Do I come off as somewhat cranky and unmotivated to anyone here? I think it's a big reason why I've lost all my friends in real life.
I rarely have motivation to get out of the house except for work, to get food, or buy stuff for myself. I could recall a few times when my friends would occasionally reach out to have me hang with them somewhere, but half the time, would turn them down because "I had other priorities". In reality, said priorities were:
Other than family, I also promised a co-worker to start working out at a gym. The first week was alright, but then I became super sore in the upper body area over the weekend, and I couldn't sleep some nights as I'm a side sleeper. I wasn't ready to do this again. I tried telling him a few times the next week that I wasn't feeling it to work out with him, but he began to "force" me to come, and I had to start ghosting him as a result. It doesn't feel like the right thing to do, but with both the soreness and the family issues I've been trying to deal with, I couldn't muster any courage to continue doing it. Besides this, I really don't know how I'm going to make any new friends, or possibly find a relationship because of my social anxiety. I've been given many suggestions before, but I'm hard to move out of my own comfort zone. This seems like iffy stuff to talk about in detail in a place like this, but after being ridiculed and made fun of previously in several "dating help" forums, I don't know who else to turn to other than a therapist, and even the ones I've contacted don't seem particularly interested in wanting to help me. I'll be seeing one next week to finally get some things off my chest, but I may have to reschedule due to a potential work conflict.
I've brought this issue up several times both here and elsewhere, and I continue to sound like a broken record, which isn't a good sign that anything is improving. I genuinely try to not come off as a lazy and unmotivated person, but I've got a feeling that my immediate family members are somewhat hindering my progress in a way. I badly want to move out of the house and live on my own (I'm 24 years old for those who don't know), but it's impossible at the moment given my current financial situation and the immediate area I live in not having any affordable housing that is not already located in shady areas. I want to have a better social life, but I feel like I'm in a mental jail just by continuing to live with my parents.
- Falling asleep too early due to an early bird work schedule (getting up at around 5:00-5:30 AM every work day)
- Going on my video games and becoming bored within 30 minutes
- Being lazy and doing nothing but watching videos/listening to music on my computer
Other than family, I also promised a co-worker to start working out at a gym. The first week was alright, but then I became super sore in the upper body area over the weekend, and I couldn't sleep some nights as I'm a side sleeper. I wasn't ready to do this again. I tried telling him a few times the next week that I wasn't feeling it to work out with him, but he began to "force" me to come, and I had to start ghosting him as a result. It doesn't feel like the right thing to do, but with both the soreness and the family issues I've been trying to deal with, I couldn't muster any courage to continue doing it. Besides this, I really don't know how I'm going to make any new friends, or possibly find a relationship because of my social anxiety. I've been given many suggestions before, but I'm hard to move out of my own comfort zone. This seems like iffy stuff to talk about in detail in a place like this, but after being ridiculed and made fun of previously in several "dating help" forums, I don't know who else to turn to other than a therapist, and even the ones I've contacted don't seem particularly interested in wanting to help me. I'll be seeing one next week to finally get some things off my chest, but I may have to reschedule due to a potential work conflict.
I've brought this issue up several times both here and elsewhere, and I continue to sound like a broken record, which isn't a good sign that anything is improving. I genuinely try to not come off as a lazy and unmotivated person, but I've got a feeling that my immediate family members are somewhat hindering my progress in a way. I badly want to move out of the house and live on my own (I'm 24 years old for those who don't know), but it's impossible at the moment given my current financial situation and the immediate area I live in not having any affordable housing that is not already located in shady areas. I want to have a better social life, but I feel like I'm in a mental jail just by continuing to live with my parents.
I’ve been struggling with tension for years, probably due to stress and anxiety. If it’s cheaper or you have a bath at home, going to a spa or using epsom salts does wonders. I’m not sure if you’re sensory adverse to heat/wet, but I loooove a hot pool. Otherwise for small areas, a wheat bag works really well too. If you have tension in your shoulders, doing exercises also helps as well. Just thought I’d put out a few options that might help and might be cheaper for you 
