You know something? Why haven't I had many users here following me or me following them? What did I do to deserve this fate?
I don't wanna jump to conclusions here, but I may just be one of the most shunned users on the whole forums or something, then again I may just not give the friendships to others myself because I'm afraid of the backlash being negative. Yes, I have had made a few major negative reputation choices here, but there really is no cost to trying to form some friendly gestures to make some TBT friends here I guess... For one part I'm lazy and forget, which may be one of the reasons why. I don't even tell anyone Happy Birthday when most are doing it, only when I feel like it.
Maybe one day I'll fight the nervousness and hope for the best. After all you guys trust me right? (No seriously, after what happened on Discord several days ago I don't know anymore...)
If it makes you feel any better:
1: I got like 0 followers
2 This is supposed to be a friendly/safe space. if there's any extreme negative backlash (threats, etc) just report it :]
3: Don't beat yourself up about birthdays. People in real life forget mine a lot, so I don't know why people online feel the need to remember. This might sound bad, but I didn't even know
how to bring up people's birthdays until recently, so you're not alone
4: I've got no idea what happened on discord. several times in the last few days I close it for half an hour, and come back to everything everywhere all at once. this morning for example I checked in at 6am. I then looked back in on it at 7am, and there was 14,000 messages according to the little blue bar.
At the end of the day, we're all just people trying to do something meaningful. As long as you're not being a piece of [sheesh], and are respectful online there shouldn't be any reason for people to dislike you. If the stuff
online is stressing you out, then step back and take a break. You're not obliged to spend every second of your free time online, and for example, if someone is pinging and @ ing you and it's annoying or hurtful, turn your phone off. Shut down your computer. Just relax, maybe go for a walk.
(sorry if this was a bit long : )