When should a guy pay on the date?
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MozzarellaSticks
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When they initiated it. But this is more for the first few dates, if they aren't paying separate. Whoever asks the other person out pays.
If it's a relationship, it doesn't matter. One time one person pays, the next another. It's not something you should keep track of or worry about.
If it's a relationship, it doesn't matter. One time one person pays, the next another. It's not something you should keep track of or worry about.
tybalt_cake
heavymetallover
It was your birthday a.k.a special day for you so of course you shouldn't have payed anything...
usually i would think splitting the cost or whoever invited the other are good ways to pay but it was your birthday .... i'm not sure . it's weird that he forgot to say happy birthday , so you could talk to him about it or just mention casually that your birthday was on a certain day and see how he reacts
King Dorado
you can do anything
yeah, sounds like he totally spaced and forgot it was your birthday! did he give you any card or gift??
Hopeless Opus
diluc is my king
No, it's totally reasonable to be upset. If you take someone out on a date it's like a given that you pay? I find that really odd actually. If I took someone out on a date I'd pay because it's courteous. Sorry that happened to you! 
radioloves
Senior Member
It's fine to think that way~ It's really nice when guys are willing and want to pay for the girl! It's not a must and can always split but it's just nice to see that guys aren't always selfish and cheap lool ahaha, though it's kind of a tradition but it doesn't have to be I guess
Nuclear Bingo
Senior Member
this is why you talk about **** in relationships. the best way not to have a miscommunication is to talk about it in the first place
King Dorado
you can do anything
Is it possible he didn't know it was your birthday to begin with???
I mean I dunno about you guys, but like birthdays are usually the first thing I ask about so as to try and surprise em.
iamnothyper
D E S U
i guess it could be like, he didnt see treating you to dinner as his "gift" ?
but it is your birthday >__>
but it is your birthday >__>
GalacticGhost
.-* elusive clown *-.
Tbh I'd be mad too if I had to pay for everything on my birthday. He should be treating you, so he should pay for everything.
Buuuuuuut I've never been in a relationship with anyone before, so... yeah.
Buuuuuuut I've never been in a relationship with anyone before, so... yeah.
Kissyme100
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Nope. I told him I wanted this date to be my present.
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I dont think so, I mentioned many times throughout the week that I was excited for my birthday date.
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I don't think he does, he has a job. If he did though, he knows that I would be perfectly fine with going out another time and should of just told me.
Nuclear Bingo
Senior Member
I usually ask later or wait for er to mention it, cause then if things don't work out, the day it becomes her birthday and you're not there, it sucks.
TheGreatBrain
Senior Member
If the date was suppose to be your present, then of course he should have paid. You pretty much paid for your own Birthday present. Kind of odd that he didn't tell you "Happy Birthday" either.
My sister had asked for a special kind of cake from her fave bakery for her Birthday. The cake had to be ordered, and it was the only thing she wanted. She was a bit annoyed with her husband when she had to pick it up and pay for it.
My sister had asked for a special kind of cake from her fave bakery for her Birthday. The cake had to be ordered, and it was the only thing she wanted. She was a bit annoyed with her husband when she had to pick it up and pay for it.
That doesn't necessarily tell him you expect him to pay for it - that just tells him that you wanted to spend time with him as your present. You also shouldn't expect him to pay for it unless he explicitly offered to buy you dinner.
