My family is insane. Their cultural beliefs, their stigma on mental health - I disagree with them completely. Our culture is so narcissistic. They take filial piety to a whole other level. For instance, my mother and my grandmother were both shaming me for fooling around with certain elders at church. I was messing around with them, and they viewed it as if I was acting superior to the elders. Another time, I went to the kitchen and aplogized to my mother for something that I did. It was a sincere apology.
She didn't accept it, saying that back in Vietnan, children had to literally bow down to their parents to apologize. My mother, knowing how much of a narcissist she can be, may have exaggerated on the whole 'bowing down to your parents' part. However, our family still places elders on a high pedestal. It's as if they are revered as deities. It seems that whether or not the parents abused their children, they must be treated with the utmost respect. I've witnessed and experienced this. It's awful. To top it all off, they stigmatize mental illnesses so greatly, to the point where they believe that you won't be able to be employed because of it. It's incredibly damaging, especially when you realize that they are still dealing with the trauma of the abuse. I just cannot accept this.