how long to wait until i tell this guy i think hes cute?

[pulper]

hes like tall smart and nice and everything, and hes really nice to me, he even bought me a twix the day i told him that was my favorite candy but ive only known him for like two weeks so i dont want to seem like a nut since were just friends right now what do i do? like should i drop hints i like him or wait and tell him in like a month? i dont want to seem like a weirdo or anything and i probably sound really stupid right now but i see him everyday and i dont know how much longer i can not tell him. or do like tell him and ask if he wants to hang out sometime? i need advice :<

 

[Croconaw]

First of all, I think you should just drop hints. If you’re afraid that you telling him would ruin the friendship, I really don’t think that would happen. However, it will all depend on how you approach the situation. I will suggest to tell him sooner rather than later. You never know if something will come up and you wish you told him when you had the chance. After all, we regret the things we don’t do most.

If he’s bringing you stuff, it likely means he likes you, especially if you’re the only one he’s bringing gifts for. If you flirt with him he might ask you.

 

[pulper]

First of all, I think you should just drop hints. If you’re afraid that you telling him would ruin the friendship, I really don’t think that would happen. However, it will all depend on how you approach the situation. I will suggest to tell him sooner rather than later. You never know if something will come up and you wish you told him when you had the chance. After all, we regret the things we don’t do most.

If he’s bringing you stuff, it likely means he likes you, especially if you’re the only one he’s bringing gifts for. If you flirt with him he might ask you.

thanks

 

[Chris]

Be direct and ask him on a date. People don't pick up on hints unless they're looking for them.

 

[pulper]

well uh i decided to just go for it and he said he was flattered but didnt feel the same way sooo haha that was fun. he said we can still be friends though so its not all bad i mean he let me down easy. ive never actually told a guy i liked him before so i dont really think ill ever do that again

 

[moo_nieu]

well uh i decided to just go for it and he said he was flattered but didnt feel the same way sooo haha that was fun. he said we can still be friends though so its not all bad i mean he let me down easy. ive never actually told a guy i liked him before so i dont really think ill ever do that again

congrats on putting yourself out there and being honest with him! i know it wasnt the response you were hoping for, but now you can continue to be friends without any worries about how he may or may not feel. im sure it didnt feel good to hear that though :c <3 i hope things work out and that youre able to still be good friends

 

[Chris]

well uh i decided to just go for it and he said he was flattered but didnt feel the same way sooo haha that was fun. he said we can still be friends though so its not all bad i mean he let me down easy. ive never actually told a guy i liked him before so i dont really think ill ever do that again

It is better to have a clear answer now than to spend months pining over him. Rejection also makes it easier to move on from someone.

Don't let this experience put you off being honest about your feelings. It is ultimately for the best. If you're a girl, I promise you men really appreciate women who are direct and tell them what they want.

 

[pulper]

is it bad to feel dissapointed and kinda sad? i dont want to be dramatic but i felt a huge lump in my throat when he told me he didnt feel the same. i understand his decision and respect it, but is it ok to still be affected?

 

[Raz]

It is better to have a clear answer now than to spend months pining over him. Rejection also makes it easier to move on from someone.

Don't let this experience put you off being honest about your feelings. It is ultimately for the best. If you're a girl, I promise you men really appreciate women who are direct and tell them what they want.

Truer words were never spoken.

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is it bad to feel dissapointed and kinda sad? i dont want to be dramatic but i felt a huge lump in my throat when he told me he didnt feel the same. i understand his decision and respect it, but is it ok to still be affected?

Nope, it's normal. You wouldn't feel like that if you didn't really care about him. But, even though you might feel like this for a while, you did what you should do, and believe me, as someone who was afraid of being upfront (and suffering a lot because of that), I'll tell you that you may be hurting now, but if you decided to just let "things happen", it would snowball to a point where, when you inevitably told him what you think about him, you would hurt a lot more.

I'm someone who first dived down the well called depression after a situation like this. It was my first encounter with the monster that I've been slowly learning to deal with.

Stay safe.