What's Bothering You?

[Stella-Io]

Work has made me tired, I don't want to do anything

Also I'm so fed up with work. I regret staying for a month instead of putting in my two weeks like a normal person. But noooo I wanted to be nice and give them time to hire a new person that I could train before I leave. Not only have they not hired a new person, another who was working there injured an injury she already had and won't be showing up to work for some time cause she has to get surgery again. So now we are even MORE short staffed than we already were, next week is going to be worse cause someone else was already going on a month long vacation and won't be there. So now we'll be down two people, which doesn't even include the other person who doesn't show up some days due to school, making it three people. I have zero patience anymore, especially for the constant ** I deal with there. I'm so sick and tired of being the reliable person only for others to walk all over me and take advantage of my kindness/hardworking-ness. The standards are hypocritical and I'm on the bad end of it. I'm expected to give give give but when I want to take, it's crickets.

 

[KittenNoir]

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[-Mars-]

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[Croconaw]

My grandma got offended by a comment I made about not wanting to carry a purse, so I’m definitely not introducing her to my favorite person. Especially because we are a lot closer than friends usually are. She wants to meet my grandma, but I don’t need my grandma being rude towards her. My grandma will literally say whatever’s on her mind without regards to anyone’s feelings.

 

[xSuperMario64x]

so earlier I was trying to play New Horizons through OBS Studio since my switch was connected to my computer via the capture card, but I kept getting a really bad input lag and screen tearing. I eventually realized that the lag was caused by the fact that I was using a TV as a monitor and I forgot that televisions (especially newer ones) are notorious for their refresh rates. no matter what I did I could not get the lag to stop.
I brought my old monitor back in here and hooked it up to my computer, and that solved the lag issue (didn't solve the screen tearing issue but I fixed that by altering the v-sync settings in NVIDIA). so I'm glad I got that figured out, but I'm upset that I have to go back to using my old computer monitor. I was using a 32" TV and now I'm back to using a square monitor that's maybe 12". but this will have to do until I can get a bigger monitor that won't have lag issues like the TV did.

 

[Bluelady]

I said it before and I'll say it again, I hate this county. It's so hard to find anything that isn't staple food. Especially holiday stuff. Also, why did my eldest sibling decide that now would be a good time to buy a costume? And then when the mask is missing because it's thrifted, she bothers me because I'm an amateur sewist. Like seriously....why does this always happen?

Also, my nephew broke the spine of a board book again.

 

[ali.di.magix]

update: turns out i didn’t twist my ankle, i fractured it. it’s a tiny fracture so it’s nothing severe, but it’s still broken and now i have to wear a boot for idk how long. i’ve figured out how to walk and sleep in it at least, but this still isn’t very slay lmao.

Spoiler: my designer boot

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Oh noooo! That sucks When I fractured my leg I slipped over in front of a CCTV camera at work, so I feel your pain I hope the recovery goes well and you don’t have to wear a boot for too long!

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I’m getting a little annoyed at my parents not listening to me and my problems. My mum (and sometimes my dad) have always been my only people to talk to about how I’m feeling, and nowadays they don’t seem to be willing to listen or offer support. I guess I'm expecting too much of them.

Also I can feel that I'm getting sick again, please don't be COVID

 

[-Mars-]

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[Alienfish]

sucks i can't get that cardigan corgi plush since they only ship to us/canada...well i'll just get a buckingham palace corgi instead i guess heh

 

[xSuperMario64x]

update: turns out i didn’t twist my ankle, i fractured it. it’s a tiny fracture so it’s nothing severe, but it’s still broken and now i have to wear a boot for idk how long. i’ve figured out how to walk and sleep in it at least, but this still isn’t very slay lmao.

Spoiler: my designer boot

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hope you get better soon love


still sick and I've officially been out of work for a week and I have no clue when I'll be able to go back. it sucks bc I could reeeeally use the money right about now

 

[daringred_]

Spoiler: big relationship rant

been planning to go to a convention tomorrow since july after my girlfriend couldn't make the date. i told her she should aim to arrive here monday at the latest because i didn't want to deal with the stress of booking tickets etc. while at work and attending appointments, since stress gives me a headache and headaches make me sick, which is horrible in general but even more so as a mild emetophobe. monday passes. she doesn't come. tuesday. same thing. wednesday, which should've been the absolute latest. same thing. now we're at today, and she's spent all day pulling the same reasons and promises. each day, she said she would come 'later' and never actually did. last night, she said she would get an early train. she never did. two hours ago, she said she was leaving in the next twenty minutes. she's still at home and claiming she can 'still come'. by her account, taxis, buses and trains are all conveniently useless up north.

i understand her mother is going through chemotherapy. really, i do, and i sympathize, but she's known about this event for months, even before her mother was diagnosed, and she has a brother who's old enough to manage the basics of helping their mom for a few days considering that she's been doing it singlehandedly for weeks and deserves a break. but no, apparently. i feel bad for being angry, but i've given her so much lenience and numerous chances since august because of her mom's diagnosis. (she's stage one, thankfully, which is as good news as you can get if not cancer-free.) i feel like one weekend that she's known about for months shouldn't have been too big an ask, especially when i haven't seen her in two and a half years to begin with. AITA? idek anymore. our whole relationship is screwing with me big time at this point.

 

[ali.di.magix]

Also I can feel that I'm getting sick again, please don't be COVID

Just tested myself this morning before work and it is COVID fml

 

[S.J.]

update: turns out i didn’t twist my ankle, i fractured it. it’s a tiny fracture so it’s nothing severe, but it’s still broken and now i have to wear a boot for idk how long. i’ve figured out how to walk and sleep in it at least, but this still isn’t very slay lmao.

Spoiler: my designer boot

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Oh my gosh, I don't know why I was expecting to see an actual boot and not the cast type! I can't believe you fractured your ankle! Hope you are feeling ok.

 

[Chris]

Spoiler: big relationship rant

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This seems to be a reoccurring issue in your relationship. It must be stressful. How far apart do you two live? (in terms of travel time)

 

[daringred_]

This seems to be a reoccurring issue in your relationship. It must be stressful. How far apart do you two live? (in terms of travel time)

it is, unfortunately. she's up near liverpool, i'm down near london, so it's about three hours. i'd go and see her, but since her mom has been undergoing chemo since august, i haven't been able to because she apparently needs to semi-isolate.

 

[Chris]

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I was expecting you to say a much larger distance, to be honest. Three hours isn't so bad, especially given how cheap you can get tickets if you book in advance. I used to date a man in Liverpool: it was 4-5hrs by train and we saw each other every other month. That was all we could afford—we earned approx £1400 per month between us—but if we'd had the money it would have been more frequent. Even with the pandemic and her mother's diagnosis (I'm sorry to hear about that), it sounds like she could be putting a lot more effort into your relationship. If you want to be with someone you should be making the effort to make it work - or at least that's what I believe, anyway.

My girlfriend and I are also at risk of having to do long-distance very soon, as I may need to move to the Highlands for two years. It would be about 3hrs by train. We've already set an agreement that we spend at least one weekend together a month; two if we can manage it (and we've also talked about her potentially moving with me). The thought of only seeing her once a month already terrifies me, given we spend 4-5 nights a week together right now. I couldn't imagine not seeing her for 2+ years. I'd be an insecure wreck if we had to physically be apart for that length of time and I know the feeling is mutual.

Waffled a bit there, sorry, but I genuinely don't know how you cope with it. I know I'd be unhappy if I were in your shoes. It might be a good time to sit down and have a conversation about where the two of you are currently at in this relationship, what both of your individual needs are, and how you can work together to meet those?

 

[JemAC]

Have another infection at my peg tube site despite been treated for one less then a month ago, now get to deal with pain and trying to remember to take antibiotics 4 times a day, fml

 

[S.J.]

Have another infection at my peg tube site despite been treated for one less then a month ago, now get to deal with pain and trying to remember to take antibiotics 4 times a day, fml

That's awful Jem; I'm so sorry. I hope it clears up quickly.

 

[daringred_]

I was expecting you to say a much larger distance, to be honest. Three hours isn't so bad, especially given how cheap you can get tickets if you book in advance. I used to date a man in Liverpool: it was 4-5hrs by train and we saw each other every other month. That was all we could afford—we earned approx £1400 per month between us—but if we'd had the money it would have been more frequent. Even with the pandemic and her mother's diagnosis (I'm sorry to hear about that), it sounds like she could be putting a lot more effort into your relationship. If you want to be with someone you should be making the effort to make it work - or at least that's what I believe, anyway.

My girlfriend and I are also at risk of having to do long-distance very soon, as I may need to move to the Highlands for two years. It would be about 3hrs by train. We've already set an agreement that we spend at least one weekend together a month; two if we can manage it (and we've also talked about her potentially moving with me). The thought of only seeing her once a month already terrifies me, given we spend 4-5 nights a week together right now. I couldn't imagine not seeing her for 2+ years. I'd be an insecure wreck if we had to physically be apart for that length of time and I know the feeling is mutual.

Waffled a bit there, sorry, but I genuinely don't know how you cope with it. I know I'd be unhappy if I were in your shoes. It might be a good time to sit down and have a conversation about where the two of you are currently at in this relationship, what both of your individual needs are, and how you can work together to meet those?

pre-pandemic, we were seeing each other for at least 2-3 days a month, but then that hit, and. idk what really happened after that, there have been so many failed attempts this year alone that i've sort of lost track. i think she got promoted at work (or her apprenticeship went full-time? i can't remember) and that obviously took up a lot of time, which i was fine with, but every time she would book time off, there would be something else that used it up. the reasons i can remember were mostly valid, like her gran being hospitalized a few times, and she caught covid at least twice (although there was one occasion where she just. flat out refused to come because she said she was too nervous), but it happened so often that i've reached a point where i struggle to believe what she says and then end up feeling horrible for it.

i definitely admit that i probably could've done more, but she was earning a lot more than me (1k a month to my 150 a month of benefits post-rent) and i have autism/anxiety/travel sickness, so trains are a bit of a nightmare, and the last time i did visit her near the beginning of our relationship, i got so horribly homesick that i was up all night and had to leave the morning after i arrived rip.

don't worry about the waffle, haha, i'm definitely guilty of it. frankly, idk how i cope with it either. (i'd probably say i'm not tbh.) we had a conversation about it all recently re: how i struggle to believe anything she says now and feel like i barely cross her mind, but it feels already forgotten after this week tbh, and i hate bringing it up with her because i feel guilty for making her feel bad. like, i'm sure this stuff is probably all happening, but it still feels so horribly convenient that after not having seen her in such a long time, i just don't know what to think. hopefully your LDR will be fine though !! honestly, once a month isn't as bad as it sounds, especially after a little bit of time; it starts to go by quicker than you expect.

 

[Marridia]

I keep wanting to change my art style but everytime I try, I dont like how it looks