piimisu said:
Sorry if my post offended you. I wasn't talking about people who are worried or unconfident, but those who deliberately lie, defy logic, and pretend they're terrible when they're not for pity. Yes, I do know people like this, no they are not the norm, and I certainly was not talking about you, considering I don't know you.
Being worried you'll do badly on something and KNOWING you'll do fine and pretending you won't are completely different things. Due to the program I'm in, a lot of my peers are very uh, meticulous about their grades. If someone literally copies the answers for a multiple choice test off the marking key and cheats on the test, is it really fair for them to say they "definitely did worse" than their friend who answered all the questions legitimately?
In my example of two students submitting the same work, it's not a problem if one thinks they'll
both do bad, but it is if they irrationally believe that one will get a perfect score and the other will fail. Anyone who is smart enough to answer the questions correctly is smart enough to know that doesn't make sense. If their teacher does give them different marks, they can simply ask them to fix it.
I can't say I know how you feel since I wasn't raised like you, but thinking that 100% is the only mark that you'll accept because you're smart and talented, but other people who worked just as hard as you should be happy with 75% (or any other mark) since they're dumb white kids (or any other ridiculous justification) is really elitist and patronizing.
"Maybe they don't want your fcking compliments" -- I'm talking about others complimenting me on my grades and in the same breath saying they did worse while objectively, they did better. I don't understand how these people can care so much about their own feelings yet fail to see how others can be offended when they say essentially say "hey, math idiot! here's a compliment, you owe me a better compliment now since I deserve it. thanks lol"
I think you misinterpreted my post (and I can certainly see why you did). I admit that I could have worded it better, but I'm not going to change my views. Sorry that my post "hurt" you, but if you're actually doing the kind of stuff I talked about, you're hurting everyone else.
[I can't explain my thoughts in detail without getting really personal/sensitive so uh pm me if this is really, really infuriating you]