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~killutora~
Speak up. Otherwise you'll just keep going down the downward spiral of being extremely antisocial. Try to get away from being the "quiet one" while you still can.
Advice you'd give to your past self?
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Lady Timpani
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Don't be so hard on yourself, learn to relax/take advantage of the opportunities you have available to you rn.
fluttershy300
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To myself in 3rd grade. Please don’t join that Lion King school play. You are not a good actress.
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virtualpet
Anomaly
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We'd probably explain to our younger self that they're a system, maybe at about age 10 because I think that was the point in our life where we would have had the most stability. We'd also give them more specific advice that we had to learn the hard way, and give them resources we know would have been safe back then. We'd definitely teach them out to express themselves and communicate with one another.
We'd probably explain to our younger self that they're a system, maybe at about age 10 because I think that was the point in our life where we would have had the most stability. We'd also give them more specific advice that we had to learn the hard way, and give them resources we know would have been safe back then. We'd definitely teach them out to express themselves and communicate with one another.
Get out and be more social sooner. Don't stay indoors waiting for things and your anxiety to magically get better because they wont. If you have a chance to do something, if a friend invites you somewhere, go, or just go and start doing things by yourself.
Cosmic_Crossfade
•~You are my sun, moon and stars~°
Very interesting post! Oddly enough, I'm not so sure if I would want to give my past self advice
I feel that the lessons I've learned and roads I have walked have paved the way for me to become the person that I am today. The many trials and tribulations I have gone through this far, no matter how harsh, terrible or downright rough they may have been, was what had taught me to be much wiser and help me understand that in the end, we are human, and we all make mistakes from time to time, and that it's ok since nobody is perfect.While I would love to tell the many things I have learned now to my past self (and boy would I have much to say) I know that if I did, then perhaps the lessons in full would not hold as much meaning or value over the pain that has made me much stronger as a person. Sometimes, you need to get burned by the flame in order to understand that it is hot.
Toska
♡ let me paint you a picture ♡
*To 5th grade me*
Hey, when somebody pushes you around, don't take it. People are gonna take advantage of you, you're vulnerable, but that's okay. Even though your friends aren't really your friends you still will always have somebody to lean on. Take a chance, laugh a little, and especially, stop stressing out. Anxiety gets you nowhere good.
(Although the above person did have a point, I can agree with the fact that these things have helped us learn)
Hey, when somebody pushes you around, don't take it. People are gonna take advantage of you, you're vulnerable, but that's okay. Even though your friends aren't really your friends you still will always have somebody to lean on. Take a chance, laugh a little, and especially, stop stressing out. Anxiety gets you nowhere good.
(Although the above person did have a point, I can agree with the fact that these things have helped us learn)
k e r f u f f l e
Proverbs 15:19
Take care of your mom.
That animal crossing meme
That demon under your bed.
Oh wow.
•Don't take criticism badly, improve and work with it.
•Don't give up on things because "You aren't good" or because your best friend quit it"
•Be you. Not anyone else.
•Be ready for any opportunities.
•Don't take criticism badly, improve and work with it.
•Don't give up on things because "You aren't good" or because your best friend quit it"
•Be you. Not anyone else.
•Be ready for any opportunities.
MoogleKupo
Senior Member
I would urge myself to think better of myself.
I was only ever bullied in elementary school by my "best friend" and that is as odd and as sad as it sounds. I needed her approval, her attention, her advice, what she wore I wanted but couldn't wear myself or she'd never wear that shirt again.
I've been put down a lot and try to keep myself up, despite everything I've been through I've put myself down thinking I'm not good enough for other people. I did not realize until last year, literally my senior year of hs, that I was a pretty cool person, I didn't need others approval, or that I needed to have so much anger built up from lots of unfortunate experiences with life.
That did crash and burn a bit because April that year my heart got broken by an ex that never cared for me, so we ended it, only to find a new guy that was even worse and pretended he would never hurt me like guy 1 did. Well he did. Even worse. Physically, mentally, emotionally, I broke. Brain is still a little broken, but we're fixing it, I'm loving myself more, and I see what went wrong and that I NEVER did anything wrong. Like I previously thought.
Every experience i went through with family members (not immediate), past friends, ex-boyfriends, even now friends, life itself, strangers. I did not do anything wrong, I made it through each and every obstacle like a boss. And I wish I could tell my past self it did get better, I do not need to think of myself as worthless and put myself down to keep my trashy hick ex feeling good. What a mistake that was.
I did what I could, and I'd hope my past self would talk about things more instead of keeping it inside. Nothing is wrong with be vulnerable and allowing others to listen, and allowing yourself to open up. It may hurt, it may backfire, but there is always someone that is worth opening the door for.
I was only ever bullied in elementary school by my "best friend" and that is as odd and as sad as it sounds. I needed her approval, her attention, her advice, what she wore I wanted but couldn't wear myself or she'd never wear that shirt again.
I've been put down a lot and try to keep myself up, despite everything I've been through I've put myself down thinking I'm not good enough for other people. I did not realize until last year, literally my senior year of hs, that I was a pretty cool person, I didn't need others approval, or that I needed to have so much anger built up from lots of unfortunate experiences with life.
That did crash and burn a bit because April that year my heart got broken by an ex that never cared for me, so we ended it, only to find a new guy that was even worse and pretended he would never hurt me like guy 1 did. Well he did. Even worse. Physically, mentally, emotionally, I broke. Brain is still a little broken, but we're fixing it, I'm loving myself more, and I see what went wrong and that I NEVER did anything wrong. Like I previously thought.
Every experience i went through with family members (not immediate), past friends, ex-boyfriends, even now friends, life itself, strangers. I did not do anything wrong, I made it through each and every obstacle like a boss. And I wish I could tell my past self it did get better, I do not need to think of myself as worthless and put myself down to keep my trashy hick ex feeling good. What a mistake that was.
I did what I could, and I'd hope my past self would talk about things more instead of keeping it inside. Nothing is wrong with be vulnerable and allowing others to listen, and allowing yourself to open up. It may hurt, it may backfire, but there is always someone that is worth opening the door for.
TheSillyPuppy
⚔️ Dedicate your heart and set it ablaze 🔥
- Enjoy uni while you're there. Simpler times they were.
- On a similar note, don't sweat grades so much. Everyone has a unique set of skills (and weaknesses).
- Wanting to change yourself for the better is good. Hating who you are (or aren't) isn't productive and tends to backfire.
- Take deep breaths when you feel your temper rising.
- Good things take time.
I am about to be a senior in high school. I would tell my middle school self:
1) Your friends are so toxic and controlling. All of them. It’s not normal for friends to get irrationally upset and emotionally abusive when you don’t do what they want. They don’t have to get their way all the time. It’s also not normal to get into arguments twice a week. There’s a line between a rough patch and a red flag and they have far surpassed it. Get out. Don’t make excuses. You owe them nothing.
2) Your current boyfriend is a grade A butthole. Don’t stay with him when the relationship goes downhill just because he’s your first one. A good boyfriend doesn’t insult your interests or one up you.
3) Don’t be so resistant to change. Change will be so good for you.
4) Also, you‘re SO bisexual. Intrusive gay thoughts are not just a part of being straight. No matter what Catholic school tries to say to the contrary, there is nothing wrong with you.
1) Your friends are so toxic and controlling. All of them. It’s not normal for friends to get irrationally upset and emotionally abusive when you don’t do what they want. They don’t have to get their way all the time. It’s also not normal to get into arguments twice a week. There’s a line between a rough patch and a red flag and they have far surpassed it. Get out. Don’t make excuses. You owe them nothing.
2) Your current boyfriend is a grade A butthole. Don’t stay with him when the relationship goes downhill just because he’s your first one. A good boyfriend doesn’t insult your interests or one up you.
3) Don’t be so resistant to change. Change will be so good for you.
4) Also, you‘re SO bisexual. Intrusive gay thoughts are not just a part of being straight. No matter what Catholic school tries to say to the contrary, there is nothing wrong with you.
I’m going to redo my advice since these last several months have forced me to mature quicker. To save page space each era of tips will also be put in a spoiler tags.
Try not to confront your parents when they argue. They’ll simply ignore you and continue bickering. If you cango outside to where you don’t have to hear them.
Speaking of which, your parents are not a model of what a healthy relationship is like. You don’t have to apologize for every personal question you ask. If your friend is a good person they won’t blow up at you.
Please don’t listen to what outdated health books say about your weight. Just eat less fast food and move around more. You are too young to diet.
That “deep admiration” you have for your childhood friend is a gay crush. You’re pan and you already know that’s okay.
Speaking of which, your parents are not a model of what a healthy relationship is like. You don’t have to apologize for every personal question you ask. If your friend is a good person they won’t blow up at you.
Please don’t listen to what outdated health books say about your weight. Just eat less fast food and move around more. You are too young to diet.
That “deep admiration” you have for your childhood friend is a gay crush. You’re pan and you already know that’s okay.
Avoid political videos on YouTube. They’re rarely well researched and will make you more bigoted. Instead listen and read from legitimate news sources.
Talk back when kids initiate conversations. They know you’re the quiet kid and are trying to be friendly.
Don’t watch “adult cartoons” at this age. The violence and cynical tone of those shows will affect you.
Don’t apply for schools or programs just because of their reputation. What one person says about a student body may not apply to you.
Develop study habits. Middle and High School are easy, but you’ll save a lot of energy if you practice now.
Try not to walk with your head down. You’ll bump into a lot of kids if you do.
Talk back when kids initiate conversations. They know you’re the quiet kid and are trying to be friendly.
Don’t watch “adult cartoons” at this age. The violence and cynical tone of those shows will affect you.
Don’t apply for schools or programs just because of their reputation. What one person says about a student body may not apply to you.
Develop study habits. Middle and High School are easy, but you’ll save a lot of energy if you practice now.
Try not to walk with your head down. You’ll bump into a lot of kids if you do.
Buy a fidget toy for when you’re nervous at school. Looking around restlessly will make other students uncomfortable.
Keep yourself focused while you’re in public. If you look in one direction for too long while drifting people will think you’re staring at them. You will save yourself hundreds of rude comments and gossip if you don’t.
Stand up for yourself in the moment when someone picks on you. Snitching gives those jerks an excuse to continue their behavior.
Do not get your hopes up when you have a crush on a friend. Those “signs” are probably just friendliness.
If someone tells you they just want to be friends, accept it. You won’t always have the opportunity to still be close with a former crush.
It’s okay to be single. Just because your peers are in short term relationships doesn’t mean you’re worse off without one. If anything you should be grateful that you can mature before committing with someone.
Start learning your second language as soon as possible. The one you chose will take many years to master.
You will accept your appearance with age. Those pimples will fade and you’ll find things to like. Your future confidence and self acceptance will be more appealing than you think.
Rude people are a part of life. No matter where you go there will be at least person who’s desperate for a reaction. Don’t waste your time by listening to what they say.
At the same time High School doesn’t last forever. You won’t always be exposed to an constant stream of teenage angst. You’ll be pleasantly surprised by how much calmer adults can be.
Keep yourself focused while you’re in public. If you look in one direction for too long while drifting people will think you’re staring at them. You will save yourself hundreds of rude comments and gossip if you don’t.
Stand up for yourself in the moment when someone picks on you. Snitching gives those jerks an excuse to continue their behavior.
Do not get your hopes up when you have a crush on a friend. Those “signs” are probably just friendliness.
If someone tells you they just want to be friends, accept it. You won’t always have the opportunity to still be close with a former crush.
It’s okay to be single. Just because your peers are in short term relationships doesn’t mean you’re worse off without one. If anything you should be grateful that you can mature before committing with someone.
Start learning your second language as soon as possible. The one you chose will take many years to master.
You will accept your appearance with age. Those pimples will fade and you’ll find things to like. Your future confidence and self acceptance will be more appealing than you think.
Rude people are a part of life. No matter where you go there will be at least person who’s desperate for a reaction. Don’t waste your time by listening to what they say.
At the same time High School doesn’t last forever. You won’t always be exposed to an constant stream of teenage angst. You’ll be pleasantly surprised by how much calmer adults can be.
