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I’ve been so much happier since deleting my Facebook. I’m pretty sure I deleted it in October two years ago. It’s a shame you can’t even ask for simple advice on there without being trolled or having people insulting your appearance. It’s just a bunch of low blows.
I’m content with the amount of people I currently talk to, although it’s not a lot of people. I know people have large groups of friends, but I’m fine with having a few genuine people in my life. It’s just strange how you’re considered an outcast when you don’t have 30+ friends.
I’ve been so much happier since deleting my Facebook. I’m pretty sure I deleted it in October two years ago. It’s a shame you can’t even ask for simple advice on there without being trolled or having people insulting your appearance. It’s just a bunch of low blows.
I’m content with the amount of people I currently talk to, although it’s not a lot of people. I know people have large groups of friends, but I’m fine with having a few genuine people in my life. It’s just strange how you’re considered an outcast when you don’t have 30+ friends.
I know how you feel on both points. I find Facebook to be a place of vanity when it comes to life in general as everyone is just showing off certain aspects of their lives for the sake of a popularity contest via likes and comments. To be honest though every social media site is a place where it breeds rude people, whether it's through opinions or conversations towards others and let's not forget about the online trolls as well.
I'm the same as you though when it comes to how many friends I have, I've always said I'd rather be alone and happy than have a large group of "friends" that make me feel completely alone in the long term. Sometimes it's best to keep your social circle small and know who you can count on when you really need them the most.
can i just say, i hate therapy. not the actual process of it, but the businesses behind it? i can't get my medicine until i pay off a balance on my therapy account which isnt even that high. it's like $100 but they refuse to refill my meds before its paid off which i think is absolute bull.
thank god they're not necessary meds. it's just for ADHD. but if i had severe depression and relied on these i'd be SOL.
edit: also my therapist doesnt take my ADHD seriously which <33333 LOVE THAT THANKS <3333333 WHAT AM I PAYING YOU FOR )))))))))))))))))
This is such a simple thought, but: sometimes hearing something you’ve heard from other people, or evern tried telling yourself, is a lot better coming from the right person. When you know they understand what you’re trying to say.
I hate today. I hate that I am so busy with work. I hate that the work i do complete is never enough. I hate everything. I haven’t had a day off other than sundays in forever. im tired of working 6 days a week and im tired of everyone assuming everyone else is just able to do anything at any time. im pissed at the world and every single human in existence just short of my nephew and s/o. I hate it all.
Well, I actually hung out with someone for the first time. It seems like I haven’t had any genuine connections with people until last year. It sounds negative, but I’m being completely honest. I’d talk to people at work or casually on forums, but it’d never go beyond that. I wasn’t exactly making an effort, but this is a mutual thing. The other person was lacking effort, as well.
I haven’t felt a genuine connection with someone this much than with my favorite person, who I did hang out with. I like how she makes an effort to progress things and treating me like an actual person despite my anxiety/BPD. I appreciate how she doesn’t make me feel bad for not feeling comfortable with certain things like large parties, for example, while still ensuring me I’m always invited. And she’s always willing to hang out one on one with me.
I guess I talk to two other people who are in their own friend group, but idk if I necessarily feel part of it. I don’t think their third mutual friend is particularly fond of me. I don’t think I’m as close with them as they are with each other. I used to think I’m incapable of genuine connections, but it may be the places I’m looking, because I feel comfortable talking to people but things rarely ever progress beyond casual talk.
Siiigh. Does anyone find it really difficult to get out of bed most days..? I suffer from Bipolar (II with rapid cycling), BPD, and I have severe anxiety and depression. My paranoia is also VERY. VERY BAD.
Recently, I haven't.. been taking my meds, so yes, it's pretty much my fault that I feel the way I do. My medications are pretty much life saving; without them, I wouldn't.. really be here ;;
I don't know why I stopped taking them. I want to blame the ADHD, it makes it so hard to remember to take them. I take my ADHD pill in the morning, or well, I'm supposed to. But I forget. So that makes me forget to take EVERYTHING else that day, and night.. My mood swings have been absolutely abhorrent, and my mom has threatened me with the psych ward card 3 times in the past three weeks already..
I just feel like..? Things are getting worse, but I know that's only because I haven't exactly been taking my medications.
A few weeks ago I took waaay too many antidepressants because I was having a really rough day mentally, physically, AND emotionally. I was an absolute trainwreck. I wasn't thinking when I took them either. It was very impulsive, and I regret it. I called my mom when I realized what I did. And she had to stay on the phone with me for 2-3 hours to make sure I was okay. And then she made my brother take away all of my medications. :^| So, it had been almost a month without them. And the longer I go without them, the worse I get. I'm talking s**cidal ideations every day, that just get waaaaaaaaay too hard to ignore. And the thing is, I hate feeling like a burden to everyone, so I don't speak up because I.. don't want anyone to worry. I know it's bad. I know I should talk to someone. But I feel guilty putting that burden onto somebody else. I'm in therapy, I have a psychiatrist.. yet... It's still really hard for me to open up to anybody about how I feel. I've been considering going back to inpatient therapy, but I can't miss work for that long.. I have bills to pay, I'm the 'best my job has'? I feel so responsible for my job/coworkers (not even sure if this is the right way to word it), even though I'm just a measly cashier. It's getting to a point where working isn't my escape anymore. It is just making things worse.
I don't know how to tell my boss I need time away from work. I don't want to quit or stop working. I just need time off. I'm too mentally unstable to be working with people. Especially every other 2 seconds I'm on the clock. Every day I've worked in the past month or two, I've cried, or had a meltdown, or whatever. I enjoy my job, I love interacting with others (most of the time), but it's becoming too much for me right now. My boss is middle-aged, aaaand very conservative. I don't think she'd understand what I'm going through. I don't know how to bring it up to her. And I don't really want to give her an ultimatum either; like 'I need time off for a while, or I'm quitting', because that just sounds.. mean... T^T
Anyways.. Enough venting/ranting. I come with a question!
To everyone here who takes medication, how do you remember to take them every day as prescribed? Setting reminders doesn't help me.. I dismiss it, with the intention of taking them; then I get distracted and side-tracked, and forget.. T^T
Siiigh. Does anyone find it really difficult to get out of bed most days..? I suffer from Bipolar (II with rapid cycling), BPD, and I have severe anxiety and depression. My paranoia is also VERY. VERY BAD.
Recently, I haven't.. been taking my meds, so yes, it's pretty much my fault that I feel the way I do. My medications are pretty much life saving; without them, I wouldn't.. really be here ;;
I don't know why I stopped taking them. I want to blame the ADHD, it makes it so hard to remember to take them. I take my ADHD pill in the morning, or well, I'm supposed to. But I forget. So that makes me forget to take EVERYTHING else that day, and night.. My mood swings have been absolutely abhorrent, and my mom has threatened me with the psych ward card 3 times in the past three weeks already..
I just feel like..? Things are getting worse, but I know that's only because I haven't exactly been taking my medications.
A few weeks ago I took waaay too many antidepressants because I was having a really rough day mentally, physically, AND emotionally. I was an absolute trainwreck. I wasn't thinking when I took them either. It was very impulsive, and I regret it. I called my mom when I realized what I did. And she had to stay on the phone with me for 2-3 hours to make sure I was okay. And then she made my brother take away all of my medications. :^| So, it had been almost a month without them. And the longer I go without them, the worse I get. I'm talking s**cidal ideations every day, that just get waaaaaaaaay too hard to ignore. And the thing is, I hate feeling like a burden to everyone, so I don't speak up because I.. don't want anyone to worry. I know it's bad. I know I should talk to someone. But I feel guilty putting that burden onto somebody else. I'm in therapy, I have a psychiatrist.. yet... It's still really hard for me to open up to anybody about how I feel. I've been considering going back to inpatient therapy, but I can't miss work for that long.. I have bills to pay, I'm the 'best my job has'? I feel so responsible for my job/coworkers (not even sure if this is the right way to word it), even though I'm just a measly cashier. It's getting to a point where working isn't my escape anymore. It is just making things worse.
I don't know how to tell my boss I need time away from work. I don't want to quit or stop working. I just need time off. I'm too mentally unstable to be working with people. Especially every other 2 seconds I'm on the clock. Every day I've worked in the past month or two, I've cried, or had a meltdown, or whatever. I enjoy my job, I love interacting with others (most of the time), but it's becoming too much for me right now. My boss is middle-aged, aaaand very conservative. I don't think she'd understand what I'm going through. I don't know how to bring it up to her. And I don't really want to give her an ultimatum either; like 'I need time off for a while, or I'm quitting', because that just sounds.. mean... T^T
Anyways.. Enough venting/ranting. I come with a question!
To everyone here who takes medication, how do you remember to take them every day as prescribed? Setting reminders doesn't help me.. I dismiss it, with the intention of taking them; then I get distracted and side-tracked, and forget.. T^T
You can buy one of those tablet reminder cases. Me personally just remembers, been taking them so long it’s ingrained into my routine
MBRO Pill Box Organizer 7 Day Tablet Storage Case Medication Work Supplement Vitamins Portable Small Items Tablets Weekly Reminder for Medicine Travel Dispenser Assorted Color Size15cmX2cm(1Pc Only) https://amzn.eu/d/bzQV66E
Anyways.. Enough venting/ranting. I come with a question!
To everyone here who takes medication, how do you remember to take them every day as prescribed? Setting reminders doesn't help me.. I dismiss it, with the intention of taking them; then I get distracted and side-tracked, and forget.. T^T
I'm a very schedule-oriented person so I find it easy to work my medication into that schedule. I pick something I usually do at the same time each day, like eating lunch, and put my pills in a very visible place so I don't forget to take them. Most of my meds need to be taken with food anyway so I just line them up with a meal. But if yours don't need to be taken with food, you could pick anything. Put them on the sink next to your toothbrush if that's the first thing you do every morning, for example.
Another suggestion is don't dismiss the reminder until you've actually taken your meds. That way if you get distracted, the next time you check your phone the reminder will still be there.
You really should talk to someone, though, based on the severity of what it sounds like you're going through. People who love you won't consider it a burden.
If my posts in the “What’s Bothering You” thread weren’t obvious, I have a lot of trauma and don’t have the best therapy. My therapists only focus on the chemical side of my mental health issues and neglect the rest. This has led to me feeling better mentally on average, but I still ruminate a lot. My brain just sees things that remind me of my past and thinks “remember when ___ happened?” Then I replay the entire traumatic event in my head until something else catches my attention. My brain also latches onto rude people on street and ruminates on what they did until I move on. Comments I’ve gotten like “you’re fat and ugly,” or “you’re a freak” stick in my mind. It has gotten better. Instead of those petty comments sticking for years I usually move on within a few weeks. At least with that I’m doing better.
I also didn’t get diagnosed with ADHD until a few weeks ago because the symptoms weren’t too debilitating until the pandemic. I was miserable from not being able to memorize directions, sit through college lectures, or even focus on my hobbies. With my new medication I can actually get things done. If only I knew about it sooner…
You can buy one of those tablet reminder cases. Me personally just remembers, been taking them so long it’s ingrained into my routine
MBRO Pill Box Organizer 7 Day Tablet Storage Case Medication Work Supplement Vitamins Portable Small Items Tablets Weekly Reminder for Medicine Travel Dispenser Assorted Color Size15cmX2cm(1Pc Only) https://amzn.eu/d/bzQV66E
I have a pill organizer already ;v; It's just.. so difficult to remember like 90% of the time. However, my dad usually reminds me before he leaves for work with a text message so when I wake up to go downstairs, I remember to take them. Since the text message is the first thing I normally see when I check my phone in the morning. ;v; Thank you so much though! :3
I'm a very schedule-oriented person so I find it easy to work my medication into that schedule. I pick something I usually do at the same time each day, like eating lunch, and put my pills in a very visible place so I don't forget to take them. Most of my meds need to be taken with food anyway so I just line them up with a meal. But if yours don't need to be taken with food, you could pick anything. Put them on the sink next to your toothbrush if that's the first thing you do every morning, for example.
Another suggestion is don't dismiss the reminder until you've actually taken your meds. That way if you get distracted, the next time you check your phone the reminder will still be there.
You really should talk to someone, though, based on the severity of what it sounds like you're going through. People who love you won't consider it a burden.
Thank you so much ;v; I have a tendency to dismiss the reminder with the idea that I'm going to take them ASAP. But then I get side-tracked.. but that is a really good idea that I didn't think of :0
Normally when I wake up in the morning I'm nauseated from sinus drainage so I don't like taking my morning medications the second I wake up, that's another reason why I always forget xwx My pill organizer is on top of the fridge so it's sort of in sight? But at the same time, my parents are almost always in the kitchen after work. So it's easy to remember bc they're in there trying to remind me to take them >w>
I think another thing is, I do want to talk to somebody about my issues but.. I have this mindset that it's just going to bother them, or that they'll be really concerned.. I don't want the people I love to feel worried about me.. ;v; It just makes me feel guilty, I'm not sure why. I also need a new therapist, my current one believes there's absolutely nothing wrong with me. Despite being diagnosed bipolar AND BPD. He thinks I don't have either because I don't 'hate' people? What kind of sense does that make. I don't want a counselor who bashes mental illnesses like that. -w-
Normally when I wake up in the morning I'm nauseated from sinus drainage so I don't like taking my morning medications the second I wake up, that's another reason why I always forget xwx
I understand that. I'm also always nauseated in the morning so I've found it's just too difficult for me to take pills then. I can't force them down. I have one pill I'm supposed to take in the morning, but I take it around noon instead. I'm on a 12 hour schedule for meds so I take them at noon and midnight. That works better for me and I haven't had any problems with it, but since I don't know your meds I don't want to screw you up. So definitely consult with your parents, pharmacist, or doctor before making any significant changes to when you take them.
I LOVE MY NEW THERAPIST!! ok so after my meltdown here in this thread about therapy cost, a lot of great things happened. got a raise, got a new therapist at a better rate, and everything has been going smoothly. i feel like im able to talk to my therapist openly and he kind of lets me lead discussion with just asking a question or two, and doesnt give many "yes or no" questions and instead asks something that i can answer with my own words.
he's taking my anger and emotional issues seriously. like, actually willing to help instead of just linking me to some stupid breathing exercise and figure out why my emotions are so strong. he's not blaming my lack of motivation on laziness and isn't forcing me to do a stupid planner/schedule for my ADHD. and he's actually willing to work with me on getting an official diagnosis for autism. i've wondered if i'm autistic for years and years and this is the first person i've talk to in all my years of therapy that doesn't blow it off as "girls don't get autism."
i can't believe this. things are going pretty GOOD actually and im EXCITED to go to therapy. so excited that i don't forget my appointments like my last few therapists! I feel like work is ACTUALLY being done and it's WORKING.
I can tell you that at one point I questioned even the person I’m closest to right now, and I had no justification to do so other than my own paranoia. This happened a few months ago but sometimes I wonder why I had these thoughts to begin with and it hit me. I was letting what other people say get into my head. You just can’t form opinions based on words from other people, and you can’t live your life thinking everyone is the same. It’ll close you off from meeting some amazing people.
Spot on to what I'm dealing with right now. I feel like my own brother is using me/doesn't respect me as much as I respect him, but I have no proof, it's just my paranoia. I've been diagnosed with major depression and schizophrenia.
with the help of my older sister who sent the initial emails, i've booked my first ever therapy sessions with 2 different people near me to help me out with my shyness / social anxiety ! im ready to start the journey of growing in confidence (hopefully) when im face to face with strangers!!
I recently (in the last six months) received a BPD diagnosis. I'd suspected it for a while, but was surprised at how disheartening making it official was, having heard how difficult it can be to manage. Haven't had much luck with DBT thus far and am between mental health professionals atm after having some grievances with my last one.
Hi. I left this site because of a mental breakdown but I think I'm ready to come back.
I've been anxious. So, so anxious. More than I ever had before. Debilitating, frozen in bed, sky is falling anxiety. For more than a month? 3 weeks ago I had an awful panic attack and it left an impression on me. I couldn't go on with life and it was scary. Today I said a lot of things to friends, revealed my secrets and let myself be emotionally vulnerable and I felt... Good. Cathartic. Released. I feel just okay now. The anxiety is still there but I feel so, so ready for it.
My support group is everything to me. I appreciate everything. I'm so ready to get on with my life
I can tell you that at one point I questioned even the person I’m closest to right now, and I had no justification to do so other than my own paranoia. This happened a few months ago but sometimes I wonder why I had these thoughts to begin with and it hit me. I was letting what other people say get into my head. You just can’t form opinions based on words from other people, and you can’t live your life thinking everyone is the same. It’ll close you off from meeting some amazing people.
Wow...it seems like a lot of people are in this same situation, and I'll be one to put my name in the same hat.
I was paranoid for months. (Still kinda am, I guess)...but I have gotten better at feeling the onset of it and steering myself in a different direction. - For me, it is this girl who I was romantically involved with for the past year...(who I do consider my best friend). Long story short, she stopped wanting to be romantic at one point...but assured me that she just wanted space and wasn't actually seeing anyone else.
Then things just continued to get stranger and stranger after that, as she continued to say and do things that just didn't feel like they made any sense. - I grew more and more anxious and started to doubt her more, which made her push me away more (of course). - She claims that she "loves me dearly" and wants to remain close...but she makes no real effort to even keep in touch most of the time. She tells me I'm trying to "control her"...and this couldn't be further from the truth. (I know she has had a history of very controlling relationships). But, I went from spending several days a week at her house (sleeping over, etc)...to the point where I now have not been over there in 21 days.
At this point, I'm honestly just giving up on our friendship, because it feels like I'm being pulled around on a short leash while she takes all the time and space that she wants. - On countless occasions I've felt gaslit and used, or straight-up lied to. - It's hard, because everything in my system wants to see her as the person I loved and trusted (which means I that inherently doubt that she could ever be cruel in any way)...but, things continue to get harder and harder as time goes on and she continues to ignore me or use me when it is convenient for her.
I'm not trying to be naïve. - I'm not trying to mend a relationship if one doesn't exist. - I honestly just don't know why some people are incapable of taking responsibility for treating other people a certain way. (Her latest thing is that she says she isn't responsible for how anyone else feels). I get the sentiment behind saying something like this. (Kind of an "I'm only responsible for making myself feel safe" kind of thing)...which I respect. But, she really is missing a big part of what makes relationships work (even plutonic friendships).
The place I'm at now is unfortunately one of giving up entirely. - I had hoped we would stay close. But it is not feeling this way at all. - I recently spoke with her on the phone, and she always tells me "we'll talk soon" or "I'll see you soon". But soon doesn't have any sort of actual timeframe on it, and it keeps being pushed back. So...yeah, I'm giving up. I beat myself up about it for a long time. Can't do it anymore. - And the part that bothers me the most, is that I will continue to be here if she does reach out (because I can't write her off if I don't have any proof that she actually has lied to me or done something cruel to me). - I'm an honest and loyal person. I'm not going to abandon someone just because I'm paranoid about motives that might not actually exist. - If she is being honest and only wants time to herself, then I'm a jerk for being triggered by this. But if there is something else going on...then I am the last person in the world who appreciates being used and lied to. - It's really tough. And I still don't choose to see her as someone who could do this.
Anyway, that was a lot. Lol. But it always feels good to lay it all out for people who are impartial. - Of course, I've learned over time that friends will just say "dude, she's using you"...so I feel isolated from them. And the other side of that are the people on her side, who say "just give her time". - In the end, it becomes a big muddy mess that is impossible to navigate...and it has done quite the number on my mental state. Made me doubt almost everybody I know, tbh.
Does anyone else experience this? I like something. I like it because I enjoy it. But someone I don’t necessarily get along with and would go as far to say I dislike them also likes it… He likes it a lot. He sometimes talks about it and even listens to it at work. And it’s kinda tainted my view on the thing because it reminds me of him. I still like it, but I don’t know if I can enjoy it as much because of this.
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