Definitely gatekeeping exists and we don't stan it, but I feel like in some cases it's also a matter of, the people with heavily-terraformed islands, popular villagers, etc are always the ones you see posting, and while there's nothing wrong with that (!) some people tend to take note of it and wonder why they don't see their approach represented as often or at all. So we want to feel like we're not alone in doing whatever, we want to feel affirmed, so we post threads about it. Sometimes no one's telling anyone outright how to play, but it's more like our psychological need to be understood/accepted gets triggered when most of the content we see doesn't represent how we play. And since this is a "community," (likely younger) people come here hoping to be affirmed... and end up being scolded, often harshly/coldly, because they shouldn't seek that affirmation from others who don't actually care about their opinion/feelings or feel like trying to understand them.
Now, one could say we shouldn't respond to that feeling and "play how we want," and that's valid, but the reality is comparison's a thing some of us just do as people. And it's a huge motivator behind these kinda threads. Is it ideal? Well no, but people won't stop feeling this way/posting threads about it unless perhaps we do end up seeing more content from that wider variety of play styles represented. Which probably won't happen. Is it a "you problem"? Possibly. I suspect it's more likely just a humanity problem. The problem of a hostile society and trying to get a human desire met where it's not offered. That doesn't make anyone dumb/inferior for doing so, it just represents a broken world, and growing up in it means learning to navigate that brokenness. yes I will get philosphical/spiritual with this and you can't stop me
And idk, I can't tell anyone to be anything, but personally I'd prefer to be gentle about it with people. I mean I don't expect the hostility/aggression to go away ever tHIs iS ThE iNtErNeT, but just... "play how you want," even with the best of intentions, sometimes comes out like "I don't care about you or your life choices and you should be grateful for that and your thread/feelings are worthless." And in some ways that makes sense, and I know not everyone means it like that, but also... I kinda hate reading those comments. I (again, can't speak for anyone else but) would really not appreciate it if I were the OP. Like bro honestly just don't comment if that's all you've got to say to me. I mean I get the hustle for TBT but really. -Sorry, should I have kept this to myself? Not tryna fight anyone, just frustrated at what I don't understand. Preaching to the choir most likely. Maybe it's just gotten old for me to see the same indifferent response on every other thread and I've lost appreciation/patience for it.
And like, it's valid to notice the high tier villagers in everyone's sig and wonder why we don't see more of our favorite less-popular villagers being represented, but mentioning that while maintaining that you have nothing against the high tier villagers being popular without accusations of "gatekeeper!!" being thrown around is a delicate balance. Sucks how much we have to defend our every statement so people don't make cynical assumptions about us and give us salt for it, but that's just the reality of online text-based communication I guess. I'm just as guilty of that as anyone. Probably within this post...