What's Bothering You?

[ali.di.magix]

update: turns out i didn’t twist my ankle, i fractured it. it’s a tiny fracture so it’s nothing severe, but it’s still broken and now i have to wear a boot for idk how long. i’ve figured out how to walk and sleep in it at least, but this still isn’t very slay lmao.

Spoiler: my designer boot

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Oh noooo! That sucks When I fractured my leg I slipped over in front of a CCTV camera at work, so I feel your pain I hope the recovery goes well and you don’t have to wear a boot for too long!

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I’m getting a little annoyed at my parents not listening to me and my problems. My mum (and sometimes my dad) have always been my only people to talk to about how I’m feeling, and nowadays they don’t seem to be willing to listen or offer support. I guess I'm expecting too much of them.

Also I can feel that I'm getting sick again, please don't be COVID

 

[-Mars-]

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[Alienfish]

sucks i can't get that cardigan corgi plush since they only ship to us/canada...well i'll just get a buckingham palace corgi instead i guess heh

 

[xSuperMario64x]

update: turns out i didn’t twist my ankle, i fractured it. it’s a tiny fracture so it’s nothing severe, but it’s still broken and now i have to wear a boot for idk how long. i’ve figured out how to walk and sleep in it at least, but this still isn’t very slay lmao.

Spoiler: my designer boot

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hope you get better soon love


still sick and I've officially been out of work for a week and I have no clue when I'll be able to go back. it sucks bc I could reeeeally use the money right about now

 

[daringred_]

Spoiler: big relationship rant

been planning to go to a convention tomorrow since july after my girlfriend couldn't make the date. i told her she should aim to arrive here monday at the latest because i didn't want to deal with the stress of booking tickets etc. while at work and attending appointments, since stress gives me a headache and headaches make me sick, which is horrible in general but even more so as a mild emetophobe. monday passes. she doesn't come. tuesday. same thing. wednesday, which should've been the absolute latest. same thing. now we're at today, and she's spent all day pulling the same reasons and promises. each day, she said she would come 'later' and never actually did. last night, she said she would get an early train. she never did. two hours ago, she said she was leaving in the next twenty minutes. she's still at home and claiming she can 'still come'. by her account, taxis, buses and trains are all conveniently useless up north.

i understand her mother is going through chemotherapy. really, i do, and i sympathize, but she's known about this event for months, even before her mother was diagnosed, and she has a brother who's old enough to manage the basics of helping their mom for a few days considering that she's been doing it singlehandedly for weeks and deserves a break. but no, apparently. i feel bad for being angry, but i've given her so much lenience and numerous chances since august because of her mom's diagnosis. (she's stage one, thankfully, which is as good news as you can get if not cancer-free.) i feel like one weekend that she's known about for months shouldn't have been too big an ask, especially when i haven't seen her in two and a half years to begin with. AITA? idek anymore. our whole relationship is screwing with me big time at this point.

 

[ali.di.magix]

Also I can feel that I'm getting sick again, please don't be COVID

Just tested myself this morning before work and it is COVID fml

 

[S.J.]

update: turns out i didn’t twist my ankle, i fractured it. it’s a tiny fracture so it’s nothing severe, but it’s still broken and now i have to wear a boot for idk how long. i’ve figured out how to walk and sleep in it at least, but this still isn’t very slay lmao.

Spoiler: my designer boot

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Oh my gosh, I don't know why I was expecting to see an actual boot and not the cast type! I can't believe you fractured your ankle! Hope you are feeling ok.

 

[Chris]

Spoiler: big relationship rant

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This seems to be a reoccurring issue in your relationship. It must be stressful. How far apart do you two live? (in terms of travel time)

 

[daringred_]

This seems to be a reoccurring issue in your relationship. It must be stressful. How far apart do you two live? (in terms of travel time)

it is, unfortunately. she's up near liverpool, i'm down near london, so it's about three hours. i'd go and see her, but since her mom has been undergoing chemo since august, i haven't been able to because she apparently needs to semi-isolate.

 

[Chris]

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I was expecting you to say a much larger distance, to be honest. Three hours isn't so bad, especially given how cheap you can get tickets if you book in advance. I used to date a man in Liverpool: it was 4-5hrs by train and we saw each other every other month. That was all we could afford—we earned approx £1400 per month between us—but if we'd had the money it would have been more frequent. Even with the pandemic and her mother's diagnosis (I'm sorry to hear about that), it sounds like she could be putting a lot more effort into your relationship. If you want to be with someone you should be making the effort to make it work - or at least that's what I believe, anyway.

My girlfriend and I are also at risk of having to do long-distance very soon, as I may need to move to the Highlands for two years. It would be about 3hrs by train. We've already set an agreement that we spend at least one weekend together a month; two if we can manage it (and we've also talked about her potentially moving with me). The thought of only seeing her once a month already terrifies me, given we spend 4-5 nights a week together right now. I couldn't imagine not seeing her for 2+ years. I'd be an insecure wreck if we had to physically be apart for that length of time and I know the feeling is mutual.

Waffled a bit there, sorry, but I genuinely don't know how you cope with it. I know I'd be unhappy if I were in your shoes. It might be a good time to sit down and have a conversation about where the two of you are currently at in this relationship, what both of your individual needs are, and how you can work together to meet those?

 

[JemAC]

Have another infection at my peg tube site despite been treated for one less then a month ago, now get to deal with pain and trying to remember to take antibiotics 4 times a day, fml

 

[S.J.]

Have another infection at my peg tube site despite been treated for one less then a month ago, now get to deal with pain and trying to remember to take antibiotics 4 times a day, fml

That's awful Jem; I'm so sorry. I hope it clears up quickly.

 

[daringred_]

I was expecting you to say a much larger distance, to be honest. Three hours isn't so bad, especially given how cheap you can get tickets if you book in advance. I used to date a man in Liverpool: it was 4-5hrs by train and we saw each other every other month. That was all we could afford—we earned approx £1400 per month between us—but if we'd had the money it would have been more frequent. Even with the pandemic and her mother's diagnosis (I'm sorry to hear about that), it sounds like she could be putting a lot more effort into your relationship. If you want to be with someone you should be making the effort to make it work - or at least that's what I believe, anyway.

My girlfriend and I are also at risk of having to do long-distance very soon, as I may need to move to the Highlands for two years. It would be about 3hrs by train. We've already set an agreement that we spend at least one weekend together a month; two if we can manage it (and we've also talked about her potentially moving with me). The thought of only seeing her once a month already terrifies me, given we spend 4-5 nights a week together right now. I couldn't imagine not seeing her for 2+ years. I'd be an insecure wreck if we had to physically be apart for that length of time and I know the feeling is mutual.

Waffled a bit there, sorry, but I genuinely don't know how you cope with it. I know I'd be unhappy if I were in your shoes. It might be a good time to sit down and have a conversation about where the two of you are currently at in this relationship, what both of your individual needs are, and how you can work together to meet those?

pre-pandemic, we were seeing each other for at least 2-3 days a month, but then that hit, and. idk what really happened after that, there have been so many failed attempts this year alone that i've sort of lost track. i think she got promoted at work (or her apprenticeship went full-time? i can't remember) and that obviously took up a lot of time, which i was fine with, but every time she would book time off, there would be something else that used it up. the reasons i can remember were mostly valid, like her gran being hospitalized a few times, and she caught covid at least twice (although there was one occasion where she just. flat out refused to come because she said she was too nervous), but it happened so often that i've reached a point where i struggle to believe what she says and then end up feeling horrible for it.

i definitely admit that i probably could've done more, but she was earning a lot more than me (1k a month to my 150 a month of benefits post-rent) and i have autism/anxiety/travel sickness, so trains are a bit of a nightmare, and the last time i did visit her near the beginning of our relationship, i got so horribly homesick that i was up all night and had to leave the morning after i arrived rip.

don't worry about the waffle, haha, i'm definitely guilty of it. frankly, idk how i cope with it either. (i'd probably say i'm not tbh.) we had a conversation about it all recently re: how i struggle to believe anything she says now and feel like i barely cross her mind, but it feels already forgotten after this week tbh, and i hate bringing it up with her because i feel guilty for making her feel bad. like, i'm sure this stuff is probably all happening, but it still feels so horribly convenient that after not having seen her in such a long time, i just don't know what to think. hopefully your LDR will be fine though !! honestly, once a month isn't as bad as it sounds, especially after a little bit of time; it starts to go by quicker than you expect.

 

[Marridia]

I keep wanting to change my art style but everytime I try, I dont like how it looks

 

[ZeldaCrossing64]

I'm so sick of my brother being so judgmental towards me. He can't accept the fact that I want to be referred with gender-neutral pronouns (they/them) and terms (sibling in this case), he always makes fun of my interests (he says they're too immature and childish), and today I was telling my dad (not even my brother, he was just there) about wanting to go to culinary school. What the heck is wrong with that?? He's always telling me "you should go to Jon Abbott" (or some other English college), but what if I don't want to? I have an interest in cooking and I'm sure the one I want to enroll to is English. I don't know what's up with my brother, but if he has nothing nice to say then he should shut his fricking mouth.

 

[Croconaw]

I'm so sick of my brother being so judgmental towards me. He can't accept the fact that I want to be referred with gender-neutral pronouns (they/them) and terms (sibling in this case), he always makes fun of my interests (he says they're too immature and childish), and today I was telling my dad (not even my brother, he was just there) about wanting to go to culinary school. What the heck is wrong with that?? He's always telling me "you should go to Jon Abbott" (or some other English college), but what if I don't want to? I have an interest in cooking and I'm sure the one I want to enroll to is English. I don't know what's up with my brother, but if he has nothing nice to say then he should shut his fricking mouth.

I haven’t told anyone in person my preferred pronouns. I’m a bit more open about it online. I just don’t want to confuse people in real life. However, pronouns shouldn’t be that complicated. People make a big deal out of something so simple. It’s no wonder most aren’t comfortable in real life.

 

[savanniebananie]

I have to watch a really boring movie over again for a school project. I wish they told us to gather quotes and cite them as we were watching the movie in class for the first time.

 

[Marridia]

If I have to hear another big fight, I'm gonna scream

 

[ali.di.magix]

I can't believe I got COVID. Especially at the end of the month when work is the busiest My boss thinks he can handle everything and anything by himself so I guess everything will be fine...?

 

[daringred_]

having the roughest morning of my life. woke up from a nightmare, immediately had a horrible panic attack, managed to doze off, and then woke up again at 5am feeling incredibly nauseous and shaking uncontrollably. some of the worst I've had for a hot minute. it's still here albeit not as bad; now i mostly have a headache and stomach pains instead. bleurgh.