What's Bothering You?

My dad's whole personality at this point is politics. It's not as bad as my grandma who's is openly homophobic, transphobic and racist to the point where she talks about it publicly. I made the decision a few months ago to block her, but I feel guilty about it sometimes because I feel like I'm not giving her a chance. Like, I didn't even give her a chance to accept me.

Also, my dad said today that Trump supports everyone and not just those who support him. He said this in response to myself saying that while not every conservative person is homophobic, those who are just happen to be republican. I feel like we can't go an entire day without having a conversation about politics, and tbh it's never positive. I grew up having to listen to my grandma spew hateful ****, in public, no less. I remember having to pretend that I had no idea who she was as a child because she would say the most embarrassing or blatantly hateful things. My dad doesn't do it in public, but sometimes I'll hear a derogatory word from the other room and he'll openly root against someone else due to their ethnicity or skin color (ie: on Family Feud or WWE, for example). I question him about it, and he'll just brush it off like "I'm not racist, I just hate [insert word you can probably guess here.]"
 
Do I come off as -snip-

I don't think you're cranky at all; you did great running and playing games here, which takes a lot of effort/motivation to do.

As for irl - I'm awful at advice, so please just ignore me if I'm way off.

I can't really address the social thing, bcuz I'm not social irl. But I guess overall, first figure out what you want your life to look like and be like - what would you truly enjoy? Then you can figure out how to make that happen.

Not having your own place can be rough. It's hard to make your own space, style, life. Being on your own does make a big difference. But financially it can be so rough now. If you can't afford to live on your own, but you really do want to live on your own, maybe finding a better financial situation would help?

Maybe check for good trade programs if they have those in your state/area? One of my kids saved up enough $ for a year of living expenses while living at home (didn't want to take out student loans), then enrolled in a 2 yr trade program, moved to the city where the program was, and got a position at the company that co-sponsored the program after graduating. Sometimes those trade programs help get a better paycheck.

It seems like you might be stuck in a rut? Not really happy with current living situation, but unable to change it. Don't feel like going out, but feel like you're missing out. Maybe you could have a therapist help you develop a whole self- discovery and building life goals type thing? Sorry I'm not more helpful.
Hope things work out for you!
 
@TN4U I agree wholeheartedly with Betsy but if it’s okay to ask, have you ever tried antidepressants? They’re hit-or-miss for me, but if you’re able to get some, maybe they would work for you.

I think you should try to get away from your family if they’re keeping you down. Even if it’s not the case, you can look back and see that you were able to get past them.

Also, good luck with therapy.
 
update on this. saw the doctor yesterday, and after talking about my symptoms, we were able to the come to the conclusion that this is pretty much entirely muscular. I have tension in my shoulders that has built up for... probably years at this point. the doctor said that the muscles in my shoulders feel super tight, and they honestly have for quite a long time now. that's probably why I feel tense so often, it's because my muscles are literally tense and painful to the touch. it's understandable that falling would cause so much strain in my neck muscles and cause headaches and migraines for me.

and the thing is, I've known about this. my muscles have been tense for as long as I can remember. I did research months ago on local massage therapists, and they were all too expensive for me to afford. half an hour is generally $55-65, and an hour is easily $110+. when I talked to my mum about it yesterday she thought it was $20 for a half hour. if that was the case I would've had this done a long time ago!

I did set up an intake session with a local chiropractor, just because it wouldn't hurt to get my spine realigned and all that, but really what I need is a deep tissue massage. I just don't know where to go where they won't charge me $60 for a half hour session, I probably need to go once a week and I certainly cannot afford that.

but I really, really need this. I have now woken up with a headache every day for the last two weeks. last night I went to bed early because my headache turned into a migraine again. I can't keep doing this and feeling miserable every single day. 😞
A bit of a late reply, but I understand how you feel with muscle tension 💕 I’ve been struggling with tension for years, probably due to stress and anxiety. If it’s cheaper or you have a bath at home, going to a spa or using epsom salts does wonders. I’m not sure if you’re sensory adverse to heat/wet, but I loooove a hot pool. Otherwise for small areas, a wheat bag works really well too. If you have tension in your shoulders, doing exercises also helps as well. Just thought I’d put out a few options that might help and might be cheaper for you 😊
 
I gave my emergency funds to my dad for the apartment search. I was unfairly fired from my job and haven’t been getting good hours at all since then. My paychecks have been less than $50 each week because of it. I have to come up with $300 in 7 days for something dental related that I’d rather not reschedule.

Why can’t life be simpler? Why is money the thing I’m stressing about instead of the actual procedure? It looks like I’ll just have to say **** the appointment, or ask to borrow money. No, it’s not covered by insurance either.

I hate my old manager, and how hard it is to find a job that gives reasonable hours. This is making me hate America.
 
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Not doing good today; I am sure I’ll be better once I take my medicine. Right now, I’m having trouble getting myself to get up and do that and eat. A lot is bothering me now; some recent and other just stuff that has been building up. I’m starting to feel out of place again and am worrying that I’m annoying. I still miss my best friend; at the same time thoughts about him make me upset. I’m really sad and just feeling hopeless.
 
I'm a little bothered about something. I kind of think it's minor, but I need to talk about it.

My brother was talking to one of his friends on the phone while we were cleaning the kitchen. He acts differently around his friends, and I can tell. I had to stand there for nearly an hour washing dishes and hearing him talk **** about our school teachers. Not to mention that he talks loudly and I already have a headache. It honestly sounds like nothing now that I type it out, but I was pretty damn annoyed. I just don't like hearing that kind of negativity. Despite me telling him to tone it down, he just ignores me. Meh, at least he didn't give me the usual, "Shut the **** up, [expletive]"...

I had to step outside for a bit because I was getting sick of hearing my brother talk. I feel like I shouldn't be upset, because I'm expecting people to act like this in the real world. What am I gonna do, tell everyone to shut up? The way I see it, I should just suck it up and stop complaining. I don't know, man.

Vaguely related: After hearing my brother talk about our teachers and school, I couldn't stop thinking about my own school experiences, and it just put me in a worse mood. I know I only graduated last month, but I'd rather not dwell on that part of my life; It's too painful.
 
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tapering off an SSRI during this awful humid weather is actually evil. i love having no energy, not being able to think and feeling sick.
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Have to go to UC tomorrow in person because they couldn't verify my identity when I was applying for it 🫠
To verify they wanted two out of three options: passport, car licence or credit card. I only had one.

Literally annoyed about all this. Omg.
Hopefully those jobs I applied for will lead to something 👏
 
I can't tell if my job that's only scheduling me for half hour and one hour shifts actually wants me there. I feel like they're trying to make me quit so I can't file for unemployment. I can't tell if this is just in my head or if this is true. I suppose I should be grateful I'm even getting shifts, considering some people are having trouble even finding a job. 💀 It makes me feel like my anger is unjustified and that I should be grateful for what I have: Two hour work weeks, if that.
 
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