Advice you'd give to your past self?
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I would say don’t major in political science. It’s just a waste of money if you’re not willing to deal with competitive and condescending classmates. Instead, major in some area of art or working with children.....or both. That’s right, children. They’re not as scary as they appear to be.
On that note, adults are just oversized children. They too say things that they’ll regret when hungry, thirsty, tired, or bored. Give them time to figure it out by themselves.
On that note, adults are just oversized children. They too say things that they’ll regret when hungry, thirsty, tired, or bored. Give them time to figure it out by themselves.
KittenNoir
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Every single thing that is happing or about to happen works out in the end so do not stress.
Elementary school, middle school, and high school mean NOTHING TO YOU in the overall scheme of things!! Have fun while you can. Study just enough so you have a foundation of education to build off of. Don't bother crying over not being able to memorize everything. Your parents won't understand and will get upset at you if you don't study, but it's still worth it to have fun and not take things too seriously.
That algebra you hate? You won't use a single LICK of it in college. Biology and Chemistry got you upset? You use zero percent of that knowledge. Don't worry.
In college, you'll be able to learn what you're passionate about and hang out with people equally passionate about those things. In grad school, you'll find another field that's even more interesting! So don't worry. <3
That algebra you hate? You won't use a single LICK of it in college. Biology and Chemistry got you upset? You use zero percent of that knowledge. Don't worry.
In college, you'll be able to learn what you're passionate about and hang out with people equally passionate about those things. In grad school, you'll find another field that's even more interesting! So don't worry. <3
I can give my past self loads of advice but we all know we hardly even take out own advice.
QUIT YOUR ****-*** JOB SOONER! Talk to people who aren't your parents about your depression. Those people will understand more than your parents and actually be more compassionate.
QUIT YOUR ****-*** JOB SOONER! Talk to people who aren't your parents about your depression. Those people will understand more than your parents and actually be more compassionate.
Firesquids
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Katzenjammer
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Oh man, this list would be a long one for me, but the top things would likely be something along the lines of, don't ever have anything at all to do with or talk to two particular people...That's all I'll say. I don't want to overshare as I have a habit of doing, heh, sorry!
coldpotato
Senior Member
I would tell myself to not trust people so easily and to not try so hard to win the approval of others.
Also, that sticking up for myself doesn't make me a mean person. That I can stick up for myself while still being respectful and kind and it will feel a lot better than not saying anything.
Also, that sticking up for myself doesn't make me a mean person. That I can stick up for myself while still being respectful and kind and it will feel a lot better than not saying anything.
-Don't be afraid to back yourself
-Stop worrying and have fun more often
-Remember to be incredibly grateful for your family even when the stress of illness gets overwhelming
-it's ok to not be ok (so long as you don't expect everyone around you to pick up the pieces)- simple advice but I used to put more pressure on myself by getting resentful or upset with myself for being overly anxious about everything. Spent too much time hating myself for not being "normal" (whatever I thought that was) rather than just letting go and enjoying life.
-Stop worrying and have fun more often
-Remember to be incredibly grateful for your family even when the stress of illness gets overwhelming
-it's ok to not be ok (so long as you don't expect everyone around you to pick up the pieces)- simple advice but I used to put more pressure on myself by getting resentful or upset with myself for being overly anxious about everything. Spent too much time hating myself for not being "normal" (whatever I thought that was) rather than just letting go and enjoying life.
eseamir
festive water baby
- go talk to someone about your anxiety, it's not going to get better by itself and will honestly take some hard work to get under control again if it blows up (and it will blow up if you don't do anything) take care of yourself!!!
- don't stay with people just because you've been with them for a long time and it's scary to leave, especially if they invalidate your emotions and make you feel self conscious about who you are as a person
- don't let yourself be defined by how well you do academically, there are more important things in life than what grades you get at university and no one who matters is going to think of you differently if you can't always be the best
- stop letting your self worth be defined by whether or not everyone else likes you (!!!!!)
- talk to your parents!! don't let them keep pushing you into a lifestyle you don't agree with or believe in!!!
there's probably a lot more that I could tell myself, I've made a lot of mistakes and had a very long growing period where I was not happy and didn't know how to make myself happy but also everything that I've been through up to this point have made me the exact person that I am now. I'm really happy with where I am now and as much as I would love to be able to save my past self from going through everything that I've been through if I had the chance to do things over again, I'm not sure I would want to risk not ending up in the same place I am now if I made different decisions
- don't stay with people just because you've been with them for a long time and it's scary to leave, especially if they invalidate your emotions and make you feel self conscious about who you are as a person
- don't let yourself be defined by how well you do academically, there are more important things in life than what grades you get at university and no one who matters is going to think of you differently if you can't always be the best
- stop letting your self worth be defined by whether or not everyone else likes you (!!!!!)
- talk to your parents!! don't let them keep pushing you into a lifestyle you don't agree with or believe in!!!
there's probably a lot more that I could tell myself, I've made a lot of mistakes and had a very long growing period where I was not happy and didn't know how to make myself happy but also everything that I've been through up to this point have made me the exact person that I am now. I'm really happy with where I am now and as much as I would love to be able to save my past self from going through everything that I've been through if I had the chance to do things over again, I'm not sure I would want to risk not ending up in the same place I am now if I made different decisions
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(of corse, I'd explain it in more detail)
(of corse, I'd explain it in more detail)
CasualWheezer
Senior Member
I'd say to myp past self to actually do things instead of sitting and waiting for good things to happen to me. And I'd also say maybe people aren't so bad after all.
I've developed selective mutism and extreme social anxiety over the past few years. I used to be one of the most popular girls in my school and I was friends with almost everyone. I started over thinking every little thing and eventually hid away. Sometimes I would make myself ill just to miss a day of school. This all happened for what I can tell, no reason. I'm a completely different person to who I was 5 or 6 years ago; It's upsetting to think about. I wish I could tell myself to stop and rationalise it. None of the things I would overthink about were true.
This is kind of darker than other responses - I'm so sorry D:
This is kind of darker than other responses - I'm so sorry D:
KimiyoCake
Senior Member
one thing i'd tell my past self is to fix my posture and to also eat healthy! I am living through the consequences because i've neglected to do those as a child. And to also spend as much time with loved ones too! 
mermaidshelf
Siren
I would tell myself to get diagnosed and to do as much as possible.
I wouldn’t go back to my formative years. There’s just too much going on there to fix with advice.
But to my early twenties self...
Mental health is health. Needing medication for your condition is just like needing insulin for diabetes. You have a chemical imbalance. It’s a physical problem, albeit invisible. Go to the doctor. Go to therapy. Ask for help. Life doesn’t have to be the exhausting roller coaster of emotions and a revolving door of people. You can be stable. Just ask for help. Also don’t trust that jerk in Seattle, girl. He is bad juju. Run the other way. Move to Canada with that friend.
But to my early twenties self...
Mental health is health. Needing medication for your condition is just like needing insulin for diabetes. You have a chemical imbalance. It’s a physical problem, albeit invisible. Go to the doctor. Go to therapy. Ask for help. Life doesn’t have to be the exhausting roller coaster of emotions and a revolving door of people. You can be stable. Just ask for help. Also don’t trust that jerk in Seattle, girl. He is bad juju. Run the other way. Move to Canada with that friend.
To myself a few years ago: Eat healthier, losing weight isn't actually that hard and you'll feel a lot better about yourself, sleep more, buy clothes and dress nicer, get a haircut, and stop letting depression and anxiety control your life lol. Also, put more effort into your studies bc even though you can pass with the bare minimum, you could do so much better. Biggest advice would be to spend more time with your friends and try not to lose them.
I was a bit overweight, anxious, depressed, and honestly just struggled to get on with stuff. I ate really unhealthy most of the time and I also dressed badly bc I was too depressed and self-conscious to buy new clothes so I wore the same three outfits to class in rotation lol. I'm hopefully gonna actually follow this advice for university next year (but tbh the advice should be flipped to PUT ON MORE WEIGHT now which is concerning).
I was a bit overweight, anxious, depressed, and honestly just struggled to get on with stuff. I ate really unhealthy most of the time and I also dressed badly bc I was too depressed and self-conscious to buy new clothes so I wore the same three outfits to class in rotation lol. I'm hopefully gonna actually follow this advice for university next year (but tbh the advice should be flipped to PUT ON MORE WEIGHT now which is concerning).
