21 now and I am 20. So we've known each other for about 7 years.
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I just recently got into a long distance relationship about 3 months ago. It originally was just a relationship,but he's going to be in
England for 4 years. *Backstory Time* We've known each other since we were 8(3rd grade) and now were
19 xD. So we've known each other for a loooong time. We got into an official relationship during our
Freshmen year so it's been about 3 years. After graduating he talked about visiting
New places and so now he's studying abroad in England. We're still getting used to it,but were getting it
Figured out ^^. It feels so different now. We've just had Skype conversations and text whenever we can.
With him he never has much free time and I'm going to be focusing on getting
Into college still. So it kinda sucks more with lack of free time
.
Its going to be a long 4 years but we're going go get through it xD ^^
England for 4 years. *Backstory Time* We've known each other since we were 8(3rd grade) and now were
19 xD. So we've known each other for a loooong time. We got into an official relationship during our
Freshmen year so it's been about 3 years. After graduating he talked about visiting
New places and so now he's studying abroad in England. We're still getting used to it,but were getting it
Figured out ^^. It feels so different now. We've just had Skype conversations and text whenever we can.
With him he never has much free time and I'm going to be focusing on getting
Into college still. So it kinda sucks more with lack of free time
.Its going to be a long 4 years but we're going go get through it xD ^^
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wow im like in the total opposite boat kinda
lolol i was really committed to this online relationship hoping it would become a long-distance one
but nope we drifted apart after not talking and then i broke it off because it was pressuring me and burdening me :V and they ignored me too so that was real rude
3months gone but im happier than ever so idk if they were worth it
#realjellyyouguysactuallygottomeettho
lolol i was really committed to this online relationship hoping it would become a long-distance one
but nope we drifted apart after not talking and then i broke it off because it was pressuring me and burdening me :V and they ignored me too so that was real rude
3months gone but im happier than ever so idk if they were worth it
#realjellyyouguysactuallygottomeettho
Mine started in 2009, met my partner in Death note forum. We started up joking with eachother all the time, when we looked at it we fell in love with each other.
I was still in Portugal back then and he was living in the UK(he was also portuguese), it was very hard but we've seen each other in September 2009 for the first time it lasted only four days but I will always remember them, then again in February he went to Portugal and March/April I came to visit UK for the first time, and decided to move to the UK to finish my studies,I've put my paperwork on college withou my father knowing about it.
We started having many fights in April, we both entered on depression but we've had a guardian angel (a friend) that put some sense on our heads.
He went to Portugal again in July and then I move to the UK in August, since then we are living together, it was only a year on a long distant relationship but I want some of you guys to learn, that it isn't impossible.
We are happy as we can be, having our life together, we still have some fights once in a while, which is more than normal.
We are both trying to go to Uni this year and living far away from his parents, by ourselves, without any help at all. I will basically have to quit my job and find another.
I can share more stories about our long distant experience but it will be a long text.
I was still in Portugal back then and he was living in the UK(he was also portuguese), it was very hard but we've seen each other in September 2009 for the first time it lasted only four days but I will always remember them, then again in February he went to Portugal and March/April I came to visit UK for the first time, and decided to move to the UK to finish my studies
,I've put my paperwork on college withou my father knowing about it. We started having many fights in April, we both entered on depression but we've had a guardian angel (a friend) that put some sense on our heads.
He went to Portugal again in July and then I move to the UK in August, since then we are living together, it was only a year on a long distant relationship but I want some of you guys to learn, that it isn't impossible.
We are happy as we can be, having our life together, we still have some fights once in a while, which is more than normal.
We are both trying to go to Uni this year and living far away from his parents, by ourselves, without any help at all. I will basically have to quit my job and find another.
I can share more stories about our long distant experience but it will be a long text.
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Mine started in 2009, met my partner in Death note forum. We started up joking with eachother all the time, when we looked at it we fell in love with each other.
I was still in Portugal back then and he was living in the UK(he was also portuguese), it was very hard but we've seen each other in September 2009 for the first time it lasted only four days but I will always remember them, then again in February he went to Portugal and March/April I came to visit UK for the first time, and decided to move to the UK to finish my studies
We started having many fights in April, we both entered on depression but we've had a guardian angel (a friend) that put some sense on our heads.
He went to Portugal again in July and then I move to the UK in August, since then we are living together, it was only a year on a long distant relationship but I want some of you guys to learn, that it isn't impossible.
We are happy as we can be, having our life together, we still have some fights once in a while, which is more than normal.
We are both trying to go to Uni this year and living far away from his parents, by ourselves, without any help at all. I will basically have to quit my job and find another.
I can share more stories about our long distant experience but it will be a long text.
Aww. This is cute and gives me hope, lol. Sounds similar to Steven and I, we had a period of fighting and everything. Lately he's been really stressed and we've kind of been snapping at each other.. He's thinking about my trip there because it won't be easy since he is having some family issues.. He doesn't want me to be around his family, so we need to stay somewhere else while I go such as his cousin's house or something.. No biggie, as long as I see him.
Stress can be bad for a relantionship. Which one of you is the laid back and the stressed? On my case, I'm the stressed and he is the laid back.
Its always good to be together after a time, if you have any problem between eachother you can always talk to me, I can try to help. I know how stressful it is and I do want to help someone like I was helped at the time.
I've always suffered from OCD but my OCD got worst at the time, once I came here things where still a bit bad but I got a therapist and got better. Basically I had the compulsive syndroms since I know myself but because of the stress and more things I've got the obcessive syndroms, I couldn't control my brain and it got pretty bad along with his jealousy.
Now he isn't jealous anymore and he has no reason to be, I'm actually the one that got more jealousy once in a while xD
No matter how bad it looks once in a while, don't give up if you really love each other. Good luck
I was stressed during the year so we weren't as lovey dovey and stuff, I had to pull my grades up or I was not going to be able to see him.
But he's stressed because of family issues right now, I'm okay I suppose.
Me and him are both possessive over each other. Most people don't like that in relationships but that's how we are and we enjoy it, to each their own, I suppose.
Yeah.. we aren't giving up. We thought we would once.. but of course I came crawling back.
But he's stressed because of family issues right now, I'm okay I suppose.
Me and him are both possessive over each other. Most people don't like that in relationships but that's how we are and we enjoy it, to each their own, I suppose.
Yeah.. we aren't giving up. We thought we would once.. but of course I came crawling back.
Stress is normal on a daily baisis but don't stress yourself too much, its not good for the relationship and neither is for you.I was stressed during the year so we weren't as lovey dovey and stuff, I had to pull my grades up or I was not going to be able to see him.
But he's stressed because of family issues right now, I'm okay I suppose.
Me and him are both possessive over each other. Most people don't like that in relationships but that's how we are and we enjoy it, to each their own, I suppose.
Yeah.. we aren't giving up. We thought we would once.. but of course I came crawling back.
We still are a bit possessive, they say we are siamese twins because we are always speaking with each other and together. We are not jealous of each other but our friends are mostly common and we always go out together, whenever one goes alone our families they really get admired, I don't think they understand that I don't have any friends in the UK.
It's very difficult for me to make friends because I don't like to meet people out of the blue.
We are pretty close to eachother, I really hope that once you get together that you can still be the same
. No matter how old is the relantionship you will always need to keep it fresh
