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TBT Confessions
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boujee
Senior Member
Probably. I have no idea what you went through compared to what I did but usually when someone bullies is sorta like a rinse and repeat type thing. I was bullied and a pretty angry kid so I let it out on some people who didn't deserve it. I came to realization that I didn't want other people to go what I went through and I went out my way to go apologize fully. Most bullies are bullies base off peer pressure and problems at home or within themselves(especially during teenage years where mostly everyone has insecurity and need some type of validation). That's up to you if you want to forgive them or not. People aren't perfect and neither are you. If someone is willing to even "kiss your feet" and are generally sorry then I don't see why that couldn't possibly be a new start?
I ended up being quite protective and now I tend to call out bullies. The girl who I let move schools is quite sweet to me and actually help me with my anger. Not sure if it's a approvement though but pace yourself. It's human nature to change.
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satine
is it better to speak or to die?
"Probably". Thanks...
If you genuinely apologized and tried to make up for it that's one thing, good on you, and that's a different case than what I meant -- they aren't genuine and did not do it nicely. They are doing it solely to 'save face', if they wanted to actually apologize they would do it without making sure people heard them or butt in to defend themselves when I am telling others why I left the district in a separate conversation. I am not going to get into the extent of which I was stirred because nobody has time for that but it was enough to send me to therapy for being a danger to myself and leave the school for a long time for a much less opportunistic one. (Which messed up my credits.)
I did not intend to attack you so it is my mistake if this was taken in that way, but when I was talking about forgiveness I was talking about letting go of the inner grudge or the hurt they caused.
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Corrie
✨ Got Ring?
I wouldn't forgive them if they are only doing it for their ego. That's just being trashy and they haven't learnt a thing. However, I know it is harder said than done, try not to think about how crappy they are on a daily basis. They don't deserve anymore of your time or thoughts.
boujee
Senior Member
The probably was mostly on how you'll take it. Not to degrade you or anything but I wouldn't know how a "yeah!" will be since we're having this conversation of bullies(and I am one to you believe).
Those people are just *******s. But they're either still to insecurity to get out of that complex or that's just their personality(which can still change). I wouldn't forgive someone if it was a half-assed attempt. But I guess my belief is to not try to become something you're obligated in hating. I hated bullied and I ended up being one. When you mention the "I'll never forgive you despite what you do" type tone just reminds me of those cartoons where the guy/gal gets back at someone who did them wrong and they end up realizing that they ended up being someone they despise the most. It's best to pity those people for they don't know any better than you do. That's why I mention that I'm not sure if it was a approvement that I apologized to the girl because she properly think of me as lowly as you think of bullies.
satine
is it better to speak or to die?
Not becoming something you hate makes sense. I have friends who did. And there are people I know who did not. I never did because I never did anything back, all I said in my confession was: I will probably never forgive them personally, innerly, and that to not only you but to anybody who has bulled -- expecting forgiveness can be tricky, which I never meant or did in an attacking manner. I do not believe still struggling with forgiveness and not really wanting to try to improve for people who have pushed me to physical and emotional unhealthiness + suicidal attempts while they have yet to be sincere would be becoming somebody that I hate, if that is what you are trying to say. I think of bullies as low, yes, people who actively pick on others is pretty low? I don't really think anything of people who have done it in the past but have come to realize their wrongdoings, though, and I never said I thought lowly of them.
I hope you don't take my personal confession wrongly. I'll go reword it I guess.
tybalt_cake
heavymetallover
debinoresu
you foolish fool
i have double accounts on almost every website (not this one at least) because i tend to get embarrassed by myself and want to start over so i just make a new account and barely pretend im someone else lmao
N a t
In the name of the Moon, Indeedaroo!
I'm having a hard time deciding whether or not friends are worth having. I have basically narrowed my irl friends down to 3 people, and I question whether or not I should even try anymore, on a weekly basis. Especially with one friend in particular. He is extremely questionable right now. He responds to less than half of my messages, but I see him chatting with others in our group chat on skype, and he talks about all of these things he does and places he goes with the people I like to call his "cool friends". I love him as a friend too much to end it, but at the same time all I want to do is end this. I do a lot for him. I've lied, kept secrets, given him money, and a lot more. I dunno what I'm doing lol.
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This isn't just about him ignoring me though, even though that's a major issue I have with him...
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This isn't just about him ignoring me though, even though that's a major issue I have with him...
seliph
free palestine
How does that work though?
If a person is telling you they don't believe in mermaids, then humans who don't believe in mermaids clearly exist as one is right in front of you. What.
