Advice you'd give to your past self?

[Princess Mipha]

I would tell myself to NOT introduce boys that I know from the Internet to my friends, because they were the reason I lost my best friends back then and had half the school hating me.. just because my best friends were in love with that boy and he decided to make a nasty lie about me apparently talking about my friends hurting me and such.. which I've never said. But they believed him instead of their +10 years friendship. If only I would've had never spoken to that guy to introduce them to him.. :|

I would also tell myself to not choose the useless class of "BWR" ("business administration and accounting ") and instead choosing french class. It would've made a lot of things easier for me. >->

 

[JemAC]

Most of my advice would go to my high school self and I'd tell her not to be so hard on herself. I was fortunate to go to a very good school but there was also a lot of pressure to perform well and while that did ensure I was always focused on my school work it came at the cost of believing anything I did was never good enough. In exams, even when I got high marks and good grades, I was often down on myself and never satisfied with what I'd achieved, despite all my family and friends trying to tell me how well I'd done, as I thought there was always room for improvement. For too many teachers at my school it seemed that anything less then the very top marks were a bad result and I made the mistake of spending too long believing this so I'd like to tell high school me that everything I did was good enough and I should've been proud rather then spending years been disappointed in the qualifications I received.

I'd also tell my former self, and sometimes still my present self, that it's alright to be selfish at times and put myself first. I always want to make people I care about happy so I put them first and work hard to make life better for them, even if it means at times sacrificing my own happiness. I also avoid opening up too much about my feelings in case I upset anyone so I hide too much how I really feel, so opening up and talking things through with others is advice I try and keep giving myself, so that I can keep supporting others while also looking after myself.

 

[nightglow]

For myself in particular? This,
Look up and forward. It is always brighter there.
Don't pay any mind to what comes out of the mouths of your parents.
It is ok to take steps. Often things are better in steps.
Opportunities don't end by a number.

 

[Blueskyy]

The thing I'd tell myself is to let go of the fears of what other people think of me. In the past, I've allowed people to either walk all over me or I've inhibited myself because of how I thought I might appear to someone else. Now, I've learned to accept my feelings as valid and express them. If I'm upset at someone about something, I let them know. If I'm worried about something, I talk to someone. I don't let fear of what they might think of me stop me from feeling or being myself.

 

[Neb]

As painful as it is to admit, you can’t change someone who refuses to help themself. What you can do is establish boundaries. Share what you will and will not tolerate. Holding those frustrations in will send the message that their behavior is acceptable. If you’re kind about it and they still won’t follow through it’s probably a lost cause.

The same applies to you. Encourage your partner to discuss boundaries. It’s better to receive constructive criticism than be in the dark about your mistakes. Don’t beat yourself up though. If your partner is willingly hiding their frustrations from you, it’s okay if you don’t know why. That’s their responsibility, not yours. Just focus on establishing those boundaries and make sure you’re both following them.

 

[Hopeless Opus]

trust no one, no matter how convincing they may seem.

 

[KrazyKarp]

My advice to myself: do not transfer to the Catholic school, transfer to a different school. That school was absolute suffering and I still feel the negative impact on my mental health from it and from Catholicism in general.

 

[buny]

don't be ashamed of yourself

 

[Snek]

The advice I would give would be: to forgive your father and cherish your time with him for he doesn't have a lot of time in this world; go to career counseling and find out more about yourself before you make decisions for yourself.

 

[Millysaurusrexjr]

Don't procrastinate. Maybe get diagnosed for ADHD. Take better care of yourself

 

[VanitasFan26]

Telling myself:
"stop being so rude to others. Just because you have a different opinion doesn't mean you have to make threads about you telling people "why this is bad and how it can be improved" Nobody wants to hear a negative person like you sharing opinions about you don't like. They would rather listen to more positive threads than hearing your own negativity. If you never made those past threads before you would never be in this position you blew it!"

 

[Dunquixote]

To not hold high expectations of people I thought I respect since a lot of times when my feelings I hurt, I can’t get over it. No specific people are in mind except a former friend (not a friend from here) who is the cousin of a friend. Been about three or more years and still can’t get over being butt hurt about some stuff and my friend not taking my side or encouraging this friend to get mental health help.

To not think too far ahead of the destination like with some hobbies I wanted to pursue but later abandoned. I got interested in a lot of stuff and had some I wish i never quit like piano lessons since 2nd grade, horseback riding. With the exception of those two (I quit those since i was too busy with school), I just kept daydreaming of stupid thinks like what if i get really good...etc.
like even now, I want to do so much: i would love to learn how to draw like this artist hellyon but i never had patience for the techniques and learning; I just want the end result. :/

Most important is to not try to actively forget stuff that hurt me but accept and move on. Part of my problem right now along with my mental health and anxiety is that I’m letting past regrets hold me back as well as fear. I feel paralyzed.

 

[0ni]

Embrace the odd side of yourself - letting people in on it isn't as scary as you think and it'll open you up to meeting people who you really gel with.
and get your mental health in check during highschool, otherwise you'll leave it too late and mentally check out on some important chunks of life

 

[Disneyfangirl23]

Yeah be patient
don’t waste your money
Think of others

 

[Soigne]

do not hide what makes you want to get up in the morning!!!

 

[CylieDanny]

Take better care of yourself, and don't lick the frozen pole.

 

[Neb]

- Just because someone is flirting with you doesn’t mean they’re interested. If they’re doing it when they barely know you, chances are they do that to a lot of people. Of course that doesn’t mean they’re a bad person, but it’s important to not get your hopes up.

- Don’t show your anxious side to people online or offline. They’ll find it creepy. If you can’t hide it then just quit talking to people until you feel better.

- There will always be people who will cut you out of their life. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve known them or how kind you were. A person’s opinion of you can change in an instant. The reason could be as petty as sending too many messages. It could also be because of numerous mistakes you made throughout your interactions. Opening up with others is always a risk, so be grateful for the people who stick around.

- If someone is only sending short, terse replies then they don’t want to talk to you. Give them space.

- Don’t do morning classes. You’re better at studying in the morning and you’ll just end up exhausted every day.

 

[Mimi Cheems]

- Don't make a fuss over every little thing you say. Chances are people probably didn't even notice your stutter or incorrect phrasing of words. Stop being an anxious perfectionist. You're way too hard on yourself.

- Be patient. In order to succeed, you must fail a couple of times. You're not going to get it right away or on the first try. Calm down, be patient, and try again.

- You can break the generational curse if you try your best/hard enough. It'll be okay. I promise.

- Forgive your mom, it's not her fault. She's got issues just like you. Don't be so mean to her because you're salty about the divorce. It's hard on her, too.

 

[Croconaw]

You don’t have to be what everyone else wants you to be. You can make your own decisions. You can’t change how people feel about you. You can’t change what people think about you. What people see you as is not what you are. Someone’s perception of you is a reflection of them. Do not let someone’s opinion of you get you down. Sometimes ignoring it is the better option.

 

[Orius]

Be less lazy and study harder, go to a good school and not be a quitter. If I had gotten better education, I might have been able to get into a decent film school and get a better future.

Of course, film schools only guarantee so much because most people succeed in the industry by working in the field, so my second advice is, just don't really care about others and just write those crappy fanfictions everyday regardless of criticisms. They might be cringeworthy stories that no one would bother to read, but you're writing something, and write long enough, you would gain enough experience to write something decent, like a movie script.

And I guess my third advice is to just save up for a cheap camera and just start filming whatever I desire whenever I can. You need to start young if you want to be a good filmmaker; I'm too old.